Women of Lit: A Safe Place To Share

[JennyCapricorn]

Do you think they truly know where you live? Because that is scary. I mean, surely they don’t know your address, but I have heard of that happening. If it was me, I would at least report it to the Mods.

Oh it's not that; they advertise as being in a certain city and I mentioned being a few train hours ride away from said city. It's more the "I know this person is using fake photos and that brings everything else in their already over the top profile into greater question, including their gender"

If you decide to call them out, be conscious of the chat and forum rules. You don’t need to get yourself banned.

Yeah, that's one of my concerns. There aren't any rules about people doing cross-gender identification here (just only have one profile per person), and certainly not any about your profile in any way conforming to reality (which would be a bummer) but the confluence of intimation of meeting plus stolen pics is worrisome.

 

[FrenchLopBunny]

I’ve never been on chat, so I don’t know all the rules, but you could message one of the mods and let them know about this person.

 

[stickygirl]

Question: I now have pretty definitive proof that someone I only ever see in the women’s spaces on Lit Chat is using stolen influencer photos. The whole profile reads like wish fulfillment so I’m not 100% that this is catfishing… it could be some woman’s fantasy account… but they just started making noises about how they too opened their relationship (in the most FABULOUS and EXTRAVAGANT way of course) and hinting that we lived close enough to meet.

How aggressively do I call this out?

Have you used google images to do a reverse search? If they’re clever of course they’ll use generic photos.

You can start to get a feeling something is out of whack if you read their posts. I had one several years ago that took more than a comfortable interest in me, because I’m trans. I think they’re still here after I iggied them.

As for calling them out… it depends. If they’re a dude playing at girlie that’s one thing, but taking people into confidence and pming them is another. I never look at Lit Chat - not my thing

 

[JennyCapricorn]

Have you used google images to do a reverse search? If they’re clever of course they’ll use generic photos.

Oh they have some instagram influencer they pull from; I have no idea how popular she is.

You can start to get a feeling something is out of whack if you read their posts. I had one several years ago that took more than a comfortable interest in me, because I’m trans. I think they’re still here after I iggied them.

With this one the suspicion started with it all being too good to be true. I get wanting to fantasize your life but this was lifestyle porn.

As for calling them out… it depends. If they’re a dude playing at girlie that’s one thing, but taking people into confidence and pming them is another. I never look at Lit Chat - not my thing

It was all a chat message, and this isn't the first time we've PMs in chat - it's much more common there than on the forum side. And I don't KNOW it's a guy. That's the most likely, but it's not certain. It could just be a woman's jilling fantasy and I don't want to disrupt that.

 

[FrenchLopBunny]

Have you used google images to do a reverse search? If they’re clever of course they’ll use generic photos.

I didn't know Google Image search would find people. I've tried a few times and it always says results for people are limited. Is there some trick I'm not aware of?

 

[ToPleaseHim]

Question: I now have pretty definitive proof that someone I only ever see in the women’s spaces on Lit Chat is using stolen influencer photos. The whole profile reads like wish fulfillment so I’m not 100% that this is catfishing… it could be some woman’s fantasy account… but they just started making noises about how they too opened their relationship (in the most FABULOUS and EXTRAVAGANT way of course) and hinting that we lived close enough to meet.

How aggressively do I call this out?

Share with me and I’ll alert Laurel. Even though it happens all the time, it is absolutely against the rules to post stolen pics here. The woman being posted here without permission has a right to not have her pics here.

 

[genzsub]

I didn't know Google Image search would find people. I've tried a few times and it always says results for people are limited. Is there some trick I'm not aware of?

No trick. It can just usually find the original of an image if it exists publicly online. It can't do face recognition or anything like that, though.

 

[stickygirl]

No trick. It can just usually find the original of an image if it exists publicly online. It can't do face recognition or anything like that, though.

tbh it used to be better at finding faces/people but it's primary function now seems to be to identify clothing and products, so you know where to buy. That's not entirely unwelcome though - who hasn't seen a jacket and wondered where it came from?!

In Google, open the Images page; drag the image into the box or paste the image http// link

 

[JennyCapricorn]

Share with me and I’ll alert Laurel. Even though it happens all the time, it is absolutely against the rules to post stolen pics here. The woman being posted here without permission has a right to not have her pics here.

Done and you’re absolutely right

 

[Mrswargamer9dash1]

Stickygirl said I should poke my head in here, so, doing that

 

[Mrswargamer9dash1]

Once upon a time, quite a while ago, I wrote several pathetic erotic stories

They were dreadful There were his stories too.

It's been 20 years since and my craft is both better and funnier and not full of dreadful, pathetic sex

Actually, there's really no sex anymore. I write odd romance novels. Mostly a reflection of my transition.

 

[JennyCapricorn]

Stickygirl said I should poke my head in here, so, doing that

Welcome aboard m, sister!

 

[JennyCapricorn]

Once upon a time, quite a while ago, I wrote several pathetic erotic stories

They were dreadful There were his stories too.

It's been 20 years since and my craft is both better and funnier and not full of dreadful, pathetic sex

Actually, there's really no sex anymore. I write odd romance novels. Mostly a reflection of my transition.

Romance is so much more difficult than sex. To write. And to do, honestly.

 

[Zrosey]

Once upon a time, quite a while ago, I wrote several pathetic erotic stories

They were dreadful There were his stories too.

It's been 20 years since and my craft is both better and funnier and not full of dreadful, pathetic sex

Actually, there's really no sex anymore. I write odd romance novels. Mostly a reflection of my transition.

Do you post them on Lit?

 

[Splendidjane]

Long time unregistered reader of lit-recent joiner-very recent reader/engager on forums.
Glad to have found this thread amongst all the is Lit and appreciate all the women who’ve contributed to it. There’s a lot that resonates with me.

I’ve found it very interesting how my claim of gender is a bit reactionary-and really person with a vagina is what I mean-vs other options.

Even after saying I’m totally cool with any skepticism it’s viewed as an invitation to PM asking proof. Dude I just said you’re free to not believe me-it’s all good.

Somehow it seems portrayed as worse to impersonate gender (again used by me as a proxy for vagina vs no vagina) than to misrepresent other facets of identity…but maybe intentional misrepresentation -anonymously on a sex focused site on the internet mind you-is similarly not good? Not worse when it’s about if I have a vagina or not?

I get wariness-completely valid for all anywhere on the internet.

 

[JennyCapricorn]

Long time unregistered reader of lit-recent joiner-very recent reader/engager on forums.
Glad to have found this thread amongst all the is Lit and appreciate all the women who’ve contributed to it. There’s a lot that resonates with me.

I’ve found it very interesting how my claim of gender is a bit reactionary-and really person with a vagina is what I mean-vs other options.

Even after saying I’m totally cool with any skepticism it’s viewed as an invitation to PM asking proof. Dude I just said you’re free to not believe me-it’s all good.

Somehow it seems portrayed as worse to impersonate gender (again used by me as a proxy for vagina vs no vagina) than to misrepresent other facets of identity…but maybe intentional misrepresentation -anonymously on a sex focused site on the internet mind you-is similarly not good? Not worse when it’s about if I have a vagina or not?

I get wariness-completely valid for all anywhere on the internet.

I’ve documented on here guys who asked me for opinions on their cocks but only after I have confirmed my gender identity with full face selfies taken today; I wouldn’t be surprised if they also demanded I hold up today’s newspaper. Dude, you approached me!

I saw on @LilKitKat’s common photos she has to have one of her holding a sign that says “I am LilKitKat from Literotica” to forestall claims of stolen vagina-possession.

I find it exhausting at this point.

 

[EvaLane]

Even after saying I’m totally cool with any skepticism it’s viewed as an invitation to PM asking proof.

I’m laughing because the same dumbos will be fooled by an AI deepfake with two thumbs on their left hand

Welcome to Lit

 

[Mrswargamer9dash1]

Do you post them on Lit?

I haven't yet, but I am inclined to do so.

 

[Mrswargamer9dash1]

Sigh I'm only just getting here, and it might be the only raft left

An explanation

Well, I have been active on Bluesky. An ok place
But I am also on YouTube (mainly a viewer)
I don't need to mention the US or the UK
But Canada's Alberta Premier sounds like a total scumball, too. The West has always been that way.

I'm too old for this shit

I just want a quiet spot to laugh with some writer types, maybe take a stab at a dozen started not finished books, and just pretend the real world isn't out there.

I don't have the fortitude, because I actually AM kinda old.
I turfed Facebook (that was not easy)
I turfed a predominantly left-wing site, because it gets as bad as the right-wing sites
I need to shut up on YouTube and just watch the videos on models and construction trucks and trains

I hope you guys won't mind me hanging out here on this thread

 

[Barbelle]

I’ve documented on here guys who asked me for opinions on their cocks but only after I have confirmed my gender identity with full face selfies taken today; I wouldn’t be surprised if they also demanded I hold up today’s newspaper. Dude, you approached me!

I saw on @LilKitKat’s common photos she has to have one of her holding a sign that says “I am LilKitKat from Literotica” to forestall claims of stolen vagina-possession.

I find it exhausting at this point.

Oh, hell no. Giving you a damn chore chart to “prove” yourself when they’re the ones clamoring for YOUR attention?!

 

[JennyCapricorn]

Oh, hell no. Giving you a damn chore chart to “prove” yourself when they’re the ones clamoring for YOUR attention?!

That was it exactly.

I have seen men on here express their honestly held fear that they will climax in play with someone and have that person pop up a picture with "surprise, you just sexted a GUY!" which I find the most ridiculous fear imaginable. Is this something any gay man is really about to do? And even if they do, so fucking what? it all feels transphobic adjacent nonsense.

I find it much, much more likely that women approaching me for play are men who can't find partners on here with men. They are usually so clumsily hopeless at pretending to be women that the ruse fails in a couple exchanges.

 

[Splendidjane]

I keep being surprised <facepalming> I hadn’t thought about the men showing up as women. Such a rube am I!

Clumsy is spot on…it’s hard to be charmed by an immediate barrage of invasive questions or demands. This idea I exist here to simply supply fodder on demand for another’s gratification…

Oblivious to the reality that much of how we perceive others through this medium is our idea of them vs some actuality of who they are…how can it be otherwise…yes what we share and how we connect through words and images etc informs that idea but it is still an idea in someone else’s mind colored by their own experiences.

I’ve often thought in my irl relationships men much preferred the idea of me than the reality of me…a shame because I’m fucking delightful

 

[Mrswargamer9dash1]

I don't really know if I can claim to have 'experience' with men or not.

The dating years 2014 2017 were, if anything, utterly pointless. And never went anywhere. IE no actual sex.
But I was pre op at the time, and wasn't really interested in pre op sex.

My only 'experience' since then, or whatever it is called, has been with pre op transgirls and pre op transmen.

I don't mind saying, it sometimes feels odd being the only post op person in a room of transgender persons.

I have not been in a hurry to fuss over horny needy cis men

 

[Barbelle]

I received a similar request, supposedly from a couple, slanted to sound like it about protecting the wife. Except…she never materialized. Dude just wanted his dm to stand out and get a response. 100% bait-and-switch.

 

[JennyCapricorn]

I received a similar request, supposedly from a couple, slanted to sound like it about protecting the wife. Except…she never materialized. Dude just wanted his dm to stand out and get a response. 100% bait-and-switch.

You're not the first person to see that; could well have been the same guy