Women of Lit: A Safe Place To Share

[Mrswargamer9dash1]

That was a picture test.

I am currently using my Bluesky to review wargames.
This is NOT a new product by the way.

 

[Mrswargamer9dash1]

The trouble with current politics, is you have about 24 hours to discuss ANY event, and then the next day it is usurped by the next WTF? moment

So anyone posting to politics is demonstrating the futility of relevance

So I'm going to just offer this video on making a nice copper bracelet

 

[Mrswargamer9dash1]

Anyone ever heard of "therian-related—body dysmorphia"
I googled it. Sounds like a furry thing

Someone commented on it on my Bluesky feed.

 

[Splendidjane]

Anyone ever heard of "therian-related—body dysmorphia"
I googled it. Sounds like a furry thing

Someone commented on it on my Bluesky feed.

I had not-so out of curiosity-googled it. It sounds complex, nuanced, and multi-faceted-like most things having to do with the human experience. I did better learn the distinction between dysphoria and dysmorphia. Therian seems to suggest some adjacency at least to furry-but that’s just a whole other area in which I lack knowledge so

 

[Zrosey]

Anyone ever heard of "therian-related—body dysmorphia"
I googled it. Sounds like a furry thing

Someone commented on it on my Bluesky feed.

I too had to go look this up, https://commonreader.wustl.edu/trapped-in-the-wrongspecies/
I agree with @Splendidjane , this is a "complex, nuanced, and multi faceted experience".
I would be curious to know someone that relates to their existence in this manner, but I suspect it becomes a pretty closely guarded aspect for many.
Much like myself before I was able to love and accept my true self.

 

[stickygirl]

I too had to go look this up, https://commonreader.wustl.edu/trapped-in-the-wrongspecies/
I agree with @Splendidjane , this is a "complex, nuanced, and multi faceted experience".
I would be curious to know someone that relates to their existence in this manner, but I suspect it becomes a pretty closely guarded aspect for many.
Much like myself before I was able to love and accept my true self.

Okay you got me. Now I have to look it up

 

[Splendidjane]

I too had to go look this up, https://commonreader.wustl.edu/trapped-in-the-wrongspecies/
I agree with @Splendidjane , this is a "complex, nuanced, and multi faceted experience".
I would be curious to know someone that relates to their existence in this manner, but I suspect it becomes a pretty closely guarded aspect for many.
Much like myself before I was able to love and accept my true self.

I love this:

Much like myself before I was able to love and accept my true self.

I always find it utterly baffling how some folks try to tell someone else about their true self-I don’t need to know a lot to know the person with the most visibility to who their true self is-is that person. Now there can be discussions around how observed behavior doesn’t match that-which is also always observed through a lens of individual experience-it’s always complicated…

I do not know about the experience of feeling like you are not the right species-and I don’t doubt the veracity of it for someone. I’m cool with accepting it at face value cause I don’t understand and also no prob asked me to validate it for them. I don’t know if the comment made to @Mrswargamer9dash1 was comparative or more representative of an empathetic offering of another’s experience. for the latter…

 

[Splendidjane]

Okay you got me. Now I have to look it up

Look at us learning together

 

[Mrswargamer9dash1]

For myself

When I am VERY sad, I keen like a wolf cub. I have something of a pack mind at that time. And I feel lonely as I have lost all of my pack. Both of my parents gone, siblings moved far away. Mate and child abandoned me.

But I don't think I'm part wolf. It's just a manifestation of part of my autism

When I get angry, I growl like an old female mother bear. And I am very dangerous to interact with.

But I am also not of the belief I am part bear.

But I do wander like a bear. I am not a good choice for leading in the woods. I get distracted.

Thw whole bunny thing. My avatar is a Celtic rabbit image. My legal middle name IS Bunny. In bed I tend to burrow.
But I don't have any idea I'm a rabbit. Although, I'd gladly waste a perfectly good wish to have genuine real bunny rabbit ears. Because I'm an idiot

 

[Mrswargamer9dash1]

I have to remember
I lived through the Cuban Missile Crisis and the Cold War The October War Bosnia Rwanda The Gulf War The Killing Fields Falklands Afghanistan Grenada to name a few.
Y2K 2012 The war on Terror 9/11 Covid being transgender and turning 60
I think I can survive Donald too

But some days he really tasks me

 

[Splendidjane]

You really are splendid xx

ty-that really made my day

 

[JennyCapricorn]

^reported

Fuck is wrong with these men?!

 

[Mrswargamer9dash1]

I'm told I'm cute and unusually young looking.

The only part of me that impresses me is between my ears though.

I'm proud of my education. I made that part of me.

The only way to make me interested is to sound as knowledgeable as me.

Looks or wealth won't do it.

I'll do anything for a person that can talk for 30 minutes and never say um or ah once.

 

[Mrswargamer9dash1]

I'll tell ya a secret, that's not really a secret

In 1990, I got my first computer (IBM PS1), and the computer, while a great tool, opened up the internet, which is NOT a great tool

I like ya all here. But I wish we had never met

I wish I had never been on forums from 2000 to 2005

I wish I could have all the leisure time I was promised by modern 'conveniences' back

I'm supposed to be writing, or painting, or just having fun making models, reading books and enjoying wargames and rolegames of the paper sort (not digital).

I do NOT want to spend my golden years staring at the internet.

 

[Barbelle]

In 1990, I got my first computer (IBM PS1), and the computer, while a great tool, opened up the internet, which is NOT a great tool

I wish I had never been on forums from 2000 to 2005.

I do NOT want to spend my golden years staring at the internet.

The internet turned us all into tools

 

[EvaLane]

@SpicyBean99 I noticed you were looking for a women’s only space

 

[SofiaLaFrench]

The internet turned us all into tools

I think an argument could be made that it turned a good many of us into trolls, which I suppose are a sort of tool.

 

[Mrswargamer9dash1]

After the 'input' of SixtyBlue on the visual arts sub forum it is clear the internet isn't genuinely safe for women

There is a women of wargaming section on Boardgamegeek, it too is not genuinely 'safe'. It's basically enter at your own risk.

The internet is more or less a mirror of the offline world. Women exist in a perpetual state of secondclassness.

I have yet to find a hobby location where being acknowledged as 'female' is entirely wise. It's unfortunate, but it's the way it is.

And I won't rant about the state of female rights in the US, the US doesn't own bias against women. It's just sad the land of the free only really applies to white christian males.

What can I do about it? Not much really. I knew what I was doing when I transitioned. The fact they see it as a choice. Oh yeah, I wanted to casually give up being a white Christian Canadian male. Just a choice.

My offline world is ok, I'm fairly lucky as it goes. My hometown is predominantly white and Catholic. But the people here are not nasty towards me.

I can't say the internet has been a good idea though most times.
It's great for buying models and gaming stuff.
It's ok to watch media
But at the social level, social media is often more antisocial media than not.
Yes, I don't NEED to go into the Politics sub forum.
But the sad truth is, the people in there, really ARE on Lit and they are not oblidged to stay in the Politics sub forum.
And based on what can be witnessed in Politics, reveals how truly ugly some of them truly can be.

Do I really want to share anything with them?
I'm considering deleting my art thread.
If I am going to share, I'll stick to this thread alone.
The rest of the site hasn't earned my friendship.

 

[VamPal1]

There is no safe place.

 

[FrenchLopBunny]

If I am going to share, I'll stick to this thread alone.
The rest of the site hasn't earned my friendship.

I totally understand. I don't venture around much either. I'm primarily in Daddy's Little Girl. Sometimes I pop in here. Be aware that the knuckle-draggers sometimes find this thread. Fortunately, our Moderator is one of the best, and she will delete their posts and block them from future posting if we point them out to her. It's been a while since we've had an intrusion, but trust me, they are lurking. Like VamPal1 said, there is no safe place.

 

[Zrosey]

I'm a day late, but happy international lesbian day for women on this spectrum

 

[FrenchLopBunny]

STOP WHATEVER YOU ARE DOING!!

Did you know that you can buy a. . .

Weighted. . .

HIGHLAND COW PLUSHIE!?!?!?!

 

[stickygirl]

I saw this a while ago on my Insta and thought I'd post it here
12-minute walk
There's a line says
'I can't afford to always take a cab
But when I don't, I always wish I had'

 

[genzsub]

I saw this a while ago on my Insta and thought I'd post it here
12-minute walk
There's a line says
'I can't afford to always take a cab
But when I don't, I always wish I had'

Wow. So true and such a good song!

 

[JennyCapricorn]

Everyone please wish me luck as I'm starting to navigate the queer ENM space on OKCupid.