Women of Lit: A Safe Place To Share

[Splendidjane]

I received a similar request, supposedly from a couple, slanted to sound like it about protecting the wife. Except…she never materialized. Dude just wanted his dm to stand out and get a response. 100% bait-and-switch.

I always find the bait n switch fascinating - eventually she’s gonna realize there’s no wife…does he think his game is just that good she will be so in his thrall at that point she won’t mind or will forget? oh yeah-she writes dazed with lust-did you say something about a wife? No? Cool let me tell you about the dirtiest thing I’ve ever done in great detail…

if his game was that good he probably won’t need the ruse…just sayin’-fraud and blatant lies seems a harder hurdle to overcome with PM rizz.

I’m might start answering all the questions with 6-7 lol whatever you want it to be baby plus a little more to make it pop…

 

[JennyCapricorn]

I always find the bait n switch fascinating - eventually she’s gonna realize there’s no wife…does he think his game is just that good she will be so in his thrall at that point she won’t mind or will forget?

The idea that any of them are thinking past their next nut is laughable.

oh yeah-she writes dazed with lust-did you say something about a wife? No? Cool let me tell you about the dirtiest thing I’ve ever done in great detail…

and why do they always ask that?!

 

[Barbelle]

You're not the first person to see that; could well have been the same guy

I wouldn’t be surprised

 

[Splendidjane]

and why do they always ask that?!

Right?!? There’s an obsession with dirty, naughty, kinky, bad et al -someone asked me to join their devilish ride a couple msgs in and I said I don’t even know what that means only to receive as clarification

I should say that this is not representative of all of the communication so far on Lit but it’s def more than just a few…

 

[Zrosey]

I've had some lovely DM's around here on Lit, but when I first signed up an guys figured out (not like I hid it...) I am a trans woman, it was kinda an avalanche of 'fetish vendor' messages.
They were falling all over themselves imagining me as a hot young woman with all the operable man tackle.......
I found myself explaining reality to the first handful and than just started deleting and ignoring

 

[EvaLane]

The idea that any of them are thinking past their next nut is laughable.

The kinda wisdom I bestow upon the young adult women in my family

 

[JennyCapricorn]

Right?!? There’s an obsession with dirty, naughty, kinky, bad et al -someone asked me to join their devilish ride a couple msgs in and I said I don’t even know what that means only to receive as clarification

I should say that this is not representative of all of the communication so far on Lit but it’s def more than just a few…

I have to assume there is some group of women on here who get aroused and find release in sharing their moments of “depravity” but for me everyone one of these requests feels like “you should do unpaid labor to carry this conversation so I can climax” and it’s such a turn off. Their responses of “go on!” And “” are hardly fulfilling.

I sure hope there are women who do enjoy it, because it seems in demand.

 

[Splendidjane]

I have to assume there is some group of women on here who get aroused and find release in sharing their moments of “depravity” but for me everyone one of these requests feels like “you should do unpaid labor to carry this conversation so I can climax” and it’s such a turn off. Their responses of “go on!” And “” are hardly fulfilling.

I sure hope there are women who do enjoy it, because it seems in demand.

Agreed-I get stuck on believing everyone’s idea of dirty is probably a bit different. For some-I’ve probably done a bit of really dirty things -which maybe others would categorize as more of a good start on the road to dirty haha

 

[Splendidjane]

I've had some lovely DM's around here on Lit, but when I first signed up an guys figured out (not like I hid it...) I am a trans woman, it was kinda an avalanche of 'fetish vendor' messages.
They were falling all over themselves imagining me as a hot young woman with all the operable man tackle.......
I found myself explaining reality to the first handful and than just started deleting and ignoring

I’ve been thinking about this…love that you’ve leaned into delete and ignore-it’s so important and I think we women often wait too long to do that-so good on you.

And lit has really reminded me about the experience of objectification in the less than one week I’ve been on the forum lol. I’d taken a bit of a break from men.

I can’t imagine what the experience of being fetishized is like -esp as the result of choice to live as your true self and to be open about that choice-which is fucking brave and shows amazing integrity-now you’ve got all this other people’s garbage projected and dumped on you. It seems paradoxical.

 

[Mrswargamer9dash1]

So many versions of just wrong

Spent 50 years as the lie that was me (wasn't aware I was a lie at the time)

So I ended up seeing a lot of men being men

But I think we can all agree, you don't see men quite the same way until you are subjected to them as only a woman can be

Of all my transition years, nothing quite compares to the treatment of being treated like a woman by a man

Being whistled at, offered a beer, assumed to know nothing in a hardware department, opinions just don't interest them, and that's in Canada. Not sure I want to experience the American version.

 

[Mrswargamer9dash1]

When not here, what do you get up to?

I spend too much time freaking out about politics. Wish I didn't

But my average day is actually just sitting, eyes closed, meditating. Likely spend 4 hours a day with that.

I'm supposed to be making something, most of the time. Model, writing or painting. Or of course reading a good book.

I like shopping, too damned much hehe. Mostly I shop so I can talk to people while shopping. I am likely one of the most well known persons in town, and usually well liked by almost anyone.

It's been 30+ years since I had to work. I can't even relate to working people anymore. I'm not a kid, I just live the same sort of life. I wake eat and ponder "what to do today". It's boring.

My disability couldn't care less though.

 

[FrenchLopBunny]

There’s a new perv cruising the forum and he messaged me. DaddyDomLooking wants to teach me about DDlg, but he views both D and L only as abused in childhood.

 

[lil_jenni]

When not here, what do you get up to?

I was an elementary school teacher for many years, but having one year old twins plus a second grader makes it a bit difficult to do that now. Plus... I was tired of it, I now realize.

I am working on becoming a Realtor. A friend is one, and I am helping her out as I take classes online. So far, I really like it.

And in the past couple of weeks, I have started taking belly dancing lessons with a friend, who is a stripper. She's learning it to add to her routines. I'm doing it for fitness and fun. Also, since I've stayed a bit curvier after this last pregnancy (my hips are definitely wider after the twins, despite the c-section), it kinda fits my new body shape.

 

[lil_jenni]

There’s a new perv cruising the forum and he messaged me. DaddyDomLooking wants to teach me about DDlg, but he views both D and L only as abused in childhood.

He just PMed me with a list of affirmations he thought I might need.

That might seem sweet from someone with whom I had interacted before, but not from someone with whom I've never interacted. Then again, the creep vibe may also be because of your post, so thank you.

 

[JennyCapricorn]

I was an elementary school teacher for many years, but having one year old twins plus a second grader makes it a bit difficult to do that now. Plus... I was tired of it, I now realize.

I am working on becoming a Realtor. A friend is one, and I am helping her out as I take classes online. So far, I really like it.

And in the past couple of weeks, I have started taking belly dancing lessons with a friend, who is a stripper. She's learning it to add to her routines. I'm doing it for fitness and fun. Also, since I've stayed a bit curvier after this last pregnancy (my hips are definitely wider after the twins, despite the c-section), it kinda fits my new body shape.

Second pregnancies will do that!

 

[Splendidjane]

I’m considering typing unavailable for free use spank bank content creation in my about section…

 

[cheekygirl75]

He just PMed me with a list of affirmations he thought I might need.

That might seem sweet from someone with whom I had interacted before, but not from someone with whom I've never interacted. Then again, the creep vibe may also be because of your post, so thank you.

I got the same one! He even said sorry for copying and pasting

 

[lil_jenni]

I got the same one! He even said sorry for copying and pasting

Yep. But hey... He apologized, so it's all okay.

 

[Splendidjane]

Watching the new episode of South Park (not trying to be political at all…stay w/me please) there’s a recurring bit of a guy that enters a bedroom-and the minute he enters the room-in which his partner is sitting up in bed-the guy immediately strips from the waist down-effectively saying “hey partner” and crawling into bed…seemingly oblivious to whatever the partner is doing or their mood.

And I thought-this is a bit like getting messages on lit sometimes…minus the having any previous acquaintance aspect of course hahaha

 

[stickygirl]

Watching the new episode of South Park (not trying to be political at all…stay w/me please) there’s a recurring bit of a guy that enters a bedroom-and the minute he enters the room-in which his partner is sitting up in bed-the guy immediately strips from the waist down-effectively saying “hey partner” and crawling into bed…seemingly oblivious to whatever the partner is doing or their mood.

And I thought-this is a bit like getting messages on lit sometimes…minus the having any previous acquaintance aspect of course hahaha

Nah - it's more like the dude on crowded public transport who rubs up against you

 

[Mrswargamer9dash1]

I need to bitch if it's ok.
I'm feeling old and mean.
Not because of any man here though (none have even noticed me)

I'm a wargamer (hence the name). I like to push tiny 1/2 inch counters around maps of old battles.
Was big on wargaming forums in 2003.
Military forums seem to have died off around 2007. Not sure why.

Then the transgender thing happened (for me). Like 2012.
So I of course looked up some transgender forums. I could mention some names. Nah, just don't care.
It was an unexpected disaster. You would think they would be a safe place. They're not actually.

I have known of Lit since about 2002.
Nice it is still here.
Amazing it hasn't died as well. You might find this a shock, but this site is better behaved than I think you realize.

Ya, there are cretins perverts and all manner of wtf? But, the site is about erotic writing.
So if a guy wants to get hot and bothered here.
And I'm sure we ladies can be about the same.

But I am just so frustrated with some of the real world.
I hate religion so intensely. It blames me for everything.
And in the last year, it seems they are convinced the left is the great danger.

I just want to scream sometimes.
I'm too old for this garbage too.
The under 20s know no better. The under 30s can't stop talking into their cell phones.
The under 40s and under 50s are still too young as well.
I have no one to talk to much.

I have not done the trans child life, nor the trans youth experience or trans in highschool. I never went to college, but so what, I was well past my 30s without hearing a hint of what transgender was. I was past my 40s as well. I didn't meet the truth until I was 50. By then, I was so far removed from trans society, I couldn't relate. And I sure can't relate in my 60s.

I have no way to communicate online with transgender persons. I don't speak their language. I can't relate to their politics. I don't know what they experience. It won't be me fighting the fight. I'll be fortunate to be alive in 20 years.
But then again, society might not last much longer. Well if the young don't learn how to fight.

Part of me is afraid of the news. Part of me wonders what the point to being afraid is? What can they do to me?
They can't force me to learn junk in school. They can't refuse me work, I'm a long time past having any need of work.
They can't deny me my surgery, too late, old news. I sometimes wonder, am I wearing a label I no longer need? Ya, under a medical scan you can see some incongruities. So what. If someone wants to tell me "You are really a man", I can respond with, "oh fuck off".

I hope I am not boring anyone here.
It is an odd feeling knowing of all places online to be chewing about the trans world, I'd be doing it on a site for sex saturated fiction.

And my own journey has been kinda lonely. 2012 no one to talk to other than untrained medicals.
2014 and wife separates as a prerequisite to divorce.
4 very lonely years learning all by myself.
Celebrating my surgery, alone.
Recovery alone.
Learning that dating is a monumental disappointment this century if you are over 25
I have my wife, but sadly we spend most of our time feeling like there is no one out there for our age.
I have one 18 year old transgender female friend. She calls us her aunties. But we don't know what it is like to be her.
And there is really nowhere to interact with the young (without a lot of nasty comments resulting).

I have looked on YouTube. Old for trans is considered mid 30s. I'm a complete fossil.

Thanks for any who listened.

 

[cheekygirl75]

I need to bitch if it's ok.
I'm feeling old and mean.
Not because of any man here though (none have even noticed me)

I'm a wargamer (hence the name). I like to push tiny 1/2 inch counters around maps of old battles.
Was big on wargaming forums in 2003.
Military forums seem to have died off around 2007. Not sure why.

Then the transgender thing happened (for me). Like 2012.
So I of course looked up some transgender forums. I could mention some names. Nah, just don't care.
It was an unexpected disaster. You would think they would be a safe place. They're not actually.

I have known of Lit since about 2002.
Nice it is still here.
Amazing it hasn't died as well. You might find this a shock, but this site is better behaved than I think you realize.

Ya, there are cretins perverts and all manner of wtf? But, the site is about erotic writing.
So if a guy wants to get hot and bothered here.
And I'm sure we ladies can be about the same.

But I am just so frustrated with some of the real world.
I hate religion so intensely. It blames me for everything.
And in the last year, it seems they are convinced the left is the great danger.

I just want to scream sometimes.
I'm too old for this garbage too.
The under 20s know no better. The under 30s can't stop talking into their cell phones.
The under 40s and under 50s are still too young as well.
I have no one to talk to much.

I have not done the trans child life, nor the trans youth experience or trans in highschool. I never went to college, but so what, I was well past my 30s without hearing a hint of what transgender was. I was past my 40s as well. I didn't meet the truth until I was 50. By then, I was so far removed from trans society, I couldn't relate. And I sure can't relate in my 60s.

I have no way to communicate online with transgender persons. I don't speak their language. I can't relate to their politics. I don't know what they experience. It won't be me fighting the fight. I'll be fortunate to be alive in 20 years.
But then again, society might not last much longer. Well if the young don't learn how to fight.

Part of me is afraid of the news. Part of me wonders what the point to being afraid is? What can they do to me?
They can't force me to learn junk in school. They can't refuse me work, I'm a long time past having any need of work.
They can't deny me my surgery, too late, old news. I sometimes wonder, am I wearing a label I no longer need? Ya, under a medical scan you can see some incongruities. So what. If someone wants to tell me "You are really a man", I can respond with, "oh fuck off".

I hope I am not boring anyone here.
It is an odd feeling knowing of all places online to be chewing about the trans world, I'd be doing it on a site for sex saturated fiction.

And my own journey has been kinda lonely. 2012 no one to talk to other than untrained medicals.
2014 and wife separates as a prerequisite to divorce.
4 very lonely years learning all by myself.
Celebrating my surgery, alone.
Recovery alone.
Learning that dating is a monumental disappointment this century if you are over 25
I have my wife, but sadly we spend most of our time feeling like there is no one out there for our age.
I have one 18 year old transgender female friend. She calls us her aunties. But we don't know what it is like to be her.
And there is really nowhere to interact with the young (without a lot of nasty comments resulting).

I have looked on YouTube. Old for trans is considered mid 30s. I'm a complete fossil.

Thanks for any who listened.

Giving this a love reaction because I can’t give it a hug reaction. But big hugs for you - I’m sorry your journey has been so lonely but I’m glad you were able to find who you really are.

 

[Zrosey]

Giving this a love reaction because I can’t give it a hug reaction. But big hugs for you - I’m sorry your journey has been so lonely but I’m glad you were able to find who you really are.

I totally agree w cheekygirl. Virtual hugs to you sister

 

[Zrosey]

And lit has really reminded me about the experience of objectification in the less than one week I’ve been on the forum lol. I’d taken a bit of a break from men.

First off, thanks for everything you expressed here, it really resonated for me!
I've found myself feeling wary around men, I avert my eyes, feel very conscious anytime I need to walk by ones not known by me.
It is like I've developed some kind of early warning.

I can’t imagine what the experience of being fetishized is like -esp as the result of choice to live as your true self

For the most part, any of the rudeness and negative external bs I've gotten since my transition is offset by the amazing, awesome feeling of living life as I have always seen myself, a woman!
I would never ever consider going back, and I've said it elsewhere, but I finally feel complete, as I was meant to be.
Sorry for my late reply, I'm currently traveling, visiting with my gender doctor and visiting friends

 

[Mrswargamer9dash1]

Had to kick the ant hill

But this is what I'm thinking of right now.