You gotta wonder.......

[whspr]

OOOOOooooooopppppssss!!!
*grabs hold of Whspr and hugs her tight!!!!*

"Hugs FS back tightly"...you know I love those huggles babe

Love ya,
whspr

 

[Woodmiester]

Do you ever wonder about people that come into your life, you share something nice with them whether it be friendship or some lustful playtime and suddenly they are gone. Well not gone, you see them all the time, posting and playing with others, just gone from what you shared with them? Do you ever wonder, why?

When you try to keep up the friendship but it seems to be "nothing" to them if they respond to you or not?

Wonder why they have no interest in you any more?

Do you question their intentions? And I mean, after you get to know them privately as well as on the boards?

Did they get what they wanted from you and move on?

Just curious this morning.....

Great bunch of questions Jewelz and as a guy I'd like to offer my .02 worth in reply and for those fo you that disagree, well fuck me becuase fucking you is a not giving me any pleasure now is it?

Seems that most of the guys want to do whatever it takes to get a few jerkoff sessions, then when they get bored it's on to the next, they don't want to know how your day went of how you're doing, they want fucking, sucking and whatever it takes to get off, then again, I'm sure a few of the females only want the same thing, so as lonf as both parties know up front that's all there is to it, then wheres the issue...

A few of my "wonders" are, what do the ladies here want or what are you looking for. Seems to me that most times the guys posting rude or crude comments are the ones having a blast while those saying nice things and truly wanting to get to know a parson as much as this allows get left behind. Makes the old saying nice guys finish last true, even here at Lit.

Sometimes we might just need to stop looking around the person that's blocking our view hoping to find what we want, never know if the one doing to blocking is what you've been searching for, but that's just a thought of mine...

Hope you're all doing well this evening

 

[sortacurious]

I'm not sure if Jewelz is still around, but...

1sexylady ~ a fellow girl scouter!!!! I remember singing that song, too! I envy your ability to not let it get to you. I try not to be overly sensitive but some times an accumulation of things causes the dreaded vulnerability to come out.

FinestSilk ~ I just thought I'd try this motto on for the day...see how it feels. I'm sure I wouldn't be able to adopt it permanently, just know myself too well to think I could. But thanks for letting me borrow it!

Woodmiester ~ Thank you for the insight from a male perspective. I was hoping more men would brave this thread (besides lovemetender, of course). Although, I can't say that I blame anyone of being a little wary of it. You've given me some food for thought. I will say two things...

I didn't really have any expectations coming to Lit. It is the first online community that I've joined so I had no idea how people might be. But just as in real life, the only thing I would ask for is respect. If I wanted to be objectified hell why come to fantasyland, I get that in real life. For all of those that are looking for that...well, I hereby give notice...don't even bother pm-ing me.
As far as I know there is no rule book on how this works, but sheesh it seems like a given that if you're not sure what somebody is looking for or expecting, ASK! (preferably before doing something that may offend or hurt) This doesn't mean I don't want to have fun, either.

Also, the rude and crude may appear to be having all the fun, but it's a shallow kind of fun, IMHO. Personally, those kinds of things don't turn my head at all, unless it's the friendly banter.

Take care of youselves

 

[prettygrneyes]

My feeling's.....

I understand what you are saying. I havent become dependant on anyone here. But I do get attached to people faster than they might with me. Which is fine, just dont ignore me or treat me differently on the boards than you treat me privately. I mean, when someone is all over me privately but rarely talk to me on the boards.....kinda insulting.

Im not sure just because forming relationships online lends me to being a cheater. I am a married woman. And Ive never lied to or led anyone on to believe that we could have something more than we share right here on the net. There is someone on here that is someone that I would love to be in a relationship with...but we both know that it isnt possible, while I am married anyway.

I just like to feel special to people and I let them know that they are just as special to me if not more. I dont need everyone liking me, but if I take my time and get to know someone and they get personal with me too, to me, that is a bond. And I just dont understand why they would be so blantant and drop me and my friendship in the blink of an eye. Hence the reason I started this thread....Makes me wonder....

Hey hun,
I am really glad you started this thread because I been thinking about it all wknd..And I am glad to see it here and I am feeling the same way as you,As I have let someone know juss recently that I can't understand how you want to be all mushy with me privately BUTT openly not ,on the BB,to some ppl ,I assume that mean's they have an online relationship and other's it means they do it privately,BUTT when they do it with all the other's openly ,I feel it's a BIG insult,and reguardless online or offline I still have feeling's and I am a human being.I treat them(they know who they are) with UTMOST respect ,I deserve to get treated back the same way...BUTT these are my feeling's,lately I guess it doesn't matter though

 

[ReBeLBeLLe]

Actually everyones feeling here matter and any person, be they male or female that tromps all over someone elses feelings is a worthless human being in my book. Anyone with an ounce of decency in them is not going to do that to someone else. I have found most often that if and when a person makes the choice to belittle somone or treat them as yesterdays trash that it is a driect result of low self esteem within ones self or some other sense of lacking within their ego. I know it doesn't help any of us to try to remember that when we are the ones feeling the hurt...I guess all we can do is be glad there are people out there that do care. We know who these people are because they recognize us at all times, stand by us through good times and bad and love us in spite of ourselves. It's the latter I want to associate with, and its the latter that I will be associating with long after the assholes have come and gone.

 

[1sexylady]

Re: I'm not sure if Jewelz is still around, but...

1sexylady ~ a fellow girl scouter!!!! I remember singing that song, too! I envy your ability to not let it get to you. I try not to be overly sensitive but some times an accumulation of things causes the dreaded vulnerability to come out.

Take care of youselves

Well I am not saying this kind of stuff doesn't hurt...I have gone into threads and said Hi and been walked over like my name didn't appear there at all.....I try to be nice and get blown off...so I just don't bother with those who do that... I have made alot of nice friends here male and female.....As long as I know in my heart I did nothing to a person to hurt them and they choose not to talk to me anymore...well then it is their lost...not mine.. I came here to make friends...I can get fucked anywhere..anytime...I don't need Lit to do it....and if you read any of my postings I spoke with my heart not my pussy...

well not all the time anyway..

 

[prettygrneyes]

that is true.....

Actually everyones feeling here matter and any person, be they male or female that tromps all over someone elses feelings is a worthless human being in my book. Anyone with an ounce of decency in them is not going to do that to someone else. I have found most often that if and when a person makes the choice to belittle somone or treat them as yesterdays trash that it is a driect result of low self esteem within ones self or some other sense of lacking within their ego. I know it doesn't help any of us to try to remember that when we are the ones feeling the hurt...I guess all we can do is be glad there are people out there that do care. We know who these people are because they recognize us at all times, stand by us through good times and bad and love us in spite of ourselves. It's the latter I want to associate with, and its the latter that I will be associating with long after the assholes have come and gone.

hi FinestSilk....
You know I have met some nice ppl and some that were more personal ,and for whatever reason they come here ,and they say they will be here forever ..those are the ones that I always wonder where they are and why I never or seldom hear from them,which is very sad ,I am a sincere type person looking for something I really have not found,yes I post different thread's (one that I want to edit) ,in fact ....
Butt I have met some really good friends that I would do anything for....

 

[sxychick21]

Thanks for discussing this topic. All of the views have been very enlightening. I have gone through this several times throughout my online "career" Its devestating to me when the brush off coincides with an exchange of pictures! Thats the worst for me. But all of them hurt!

 

[wildone28]

Thanks for discussing this topic. All of the views have been very enlightening. I have gone through this several times throughout my online "career" Its devestating to me when the brush off coincides with an exchange of pictures! Thats the worst for me. But all of them hurt!

I agree with you there about the pic exchange Sxy..That has happened to me before in the online world..That hurts alot when you have so much fun talking to a person but the minute you seem them a pic of you they are gone just because you are not what they wanted you to be...

 

[ReBeLBeLLe]

Those that give a brush off after seeing a pic were obviously only interested in one thing and that is what you could do for them. Anyone that takes time to get to know someone and likes them for the content of the time spent together will like/love someone regardless of whether they met their "picture" of that person. I thank god that most people I meet, like me for who I am, for the interaction and sharing that starts long before I ever send them a pic. As for myself....I fall for a person, whether they be friend or something more and once I fall when I recieve a pic, I know long before i get it exactly how beautiful they truly are because you see, I already know them from the inside.

 

[sxychick21]

Well said Silk! I will take that to heart!

 

[1sexylady]

Those that give a brush off after seeing a pic were obviously only interested in one thing and that is what you could do for them. Anyone that takes time to get to know someone and likes them for the content of the time spent together will like/love someone regardless of whether they met their "picture" of that person. I thank god that most people I meet, like me for who I am, for the interaction and sharing that starts long before I ever send them a pic. As for myself....I fall for a person, whether they be friend or something more and once I fall when I recieve a pic, I know long before i get it exactly how beautiful they truly are because you see, I already know them from the inside.

That is well said...I don't give out pictures...first of all I don't have any... but I figure this is like a blind person...you see with your feelings....not your eyes...it is what is inside that counts but again...hey I am 6'1" and I am proud of who I am and what I am so like the beginning...fuck em...

 

[Woodmiester]

Re: Re: I'm not sure if Jewelz is still around, but...

Well I am not saying this kind of stuff doesn't hurt...I have gone into threads and said Hi and been walked over like my name didn't appear there at all.....I try to be nice and get blown off...so I just don't bother with those who do that... I have made alot of nice friends here male and female.....As long as I know in my heart I did nothing to a person to hurt them and they choose not to talk to me anymore...well then it is their lost...

Wish some of the other males here would comment but maybe too many see this as hitting right at home, anyway, sexylady for lack of a better way to respond I've been there done that also. I don't know if it's hurt but it flat out pisses me off to take the time to comment on someones thread and it's like you weren't even there.

And wildone you're so right about after the picture and poof their gone, and it happens to not only females, but males

sortacurious I agree, if done in a friendly way it adds to the friendships one develops, Gem Tiger and I have that going and personally I look forward to it (and Gem NO your not getting them)

prettygrneyes, yes it does matter

Not that what was said by anyone else wasn't worth a personal reply, but please know that each you all wrote is important, and know what, at least for this man it made me aware of myself that while it wasn't intended, I think I might have fallen into this spot with one of you here on this thread, but it wasn't the pic I saw but that others were bidding for your attention like a pack of wolfs, so I moved on, but now and then I come back to say hello

 

[wildone28]

I don't give out pictures either for a long while after I start talking to someone..I want them to like me for who I am not what I look like..feelings come from the inside not from a persons looks. If you know someone for who they are what should looks mattter??

 

[Cipher]

I knew you would be so there with me SC.

I mean, what is it about me that they dont like any more? LOLOL

oh well......FUCK EM seems to be a great attitude really!

Hey Jewelz!!!

You know what?? it's not you..i have come to the realization that some people are just weired, they're cool with you for awhile and you get to know them real good, and then they move on, like they did you a favor by letting you get to know them...wtf kinda bullshit is that?? ya know?? Some people think that just becasue this isn't RL it's ok to blow people off real quick, and that is so shitty..but if they keep doing that and leaving bad karma to follow them..there comes a time when that "karma credit card" gets maxxed out and needs a payment..people like that irritate me..LoL
Nice to see ya btw..LoL

 

[Cipher]

I don't give out pictures either for a long while after I start talking to someone..I want them to like me for who I am not what I look like..feelings come from the inside not from a persons looks. If you know someone for who they are what should looks mattter??

See, and what's shitty is no one should have to wait to show thier pic until they're confident that the person on the other end isn't going to diss them...that really makes my ass itch..LoL and i got alot of ass so all that scratchin is a waste of time on my part..LoL Sheesh..seriously though..i guess some people are shallow and think that lit is just a free for all cyber sex event..and it can be..but for the most part it isn't..it's all about being a family, understanding and accepting people for who they are. Wish more people thought like me..LoL

See yaz later!!

 

[Ice Cold]

That's why you have to be careful Jewelz... Lots of wonderful people out there, hard to see who is being honest and who isn't.
But if they want to play games... them I'm with the rest fuck'em.

 

[sxychick21]

See, and what's shitty is no one should have to wait to show thier pic until they're confident that the person on the other end isn't going to diss them...that really makes my ass itch..LoL and i got alot of ass so all that scratchin is a waste of time on my part..LoL Sheesh..seriously though..i guess some people are shallow and think that lit is just a free for all cyber sex event..and it can be..but for the most part it isn't..it's all about being a family, understanding and accepting people for who they are. Wish more people thought like me..LoL

See yaz later!!

Cracking up about the ass itch comment!! I wish they thought more like you to babe!

 

[cutie pie]

Hey, Sis. . .you know what I just realized? They've got to acknowledge your presence before you can tell 'em to FUCK OFF!! Gheesh. . . .

 

[1fiestyredhead]

God SC, I am beginning to thing that you are me and cutie pie's long lost sister too!! As I read your words, I could have written them. Every one of them.

I wear my heart on my sleeve and what you see is what you get. I dont come online to be the character "jewelz".....there is a real person behind that screen! and i understand that many people DO just come here for relaxation and not to make connections, but banter with me off the boards and I think we have a friendship. Then when it stops and I see the influx of their responses to the knock out babes....makes me wonder if i am really that repulsive? should i really even give a damn? probably not.

i do know that i AM thankful for those that i have made a bond with, male/female....gives me hope at least.

Jewelz hun....you are a knockout babe. And you are real, and that's what makes you special. If there are people out there that don't recognize that , it's their loss. But I know the words are easy to say, but the feeling of being dissed is hard to put aside. But really....it's them, not you. Maybe they just can't handle a 'real' woman!!
And the same goes for any of us that have felt like we've been "used and abused" online.

 

[TantaLiza]

I totally agree with you!!

I like to banter with the best of them...and I don't give out my pic but am very honest about who and what I am. If they choose to stay "friends" with me fine...if not, like said previously, it's their loss! I'm a good person with a twisted side...just play with me if you wanna...I love to have fun and make new friends but I'm a bit shy at first...

Hugs to everyone!!

Liza

 

[lilrosie lips]

Do you ever wonder about people that come into your life, you share something nice with them whether it be friendship or some lustful playtime and suddenly they are gone. Well not gone, you see them all the time, posting and playing with others, just gone from what you shared with them? Do you ever wonder, why?

When you try to keep up the friendship but it seems to be "nothing" to them if they respond to you or not?

Wonder why they have no interest in you any more?

Do you question their intentions? And I mean, after you get to know them privately as well as on the boards?

Did they get what they wanted from you and move on?

Just curious this morning.....

What an interesting thread. I have had all the tiny and not so tiny hurts happen to me too online (not here at Literotica... because I am just too new here.) But I have had many of the same things happen in real life too. I think it's just easier to be rude and ignore someone on line than it is in R/L, when you don't have to actually see hurt or bewilderment in a persons face. It's very easy to share and feel like you know someone really well, but its still hard. How many people are surprised by their R/L significant others who they have know for years and thought they knew everything about? But I have found that admist the dross and the real users you often find some real friends. And for that I am willing to take the hurts and rejections and try to keep myself open to all... Just my 2cents worth....

 

[ReBeLBeLLe]

where do ya go when the hurts outweigh the good? where does one go when they can see no path out of the pain?

 

[lilrosie lips]

Thats the 64,000 dollar question... for each of us it is different... some people retreat from chat... either temporarily or permently.. some grit it out.. its all a personal choice... just as everything is... which all sounds trite... but thats what I believe... you have to follow your heart...

 

[pondman]

I get ignored all the time.

I just say what the fuck and move on. Hey if people don't want to reply to one of my post that's just fine I didn't need their validation any way. So if knowone cares to get to know me thats their lose not mine. Thats just my thoughts on that.