You gotta wonder.......

[wildone28]

Jewelz..sweetie..So good to see you back..Have missed your posts and hearing from you.Thanks for the pm..will answer it back later..>I hope you are going to be okay! Take care of yourself sweetie!! *tight hugs and es to you!!

 

[ShiningEyes]

Jewelz....I'm just glad that I can be here for great people like yourself! I try to be who I am...not what other people want me to be or make me out to be. If there's any other way to be...I don't know it. I love this place and wish I could come back more often. It's hard tho right now.
Now, I know I'm young and I have my whole life ahead of me...as do soooo many other people here...but here's some advice I've already learned! Take life one day at a time. And if you come to that fork in the road or a spoon or a brick wall or even a sherman tank........take your time in figuring the right path for you! That or you could do just what I do at times....find a way to bust it out of your way! lol If making your own path makes better sense...sometimes it's better to do that. Above all...do not do anything that you know or think your going to regret. If you feel that it's because you weren't supposed to do it and didn't really want to do it to begin with!!!! There's not many things that I regret in my life. But there are a few.

I hope all of you have a good day! And I"ll try very hard to post more!

 

[1fiestyredhead]

Jewelz!! I'm so glad your back hun! I'm so sorry about the loss of your writings and poetry...that's like losing a chunk of your heart.
I've missed you girl! And I can so relate to the anxiety about the move.... I remember it well. Hang in there...

 

[Jewelz]

grrrrrrrrrrrwl!!!!! MEN! Can live with 'em, can't live without 'em! What's a girl to do?
Moving can be so stressful, and I'm thinking without something lined up there must be lots of insecurities going on! I'm here for all the support you want, hun!

I posted a little of what's happened on the Divorced & Separated thread but will pm the juicy details and the other stuff.

Thank you ever so much!! and umm, girlie, im still waiting for more juice

 

[Jewelz]

Jewelz..sweetie..So good to see you back..Have missed your posts and hearing from you.Thanks for the pm..will answer it back later..>I hope you are going to be okay! Take care of yourself sweetie!! *tight hugs and es to you!!

Hi hon!! thank you! Im sure I will be ok love...taking one day at a time. its been very rough, but i am managing. hope things are going well for you too!!

 

[Jewelz]

I hope all of you have a good day! And I"ll try very hard to post more!

you are wise dear one. thank you for that very enlightening post! *hugs* you are a very very kind soul. please be safe and enjoy!

 

[Jewelz]

Jewelz!! I'm so glad your back hun! I'm so sorry about the loss of your writings and poetry...that's like losing a chunk of your heart.
I've missed you girl! And I can so relate to the anxiety about the move.... I remember it well. Hang in there...

thanks sweet girlie!! it sure is like losing a big part of my heart. we were able to get a few back but still am missing some of my best stuff. I have missed you too! Remember, if you need to talk.....im a pm away! *hugs* love...

 

[Carl East]

Do you ever wonder about people that come into your life, you share something nice with them whether it be friendship or some lustful playtime and suddenly they are gone. Well not gone, you see them all the time, posting and playing with others, just gone from what you shared with them? Do you ever wonder, why?

When you try to keep up the friendship but it seems to be "nothing" to them if they respond to you or not?

Wonder why they have no interest in you any more?

Do you question their intentions? And I mean, after you get to know them privately as well as on the boards?

Did they get what they wanted from you and move on?

Just curious this morning.....

Why this should happen to someone as nice as you is a total mystery to me. Because good honest people like you are not a dime a dozen, they are very rare.

I enjoy talking, flirting and most of all laughing with you Jewelz. If you weren't attached you soon would be.

Some men have short attention spans I'm affraid, where as others are just plain stupid. lol



Carl

 

[Jewelz]

Re: Re: You gotta wonder.......

Why this should happen to someone as nice as you is a total mystery to me. Because good honest people like you are not a dime a dozen, they are very rare.

I enjoy talking, flirting and most of all laughing with you Jewelz. If you weren't attached you soon would be.

Some men have short attention spans I'm affraid, where as others are just plain stupid. lol



Carl

aww thanks carl!! you are very good at making me blush!! im nobody special though, really. im just me! I enjoy our talks too. we do laugh alot dont we? its good for our souls carl. we both hurt inside and im glad we are friends and can shine a bit of sunlight on our cloudy days!

 

[Carl East]

Re: Re: Re: You gotta wonder.......

aww thanks carl!! you are very good at making me blush!! im nobody special though, really. im just me! I enjoy our talks too. we do laugh alot dont we? its good for our souls carl. we both hurt inside and im glad we are friends and can shine a bit of sunlight on our cloudy days!

Your right there, we do seem to make each other laugh don't we? I think everyone should have a friend or two like that, it should be made law. lol



Carl

 

[Jewelz]

Re: Re: Re: Re: You gotta wonder.......

Your right there, we do seem to make each other laugh don't we? I think everyone should have a friend or two like that, it should be made law. lol



Carl

LOL it should be a law, and i would ask that they mandate it so that the insanity would stop and call it a crime if you type "lol" one more time!! AHHHHHHHHH!!

you know im teasin LOL

 

[lilrosie lips]

Re: Re: You gotta wonder.......

Some men have short attention spans I'm affraid, where as others are just plain stupid. lol



Carl

With all the words written here on the subject... I think Carl got right to the heart of the matter....

 

[Carl East]

Re: Re: Re: You gotta wonder.......

With all the words written here on the subject... I think Carl got right to the heart of the matter....

Thank you, I believe in being as honest as possible.

Carl

 

[lilrosie lips]

Re: Re: Re: Re: You gotta wonder.......

Thank you, I believe in being as honest as possible.

Carl

and succient too!!..

 

[thxrc]

??WOW!!

I have had that happen to me too. You wonder what you did...what you could have done. This just happened to me. I had a wonderful friendship and more with someone. I email them on a regular basis, leave messages and no return.

It seems as though I don't exist or matter anymore. I hope to move on and I will.

I still care about them, so I don't think the "Fuck 'em" attitude will work for me right now.

 

[Carl East]

Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: You gotta wonder.......

and succient too!!..

Oh yes, I don't believe in using a lot of words when a few will suffice.

Thxrc: Are you sure this isn't internet trouble, or has this been going on for a while.

I ask because I recently lost contact with someone and was worried about them, only to find a very good reason why they were not answering.

Carl

 

[sortacurious]

Thank you ever so much!! and umm, girlie, im still waiting for more juice

Doh! How could I forget to write you about the juice!? OH yeah, cuz I was out makin' more! OK, one long ass pm coming up.
Oh, and we're going out of town tomorrow afternoon until Tues. night

 

[Jewelz]

Doh! How could I forget to write you about the juice!? OH yeah, cuz I was out makin' more! OK, one long ass pm coming up.
Oh, and we're going out of town tomorrow afternoon until Tues. night

silly you! ....hmmm...you calling me tuesday night then?

i sure could use something to cheer me up girlie! cant wait to read the pm!

 

[Jewelz]

Re: ??WOW!!

I have had that happen to me too. You wonder what you did...what you could have done. This just happened to me. I had a wonderful friendship and more with someone. I email them on a regular basis, leave messages and no return.

It seems as though I don't exist or matter anymore. I hope to move on and I will.

I still care about them, so I don't think the "Fuck 'em" attitude will work for me right now.

its hard for me to say fuck em too...really it is. but i have at least got to say, fine, its ok, stop dwelling on why they have dropped contact/friendship with me...yanno? i was making myself crazy long before lit, with instances like this and its just not worth it. hang in there.

 

[Jaenelle]

Re: Jumping in.

I’m taking a big step here in posting to this thread…considering that I am probably guilty of this. I don’t know that persons who do this are always aware of what the other person is feeling. Most people are not mind readers although they think they are, and do not know what each other is thinking. That’s why all you can do is tell someone what you feel. If you haven’t done that, then…shame on you and me.

I have had encounters with members, and have been treated to the same, here one day gone the next so to speak…I know from my own experience that when that happens I have to ask myself did I set myself up. Did I let them know the depth of my involvement…feeling…interest…hopes…desires…what were they really looking for and how do they plan on getting it, what am I looking for and how do they come in to play.

But sometimes being a mind reader keeps people from asking these questions…rejection is a hard pill to swallow. As a man who has spent time on this board and met some wonderful, exciting, sexually liberated, open minded women, I have only the fondest of memories. But at the same time I have had encounters with women that can only be explained as, …thank you gotta go now.

If I had to put this in a perspective that would help me to be less offended and hurt it would be this.

Cyber chat, sex, friendships, romances, loves, is all susceptible to failure…although not all do fail. There IS a different mindset when you meet someone on a board that is exclusively about sex, and if you spend time here looking at each of the persons posting you can find out much before even contacting them. It would seem that the possibility of someone searching for their next playmate, by reading their posts would give you a advantage, it doesn’t.

I have always said that “Love is the product of truthful communication”…and if you are truthful with someone and can take some rejection…you may save yourself…the pain and heartbreak caused by not specking your truths.

I am probably rambling and not making sense, but felt that this thread may be the best thing to come along that will allow a place for people to tell how they did or did not communicate the truth.

It would figure that it would be Jewelz who started this thread, since she has some of the best threads…(in my opinion) that put my mind to work.

Oh well that’s my $.02 for this.

Very well said Love!

 

[ShiningEyes]

All I know is, when Life bucks you off, you gotta get right back up and back on that horse!!!!! if you don't....you'll be afraid to get back up all your life!!!!! Sorry for how I put it! But you can't let life keep ya down on the ground!!!

 

[sortacurious]

All I know is, when Life bucks you off, you gotta get right back up and back on that horse!!!!! if you don't....you'll be afraid to get back up all your life!!!!! Sorry for how I put it! But you can't let life keep ya down on the ground!!!

I agree, sugar..***** is too precious and way too short to let it keep you down. But, it still hurts like crazy when you give a piece of yourself to someone...not just the playing, but a piece you don't normally show others...and then they ignore you.

 

[ShiningEyes]

I agree, sugar..***** is too precious and way too short to let it keep you down. But, it still hurts like crazy when you give a piece of yourself to someone...not just the playing, but a piece you don't normally show others...and then they ignore you.

I completely agree with you, hun!!! It's very hard and hurts like hell!!!!! I've been there. ~big hugs to all that is hurting~
I know I've said this before...but I'm gonna say it again!!!!

I'm here if anyone needs to talk! Don't hesitate to pm me or email me!

 

[gr8dad2]

You know what sucks ... when you post to a thread trying to get somebody's attention and they completely ignore you.. like you don't exist... I'm in one of my everybody hates me.. nobody loves me moods and this is just making it worse.. the person I want just gives me extremely bland feedback with very little hope and then I get ignored by others .. is it me ?? some body tell me what am I doing wrong

 

[knightstalker]

I have found some people here who I got along with great we talked all the time and then they just up and dissapear with out a word but thats life sometimes things happen that you cannot control and you just move on..No sense in worrying what you did because it most likl;ey has nothing to do with you ..I have been coming here for along time and have seen this all before and it is why I try to be a friend with nothing more going into it ..Ok I admit I have meet two ladies who I felt more than a friendship for but one ended in disaster and the other had to end because I met someone in R.L and could not keep going with my lit lady but I do still care about her and only want her to be happy..Your true friends will always be there for you