You gotta wonder.......

[sortacurious]

You know what sucks ... when you post to a thread trying to get somebody's attention and they completely ignore you.. like you don't exist... I'm in one of my everybody hates me.. nobody loves me moods and this is just making it worse.. the person I want just gives me extremely bland feedback with very little hope and then I get ignored by others .. is it me ?? some body tell me what am I doing wrong

I don't know the answers to you questions, but I agree that sucks!
We haven't really interacted together but I don't think it's you. I've seen your posts, and you seem like a nice guy. I wouldn't ignore you...I know how it feels.




So....how is it that this is all coming up again? I suppose as long as people are still experiencing this, it will cause feelings. It's helpful to be able to talk about.

 

[sortacurious]

Some incoherent, first waking up thoughts...

I have found some people here who I got along with great we talked all the time and then they just up and dissapear with out a word but thats life sometimes things happen that you cannot control and you just move on..No sense in worrying what you did because it most likl;ey has nothing to do with you ..I have been coming here for along time and have seen this all before and it is why I try to be a friend with nothing more going into it ..Ok I admit I have meet two ladies who I felt more than a friendship for but one ended in disaster and the other had to end because I met someone in R.L and could not keep going with my lit lady but I do still care about her and only want her to be happy..Your true friends will always be there for you

You right sweetie, nothing to be done about it, except to feel how we feel and move on.
I just hope you were a good person (as I know you to be) and explained to that other lady. I really hope you didn't say things like 'nothing has to change between us' and 'friends to the end' and then stop acknowledging that friendship. Because I'm sure that other person still cares about you and wants the same for you...happiness. After all, they'd be a pretty shitty friend otherwise, right?
I also agree that my true friends will always be here for me. I just wonder which are my true friends sometimes. Do you know who your true friends are?
Ugh! I need more coffee

oh and............GO WINGS!

 

[Jewelz]

You know what sucks ... when you post to a thread trying to get somebody's attention and they completely ignore you.. like you don't exist... I'm in one of my everybody hates me.. nobody loves me moods and this is just making it worse.. the person I want just gives me extremely bland feedback with very little hope and then I get ignored by others .. is it me ?? some body tell me what am I doing wrong

Daddy...this is one of the exact reasons I started this thread....I felt ignored by some people that I used to "hang" with. My posts seem to go unnoticed so I just slid into the shadows.

The only other thing that I try to tell myself is maybe they dont see those threads that I am posting in. Maybe they have no idea you were talking to them especially if they dont read certain threads. What bothered me before, doesnt any more, is when I would post to a thread that they were clearly posting in and i would post something to them...but nothing...yanno?

Im over it. those who want to talk with me will and those who dont, wont. i admit i dont do as much thread hopping as I used to. I stick mainly with the ones I have started or good friends have started. If a thread title catches my attention...i post

Hang in sugah!

 

[Jewelz]

Re: Some incoherent, first waking up thoughts...

You right sweetie, nothing to be done about it, except to feel how we feel and move on.
I just hope you were a good person (as I know you to be) and explained to that other lady. I really hope you didn't say things like 'nothing has to change between us' and 'friends to the end' and then stop acknowledging that friendship. Because I'm sure that other person still cares about you and wants the same for you...happiness. After all, they'd be a pretty shitty friend otherwise, right?
I also agree that my true friends will always be here for me. I just wonder which are my true friends sometimes. Do you know who your true friends are?
Ugh! I need more coffee

oh and............GO WINGS!

Ohh SC darlin...very good post!! I agree with you so much!! and there ya go, a new thread for ya..."do you know who your true friends are at lit".... I think I do.

 

[knightstalker]

It seems that the few who I consider true friends are the ones I talk to the least but are always there for me when things are bad..I have about three people here I consider true friends and will always be there for them ..I would love to thank them personally but i have learned my lesson as far as posting names goes...You know that is a good i dea for a thread or maybe a thread to just say thanks to those you care about but then again if you forgot to mention someone the shit might hit the fan..Anyway I still think it is a good idea..

 

[sortacurious]

It seems that the few who I consider true friends are the ones I talk to the least but are always there for me when things are bad..I have about three people here I consider true friends and will always be there for them ..I would love to thank them personally but i have learned my lesson as far as posting names goes...You know that is a good i dea for a thread or maybe a thread to just say thanks to those you care about but then again if you forgot to mention someone the shit might hit the fan..Anyway I still think it is a good idea..

Gotta disagree with you this time, sweetie. If you consider them a true friend, then you would want to share the good and not just lean on them during the bad. They care about you and want to share in you happiness as well as your sorrow. Otherwise, they may feel used, ya know? Also, it makes them unsure if you will always be there for them, or if it's one-sided.

I don't have a problem naming names when it comes to friends...might not be sure a good idea if you accusing someone publicly LOL, or upset with them...but we can all use a little "I'm proud to be your friend" in public...ok I'll think about starting my first thread along these lines.

 

[knightstalker]

I do not lean on them during the bad times because other than an injury I do not have to many probs in my life and we do share the good times I just wanted to say that they are there for me and me for them

 

[sortacurious]

I do not lean on them during the bad times because other than an injury I do not have to many probs in my life and we do share the good times I just wanted to say that they are there for me and me for them

Then you are a true friend indeed. I must have misunderstood your last post. Sorry, sweetie.

 

[knightstalker]

How about I just start over ..Yes I do consider a few here to be friends we get along really well and always have good things to say to each other ..I love to hear when things go good for them and they in turn love to hear when things are good with me and yes when times are bad we are there for each other also...I have not been the best of a friend tho latley because I have not writtien to them in about a week or two but it is because of R.L not because I don't wan to talk to them so if you read this I am sorry and will be writting to you alot more..

 

[sortacurious]

*giggling at Knight*
Just so long as you think you know what you saying, I think those that need to know will think that they know what you think you know.

 

[gr8dad2]

To KS and SC thanks for your thoughts and kind words and jewelz I know that you are always there ... its been a crappy few days and this is usually my uplifter and gets me feeling good but things just get to me as anyone and just pushed me firther into a frump.. . Hey I live my life like there is no tomorrow and I will be my smiling self and go on.... somedays it just makes you feel shitty they way you get treated but I will survive and be happy cause thats the way I am.. But a BIG thank you to you all.

 

[ShiningEyes]

You know what sucks ... when you post to a thread trying to get somebody's attention and they completely ignore you.. like you don't exist... I'm in one of my everybody hates me.. nobody loves me moods and this is just making it worse.. the person I want just gives me extremely bland feedback with very little hope and then I get ignored by others .. is it me ?? some body tell me what am I doing wrong

It's not you and it's not that you are doing anything wrong. It's the other people. As humans we have common traits that make us such. Some people lack some of those traits and come off in a bad way. People just don't consider another persons feelings untill it's too late, that or they never do. It's very hard to take at times. Being ignored is something everyone hates. But the best medicine for the person that is giving the cold shoulder, would be for them to receive it. I strongly believe in Karma. Anything one does to hurt another is going to come back around and kick them in their ass!!! Hope I've at least helped. I've read some of your posts and tho we don't chat much you seem like the type of person I'd love to chat with.

 

[gr8dad2]

And a Big THANK YOU to you SE.. somedays it "stuff just gets to you and like I said it has been like that for a few days... but that's why I am a Litaholic.. is this place always comes thru with support from those you know and sometimes from those you don't know that well.. there are some real nice people here.. but your right we all have our sensitive moments when we let things thru out outer shell and into "US" and it gets to us and bothers or hurts us.. I'm not trying to be the macho type but thats when we have to suck it up and stick out the chest and go on.. and I will because there are good people out there, like you who know how to treat others.. and play around if and when we want.. *HUGS*

 

[sortacurious]

To KS and SC thanks for your thoughts and kind words and jewelz I know that you are always there ... its been a crappy few days and this is usually my uplifter and gets me feeling good but things just get to me as anyone and just pushed me firther into a frump.. . Hey I live my life like there is no tomorrow and I will be my smiling self and go on.... somedays it just makes you feel shitty they way you get treated but I will survive and be happy cause thats the way I am.. But a BIG thank you to you all.

I'm always full of thoughts, though that's not necessarily a good thing.
I'm sorry it's been a crappy few days for you. I usually get cheered up coming here, too. But once in a while shit happens.

Frump? I have heard that one since I was knee high to a grasshopper! LOL

You sound like you are a positive thinking person!

 

[gr8dad2]

Thanks SC..... we are all full of thoughts some mild some wild.. thats what makes Lit so special is that it is our chance to voice these thought and explore things we might never do in real life... or maybe we would if given the opportunity but that is not what mattters.. the fact is that there are people like you out there that understand and care and that makes us all feel better when we need it... we all have "those" days or periods but yes I am for the most part a very positive person who always smiles and laughs and enjoys life.. but I am always searching for that elusive "something better" that could be out there hidden away just waiting to be set in motion..Thanks again darling PM me anytime you need a shoulder to lean on or an ear to listen to you .. I'll be near by

 

[ShiningEyes]

And a Big THANK YOU to you SE.. somedays it "stuff just gets to you and like I said it has been like that for a few days... but that's why I am a Litaholic.. is this place always comes thru with support from those you know and sometimes from those you don't know that well.. there are some real nice people here.. but your right we all have our sensitive moments when we let things thru out outer shell and into "US" and it gets to us and bothers or hurts us.. I'm not trying to be the macho type but thats when we have to suck it up and stick out the chest and go on.. and I will because there are good people out there, like you who know how to treat others.. and play around if and when we want.. *HUGS*

You are very welcome, Gr8dad2! ~HUGS AND KISSES~ I've come to notice here lately that out of a hundred frowns and scolds, it only takes one smile from the right person to lift my spirits to where I'm floating on top and nothing can knock me down. I don't have very many, but the friends I do have, I keep them very close!!!!! And I try very hard to treat everyone with the respect they deserve! I'm no one special. Just another human in this cruel(umm hoping that's right) world trying to make a small difference if I can!