A Dom's responsibilities

[graceanne]

I'm not going to call anyone names, since I can see how one can think I had some hand in all of this, but I haven't.

Why not? We're calling you plenty of names. Wannabe.

However, I can also feel nothing but contempt for the lot of you ( including the person who started this thread), who taunted and teased this poor individual relentlessly, and rivaled in the fact that she most obviously didn't understand this, and took everything she was told seriously. During this time, she was sending me notes that were confusing, but because I don't live on this site, I truly didn't understand what she was referring to. "Pizzas"? What? I just kept writing back "I have no idea what you're talking about". It wasn't until i saw that dreadful thread that my stomach turned.

I never told this individual to post anything about me. She'd done it once, and I reprimanded her, but... fine... you want me to say it? She's nuts, and kept posting about me. I can see how people may think I told her to, but i didn't, and I was discussing this predicament with two of my subs as it happened. I was copying and pasting her notes and asking wtf was going on with this person. We all didn't know, until we saw the thread. I thought it would die down, but it didn't. now that i'm being accused of committing some kind of financial scam, I felt compelled to come back and speak on that. I'm being accused of a crime, and that's not cool, cuz it's not true. I never asked this poor girl to do anything, other that get a mic and headset, and that was one of the tings I asked her to do via text, before she gave me her number, and asked me to call her.

A financial scam? Help me, y'all. When did we accuse him of a financial scam? I'm accusing you of making a crap load of alts as a fancy way of getting subs. I'm accusing you of being a wannabe. And I sure as heck and accusing you of being a troll.

The person in question seems to be either mentally underdeveloped, and it's pretty obvious. I noticed this after the one and only phone conversation. Do you not understand?

If I am guilty of anything, it is of being exactly what i say I am, and that is upsetting to people who, understandably are probably jealous, since they cannot fathom that a person has the ability to turn more than one sub on, and invite them to join a select union of people. It's the way I roll, and I don't think it's a problem. It's not like I asked for it to be advertized in the way it was.

http://forum.literotica.com/showpost.php?p=39208076&postcount=1

http://forum.literotica.com/showpost.php?p=39208084&postcount=2

http://forum.literotica.com/showpost.php?p=39208088&postcount=3

Please note that these posts weren't made by waja (the 'crazy' one).

In fact, my plan... which is STILL me plan... is to have my subs make threads in the ampics section. If anything, it will back up everything I've said about how hot they are, and finally end the debate about "Alts".

A. THEN TAKE THIS TO THE PICS SECTION!

B. You obviously think we don't know anything about computers, but we all know that you can pull pictures off the internet and save them to your hard drive and post them online. I'll post pictures of 'me' later if you want.

I'm a sexy DOM, who has encouraged his many subs to talk to other doms to see if they are turned on by them, and to take as much time as they wish in doing so. It's THEIR choice not to keep searching. Is it because they enjoy being more turned on than they ever have? Probably. Is that a bad thing? Why is bad to enjoy that feeling? They who don't care that I have many subs. I'm a DOM who likes to be called "SIR" in caps. Get over it.

Dude, take it to the personals section. PLEASE.

I can brag, but I don't have to. Is it fun to show off a little? Sure. Wouldn't you, if you had my ability?

We all have the ability to make alts, but we don't because we have manners.

Don't... hate.

You keep bringing up the hate thing here, not us. I think you protest too much. We don't hate you - you're just a bunch of pixels to us. And personally, I'm enjoying playing with the new troll and all his alts. It's something amusing, I appreciate it, I really do.

I hope I've made myself clear. Please don't accuse people of things until you have facts.

I like facts. I like knowing that I'm turning on a real female, so I ask to see them on cam, hear their voice, or pics. Never pics alone, though.

Once again, y'all, this is why I think this one elaborate personals ad.

You desperate men can relish in talking to someone who may be a man, but.. not me. Not in the year 2011, when a person can prove their gender very easily, but simply initially showing their body on cam, without showing their face, or letting their voice be heard. I have nothing against gay men. I do know that straight men are a fetish for some gay men. I'm not gay. I like women. I don't want to waste time, even for a minute, with a gay man on IM.

SIR

One of them....but its getting confusing. I think we need to color code them because they all sound identical.

*spew*

You know, i just realized why SIRE hasn't been talking sexually to me except on the ONE phone call He made for me: i have mental issues. i know that this will probably result in me being banned from Literotica, but here's the truth: would You All want someone 4-6 years younger than 20 years old to be on Literotica?

Well, I've got some serious mental issues that bring my mentality to 4-6 years younger than my actual age of 20. I'd forgotten that in all that I've been doing on here but my counselor/therapist reminded me that if any pervert or rapist or whatever were to do me any harm, then they would not be tried as someone doing this to a 20yr old, but as doing it to someone 14-16 yrs old. i WOULD NOT be telling You all this, but i am obeying SIRE. To anyone who is accusing Him of making up a second account as WajaLover, it is simply not true. Fact is, He hasn't even punished me for all the ways i've been disobediant. Fact is, SIRE didn't even believe my age even when we were talking on the phone. I still live with my Mom and i still enjoy her taking care of me.

Up until 4 years ago, I was living with my stepmom, ML for short, who was a sixth-grade English teacher. I've been told all my life that I sound older than I am (except on Lit) because of the books I read (romance), and my time with my step-mom.

Romances make you sound older? In what universe?

 

[WajaLover]

SIRE said to look at the post that accused Sire of asking me to open up a checking account. I couldn't find it, and so I'm only saying that I misunderstood what Sire was asking me to do. He probably thought i already had an online account and was asking me to use it. I didn't, and he dropped the whole thing, i guess.

 

[graceanne]

SIRE said to look at the post that accused Sire of asking me to open up a checking account. I couldn't find it, and so I'm only saying that I misunderstood what Sire was asking me to do. He probably thought i already had an online account and was asking me to use it. I didn't, and he dropped the whole thing, i guess.

Isn't that convenient.

So now we're being accused of something we didn't accuse him of. I think we deserve an apology.

 

[graceanne]

SIRE said to look at the post that accused Sire of asking me to open up a checking account. I couldn't find it, and so I'm only saying that I misunderstood what Sire was asking me to do. He probably thought i already had an online account and was asking me to use it. I didn't, and he dropped the whole thing, i guess.

Wait, wait, wait. He says you're crazy and he's only talked to you once, but now you're here speaking for him?

I call bullshit. I say he got which alt he 'wasn't talking to' mixed up and logged in to the wrong account. LOL

 

[allicat93]

I agree Daddy..

I am done with this as well. Good luck to everyone

 

[WajaLover]

Ask him what wajas are. I can tell You all about them, He can't. I hate and love wajas.com.

 

[WajaLover]

Whether you are an online Dom with a hoard of virtual trolls/sock puppets/submissives, or a real life Dom who simply uses this site, and sites like it must be understood that you have a duty of care to the submissives you speak to.

A recent thread I decided to amuse myself with involved a sub who was obviously in some kind of mental state that meant being involved on these forums in the way that was perhaps not in her best interests.

Whether she was brainwashed into her state of mind or simply someone with no grasp of the essence of D/s, if a Dom takes on a sub for whatever reason, whether a few
hours/days of wank fodder or something more, then he has a responsibility to see it through.

This sub clearly needed help, not necessarily medically, but certainly from the Dom who lit the fuse by having her post on here.

When she was being ridiculed (yes by me too), he chose to stay away and wait until the thread had grown, only to come back to defend and distance himself rather than show that he cared about the sub in question.

If you begin 'dominating' a submissive, even more so with a newbie, have the balls to see it through instead of dropping him/her the minute she doesn't fit in with your 'standards'.

This sub was memoing other Doms, myself included, expressing concern that she couldn't get hold of him but believing everything these doms were telling her. In one memo to me, she was upset at not being able to set up a checking account?? Why would a sub be setting up a checking account 3 days into serving a dom?

When it became apparent this person was not 'all there' the dom should have done the decent thing and took her to one side and got her to understand exactly what she was doing and how it has nothing to do with D/s - instead of exploiting her.

I just hope that other potential subs see the threads like those on here and see them for what they are,
and see the doms for what they aren't.

It's scary enough for anyone new beginning their journey into submission, especially when most of what they see online while researching are either the extremes of the lifestyle that they will probably never experience, or the results of years of commitment between an established Dom and sub couple.
How about we welcome them to the lifestyle and actually think about what THEY are going through and not be complete cunts and abuse the position of trust they have bestowed on us.

Now i see what SIRE meant. He was not asking me to set up a checking account at all. I'm not sure what all was going on about the pizza, but we first spoke on Sunday. He's not asking me for money, and nor will he. I do understand what I'm getting into, with the bdsm thing. He is still not asking me for money.

Again He has never asked me for money yet and He never will.

 

[neci]

You know, i just realized why SIRE hasn't been talking sexually to me except on the ONE phone call He made for me: i have mental issues. i know that this will probably result in me being banned from Literotica, but here's the truth: would You All want someone 4-6 years younger than 20 years old to be on Literotica?

Well, I've got some serious mental issues that bring my mentality to 4-6 years younger than my actual age of 20. I'd forgotten that in all that I've been doing on here but my counselor/therapist reminded me that if any pervert or rapist or whatever were to do me any harm, then they would not be tried as someone doing this to a 20yr old, but as doing it to someone 14-16 yrs old. i WOULD NOT be telling You all this, but i am obeying SIRE. To anyone who is accusing Him of making up a second account as WajaLover, it is simply not true. Fact is, He hasn't even punished me for all the ways i've been disobediant. Fact is, SIRE didn't even believe my age even when we were talking on the phone. I still live with my Mom and i still enjoy her taking care of me.

Up until 4 years ago, I was living with my stepmom, ML for short, who was a sixth-grade English teacher. I've been told all my life that I sound older than I am (except on Lit) because of the books I read (romance), and my time with my step-mom.

you may want to go back to your counselor/therapist and fill them in on what's been going on. just saying. posting on the boards may not be in your best mental health interest.

if someone were to do you harm, they would not be tried under laws regarding minors. there are laws that protect adults with mental health issues, but those are harder to prosecute. don't fool yourself into feeling safe. if someone has guardianship over you, they should be doing a better job watching over your phone and computer habits. i would recommend that you not answer any more PMs from people, given all of the information about yourself that you have posted. you would be putting yourself in danger, if what you have written is true.

a mental age of 14-16 would probably classify you as mildly retarded. you should think about some kind of job training.

 

[neci]

I'm not going to call anyone names, since I can see how one can think I had some hand in all of this, but I haven't.

However, I can also feel nothing but contempt for the lot of you ( including the person who started this thread), who taunted and teased this poor individual relentlessly, and rivaled in the fact that she most obviously didn't understand this, and took everything she was told seriously. During this time, she was sending me notes that were confusing, but because I don't live on this site, I truly didn't understand what she was referring to. "Pizzas"? What? I just kept writing back "I have no idea what you're talking about". It wasn't until i saw that dreadful thread that my stomach turned.

I never told this individual to post anything about me. She'd done it once, and I reprimanded her, but... fine... you want me to say it? She's nuts, and kept posting about me. I can see how people may think I told her to, but i didn't, and I was discussing this predicament with two of my subs as it happened. I was copying and pasting her notes and asking wtf was going on with this person. We all didn't know, until we saw the thread. I thought it would die down, but it didn't. now that i'm being accused of committing some kind of financial scam, I felt compelled to come back and speak on that. I'm being accused of a crime, and that's not cool, cuz it's not true. I never asked this poor girl to do anything, other that get a mic and headset, and that was one of the tings I asked her to do via text, before she gave me her number, and asked me to call her.



The person in question seems to be either mentally underdeveloped, and it's pretty obvious. I noticed this after the one and only phone conversation. Do you not understand?

If I am guilty of anything, it is of being exactly what i say I am, and that is upsetting to people who, understandably are probably jealous, since they cannot fathom that a person has the ability to turn more than one sub on, and invite them to join a select union of people. It's the way I roll, and I don't think it's a problem. It's not like I asked for it to be advertized in the way it was. In fact, my plan... which is STILL me plan... is to have my subs make threads in the ampics section. If anything, it will back up everything I've said about how hot they are, and finally end the debate about "Alts".

I'm a sexy DOM, who has encouraged his many subs to talk to other doms to see if they are turned on by them, and to take as much time as they wish in doing so. It's THEIR choice not to keep searching. Is it because they enjoy being more turned on than they ever have? Probably. Is that a bad thing? Why is bad to enjoy that feeling? They who don't care that I have many subs. I'm a DOM who likes to be called "SIR" in caps. Get over it.

I can brag, but I don't have to. Is it fun to show off a little? Sure. Wouldn't you, if you had my ability?

Don't... hate.

I hope I've made myself clear. Please don't accuse people of things until you have facts.

I like facts. I like knowing that I'm turning on a real female, so I ask to see them on cam, hear their voice, or pics. Never pics alone, though.

You desperate men can relish in talking to someone who may be a man, but.. not me. Not in the year 2011, when a person can prove their gender very easily, but simply initially showing their body on cam, without showing their face, or letting their voice be heard. I have nothing against gay men. I do know that straight men are a fetish for some gay men. I'm not gay. I like women. I don't want to waste time, even for a minute, with a gay man on IM.

SIR

don't hate the player, hate the game./

 

[His_pet_slut]

Anyone ever hear the phrase he (or she) who excuses himself accuses himself? This has gone beyond absurd.

 

[IrisAlthea]

you may want to go back to your counselor/therapist and fill them in on what's been going on. just saying. posting on the boards may not be in your best mental health interest.

if someone were to do you harm, they would not be tried under laws regarding minors. there are laws that protect adults with mental health issues, but those are harder to prosecute. don't fool yourself into feeling safe. if someone has guardianship over you, they should be doing a better job watching over your phone and computer habits. i would recommend that you not answer any more PMs from people, given all of the information about yourself that you have posted. you would be putting yourself in danger, if what you have written is true.

a mental age of 14-16 would probably classify you as mildly retarded. you should think about some kind of job training.

 

[KoPilot]

To put sinpain and his Troupe of the Militantly Ignorant on ignore or not... DILEMMAS.

 

[graceanne]

you may want to go back to your counselor/therapist and fill them in on what's been going on. just saying. posting on the boards may not be in your best mental health interest.

if someone were to do you harm, they would not be tried under laws regarding minors. there are laws that protect adults with mental health issues, but those are harder to prosecute. don't fool yourself into feeling safe.

Very true.

My best friends niece was born with a multitude of issues, and she's about 12 years old, even though chronologically she's 20. Her mom found out there her boyfriend (the mom's boyfriend) had convinced the niece, E, that she'd never get married if she didn't learn how to give blow jobs. E's mom prosecuted and he never even saw the inside of a jail cell.

To put sinpain and his Troupe of the Militantly Ignorant on ignore or not... DILEMMAS.

Well, if he/they're pissing you off put him/them on ignore. He/they're here to be annoying, and we don't want to give him/them what he/they want. I personally am enjoying him/them immensely.

 

[Etoile]

Ask him what wajas are. I can tell You all about them, He can't. I hate and love wajas.com.

Furry stuff. *shrug*

 

[KoPilot]

Well, if he/they're pissing you off put him/them on ignore. He/they're here to be annoying, and we don't want to give him/them what he/they want. I personally am enjoying him/them immensely.

Nah, not making me mad. I'm just wondering if the entertainment value is what it was a few days ago. :B

 

[Stella_Omega]

Nah, not making me mad. I'm just wondering if the entertainment value is what it was a few days ago. :B

it is for me. Some kinds of stupid never grow old.

 

[graceanne]

Nah, not making me mad. I'm just wondering if the entertainment value is what it was a few days ago. :B

Well, I wouldn't mind if they came up with something new. However ...

it is for me. Some kinds of stupid never grow old.

 

[switchbitch]

kudos to the OP, we all have responsibilities for our actions... while as some posted, we need to watch out for ourselves, that doesn't mean as a community we should not look out for each other and make sure we consider how our actions impact others... I am always happy to see these posts that remind us we should look out for those who are in turmoil... this is not a stereotype, everyone's situation is different and some genuinely seek help. Thanks.

This is a great postscript to the OP

 

[DeepGreenEyes]

STEP riiight up, LADEEEEEEEEZ and GENELMEN!!!!!

RIDE!
The INCREDIBLE,
the ASTOUNDING,
the DIZZYING
WHHEEEEEEEEEEEL OF SINPAIN!!!

SEE! The subalts circle the wagons!
HEAR! The screams of financial scammery!!
SMELL! The sickening burning and grinding of trainwreck metal against credulity!!!
FEEL! As dirty as you've ever felt before!

THAT'S THE WHHEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEL OF SINPAIN!!!

Void where prohibited. You must be as tall as the isolated blurt thread to ride this attraction. Not recommended for pregnant women, those with heart problems, or others. Some riders have experienced multiple postings and severe dirtiness. Ask your moderator if WHEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEL OF SINPAIN is right for you.

 

[sereneone4u]

STEP riiight up, LADEEEEEEEEZ and GENELMEN!!!!!

RIDE!
The INCREDIBLE,
the ASTOUNDING,
the DIZZYING
WHHEEEEEEEEEEEL OF SINPAIN!!!

SEE! The subalts circle the wagons!
HEAR! The screams of financial scammery!!
SMELL! The sickening burning and grinding of trainwreck metal against credulity!!!
FEEL! As dirty as you've ever felt before!

THAT'S THE WHHEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEL OF SINPAIN!!!

Void where prohibited. You must be as tall as the isolated blurt thread to ride this attraction. Not recommended for pregnant women, those with heart problems, or others. Some riders have experienced multiple postings and severe dirtiness. Ask your moderator if WHEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEL OF SINPAIN is right for you.

LMFAO

Your humor is so good it is fucking painful

 

[barelytrained]

Whether you are an online Dom with a hoard of virtual trolls/sock puppets/submissives, or a real life Dom who simply uses this site, and sites like it must be understood that you have a duty of care to the submissives you speak to.

A recent thread I decided to amuse myself with involved a sub who was obviously in some kind of mental state that meant being involved on these forums in the way that was perhaps not in her best interests.

Whether she was brainwashed into her state of mind or simply someone with no grasp of the essence of D/s, if a Dom takes on a sub for whatever reason, whether a few
hours/days of wank fodder or something more, then he has a responsibility to see it through.

This sub clearly needed help, not necessarily medically, but certainly from the Dom who lit the fuse by having her post on here.

When she was being ridiculed (yes by me too), he chose to stay away and wait until the thread had grown, only to come back to defend and distance himself rather than show that he cared about the sub in question.

If you begin 'dominating' a submissive, even more so with a newbie, have the balls to see it through instead of dropping him/her the minute she doesn't fit in with your 'standards'.

This sub was memoing other Doms, myself included, expressing concern that she couldn't get hold of him but believing everything these doms were telling her. In one memo to me, she was upset at not being able to set up a checking account?? Why would a sub be setting up a checking account 3 days into serving a dom?

When it became apparent this person was not 'all there' the dom should have done the decent thing and took her to one side and got her to understand exactly what she was doing and how it has nothing to do with D/s - instead of exploiting her.

I just hope that other potential subs see the threads like those on here and see them for what they are,
and see the doms for what they aren't.

It's scary enough for anyone new beginning their journey into submission, especially when most of what they see online while researching are either the extremes of the lifestyle that they will probably never experience, or the results of years of commitment between an established Dom and sub couple.
How about we welcome them to the lifestyle and actually think about what THEY are going through and not be complete cunts and abuse the position of trust they have bestowed on us.

I am recently released from my first BDSM relationship O/L and I would like to personally thank you for this post. I am a new sub and I did not understand the effect that my Master would have on me especially now that I am with out Him. Thank you again.

 

[butterfly_flip]

it is for me. Some kinds of stupid never grow old.

*snigger*
Too funny....

 

[barelytrained]

At the essence of D/s there is an agreement that the submissive will allow the dominate to act as their will. They accept that for however long or short that interaction lasts that the dominate will act as their guide and will substitute their choices, wants and wishes for the submissive’s own. That agreement creates a bond between the submissive and the dominate because the submissive in that situation allows him or herself to be vulnerable (whether emotionally or physically). Submission is a gift and it should be respected as such. It is not a toy to be played with and then cast aside when it becomes inconvenient.

PERFECTLY SAID!!!! At the same time, as a sub, I think that the sub needs to fully understand what she/he is walking into. they need to try and prepare for the times alone or an ending. Just my opinion, I am new as a Sub and just learning.

 

[Stella_Omega]

AAARGH FUCK!

What the FUCK is WRONG with you people, that you so easily let some complete fucking STRANGER fuck with your BRAIN, the SINGLE most precious thing you have?

 

[KoPilot]

AAARGH FUCK!

What the FUCK is WRONG with you people, that you so easily let some complete fucking STRANGER fuck with your BRAIN, the SINGLE most precious thing you have?

I think I laughed WAY too hard at this.

Cause, you know... otherwise I'd cry. bleh