Ask The Master

[UCE]

I have figured it out this is the only thing possible.
No man can be as ignorant and stupid as portrayed by RR, so this means that RR has to be a woman showing how stupid men really are.

RR is in reality Lark Sparrow.

Francisco.
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The only one in this thread speaking ignorantly and stupidly in, seems to be you. You clearly have such a big axe to grind against Rosco that you can't even manage make coherent arguements against his points. Instead, you stoop to the easy depths of character assassisnation (anyone with a IQ above 60 or so can call somebody names--it takes a genuinely intelligent person, however, to point out the problems with another's arguments).

Tell me dear, is it common practice in forums like this one for moderators to go stomping around slinging mud at specific users in this ugly and unseemly fashion? I thought that a moderator was supposed to remain neutral and not throw her weight around? Or maybe it's just the decent one who do this?

I have a suggestion for you, How about a little more logic and a little less emotion and carrying on...that is, of course, if you want to be taken seriously by people who can and do think about what is being said? If you take issue with what Rosco is saying in this thread, how about trying the novel technique called "argumentation," that is, telling us all what is wrong with his ideas without resorting to stomping your little feet and screaming "BAD! BAD! HE'S A GIRL! HE's A SPARROW! WAAHHH!" That was amusing in its own quaint little way, but it does nothing to impress us with your ability to reason clearly and rationally about the issues being discussed here.

 

[UCE]

LOL....Geez if I was to take your 2-3+ person persona on Lit seriously I would think you were narcissistic!! Perhaps more accurate would be you are a frustrated performer in need of a stage and captive audience.

Catalina

More emty-headed character assisisnation, I see. My, my, my! You really don't have any coherent points to make about these issues, do you? Try, Catie, try just once to tell just what Rosco has said that is so wrong (or, what has got you in such a big huffy puff) and explain to us, in clear simple non-name-calling English what is so wrong with it? Can you possibly do that? If not, perhaps you could take your ill-tempered little self and your dramtic tantrums out of this thread? We are trying hard to discuss serious matters here.

edit: And if you keep up this childish behavior young lady (subs aren't children, eh? you sure are disproving that point astonishingly well with these little tantrums meant to disrupt this thread) I'm going to have to start calling you "Catty Lina!"

 

[catalina_francisco]

Secondly, again I have to say that you make it abundantly obvious that your only purpose is to seek out the damaged people, and label them true 'submissives', because they can't cope with life. I am no less a submissive due to my ability to handle things with a clear head. That just makes me a balanced and stable adult. Apparently what you desire is an unbalanced, desperately needy 'child'.

This probably stems from your obvious god complex, which shines out from every post you write. The desire to be worshipped and a 'savior' to the 'childish subs' you seek is just pathetic and sad, imo. If you really were a strong male dominant, maybe you'd be worth being a threat.. but you look like a little boy beating his chest and proclaiming his superiority to my eyes, and all that engenders is amusement, and a vague pity.

Me thinks perhaps RR seeks this stereotype as he is aware a 'less damaged', strong and capable sub would not fall prey to the BS he peddles to impress?!!

Catalina

 

[catalina_francisco]

More emty-headed character assisisnation, I see. My, my, my! You really don't have any coherent points to make about these issues, do you? Try, Catie, try just once to tell just what Rosco has said that is so wrong (or, what has got you in such a big huffy puff) and explain to us, in clear simple non-name-calling English what is so wrong with it? Can you possibly do that? If not, perhaps you could take your ill-tempered little self and your dramtic tantrums out of this thread? We are trying hard to discuss serious matters here.

edit: And if you keep up this childish behavior young lady (subs aren't children, eh? you sure are disproving that point astonishingly well with these little tantrums meant to disrupt this thread) I'm going to have to start calling you "Catty Lina!"

LOL, I think it is obvious to most who have posted here, and the fact that using RR's own information and a little IT know how, RR comes up as Lark Sparrow's Lit profiles, s/he/it is a joke not to be taken in the least seriously. So are you another created persona attached to RR to make him look like he has some support?

Catalina

 

[rosco rathbone]

LOL, I think it is obvious to most who have posted here, and the fact that using RR's own information and a little IT know how, RR comes up as Lark Sparrow's Lit profiles, s/he/it is a joke not to be taken in the least seriously. So are you another created persona attached to RR to make him look like he has some support?

Catalina

Catalina, if I _was_UCE; then I'd have her typing speed and I'd be able to stay abreast of requests for advice from subs as well as your own mountains of compulsive bullshittage.

Truth is, UCE is a 24/7 TPE submissive and has been for many years. SHe doesn't agree with me on everything, or even on most things, but her head is generally in the right place and the depth of her experience makes you rather a lightweight by comparison.

Hm. Me, Lark and UCE all in one head. Lark would refuse to do as I say and would have to be chained up to get her out of the way. UCE would be occupied with scrubbing the floors and performing tasks of oral servitude. That leaves old uncle rosco at the helm! Just as it should be.

 

[Pure]

Catalina/Francisco

In a word, as UCE says, character assassination and mudslinging are unbecoming of moderators**.

Done in a silly, vapid way, it's not even entertaining.


**Or those lending a hand. (F, I gather, is not a moderator)

 

[rosco rathbone]

Re: Re: Re: ok, here goes

Thank You Uce,

this was one concern. She obviously loves Him, He says He loves her. i do not and said from the very beginning to Him, and told her when we met, i do not want to cause anyone pain. As long as i can keep my heart out, everything will be fine, but should i find myself feeling jealousy or anything more than gratitude or affection, i would have to leave. T/they both say not to worry and to place my heart and trust in His hands...no one has ever had my heart before and i don't know what to do in this situation. This is where the 24/7 TPE is confusing and frightening...to me personally and why i hold back.

taipa

Well, UCE beat me to it, Taipa, so I will second her opinion. Threeways CAN work; when the master is exceptionally talented, especially if the subs have had enough experience to know some of the pitfalls and pratfalls---but so often they lead to heartbreak and worse.

I myself maintained a fairly successful mastery over my primary submissive (my wife) and a secondary that I had been mentoring and promoted to full submissive. I made this decision because the second girl needed a level of attention beyond what I could provide as mentor and I was financially able to support both women at the time.

In time, however, problems began to appear that led me to some of the darkest days of my mastery. The long and the short of it is that I had to find the girl a new home, feeling that I'd failed both her and my wife in the last analysis. Fortunately, after some false starts, she and her new master made a go of it and are living happily together today.

Your case is one I have seen so many times. I'd have couselled you not to get involved, but it is now too late and all the advice in the world will not check you from your destiny in this. Be sure and check in here if you have misgivings about the way your master is handling the relationship.

 

[rosco rathbone]

MEMO FROM THE MASTER#1

New submissives:

This thread has exploded and I may not get to your posts without some significant time lag. If you have an urgent question that is not being answered, feel free to PM me here at Literotica and I will apply a "band aid"so to speak.

Thanks everyone for your heartfelt posts and PMs.

rosco

 

[UCE]

LOL, I think it is obvious to most who have posted here, and the fact that using RR's own information and a little IT know how, RR comes up as Lark Sparrow's Lit profiles, s/he/it is a joke not to be taken in the least seriously. So are you another created persona attached to RR to make him look like he has some support?

Catalina

Even if Rosco is another person here, which runs counter to everything I know about Rosco, but why listen to me, I've only know the dude for seven or eight years (shurg), why should that necessarily mean that he is not to be taken seriously? Most people on most forums that use this particular brand of software create more than one persona--I fully expect that somebody like you has several--they just aren't open about it. Please explain to me this astonishing leap of logic from Point A: Having two or more personas on a message board across that enormous chasm of belief to Point B: that this somehow makes the very serious and real comments a person is making "not serious" or useful or to be taken seriously. Sorry Charlie, but you lost me completely on that one.

Can you possibly speak to somebody as if they have no prior knowledge of your little vendettas and tell me clearly what is wrong, if anything at all, with what Rosco is saying in this thread? Others are trying to do so, but perhaps the intellectual effort is just to much bother for you. If so, you're welcome to blather irresponsibly about your paranoid conspiracy therories about another user all you want as long as the forum owners will put up with such trash from their moderators (shrug).

Am I a Rocoe clone? Why you little whippersnapper! Aren't you cute! Hehe, no, Unda does not equal Rosco (which is a wonderful thing, IMO) but I know Rosco and I also know a rank paranoid when I see one. And a confused paranoid to boot!

I _still_ want to know why you aren't arguing the points presented here in this thread if you disagree with them so much but all you are doing is coming back to me with more paranoid blather about Rosco being this or that person. I think you need to give online a little bit of a break, honey. It's clearly getting to you. Do you have the slightest idea of how irrational (not to mention obsessed!) all this paranoid crap sounds to somebody used to writing and responding to thoughtful discourse? If you have a point, make it and try to make it clearly. If you don't, well, you're doing a wonderful job of showing the rest of us that you're incapable of dealing with actual ideas. Like I said, name calling, paranoia, starting rumours and conspiracy theories, all of which you have done here to Rosco, is the last resort of the intellectually pathetic. They can't make an argument so instead they just make a big exicting noise!

You also must really be a rank newbie if you think Rosco created me. Could it be that if anybody dares disagress with your wonderful paranoia that they then HAVE GOT TO BE THE EVIL DASTERDLY ROSCO! No, there is no way I couldn't haven seen your simple irrationality for what it is and called you on it, all on my own. I have to be someone else's persona or pawn. Um, are you aware of a show on the radio called Coast-to-Coast AM? You really should check it out, if you aren't, you'd fit in perfectly with that propeller-beanie crowd.

Finally, for you edification, this type of forum software usually tells you when a person became a member of the forum. Suggest you look at my join date, sweets, and think about how deviously clever Rosco was to create this Unda persona of his and hold her in reserve until you showed up months later, snort!

Still waiting for something rational to leave your lips, Sunfox. You must obviously be Sunfox because your profiles kind of resemble each other and also because you both are so heavily disagreeing with Rosco. See! Isn't that LOGICAL? Hah! I found out your dirty little secret Sun, and now we know we can't trust a single word either of your personas say! (giggling all the way home)

Unda. Crucia. Eximius.

 

[rosco rathbone]

As a fairly new sub who at 36 yrs has lived a full ife both in and out of sexual relationships, and is a long way from wishing to enter a TPE relationshipat present; i have found this thread interesting.

I have had a real time D/s relationship in the past and i am currently exploring an on-line relationship.

My Master has been open and honest with me about many areas of his life, as I him.

I have realised that each D/s relationship is unique and like a favorite flogger suits different people in different ways

IMHO Taipa has written the most sense and I gained a great deal from her abilty to open up on this subject and thank her for this.

I have also learnt that the best persona sub can take advice from is her/his own self.
We have lived lives prior to entering this lifestyle and are not newly hatched as RR appears to think. RR My apologies if I have misunderstood.

I thank all of you the comments posted for either making me smile or making me cross
and for showing me that, within the lifestyle of a new sub, as in life in general I can learn from my own mistakes and smile (through the pain) at this errors of judgement.

shy slave

While not desiring to paint submissives as stupid, helpless, lacking judgement, or anything of that nature (see all my posts above for proof that I don't feel this way)...I really do not want to get out of hand with this "submissives are totally capable of making their own way in the world" business.

It isn't true. I know that for many of you it feels good to say it and think it. There is a very good reason for that: you have HAD to come to believe it yourself because of the loneliness of making your way through this world without a dominant master.

Submissives feel incredible anxiety when on their own. That is why they tend to reinforce each other's delusions that "we are ok, we can make it with no guidance". And they get angry....very angry...when a knowledgeable person asserts that which they try to hide from themselves. ANd they lash out, as you have seen annaleze, and others here.

It is unfair to be on your own, possible prey to false mastery and without a strong guiding hand. We masters feel the tragedy and senselessness more than anyone.

The PROBLEM is that submissives, by thinking that they are better prepared to deal with life than they actually are, end up with "dominants" who are not qualified. When a submissive starts talking to herself, in her head, the way sunfoz, analeze and others here have been talking, she starts to feel as if she is capable of controlling her own destiny. Then, she invariably hooks up with a "dominant" who can provide her some BDSM sex thrills, a little bondage, a couple of rules to follow, maybe some cute slave postures. Meanwhile, SHE is doing all the work that the master should be doing....because SHE has internalized a sort of "false master" that she needed for her own survival.

Submissives, you cannot master yourself and your attempts to do so will lead you to fake dominants. Go on, tell yourself and the world "I am a good slave...I live in a 24/7 lifestyle arrangement". YOu know in your heart the falsity of your claims. I am sorry, this is just the way it is.

 

[UCE]

Hm. Me, Lark and UCE all in one head. Lark would refuse to do as I say and would have to be chained up to get her out of the way. UCE would be occupied with scrubbing the floors and performing tasks of oral servitude. That leaves old uncle rosco at the helm! Just as it should be.

What an amazing mental menagerie that would be! But while I wouldn't fight you guys over what TV show we get to watch, I'd just quitely read a book in another part of your head--if I wasn't orally servicing that is, I'd want to do _a lot_ more of the talking than either your or Lark would probably like.

 

[rosco rathbone]

I'm asking the Master:

how many precious little mentees do you currently have and where did you get them?

I have two. I used to have four. One had to be institutinalised and when she was released I had to make a very sad decision that she was simply taking too much of my time away from the others and terminate my mentory. Sometimes, someone is so broken that nothing can fix them. One I placed with a friend of mine and all seems to be going very well.

Two of them I met locally; two on the internet. One of those moved to NYC afterwards.

 

[catalina_francisco]

Tell me dear, is it common practice in forums like this one for moderators to go stomping around slinging mud at specific users in this ugly and unseemly fashion? I thought that a moderator was supposed to remain neutral and not throw her weight around? Or maybe it's just the decent one who do this?

LOL, Tell me honey, as someone who presumably thinks their IQ is above 60, how is it you can't differentiate between the names Francisco and Catalina at the bottom of posts? As to moderating....guess we share a different view. I was part of the community before becoming moderator, and intend to remain part of that community, with equal right to everyone else to voice my opinions and thoughts based on my experiences. Sorry if that offends you...and BTW, I didn't ask for the position so don't see why I should fade away now.

Catalina

 

[rosco rathbone]

What an amazing mental menagerie that would be! But while I wouldn't fight you guys over what TV show we get to watch, I'd just quitely read a book in another part of your head--if I wasn't orally servicing that is, I'd want to do _a lot_ more of the talking than either your or Lark would probably like.

"Read a book in another part of your head" lol

Was it Cinderella...or SNow White who was always trying to sneak off to read and getting caught and whipped and made to scour the flagstones in a fetching ripped scullery maid bodice?

 

[shy slave]

RR

RR
I truely thank God that I met my Master prior to you, I do not doubt that you are indeed a Master but your views on what may or may not be going on in a submissives head are at best laughable and and worst egocentric.

I have not wandered in this world as a lonely sub, begging for some wonderful Master to rescue and Dominant me.

If that had been the case I would be a reader of fairytales and a writer of Mills & Boon type romance novels.

I am proud to have a Master who understands me as the persona and sub that I am

Quite frankly RR I think I pity you and your narrow view point

shy slave

 

[catalina_francisco]

The only one in this thread speaking ignorantly .............. reason clearly and rationally about the issues being discussed here.

A troll how quaint and amusing, my apologises for anyone reading this and who does not want to be amused by seeing how I with my incredible intelligence answer someone who is clearly lacking the education and background to even post in the same universe as me.

Would you have had half a brain cell you would have looked at our profile and you would have looked at our earlier postings, that is called doing research and background. Would you have performed that simple action, you would have seen Catalina and I are a couple. I mean it is very hard to guess from our name, which is why we have it in our profile that we are a couple, and sign posts separately. I understand that for some who only have the most elementary understanding of such a difficult language as English is, it is quite a challenge to see Catalina_ Francisco and understand it is two persons.

Now that we have established that we are two persons, we can also establish that we are one moderator, Catalina, and one brilliant Dominant, Francisco. I am sorry I am repeating constantly that I am brilliant, but you see I am feeling so inadequate after reading your posting full of spellings errors and mistakes that I need to reaffirm my intelligence. So as you can see the moderator had nothing to do with my post.

Now about my posting saying that Lark Sparrow is RR or the other way around whatever takes your fancy. When trying to make a joke one often takes the subject of that joke on a little trip to imagination and fantasy and tries to surprise the reader. Now take two opposites RR and LS, one intelligent, feminist and lesbian and the other well I leave that to your own imagination. By making this joke I was just following the same light hearted spirit RR has been showing in his postings about me. I have nothing against RR, like the fellow in some perverted kin d of way, would not mind giving him a good whipping or two. And LS, well she is clearly one of the most respected members of this board, are they the same person? Who cares if they are or not, we both enjoy reading LS postings.

Would I prove or disprove my statement or react and answer the many PM’.s we have had asking me it was really true or if I was making a joke or not? Well as I have often said I am a security internet consultant, I am not allowed to disclose any kind of information which I might have picked up by accident or not. So I can only say no comment.

UCE you must have a very really low opinion about RR and the rest of this board if you think that by insulting others, throwing a couple hundred words into the air and making wild accusations you are actually making an impact. I find it funny that such an innocent little joke has had so much reaction on the board, and I wonder why RR makes lots of stupid jokes at everyone’s expense.

Francisco. ( PS NOT CATALINA FOR THE ONES THAT STILL CANNOT READ)

 

[rosco rathbone]

Re: RR

RR
I truely thank God that I met my Master prior to you, I do not doubt that you are indeed a Master but your views on what may or may not be going on in a submissives head are at best laughable and and worst egocentric.

I have not wandered in this world as a lonely sub, begging for some wonderful Master to rescue and Dominant me.

If that had been the case I would be a reader of fairytales and a writer of Mills & Boon type romance novels.

I am proud to have a Master who understands me as the persona and sub that I am

Quite frankly RR I think I pity you and your narrow view point

shy slave

Misguided, but honest and humble. shy_slave, I wish you well and I hope to god that your master is a good man deserving of the name.

 

[rosco rathbone]

A troll how quaint and amusing, my apologises for anyone reading this and who does not want to be amused by seeing how I with my incredible intelligence answer someone who is clearly lacking the education and background to even post in the same universe as me.

Would you have had half a brain cell you would have looked at our profile and you would have looked at our earlier postings, that is called doing research and background. Would you have performed that simple action, you would have seen Catalina and I are a couple. I mean it is very hard to guess from our name, which is why we have it in our profile that we are a couple, and sign posts separately. I understand that for some who only have the most elementary understanding of such a difficult language as English is, it is quite a challenge to see Catalina_ Francisco and understand it is two persons.

Now that we have established that we are two persons, we can also establish that we are one moderator, Catalina, and one brilliant Dominant, Francisco. I am sorry I am repeating constantly that I am brilliant, but you see I am feeling so inadequate after reading your posting full of spellings errors and mistakes that I need to reaffirm my intelligence. So as you can see the moderator had nothing to do with my post.

Now about my posting saying that Lark Sparrow is RR or the other way around whatever takes your fancy. When trying to make a joke one often takes the subject of that joke on a little trip to imagination and fantasy and tries to surprise the reader. Now take two opposites RR and LS, one intelligent, feminist and lesbian and the other well I leave that to your own imagination. By making this joke I was just following the same light hearted spirit RR has been showing in his postings about me. I have nothing against RR, like the fellow in some perverted kin d of way, would not mind giving him a good whipping or two. And LS, well she is clearly one of the most respected members of this board, are they the same person? Who cares if they are or not, we both enjoy reading LS postings.

Would I prove or disprove my statement or react and answer the many PM’.s we have had asking me it was really true or if I was making a joke or not? Well as I have often said I am a security internet consultant, I am not allowed to disclose any kind of information which I might have picked up by accident or not. So I can only say no comment.

UCE you must have a very really low opinion about RR and the rest of this board if you think that by insulting others, throwing a couple hundred words into the air and making wild accusations you are actually making an impact. I find it funny that such an innocent little joke has had so much reaction on the board, and I wonder why RR makes lots of stupid jokes at everyone’s expense.

Francisco. ( PS NOT CATALINA FOR THE ONES THAT STILL CANNOT READ)

LOL ...You just bit off a pretty big mouthful there pardner...she's a cross between a rattlesnake and a pit bull when you get her mad.I've seen her send grown men home in tears....give me a shout if you need any help!

 

[catalina_francisco]

Suggest you look at my join date, sweets, and think about how deviously clever Rosco was to create this Unda persona of his and hold her in reserve until you showed up months later, snort!

Let me check my dates:

UCE
Registered: Aug 2002
Location: Dixie
Posts: 495.

catalina_francisco
Registered: Jul 2002
Location: The Netherlands
Posts: 4244
July 2002 we registered and august 2002 UCE registered, hmm my almanac must be wrong in my calendar July comes before August.

Francisco.

 

[rosco rathbone]

First of all, in response to your previous posting to me.. I don't give a shit how strong willed and dominant any man is, he is not going to make me less a mother. My child was ill. I was not 'panicked', as you wished to believe. I was worried, and afraid she would get more ill. This is because I love her, an emotion you clearly don't comprehend. Love frequently doesn't allow for control or calm... that's the nature of the feeling. I pity anyone who hasn't felt that kind of desperate adoration for someone or something.

Secondly, again I have to say that you make it abundantly obvious that your only purpose is to seek out the damaged people, and label them true 'submissives', because they can't cope with life. I am no less a submissive due to my ability to handle things with a clear head. That just makes me a balanced and stable adult. Apparently what you desire is an unbalanced, desperately needy 'child'.

This probably stems from your obvious god complex, which shines out from every post you write. The desire to be worshipped and a 'savior' to the 'childish subs' you seek is just pathetic and sad, imo. If you really were a strong male dominant, maybe you'd be worth being a threat.. but you look like a little boy beating his chest and proclaiming his superiority to my eyes, and all that engenders is amusement, and a vague pity.

My partner is a strong-willed, outspoken man. I don't find him threatening. I find him enjoyable, because he has no need to make me feel less, simply to make himself feel Dominant. Something you apparently need to work on.

It's never pleasant to have to slap someone down, sunfox, and normally i would say this in PM to spare you the embarrassment; but since your shortsighted and know-nothing commentary is now publicly availible to newcomers and inexperienced people, this slapdown must necesarily be public as well.

Your arrogance and bigotry are pathetic and it's obvious that the most confused newbie here could probably give you a lesson in submissive psychology if the doors to her heart were opened. It's people like you who are largely responsible for the plight of the deeply submissive woman in this scene and in this society. Embittered and wounded yourself, you seek to label other women who are in touch with their deepest desires as "damaged". I pity you.

It may well be that you are attracted to the scene simply because it will have you (we are pretty accepting); because you can gain a bit of status in the community; or more likely because of a narcissistic and immature attraction to a concept of submissision that is about 73% fantasy and 27% bullshit (internet variety more than likely).

Children like you give submissive women a bad name. A real bad name. You may however serve the purpose of attracting a similarly callow and shallow "dom" in order to have a partner for your little bedroom games; thus taking him out of circulation where he might hurt a real submissive.

sunfox, I am a dominant master. I've been called every name in the book and your opinion of me personally just makes me chuckle. But I am not going to stand idly by while you spread your disgusting slurs about the women I protect and nurture; while you portray their deepest desires as worthy of contempt and while you do your best to add to the atmosphere of this society that makes it impossible for many submissive women to seek the fulfilment of their needs without shame.

sunfox, you need to think about the effect your words, spoken in selfish rage, have on other people. There are a lot of young submissives who are going to look up to anyone with a pretense of experience such
as you are affecting; and not be able to seperate the bullshit from the...er...other bullshit.

dismissed.

 

[MasterNico]

Man I tell ya, betwen all the crap on the floor and all the pissing matches around here, I need rubber boots.

I have plenty of opinions on the 5 pages I just read, but why bother? I've constantly watched people come on this portion of the website looking for answers in a very muddled world of BDSM, just to get shot down by big egos with little knowledge.

My advice, if you are new to this lifestyle and are on this board looking for real answers, run like hell. Go to borders and buy "screw the roses send me the thorns" and read that. It's informative, teaches safety and technique, and I personally have had the pleasure of whomping Molly Devon with my big purple flogger once. She's smart, her top is the co-author, and she knows what she's talking about.

Go to a munch, meet real people, not screen names. Don't play with ANYONE that you can't get personal references on from REAL PEOPLE.

As far as subs teaching subs, who the hell else is pgoing to get on thier knees and show them how to bow properly, or serve my drink, what side to place my plate on the table from, yadda yadda yadda. I give directions to my Frist Girl, she teaches the others. If they fail, she fails. Trust me, they don't fail often, and I get many compliments on my slaves from people that write books on slavery.

This site is good for a chuckle, and now and then there really is some good advice, or a good subject. But never fail, personalities and egos always fuck it up.

I keep hoping things will change one day, the BDSM portion of this site has tons of potential. Wasted, thus far, but it's there.

 

[tenacious_rebel]

This site is good for a chuckle, and now and then there really is some good advice, or a good subject. But never fail, personalities and egos always fuck it up.

I keep hoping things will change one day, the BDSM portion of this site has tons of potential. Wasted, thus far, but it's there.

Good advice. For me, I have found many good posters and advice on the board, along with the not so good. I think the thing to remember is a board can only be as good as those who participate and if people such as yourself chose to only visit occasionally, observe, but participate on a small scale, is it fair to criticise those who do what they can to share and help those who are less experienced? Maybe it is partly different ideas of what the board should be.

It is easy to criticise, harder still to continue contributing when there is an effort of some to denigrate the words of others who share real experiences. I have heard from other posters who have been here longer than me that many valueable members have left for these same reasons. Why not give those who stay a bit of credit and perhaps join them if you want to share your experience? I am sure it would be welcomed as from what I've seen you seem to have something to offer. Fortunately I have met people here who have been willing to share with me on a personal basis.

 

[Kajira Callista]

"We do not enjoy nor condone personally directed flame wars or other off- topic material (excessive flirting or personal conversation that interrupts serious topics), and will not allow it to dominate our threads and permeate our discussions"

kinda fit here ...no?

 

[bridgeburner]

Kajira,

There you go with those damn rules and guidelines again. When are you ever going to just break free of your mental chains?


-B

 

[Kajira Callista]

Kajira,

There you go with those damn rules and guidelines again. When are you ever going to just break free of your mental chains?


-B

So sorry old habits die hard.