Bisexual men living with bisexual women....

[PredatorSmile]

Yes, there sure is. We've seen it tried (and tried it ourselves) in a couple different ways. The first is to just be straight-forward: join a swinger site and list both partners as bi- or bi-curious (if you have only very limited experience and just want to try it again). That ensures that the responses you get will be very clear up front what you like and don't like. The problem is that there is just as much homophobia and fear among swingers as there is in the general population. So if (like many bi-guys) you still really, really love straight sex and love playing with sexy women too, that kind of approach seriously limits your potential pool of playmates. The other approach we've seen is just to list the male partner as straight, write your profile so that it shows that you are very open-minded and unconventional and once you get to know a couple and maybe play with them a time or two, you can decide if there is enough SSA to make an overture. You just discreetly see if they're interested in expanding the play possibilities, perhaps by oblique discussions of kinky fantasy or something along those lines. If they don't seem to "get it", fine. They're not offended and you haven't disturbed what can still be a very sexy, very fun straight play experience. That approach has worked a time or two for us and is generally the one we take.

These days, the other half and I are sort of exploring our options. I’ve met some women who wanted to get with me. I’ve only been with one, Samantha, a young black woman from the Boston area. My boyfriend Aaron has been exploring his bisexuality through some discrete encounters in some all-male parties in town. I’ve toyed with the idea of both of us exploring our full sexualities with other people and each other but he doesn’t seem to want me around when he’s getting down with the boys. He has also shown interest in other women, particularly a Latin bombshell named Juanita who works at his campus library. He abstains from women, as part of our deal.

 

[gingermango]

I’ve toyed with the idea of both of us exploring our full sexualities with other people and each other but he doesn’t seem to want me around when he’s getting down with the boys. He has also shown interest in other women, particularly a Latin bombshell named Juanita who works at his campus library. He abstains from women, as part of our deal.

In our case, both of us really get turned on and just generally enjoy watching each other with another partner, male or female. The Goddess would be very unhappy for me to experience any sexual contact without her presence or at the very least knowledge, but in fact, her biggest kink of all is having me dressed and watching a full-on, same-sex experience. Of course, the fact that I love seeing her with another woman is not surprising either.

I have very little desire (some, but not a lot) to engage in same-sex experiences without her present, or for that matter, to do it when I'm not cross-dressed. Part of the huge turn-on for me is knowing she's there and getting incredibly wet watching it. It's all part of a powerful, kinky cycle that we love to experience together, doing things that drive each other wilder and wilder, with the knowledge of each other's excitement helping to drive our own. I might be able to enjoy a same-sex experience without her present, but only if it involved one or two of my bigger kinks - crossdressing and/or D/s. So far I haven't done that and I doubt that I will unless the Goddess arranges it herself.

But that's us and everyone is wired differently. What's important is figuring out how we're wired, recognizing that it can change or that we can understand it better as we go on (as you have apparently, PredatorSmile), and integrating that knowledge into our daily lives to maximize pleasure and joy.

 

[knkycva]

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[knkycva]

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[gingermango]

It was very interesting, the one time we tried this. We did not get much interest - we took the first approach of total honesty, and found that the small subset of swingers in our area - not a major metro area - was really not interested. And it isn't just a matter of, heck, we won't have MM interaction - it was, no way, no how, no type of interaction at all.

That's exactly what I was talking about; I hate that you've experienced it too.

Well, using approach #2 we've met some really great friends and as it turns out, we got them to admit an interest in male submission in general (first to my wife, the Goddess) and then after some gentle cajoling, he's admitted to being VERY turned on by pictures of me cross-dressed. Now he's very excited about the idea of topping me and having me service him while the ladies watch, so that sounds intriguing.

Good luck with whatever the two of you decide to do and I hope it works out well.

 

[PredatorSmile]

That's exactly what I was talking about; I hate that you've experienced it too.

Well, using approach #2 we've met some really great friends and as it turns out, we got them to admit an interest in male submission in general (first to my wife, the Goddess) and then after some gentle cajoling, he's admitted to being VERY turned on by pictures of me cross-dressed. Now he's very excited about the idea of topping me and having me service him while the ladies watch, so that sounds intriguing.

Good luck with whatever the two of you decide to do and I hope it works out well.

Best of luck with that, guy. Oh, and remember to be safe.

 

[fauconier]

! I don't think my boyfriend is ready for the whole "settle down" thing. He's still experimenting with his bisexuality with some gay guys at the local bars. He's not as discrete as he says he is, a gay male friend spotted him in a club where some queer boy was going down on him. Yeah, it's like that. I got all of that "experimental" stuff out of my system a LONG time ago.

Hi PS. You must really love your boyfriend, to be so tolerant of his 'extracurricular activities'. And you and he seem, for the most part, to be honest with one another and to abide by your mutual agreements. I guess for me, fidelity is a matter of respect for my partner --- in my case my wife. I see women every day whom I find attractive, and I've had an 'offer' or two over the years. But I promised my wife I'd be faithful to her, and I have been --- for 24 years. For me the bottom line is that I'm unwilling to do anything to hurt her, no matter how much I might be tempted in the short term. I guess some would say I've missed out on 'fun' during our monogamous years together. Maybe so. But the never-ending pursuit of sensuality doesn't lead to lasting happiness for many of us, as far as I've been able to make out. Sometimes we have to make real choices, and realize that being an adult means that we give up the fantasy of being able to indulge every desire and replace it with a real commitment to another human being.

 

[gingermango]

But the never-ending pursuit of sensuality doesn't lead to lasting happiness for many of us, as far as I've been able to make out. Sometimes we have to make real choices, and realize that being an adult means that we give up the fantasy of being able to indulge every desire and replace it with a real commitment to another human being.

Fortunately for some of us, we are committed to others who have also undertaken a never-ending pursuit of sensuality. Congratulations on a long marriage. I hope it is as satisfying and joyful as it has been lengthy (spoken as someone who has been married 15 of his 38 years).

 

[PredatorSmile]

Hi PS. You must really love your boyfriend, to be so tolerant of his 'extracurricular activities'. And you and he seem, for the most part, to be honest with one another and to abide by your mutual agreements. I guess for me, fidelity is a matter of respect for my partner --- in my case my wife. I see women every day whom I find attractive, and I've had an 'offer' or two over the years. But I promised my wife I'd be faithful to her, and I have been --- for 24 years. For me the bottom line is that I'm unwilling to do anything to hurt her, no matter how much I might be tempted in the short term. I guess some would say I've missed out on 'fun' during our monogamous years together. Maybe so. But the never-ending pursuit of sensuality doesn't lead to lasting happiness for many of us, as far as I've been able to make out. Sometimes we have to make real choices, and realize that being an adult means that we give up the fantasy of being able to indulge every desire and replace it with a real commitment to another human being.

I guess you can say it’s a matter of understanding. My father often spoke of my mother when I was growing up. He said I'm the spitting image of her. He was a young Irish-American ( with some French blood) construction worker and part-time college student when he met her, a young Mexican woman. They fell in love. He told me that she was feisty, and loved to ride horses ( my father's family has a farm in California, where he took her once) and quite the tomboy. My mother too came from a family of mostly boys, though she looked far better in a dress than I ever will, if I am to judge by the photos.



I grew up believing in trust, commitment and self-respect. My three older brothers are good men. So is my father. We are a clan, and we look after each other. My brothers always talked to me about their girlfriends, since they needed “Someone Who Understood The Language of Women”. We’ve been through a lot, and it’s made all of us resilient.


Since my mother died giving birth to me, I was the Lady of the House, though I was the youngest person there. I do understand and relate to men more than the average female does, sometimes. I’ve always been friends with mostly men, whether gay or straight. And now, I am living with a bisexual man whom I love deeply.


Quitting isn’t in my nature. However, sometimes, my patience gets taxed and although I understand his “other” interests, I’m not immune to jealousy. No woman is. Scratch that, men aren’t immune to jealousy either. No human being is.

 

[Wolfman1982]

PredatorSmile: here is the biggest hug, I could give anyone, who I don´t love, as in love. But what is love anyway. If I could write like you, then I would be famous. But I am not, but PredatorSmile. You deserve the biggest hug ever, since your words are true to the core, and they cut right into the bone.

 

[PredatorSmile]

PredatorSmile: here is the biggest hug, I could give anyone, who I don´t love, as in love. But what is love anyway. If I could write like you, then I would be famous. But I am not, but PredatorSmile. You deserve the biggest hug ever, since your words are true to the core, and they cut right into the bone.

Wolfman, you're a true gem ! Thanks. You're making me blush. It's 5 : 40 PM in New England, USA. It's getting chilly after a reasonably warm day, yet you make me blush ( smile). Thanks.

 

[anne27]

I'm a bisexual woman married to a bisexual male. He realized his orientation a bit before I did, and I believed his comfort and acceptance of himself made my self discovery easier for us both to deal with and understand. We've been together as long as a lot of people on the board have been on this planet and I would say we have a very strong relationship. We're very open with each other about our wants, desires, and feelings. I can't imagine being any other way.

Besides it's pretty damned cool to be in a crowd and realize that you are both checking out the same girl, then 20 minutes later it happening again, but with a man.

 

[PredatorSmile]

I'm a bisexual woman married to a bisexual male. He realized his orientation a bit before I did, and I believed his comfort and acceptance of himself made my self discovery easier for us both to deal with and understand. We've been together as long as a lot of people on the board have been on this planet and I would say we have a very strong relationship. We're very open with each other about our wants, desires, and feelings. I can't imagine being any other way.

Besides it's pretty damned cool to be in a crowd and realize that you are both checking out the same girl, then 20 minutes later it happening again, but with a man.

My Aaron and I are the exact same way. Except that I was out and proud as a bisexual woman in college, while he was a closet case, ditching amorous women while having a relationship with a male athlete in secret. When I met him, he had just been dumped by his boyfriend, who was his first lover. I was his first female lover, and to date, his only one.
I've been with a few other people of both sexes. He's still....experiment-minded ( we have an agreement : he does gay guys on the side but uses discretion and always uses protection) while I got all that out of my system a long time ago.


We've been together for a couple of years. He's in his senior year of college, graduating with a bachelors degree in criminal justice. he wants to be a policeman. I've got a degree in business. I'm looking at MBA programs while working for a company.


I'm so glad to hear about someone else in the same boat !

 

[differentguy44]

any single bi women on this thread lookin for single male?

 

[Curious_Red]

Wifey was in the closet for the longest time. She really wanted her best friend forever, but told no one (even me). Then her friend did some stuff with her room-mate (another girl) and wifey spoke up that it should've been her. Finally it happened. She played for quite awhile, but situations forced it to stop. We did do 2 MFM threesomes, but I never did anything with the guy (not the right guy). I guess I'd have to be "labeled" curious, as I've not done anything with a guy; though wifey has done everything to me a person can. We did finally manage to do the FFM threesome with her friend, but I couldn't have vaginal sex with her friend (which I didn't care).

Sexual things have pretty much fallen apart for her and her friend (though they are still best friends and see each other alot). I did let her do whatever at will and the only rule was that she had to tell me about it. Eventually, when she was getting to do stuff all the time and I was doing nothing (guy or girl) it was decided things were a bit one sided so she wasn't going to do anything unless I was involved, so that means it stopped.

She has a massive desire to see me have sex with another woman and then she has a massive desire to see me do stuff with another guy. I'm open to it, but it seems though we'll never get it to work out. We live in a rather small town, so anything like this is hush hush. Who knows if she'll get to do stuff again or if I ever will get to do stuff.

Through all this though, we're both very, very happy; that's for sure!

 

[fauconier]

Since my mother died giving birth to me, I was the Lady of the House, though I was the youngest person there. I do understand and relate to men more than the average female does, sometimes. I’ve always been friends with mostly men, whether gay or straight. And now, I am living with a bisexual man whom I love deeply.

You must have felt like you had a lot of responsibility, even when you were really young. But it's great that your family is so close and supportive. I wish I could have counted on my dad to be caring and supportive, but he just wasn't like that. If anyone can make a relationship like yours work in the long run, it's you. Do you think you'd love your SO less if he were straight, or had only a mild interest in other guys? Is your both being bi more of a reassurance for you, or more of a challenge given society's judgmental attitudes and the potential complications of having multiple sexual partners? I have to admire both you and him because you're willing to try to make your relationship really work despite any and all difficulties. And if you live out your ideals of trust, commitment, and self-respect, chances are excellent that you will choose a partner truly worthy of you. I wish you both all the best.

gingertango:Thanks for the kind words. My wife and I are lucky to have found one another; we've supported one another through some horrendous medical problems and other issues. That kind of shared experience strengthens the bond of even the most committed couple. You and your wife seem to have found a way to make your lifestyle work. I must admit it's hard for me to understand folks who have multiple simultaneous partners. It's not hard to understand the urge, of course --- just how it could possibly work on an emotional level. In the case of the one couple whom I knew for sure had indulged in swinging, it only seemed to make them lonelier and sadder. I'm still skeptical of the wisdom of polyamory, but you and your wife seem happy, and that's extremely important. Take care & thanks.

 

[gingermango]

I must admit it's hard for me to understand folks who have multiple simultaneous partners. It's not hard to understand the urge, of course --- just how it could possibly work on an emotional level. In the case of the one couple whom I knew for sure had indulged in swinging, it only seemed to make them lonelier and sadder. I'm still skeptical of the wisdom of polyamory, but you and your wife seem happy, and that's extremely important. Take care & thanks.

Thank you as well for your kind words.

The key to success, in my not so humble opinion (*), is to be honest - completely, utterly, totally honest - about one's emotional and physical needs and to always expect the exact same in return. It helps that both of us were involved in very sexually-repressed, emotionally-controlling relationships before we met one another. We were each like a breath of fresh air to each other and we make sure that we never foul that air with emotional surprises or needs that have built up into hateful bitterness or resentment. It also helps that we are both wired almost identically in terms of what turns us on and excites us, so we can fully understand where the other one is coming from all the time. That, and working hard to stay honest, to work through natural disagreements and troubles that any married couple has (money issues, kids stuff, dealing with busy lives, etc) is how we do it.

In light of all that, the actual polyamory aspect is really very minor. I love to watch her pleasing and being pleased by sexy people and she feels the same about me. There's no emotional involvement with the people doing the pleasing except affection and gratitude felt among friends.

 

[Wolfman1982]

fauconier: you to be two to tango, but gingermango isn´t tango (silly joke , I know) anyway I am back reading the great reply

 

[dkak001]

However, sometimes, my patience gets taxed and although I understand his “other” interests, I’m not immune to jealousy. No woman is. Scratch that, men aren’t immune to jealousy either. No human being is.

How true! None of us are. Be sure to tell him your feelings, tho. Patience is not an excuse to put off letting your partner know your feelings. My guess is that when you're troubled, he will temporarily back off the 'other' interestes for your sake. (If he won't you have some bigger issues to deal with) Also, be sure to let the reverse be true, if you have 'other' interests and he's concerned about them you should respect that also.

Overall a happy relationship comes from being honest and open with each other (as it sounds you two are more open and honest than most). Just don't foget to be open about the things you don't want each other doing, as well as the things you will let each other do.

Now for my 2cents...
The only secret that I really ever kept from my wife was my bisexual curiosity. After a very difficult revelation to her, I found out she had been keeping the same secret from me (Also a difficult revelation on her part). In an odd twist of fate, we met, married, and discovered we each had 'other' interests... ...and what a twist of fate it's turned out to be

-Dan

 

[PredatorSmile]

How true! None of us are. Be sure to tell him your feelings, tho. Patience is not an excuse to put off letting your partner know your feelings. My guess is that when you're troubled, he will temporarily back off the 'other' interestes for your sake. (If he won't you have some bigger issues to deal with) Also, be sure to let the reverse be true, if you have 'other' interests and he's concerned about them you should respect that also.

Overall a happy relationship comes from being honest and open with each other (as it sounds you two are more open and honest than most). Just don't foget to be open about the things you don't want each other doing, as well as the things you will let each other do.

Now for my 2cents...
The only secret that I really ever kept from my wife was my bisexual curiosity. After a very difficult revelation to her, I found out she had been keeping the same secret from me (Also a difficult revelation on her part). In an odd twist of fate, we met, married, and discovered we each had 'other' interests... ...and what a twist of fate it's turned out to be

-Dan

Well, it's good you both discovered each other and are still together. These days, I worry. By day, Aaron is in school, as a college senior. In a school which is 51 percent female and 49 percent male. Yeah, any hot young woman could catch his eye when I'm not there. By night, he sometimes goes to bars and has discrete encounters with gay men he meets, as part of his ongoing exploration of his bisexuality.


I'm at work all day, and usually get home around 10 PM. I'm gone by 9 A.M. the next day. Aaron leaves early, comes home late. By night, I lie awake, waiting for him to come home. Sometimes, I call his cellphone. Often, he doesn't pick up. He also doesn't discuss his bisexual adventures with me. He's not that interested in sex with me anymore.


One night, recently, I knew he was coming home. I decided to surprise him. American Beauty-style. I lay there naked, covered with flowers. He walked in, saw me.....and laughed. I thought he liked it. He thought it was funny, and borderline ridiculous. Well, my sex drive vanished after that comment. I said nothing, put some clothes back on and went to bed.


I lay in bed next to him, wanting for him to touch me. My pride wouldn't let me ask him. He didn't. The next day, I saw a silver chain next to me. I brightened up. I thought it was a gift from him. I instantly forgave him, and my heart was full of love for him. He was in the shower. I went in, and kissed him. I had my pajama bottoms and a bra on but I didn't care. He seemed surprised, but when I told him that I loved him and wanted to give him the fuck of the century, he smiled and fucked me. I loved it.



We left the shower together. I was getting dressed. He was leaving for class. He kissed me, and then seemed like he was remembering something. He asked me if I had seen a silver chain on the bed. I smiled, and nodded. I kissed him again. He kissed me, then told me that the chain was a gift given to him by a "special guy" whom he was seeing. I gave him back the silver chain without a word. I didn't say anything. Aaron left.



Five minutes later, I cried for the first time since the "Plymouth hole incident".


Plymouth is the town where I grew up. Before moving to Boston. I once fell into a hole, during the winter. I was 10 years old at the time and spent a long time before my dad and brothers came to rescue me. I hadn't cried....seriously cried...since then.

 

[gingermango]

PredatorSmile -

I won't offer any advice or "words of wisdom" or platitudes . . . there's nothing anyone can say that will "fix" your feelings right now. That's something you and he need to work out with one another. I hope you can both find a way to do that and wish you the best.

 

[TheOlderGuy]

Well, it's good you both discovered each other and are still together. These days, I worry. By day, Aaron is in school, as a college senior. In a school which is 51 percent female and 49 percent male. Yeah, any hot young woman could catch his eye when I'm not there. By night, he sometimes goes to bars and has discrete encounters with gay men he meets, as part of his ongoing exploration of his bisexuality.


I'm at work all day, and usually get home around 10 PM. I'm gone by 9 A.M. the next day. Aaron leaves early, comes home late. By night, I lie awake, waiting for him to come home. Sometimes, I call his cellphone. Often, he doesn't pick up. He also doesn't discuss his bisexual adventures with me. He's not that interested in sex with me anymore.


One night, recently, I knew he was coming home. I decided to surprise him. American Beauty-style. I lay there naked, covered with flowers. He walked in, saw me.....and laughed. I thought he liked it. He thought it was funny, and borderline ridiculous. Well, my sex drive vanished after that comment. I said nothing, put some clothes back on and went to bed.


I lay in bed next to him, wanting for him to touch me. My pride wouldn't let me ask him. He didn't. The next day, I saw a silver chain next to me. I brightened up. I thought it was a gift from him. I instantly forgave him, and my heart was full of love for him. He was in the shower. I went in, and kissed him. I had my pajama bottoms and a bra on but I didn't care. He seemed surprised, but when I told him that I loved him and wanted to give him the fuck of the century, he smiled and fucked me. I loved it.



We left the shower together. I was getting dressed. He was leaving for class. He kissed me, and then seemed like he was remembering something. He asked me if I had seen a silver chain on the bed. I smiled, and nodded. I kissed him again. He kissed me, then told me that the chain was a gift given to him by a "special guy" whom he was seeing. I gave him back the silver chain without a word. I didn't say anything. Aaron left.



Five minutes later, I cried for the first time since the "Plymouth hole incident".


Plymouth is the town where I grew up. Before moving to Boston. I once fell into a hole, during the winter. I was 10 years old at the time and spent a long time before my dad and brothers came to rescue me. I hadn't cried....seriously cried...since then.

I'm so sorry to hear this. You have always seemed to me to be such a genuine person in all that you say. And even if there is no bad guy in this life you're living, you're in pain, and I wish you weren't. Please feel free to PM me any time if you want someone to touch base with.

 

[robbie_boy1]

If I were you and I am not.......*hugs you*....my first response would be to cut and run... are you paying equal freight in this relationship? If not why not? You seem to be walking on egg shells and doing a lot of waiting... you are to precious for that.

When is the last time you went and did something that you wanted to do and came home and remained silent about what you wanted to do.

I want to wrap you in my arms and hold you. Tell you how wonderful you are and how much you deserve all the best that the world has to offer but I can't. You are doing what you want to do I imagine, you will continue to do what you do until you are sick and tired of being sick and tired of protecting his feelings and not your own....

On this forum you are loved. I can't change a thing about you or your life...I can be an ear to listen if you so desire. I am not here to judge you. We are here to see each other thru not to see thru each other. You are loved...

adieu
robbie

Well, it's good you both discovered each other and are still together. These days, I worry. By day, Aaron is in school, as a college senior. In a school which is 51 percent female and 49 percent male. Yeah, any hot young woman could catch his eye when I'm not there. By night, he sometimes goes to bars and has discrete encounters with gay men he meets, as part of his ongoing exploration of his bisexuality.


I'm at work all day, and usually get home around 10 PM. I'm gone by 9 A.M. the next day. Aaron leaves early, comes home late. By night, I lie awake, waiting for him to come home. Sometimes, I call his cellphone. Often, he doesn't pick up. He also doesn't discuss his bisexual adventures with me. He's not that interested in sex with me anymore.


One night, recently, I knew he was coming home. I decided to surprise him. American Beauty-style. I lay there naked, covered with flowers. He walked in, saw me.....and laughed. I thought he liked it. He thought it was funny, and borderline ridiculous. Well, my sex drive vanished after that comment. I said nothing, put some clothes back on and went to bed.


I lay in bed next to him, wanting for him to touch me. My pride wouldn't let me ask him. He didn't. The next day, I saw a silver chain next to me. I brightened up. I thought it was a gift from him. I instantly forgave him, and my heart was full of love for him. He was in the shower. I went in, and kissed him. I had my pajama bottoms and a bra on but I didn't care. He seemed surprised, but when I told him that I loved him and wanted to give him the fuck of the century, he smiled and fucked me. I loved it.



We left the shower together. I was getting dressed. He was leaving for class. He kissed me, and then seemed like he was remembering something. He asked me if I had seen a silver chain on the bed. I smiled, and nodded. I kissed him again. He kissed me, then told me that the chain was a gift given to him by a "special guy" whom he was seeing. I gave him back the silver chain without a word. I didn't say anything. Aaron left.



Five minutes later, I cried for the first time since the "Plymouth hole incident".


Plymouth is the town where I grew up. Before moving to Boston. I once fell into a hole, during the winter. I was 10 years old at the time and spent a long time before my dad and brothers came to rescue me. I hadn't cried....seriously cried...since then.

 

[BillyBrownlow45]

Bi-Couple Relationship issues

Dear Predator, I am a 51 y/o Bi-male whose married to a 49 y/o straight female who knows that I am bi. She, early in our relationship, stated that her fantasy was to have a sexual tryst with two guys, which I gladly expressed my whole-hearted interest in helping her 'consummate'. However, the Mrs. has stated, and continues to do so, that it is only a fantasy and it would have to be a very special person in order for us to fulfill her fantasy. My comments to her have been along the lines of 'the 3rd person would have to be someone that we would both want to play with' and she has commented as such to me on occasion.

I am unsure as to what relationship issues you two might have relative to your both being bisexual but if you want to talk further, please respond to my comments and we can go from there. As my wife and I live in East TN and you and your b/f live in Boston, the possibility of a face-to-face meeting would be slim to none, but we can talk via IM or email if you are interested in so doing.

Billy

Thanks, B. The thing is that I feel quite happy these days. My relationship with Aaron is alright. We're okay. I'm doing well in my job. He's doing great in school. My father is happy with his new girlfriend and he's smiling a lot more often. My brothers are doing alright too, both personally and professionally. Life couldn't be better. Although I'm a die-hard tomboy at heart, I sometimes wish I had someone to talk to about my relationship issues. My best friend is a gay man and I tell him everything, yet omit the fact that my boyfriend is bisexual. Why ? Aaron would never forgive me if he were outed, and I would never betray him.


I sometimes wonder if there are other bi-girls who are in relationships with bi-guys ? To me, it seems like perfection....potentially.


There's something sexy and intimate about walking through downtown Boston holding my boyfriend's hands and we both check out sexy women and handsome men when they walk by.

 

[PredatorSmile]

Dear Predator, I am a 51 y/o Bi-male whose married to a 49 y/o straight female who knows that I am bi. She, early in our relationship, stated that her fantasy was to have a sexual tryst with two guys, which I gladly expressed my whole-hearted interest in helping her 'consummate'. However, the Mrs. has stated, and continues to do so, that it is only a fantasy and it would have to be a very special person in order for us to fulfill her fantasy. My comments to her have been along the lines of 'the 3rd person would have to be someone that we would both want to play with' and she has commented as such to me on occasion.

I am unsure as to what relationship issues you two might have relative to your both being bisexual but if you want to talk further, please respond to my comments and we can go from there. As my wife and I live in East TN and you and your b/f live in Boston, the possibility of a face-to-face meeting would be slim to none, but we can talk via IM or email if you are interested in so doing.

Billy

It's alright, folks. I thank ALL of you for your kind words. I had a talk with my father, in general terms, about relationships. I've got some tough decisions to make, and I will make them. I NEED to talk to Aaron. I love him and I always will. But I feel...unimportant. I've got to take care of me. Taking care of yourself is NOT selfishness. Have a good one, folks.