Bisexuality openness

[Stacy_TG]

I'm bisexual, and I've recently made peace with the fact. At this point in my life, I've come to realization that if you don't love yourself, no one else will...

That being said, I don't announce my bisexuality to everyone I meet. In fact, I've only so far come out to one very dear friend in real life. Happy to say, she was quite supportive.

I suppose that if someone asked me point blank, I would be totally honest, but I'm not putting it out there!

 

[sterculius]

It's just that it's so exasperating to realize that if my true identity were to become public, I would be judged and condemned by the most shallow and ridiculous social standards of behavior and my friends and family would shun me as being a pervert. All because I derive intense enjoyment from orally providing sexual satisfaction and release to other men. It makes no sense!

 

[Mqoi]

That said, it IS cool to be able to visit lit and openly discuss our desires with the comfort of anonymity.

And that's one reason why I like this forum so much.

 

[Stacy_TG]

I just wish we could get together in real life. Sometimes I hate the anonymity and I just want to express truest self around people who support me.

I mean, sometimes I just want to dress up in my shortest shorts and cutest CFM heels and have this "Yeah, I love cock, so what" attitude.

Society sucks.

 

[Astroman72]

I've only ever told one person I was bi--an ex girlfriend. She was also bi and pretty wild, so this wasn't very high on her list of outrageous admissions.

As I'm not romantically interested in men, I don't consider it a major part of my identity; I don't feel any need to come out at all. I"m really not sexually active with men anyways, and just as I wouldn't come out to friends and family about my preferred masturbation techniques, or how much I love performing cunnilingus, I also don't feel any need to tell them I love giving blowjobs. I'm a pretty private person anyways, and this falls into the category of stuff that I prefer to keep to my self.

 

[Jerseyshore]

I think that in a lot of ways being discreet about it is part of the experience. It becomes a place for you and your 'friend with benefits' to escape the stresses of the world, a sort of refuge. Add to that the sense of trust that is involved in keeping it private creates a bond.

It's all about enjoying the experience, and engaging in open dialogue with others who might not share your views is an invitation to pollute that with needless difficulties the effects of which on your life are unknown. Not everyone has reached the frame of mind for the sexual liberation as we have. I have no time to spend convincing them how wonderful it is.

That said, it IS cool to be able to visit lit and openly discuss our desires with the comfort of anonymity.

I quite agree that discretion is often the best choice. I meet younger gay people that find it evil in some way that older gay and bisexual people don't shout it to the rooftops about their sexuality md are therefore hurting the cause of LGTB rights. However, LGBT radicals seldom take the time to understand the individual situations of others. While my partner and I are more open about our relationship in recent years, we are not interested in making a big public fuss about it. For many of us a bit of privacy is preferable. I agree it's quite nice to have a place like this where we can meet other like-minded people and enjoy our experiences.

 

[nfrrdscnnr1]

are?

Are we all looking for affirmation that "I'm OK"?

 

[Jerseyshore]

Are we all looking for affirmation that "I'm OK"?

WE are and we are OK

 

[Stacy_TG]

WE are and we are OK

Amen. Some of us are quite insecure, and we need that reassurance. Although Lit is a great place to meet people and have fun, for me this place has been first and foremost, a place of support.

 

[Sunnyade]

I think that in a lot of ways being discreet about it is part of the experience. It becomes a place for you and your 'friend with benefits' to escape the stresses of the world, a sort of refuge. Add to that the sense of trust that is involved in keeping it private creates a bond.

It's all about enjoying the experience, and engaging in open dialogue with others who might not share your views is an invitation to pollute that with needless difficulties the effects of which on your life are unknown. Not everyone has reached the frame of mind for the sexual liberation as we have. I have no time to spend convincing them how wonderful it is.

That said, it IS cool to be able to visit lit and openly discuss our desires with the comfort of anonymity.

Good point. I do like the "secret" aspect of it, it's not my full reason for not being openly Bi but its a nice bonus.

 

[sterculius]

I do concede that the "sub rosa" aspect of being a Cocksucker does accentuate and add to the excitement of performing the act. I became a Cocksucker as a youth, giving frequent blowjobs to my best friend who would often tease me by threatening to tell all our friends I was a Cocksucker and then I would have to give them blowjobs too. This both frightened and excited me and I would masturbate while imagining he had told them and I was forced to become the neighborhood Cocksucker. Fortunately (or not), he never did tell them.

 

[Bernie57]

I do concede that the "sub rosa" aspect of being a Cocksucker does accentuate and add to the excitement of performing the act. I became a Cocksucker as a youth, giving frequent blowjobs to my best friend who would often tease me by threatening to tell all our friends I was a Cocksucker and then I would have to give them blowjobs too. This both frightened and excited me and I would masturbate while imagining he had told them and I was forced to become the neighborhood Cocksucker. Fortunately (or not), he never did tell them.

Have always enjoyed reading your story about you being your best friend's cocksucker back in high school. I also had a good friend in HS that I wanted so badly to suck him off but was afraid of being outed as gay back then (early 70's). I regret to this day it didn't happen for me like it did for you but I could not get over the fear of people knowing that I was bisexual. Unfortunately, I am still looking for my first cock to taste.

 

[Bjerget]

I only tell girls who I am interested in hooking up with, that I'm bi. Otherwise I don't really talk much about my sexuality in a group setting.

 

[Jerseyshore]

I only tell girls who I am interested in hooking up with, that I'm bi. Otherwise I don't really talk much about my sexuality in a group setting.

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Good thinking...establishing trust is essential before revealing too much about yourself.

 

[Jerseyshore]

Amen. Some of us are quite insecure, and we need that reassurance. Although Lit is a great place to meet people and have fun, for me this place has been first and foremost, a place of support.

Same here, although I have enjoyed many sexy hookups here. It's great to meet people with the same sexual interests. Many of their stories reflect mine in accepting my gay sexuality and it's great to meet others with similar tales. Coming out isn't always easy even in our modern world and a kind ear al\ways helps.

 

[renrob]

I work in an industry where you can joke about being friendly with men, nobody takes you seriously which is amusing if only they knew.

It seems a little like it's almost harder to admit socially that you're a bi male than a gay male. I don't advertise I'm bi - a few people know but many just think I'm straight - but maybe a little weird.

 

[littlegrizz02]

I do concede that the "sub rosa" aspect of being a Cocksucker does accentuate and add to the excitement of performing the act. I became a Cocksucker as a youth, giving frequent blowjobs to my best friend who would often tease me by threatening to tell all our friends I was a Cocksucker and then I would have to give them blowjobs too. This both frightened and excited me and I would masturbate while imagining he had told them and I was forced to become the neighborhood Cocksucker. Fortunately (or not), he never did tell them.

I never sucked a cock but dreamed of this exact situation when I was young.

 

[Jerseyshore]

I work in an industry where you can joke about being friendly with men, nobody takes you seriously which is amusing if only they knew.

It seems a little like it's almost harder to admit socially that you're a bi male than a gay male. I don't advertise I'm bi - a few people know but many just think I'm straight - but maybe a little weird.

Interesting post. I experimented with both when I was younger but came out to myself once and for all in my 20s. People could never get their minds around bi but were OK when I came .to friends as gay. I was pretty discrete about being gay until recent years due to various circumstances. I think most people just can't deal with the thought of s masculine man also liking men,especially if he a submissive bi man. Most of the men on here that I meet are bi or bicurious. Some I know even come out as gay eventually once they realize that it's more exciting with a man than a woman.

 

[jakelc]

While I was younger and living a long way from home, post university, I was quite happy to tell people I was bi. Since getting married there are only a handful of people close to me that know of my sexuality. Even my wife only found out recently and that was down to role play and swinging, otherwise I wouldn't have told her. The thing is that while bi may be my sexuality it's still just a label, I don't think it should matter and in a perfect world we would all be able to be open, honest and free. Unfortunately there are still people who frown upon everything that isn't straight. If I go cruising or hit the sauna then it doesn't matter if I'm gay, bi or straight, it's a place where everyone is there for one purpose and labels don't matter. It's the same being a crossdresser, some people really feel that their status or label is ultra important. They can't be a tgirl or tranny because it's derogatory and not politically correct, they need to be defined by a correct label. I just think it's sad that we can't all be ourselves without fear of prejudice or persecution. That's why I love this site because it's possible to speak to like minded people without being judged (mostly)

Wow I didn't expect that post to turn out how it did

 

[renrob]

Interesting post. I experimented with both when I was younger but came out to myself once and for all in my 20s. People could never get their minds around bi but were OK when I came .to friends as gay. I was pretty discrete about being gay until recent years due to various circumstances. I think most people just can't deal with the thought of s masculine man also liking men,especially if he a submissive bi man. Most of the men on here that I meet are bi or bicurious. Some I know even come out as gay eventually once they realize that it's more exciting with a man than a woman.

I experimented a lot - but my interest in guys is devoid of romance. In that regard - emotionally/life partner wise I'm hetero.

But I enjoy sex with both men and women - both individually and when I was lucky enough to experience both at once.

 

[guns44]

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[betabrad]

I'm bi curious and I have a lot of fantasies about bi sex. I don't know if I would really like the things I fantasize about, but I would love to find a woman that I could be open and honest with about my fantasies.

 

[ssremember129]

It's not a banner to display but I think most people that are will talk about it with someone they know well. For a casual setting, unless your at a swingers party, I can't imagine it would be something to advertise. Not ashamed of it, but also don't make it only about who I am.

 

[Samsacks]

...Not ashamed of it, but also don't make it only about who I am.

That's the thing - like most people, I have many facets: husband, friend, worker, reader, hobbyist, etc. I also like cock. Many people will only see the "also likes cock" part and disregard the rest.

 

[ssremember129]

That's the thing - like most people, I have many facets: husband, friend, worker, reader, hobbyist, etc. I also like cock. Many people will only see the "also likes cock" part and disregard the rest.

For example, and one that my partner and I laughed at just the other days, we were out having dinner and this couple put on a show for all 100+ of us telling everyone they were not heterosexual. Granted they were drunk off their ass, but "what was the point" and no one cared one way or the other.