Chase or Be Chased?

[catalina_francisco]

Not available anymore but when I was I found I preferred a mutual exploration of each other more so than being chased or doing the chasing....think it was because I knew what I wanted, was tired of BS, and just wanted to use time in a hopefully productive way more so than getting lost in the thrill of the chase and forgetting the real and ultimate goal. Seemed to work as it cut down on BS, was quick in terms of how long many others have been looking and hoping, and we found each other and have never regretted it for a moment.

Catalina

 

[snowy ciara]

I prefer blind hunting to chasing or being chased, setting up shop and seeing what comes into view and what it does.

I think I didn't get enough sleep last night, because now I have this vision of Netzach hiding in the bushes with a club and net, waiting to see what's sniffin' the bait.

 

[SpectreT]

Mmkay.

So what makes you sure they won't get kicked in?

Would be good to know for future reference..

I'll level with you - I'm never sure they won't get kicked in. Could explain why I'm still single.

And answers your original question - somebody's gotta chase me.

 

[Netzach]

I think I didn't get enough sleep last night, because now I have this vision of Netzach hiding in the bushes with a club and net, waiting to see what's sniffin' the bait.

You can chase.

You can use hounds.

You can blind hunt.

You can set traps.

You can mimic its prey.

You can blend in with its surroundings.

You can draw it out with bright lights and shiny objects.

You can use a net.

Sticky traps work if it's tiny.

You could drive the whole herd off a cliff, but that's a little extreme.

 

[Netzach]

Not available anymore but when I was I found I preferred a mutual exploration of each other more so than being chased or doing the chasing....think it was because I knew what I wanted, was tired of BS, and just wanted to use time in a hopefully productive way more so than getting lost in the thrill of the chase and forgetting the real and ultimate goal. Seemed to work as it cut down on BS, was quick in terms of how long many others have been looking and hoping, and we found each other and have never regretted it for a moment.

Catalina

Heh.

Mine fell out of a tree, hit me on the head and said "oops, pardon me, I'm new in town."

 

[neonflux]

It's not a skill they equip you with when you grow up girl, so you get this mass confusion. Additionally, I find that I can be asked out on a date and not even know it, because I'm assuming it's just coffee when it's really coffee...and by the time you do this 5 or 6 times you're too entrenched in "we're friends" to get in the sack.

Exactly! Exactly! Goddess, this post had me LOL!

 

[CutieMouse]

Herm...

I wouldn't say I chase- more like avoid, outside of a few very rare exceptions.

As for being chased, I'm one odd little mouse. It's a very delicate thing to get close enough to compliment/persue/otherwise show interest in me, as anything other than the girl next door, and not have me hit Ice Princess mode, or otherwise retreat back into a very quiet, reserved, and private little shell.

The above statements do an excellent job of summing up why I'm excruciatingly single, at the moment.

 

[IsabellaSnow]

Not available anymore but when I was I found I preferred a mutual exploration of each other

Unfortunately, I'm far too selfish for this type of exploration.

But I commend you on your maturity!!

 

[IsabellaSnow]

I'll level with you - I'm never sure they won't get kicked in. Could explain why I'm still single.

And answers your original question - somebody's gotta chase me.

Hmmm.. could do.

But then, none of us ever know, do we??

Love can suck.

 

[IsabellaSnow]

Herm...

I wouldn't say I chase- more like avoid, outside of a few very rare exceptions.

As for being chased, I'm one odd little mouse. It's a very delicate thing to get close enough to compliment/persue/otherwise show interest in me, as anything other than the girl next door, and not have me hit Ice Princess mode, or otherwise retreat back into a very quiet, reserved, and private little shell.

The above statements do an excellent job of summing up why I'm excruciatingly single, at the moment.

So.. you avoid.. and when they try to get close... you avoid more??

 

[CutieMouse]

So.. you avoid.. and when they try to get close... you avoid more??

If the right person tries to get close, I get closer.

If the wrong person tries to get close, I deflect, and avoid.

It takes great patience, grace, wit, and charm, to gain entry to my inner circle, but the rewards are nice.

 

[FurryFury]

I've been thinking about this thread. I don't really want to be chased or to chase others. I prefer more of a mutual thing. It doesn't take much to see who is interested and who I'm interested in.

Fury

 

[neonflux]

I've been thinking about this thread. I don't really want to be chased or to chase others. I prefer more of a mutual thing. It doesn't take much to see who is interested and who I'm interested in.

Fury

When I think of chasing and being chased, and perhaps this is because I'm coming from the "women's communities" in the main, I think of making the first move or just ensuring that the relationship moves at all, LOL. That said, I do understand what you're saying.

 

[FurryFury]

When I think of chasing and being chased, and perhaps this is because I'm coming from the "women's communities" in the main, I think of making the first move or just ensuring that the relationship moves at all, LOL. That said, I do understand what you're saying.

*nods*

What I said does apply to women too. I know who is interested though I haven't done anything about it . . .yet. Some of my buds and I have discussed our options and interest though.

Fury

 

[neonflux]

*nods*

What I said does apply to women too. I know who is interested though I haven't done anything about it . . .yet. Some of my buds and I have discussed our options and interest though.

Fury

*nods back* Unfortunately, it's making that first move that can be difficult when one doesn't do it oneself, LOL. Good luck with your buds!

 

[FurryFury]

*nods back* Unfortunately, it's making that first move that can be difficult when one doesn't do it oneself, LOL. Good luck with your buds!

Well, that's the thing we are not sure if we want to go there, it's fun to talk about and we do have desires but we just love each other. We don't want to mess that up.

Fury

 

[neonflux]

Well, that's the thing we are not sure if we want to go there, it's fun to talk about and we do have desires but we just love each other. We don't want to mess that up.

Fury

friendship - sex - friendship - sex - friendship - sex... Difficult choice! Were I in your shoes - and I'm not so please don't take this as my "giving unsought advise - I might end up going out and looking for love with others, buds in tow..

 

[FurryFury]

friendship - sex - friendship - sex - friendship - sex... Difficult choice! Were I in your shoes - and I'm not so please don't take this as my "giving unsought advise - I might end up going out and looking for love with others, buds in tow..

LOL!

I'm not looking for love, I've got that but point taken. That's why we've only talked about it.

You know my husband convinced me I could have both with him. That's one reason we are together. He was the only one who showed me that vision.

Fury

 

[neonflux]

LOL!

I'm not looking for love, I've got that but point taken. That's why we've only talked about it.

You know my husband convinced me I could have both with him. That's one reason we are together. He was the only one who showed me that vision.

Fury

Lucky grrl! Sounds like an absolute keeper to me! Sigh! A toast to good men. ... and even better women

 

[TNRkitect2b]

I chase, but only continue to chase when the chasing is appreciated by the prey.

 

[bashfull]

On a serious note....

...I like to chase but only if I am encouraged to pursue....


After a while, I feel my pursuit is for naught...and that I have been played the fool for the attention. So, the prey must show interest...in turn a sense of pursuit.

 

[Kajira Callista]

Which do you prefer?

I like to think I prefer being chased, but I tend to go after what I want as soon as I see it.

And get bored when I catch it.

Which makes me a terrible person, I know.

neither

 

[SirFace]

I prefer to create the scenario where I am chased. So in reality I am doing the chasing but no one knows it but me.

 

[BeachGurl2]

Maybe it's age, maybe it's maturity, or maybe it's just that I want different things out of life now, but I don't really want to do or be either. I'm not in the mood for games anymore. That's kid's stuff. In my 20s, sure, I enjoyed both, depended on who and the situation. But after a bad marriage and and even worse divorce, I just want honesty and openness.

 

[callinectes]

I prefer to create the scenario where I am chased. So in reality I am doing the chasing but no one knows it but me.

That made my head hurt.


Back to the OP..I don't know if saying I like to be chased is the proper term, but I never make the first move. I may do some low key flirting to send the signal that I am approachable, but that is as far as I go. If he isn't confident enough to approach me, then we aren't a match.