Come take a peek inside Aussie's marriage

[MindYaBitness]

One of my favourite songs ever. I also love the video.

I love him in this video, I mean he's no George, but he was hot enough!

 

[Lord Pmann]

I love him in this video, I mean he's no George, but he was hot enough!

Oh was there a guy in the video?

 

[aussiegeekygal]

I love him in this video, I mean he's no George, but he was hot enough!

Hot enough??
He's gorgeous

 

[aussiegeekygal]

I spent the night with The Librarian earlier this week..

That song played, and he sang it to me as I laid naked in his lap.

I'm falling in love.

 

[MindYaBitness]

Hot enough??
He's gorgeous

I have an irrational, undying love for George Michael. All singers are measured against him, and found wanting.

 

[LostGirlTink]

I haven’t caught up on this but I will. Having been the mono partner in a poly relationship I learned so much. About me, about poly, about why I felt the way I did about things.
I’m still fascinated even if I know I’m def not poly and probably not going there again personally I think it really does have the potential for the most satisfaction for people

 

[aussiegeekygal]

Life update

 

[LostGirlTink]

Life update

Thanks for sharing. It’s all really complicated absolutely. You’ll work through it and find what’s a perfect fit for you.

Sidenote
I don’t think I’ve heard your voice before will you read me bedtime stories every night forever please?

 

[StillRain]

Life update

Oh my gosh your accent is so corrupted. How long have you been in the USA?

 

[LadyLascivious1]

Life update

Emotional soup seems a perfectly appropriate way to describe it. You sound…alive

Not the primary partner, but one of, huh? That feels huge, but maybe that’s me stamping my perspective on it?

 

[StillRain]

Mr Aussie has “deconstructed hierarchy. Followed by you, as his wife, are not the primary partner but one of the primary partners.

I’m kind of keen to hear how that works? How does he decide he’s going to deconstruct that? Do you just have to go along with this? How do you feel about that deconstruction?

 

[Purple_Fronds]

Life update

Very thoughtful, glad you’re enjoying the experience.

 

[aussiegeekygal]

Not the primary partner, but one of, huh? That feels huge, but maybe that’s me stamping my perspective on it?

Mr Aussie has “deconstructed hierarchy. Followed by you, as his wife, are not the primary partner but one of the primary partners.

It's huge and I'm struggling with the transition

We're in therapy and I'm using that space to work through how we intend to proceed. I love him to death and am not sure I can be that wife in this situation. It's scary and confronting for sure. I'll definitely keep y'all posted.

And this is what fifteen years does to a woman. My accent belongs nowhere these days.

 

[StillRain]

It's huge and I'm struggling with the transition

We're in therapy and I'm using that space to work through how we intend to proceed. I love him to death and am not sure I can be that wife in this situation. It's scary and confronting for sure. I'll definitely keep y'all posted.

And this is what fifteen years does to a woman. My accent belongs nowhere these days.

I hope you choose what is best for you, AGG. Working through this sounds like a serious challenge, for anyone. I for one would not have the capacity nor tenacity for it, that’s for sure. Hats off to you for attempting it.

 

[aussiegeekygal]

I hope you choose what is best for you, AGG. Working through this sounds like a serious challenge, for anyone. I for one would not have the capacity nor tenacity for it, that’s for sure. Hats off to you for attempting it.

That's exactly what I'm grappling with.

We've also got some additional stress because he can be anxious and pursues me to give him certainty where I can't and as a result I ended up telling him that we it stands right now, I don't want to be married like this

Im monumentally grateful to be traveling this week as space from everything gives me the ability to sit with myself and explore what it is I actually want.

I got this.
But, phew

 

[deft]

I am in awe of your capacity to navigate this, @aussiegeekygal. My suspected poly streak is getting stronger the more I hear from you... and I begin to see how life could be. You are opening my eyes... I thank you for that.

And I am so glad you're besotted

 

[aussiegeekygal]

I am in awe of your capacity to navigate this, @aussiegeekygal. My suspected poly streak is getting stronger the more I hear from you... and I begin to see how life could be. You are opening my eyes... I thank you for that.

And I am so glad you're besotted

I'm not normally one to give advice (bullshit!)

Whatever you do, don't make rash decisions.

Stoicism goes a long way here

 

[LadyLascivious1]

That's exactly what I'm grappling with.

We've also got some additional stress because he can be anxious and pursues me to give him certainty where I can't and as a result I ended up telling him that we it stands right now, I don't want to be married like this

Im monumentally grateful to be traveling this week as space from everything gives me the ability to sit with myself and explore what it is I actually want.

I got this.
But, phew

I really admire the strength and honesty it takes to voice your truth and current thoughts to Mr. Aussie. These are hard concepts to think through, much less discuss out loud with a partner.

And I can imagine the relief at the little bit of space that travel is providing

 

[StillRain]

I'm not normally one to give advice (bullshit!)

Whatever you do, don't make rash decisions.

Stoicism goes a long way here

This^ made me lol

I once thought I could be poly, then I realised I’m selfish and insecure with being vulnerable in most of its guises.

 

[StillRain]

I really admire the strength and honesty it takes to voice your truth and current thoughts to Mr. Aussie. These are hard concepts to think through, much less discuss out loud with a partner.

And I can imagine the relief at the little bit of space that travel is providing

Agree. I’d be like “oh damn. Sorry babe,
Somethings come up have to stay longer. “

 

[aussiegeekygal]

I really admire the strength and honesty it takes to voice your truth and current thoughts to Mr. Aussie. These are hard concepts to think through, much less discuss out loud with a partner.

And I can imagine the relief at the little bit of space that travel is providing

Definitely hard.
Truth be told I wasn't ready to say that out loud, but that's what happens when I'm pushed to say something .

This travel is so freaking welcome! I took extra time to just be with myself at the end of this and sightsee. It's helping my understand how I'm feeling about a lot.

Mr. Aussie and Mrs. Montessori share dreams of a mega house where we are completely blended and whilst there are elements of that that are very appealing to me, I also recognize that if we were to combine our families my marriage would be completely over. I couldn't share a husband under the same roof.

I'd still do it, though.

Weird, huh?

 

[LadyLascivious1]

I'd still do it, though.

Which part?

 

[aussiegeekygal]

Which part?

Mega house.
Raising kids with Mr. Aussie and the Montessori family. Even if that means I'm no longer a wife, I'd appreciate so much of that life.

 

[LadyLascivious1]

Mega house.
Raising kids with Mr. Aussie and the Montessori family. Even if that means I'm no longer a wife, I'd appreciate so much of that life.

I can see where there would be a lot of benefits alongside all the changes and possible cons/risks.

What does Mr. Montessori think?

 

[aussiegeekygal]

I can see where there would be a lot of benefits alongside all the changes and possible cons/risks.

What does Mr. Montessori think?

He's probably the least enthusiastic of the bunch.. He regrets the one kid he has. Adding my two to the mix would stress him all the way out.