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Daddy's Little Girl: Second Edition
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Lost_Yonder
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^^^ What she said! ^^^
pumpkin over blueberries? more than nutella? mon dieu, what has the world come to???
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If only I could tag people on Lit.
Super melty at the end!
Thanks for your comments on my post and heads up re Criminal Minds! Luckily I have most of this week off work....
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The part that bothers me the most about this? The "you belong me" line. WTF, is he a caveman? If you are in a D/S relationship with Captain Caveman, you really need to reexamine your life....
Seriously; this type of statement is what gives BDSM a bad rap to the mainstream. And while I am sure there are some people that this dynamic would work for, it's not the norm. There is no norm; like several have said, each relationship is unique, just like ANY relationship is unique.
That's my 2 cents....
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My thoughts on this
I'm sorry that it's taken me so long to get back to this. I have enjoyed everyone's posts and, even better, the discussion that has taken place. What I enjoyed, as well, is the PYLs participating!
I put this controversial meme here to get us thinking. Do we know what to look for when we begin talking to a prospective DD or Dom? It seems we pretty much DO!! This is good! But, that doesn't mean we don't need reminders, that we don't need to be "shocked" by something like this to bring it back to the forefront of our minds. Especially, if one hasn't been in that position in a while. Trust me...we need reminding of things!
In the end, we will have helped anyone reading this in the future who may not have any idea about things such as this.
Whether it is a 24/7 relationship or only being submissive in the bedroom,
safety - both physically and emotionally - should be our first concern. If the person in the dominant part isn't concerned about these things, be very wary. There should be discussion of many things longs before you get to the "I want to be your submissive/I am domming you!" conversation. Limits should be addressed, safe words established during these conversations.
Conversations regarding ANY CONCERN should be addressed at any time. There needs to be an open line of communication about the relationship, not just what you had for dinner. He will make sure you are aware that he's available to you, that he WANTS you to come to him. How is he being your PYL if he isn't aware of your needs?
"Belonging to him" 24/7 doesn't mean you aren't also a person with other interests and needs...it mean he's there for you always. I'll add...you need to be there for him the same way. He may need to hear your voice or have something going on that he needs to say something about. It's two pieces of a puzzle, no matter if you are the PYL or the pyl.
Someone said this already, and I don't remember who at the moment, "My word is final"...but we have opinions. Bingo! He should listen to your opinions and concerns, but ultimately we need to trust his final word. If you trust him as you should, then why not trust his final say? This is why we need to be aware and be careful who we are trusting to begin with! Can this be stopped at anytime? Certainly.
I'm rambling. These are only my thoughts and not written in stone. Y'all have already said what I was thinking. I needed to hear what you had to say, and I appreciate your time in doing so.
Oh! I wanted to say a special thank you to all the posters who have not posted in here before for weighing in on this! We are always delighted to meet new people and say welcome.
~bfg~
How do you feel about this?
I'm sorry that it's taken me so long to get back to this. I have enjoyed everyone's posts and, even better, the discussion that has taken place. What I enjoyed, as well, is the PYLs participating!
I put this controversial meme here to get us thinking. Do we know what to look for when we begin talking to a prospective DD or Dom? It seems we pretty much DO!! This is good! But, that doesn't mean we don't need reminders, that we don't need to be "shocked" by something like this to bring it back to the forefront of our minds. Especially, if one hasn't been in that position in a while. Trust me...we need reminding of things!
In the end, we will have helped anyone reading this in the future who may not have any idea about things such as this.
Whether it is a 24/7 relationship or only being submissive in the bedroom,
safety - both physically and emotionally - should be our first concern. If the person in the dominant part isn't concerned about these things, be very wary. There should be discussion of many things longs before you get to the "I want to be your submissive/I am domming you!" conversation. Limits should be addressed, safe words established during these conversations.
Conversations regarding ANY CONCERN should be addressed at any time. There needs to be an open line of communication about the relationship, not just what you had for dinner. He will make sure you are aware that he's available to you, that he WANTS you to come to him. How is he being your PYL if he isn't aware of your needs?
"Belonging to him" 24/7 doesn't mean you aren't also a person with other interests and needs...it mean he's there for you always. I'll add...you need to be there for him the same way. He may need to hear your voice or have something going on that he needs to say something about. It's two pieces of a puzzle, no matter if you are the PYL or the pyl.
Someone said this already, and I don't remember who at the moment, "My word is final"...but we have opinions. Bingo! He should listen to your opinions and concerns, but ultimately we need to trust his final word. If you trust him as you should, then why not trust his final say? This is why we need to be aware and be careful who we are trusting to begin with! Can this be stopped at anytime? Certainly.
I'm rambling. These are only my thoughts and not written in stone. Y'all have already said what I was thinking. I needed to hear what you had to say, and I appreciate your time in doing so.
Oh! I wanted to say a special thank you to all the posters who have not posted in here before for weighing in on this! We are always delighted to meet new people and say welcome.
~bfg~
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Personally, I love belonging to him. I feel safe and cared for. I know I have him as a safety net when I feel like I don't have control over something or when I need his arms around me. The other side of this is he belongs to me, too.
I will qualify my statement by saying there are guys who are cavemen. They want things their way without caring about a pyl's needs. They need to stop and reexamine their lives and quit being controlling and domineering.
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Personally, I love belonging to him. I feel safe and cared for. I know I have him as a safety net when I feel like I don't have control over something or when I need his arms around me. The other side of this is he belongs to me, too.
I will qualify my statement by saying there are guys who are cavemen. They want things their way without caring about a pyl's needs. They need to stop and reexamine their lives and quit being controlling and domineering.
Sure....you must be right.
That made me laugh
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Hit a nerve?
I'll say it once. You aren't welcome to quote me. You aren't welcome to be here in my thread.
LEAVE ME ALONE.
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The truth bfg seemed to confirm is that "some guys are cavemen"! Lacking self-reflection over the difference between mutual belonging and manipulative and abusive power, claiming a right to intrude and disrupt when they know they are not welcomed, sitting in self-righteous triumph...
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I'm going to post this, and let y'all discuss (bonus points if anyone recognizes this)
THE 3 LAWS OF SUBMISSION
1) A submissive may not injure a dominant, or through inaction, allow a dominant to come to harm.
2) A submissive must obey the orders given to it by dominants except where such orders would conflict with the First Law.
3)A submissive must protect its own existence as long as such protection does not conflict with the First and Second Laws.
THE 3 LAWS OF SUBMISSION
1) A submissive may not injure a dominant, or through inaction, allow a dominant to come to harm.
2) A submissive must obey the orders given to it by dominants except where such orders would conflict with the First Law.
3)A submissive must protect its own existence as long as such protection does not conflict with the First and Second Laws.
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Ding Ding Ding SNG wins the prize; it's actually Asimov's 3 Laws of Robotics (from I-Robot)
I just thought it would be interesting to juxtapose them against a BDSM backdrop...
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I figure fewer words here might be better.
THERE ARE NO LAWS....it is what the two (or more) of you make of it.
1. Nobody gets injured. Full stop.
That’s different from hurt/pain
2. Your plural ‘dominants’ is a no go. A submissive transfers control to a dominant and obeys orders per their negotiated arrangements. All others can fuck off.
3. A dominant must protect his/her submissive at all costs. A fundamental role. Supersedes all other negotiated arrangements.
That’s in my world view. Yours may be different. Many go farther.
Peace.
LostGirlTink
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None of this seems ok?
I mean I think 1 is fine but it goes both ways. The implication here is that only the Dom is of value, so I call bullshit.
2. No. Just because I’m submissive does not mean I am submissive to anyone other than the individual to which I give my submission.
3. See 1 my response to 1.
This is from iRobot isn’t it? Applied with BDSM tones it’s horrifying and indicative of a complete lack of healthy BDSM relationships. It kinda reads like something that might have been included in 50 shades
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Dystopian.
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OK. This made me laugh and I almost never come to this particular thread. FWIW I really appreciate any good hearted levity that come to play in the threads.
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I might be the only one who has no idea what this "i robot" is. I'm assuming it's a movie.
*eats a taco*
*eats a taco*
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It was an excellent book (well, series of books) and a middling-to-lousy movie starting Will Smith.
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Best answer. But to expound, the stories were written by a bit of a unique individual.
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Isaac_Asimov
Here's the three laws Sims paraphrased.
Isaac Asimov's "Three Laws of Robotics"
A robot may not injure a human being or, through inaction, allow a human being to come to harm.
A robot must obey orders given it by human beings except where such orders would conflict with the First Law.
A robot must protect its own existence as long as such protection does not conflict with the First or Second Law.
Edited to add.
If your kiddos are into science fiction than they might enjoy some of Asimov's stories. He wasn't one of my favorites but he was probably one of the legitimately smartest of the writers of his era and an actual scientist.
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You know.
This is how it all starts.
First we begin negotiating with the metal.
Then the metal controls us.
Then...
Cyberdyne.
*Taps BFG's shoulder for a taco*
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