Depression. Anxiety. Panic Attacks. etc

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[Tighter]

Tighter,

IMO when a close relationship ends (especially a long term one) people need to grieve for a while before moving on. Take the time you need and trust your instincts.

I would agree with you Scalywag except for one thing.. he was able to move on so quickly. Or maybe that was because it wasn't as 'close' as I was led to believe? I'm angry he sat there and lied to my face.. telling me he loved me and wanted to be with me... and I just bought into all of it just so HE could get some. That's how I see it now, and nobody will ever tell me differently. You don't go from loving someone one day to needed 'space' the next. Not if you love them. He was good, I'll give him that. Normally I can see guys like him a mile away. But he was smooth, and I bought into everything.
One of my friends even did me the service of trying to help.. and he told my friend that I had, "alot of emotion". No kidding. Someone breaks my heart, I cry. Or maybe it's just a female thing where we take relationships more to heart than men? I don't know.
What I DO know is.. I'm not going to lay everything on the line just to be stomped on. If that makes me jaded, so be it. If that makes me a bitch, so be it. I can tell you one thing it WON'T make me however.. and that's a sucker for bullshit.

 

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[Quoll]

[Rant]One lousy sentence...that's all it took to bring mr crashing down, shit I hate that, a whole bloody day down the fucking toilet. Why couldn't it have just piseed me off and then let me carry on? I actually had ideas, thoughts of what I wanted to do, instead I ended up with a day full of hate and anger, headaches and nausea. To everyone else I was just angry, rude and incommunicative, and yet I wonder what would have happened if I had not fought so hard to keep what was really going on in my head locked away.
At times I so want to blurt out all those thoughts, just to see what happens.
Probably nothing more than the usual fear and pity.[/Rant]

 

[JustSkye]

[Rant]One lousy sentence...that's all it took to bring mr crashing down, shit I hate that, a whole bloody day down the fucking toilet. Why couldn't it have just piseed me off and then let me carry on? I actually had ideas, thoughts of what I wanted to do, instead I ended up with a day full of hate and anger, headaches and nausea. To everyone else I was just angry, rude and incommunicative, and yet I wonder what would have happened if I had not fought so hard to keep what was really going on in my head locked away.
At times I so want to blurt out all those thoughts, just to see what happens.
Probably nothing more than the usual fear and pity.[/Rant]

{{{{{Quoll}}}}}

 

[Tighter]

Tighter,

You make many very good points. I have never been in a situation quite like yours, so I probably should not have offered my opinion so quickly. But I already did, so, if there was anything I said that offended you, please accept my sincere appology.

No, you didn't. I'm just very sad that every attempt I make at a relationship is one that's doomed to fail. I think it's easier to just find someone I like and sleep with them, no strings (or emotions) attatched.
Thank you for caring.

And Quoll.. *hugs lots*. You're not alone in how you feel.. it's good that you let it out in some form rather than keep it bottled up.

 

[MercyMia]

I don't know.. but I'll make you a deal - if either one of us finds out, let the other know?

You're on, Tighter. I have a sneaking suspicion that deep happiness has something to do with not having expectations...ugh!

 

[MercyMia]

Mia,

Thanks for the support.

I've had a couple of ideas in the back of my mind that I'm waiting for the right time to ask my wife. One is to take message therapy classes at the local high school community extension program. The other is ballroom dancing classes. I can't say I'm into ballroom dancing, because I don't know how, but I can be kind of a klutz sometimes so I might step on her feet lol. Both offer a chance for some physical contact and might be fun. Just got to wait for the right time when things with the kids aren't to busy, and therefore no excuses not to go. my younger son just got his license to drive, so there is only 1 left we need to transport.

If anyone has any other ideas, please let me know.

Hi Scalywag, I admire your perseverance. I'll try to emulate it. My SO is in another of his sudden funks today. It's so hard to remain emotionally stable and light-hearted when the person you're closest to withdraws emotionally and snaps at you and frowns at everything you say, even just hello. He says he needs space. I'm in another room, trying to get things done so he can have space, but my heart is in the pit of my stomach.

 

[MercyMia]

[Rant]One lousy sentence...that's all it took to bring mr crashing down, shit I hate that, a whole bloody day down the fucking toilet. Why couldn't it have just piseed me off and then let me carry on? I actually had ideas, thoughts of what I wanted to do, instead I ended up with a day full of hate and anger, headaches and nausea. To everyone else I was just angry, rude and incommunicative, and yet I wonder what would have happened if I had not fought so hard to keep what was really going on in my head locked away.
At times I so want to blurt out all those thoughts, just to see what happens.
Probably nothing more than the usual fear and pity.[/Rant]

Sometimes I wonder if we'd all be better off if we were deaf so we couldn't hear the hurtful things people say.

I hope you're okay now, quoll.

 

[Quoll]

{{{{{Quoll}}}}}

For you hon.

THANK YOU SWEETHEART​

 

[Quoll]

No, you didn't. I'm just very sad that every attempt I make at a relationship is one that's doomed to fail. I think it's easier to just find someone I like and sleep with them, no strings (or emotions) attatched.
Thank you for caring.

And Quoll.. *hugs lots*. You're not alone in how you feel.. it's good that you let it out in some form rather than keep it bottled up.

Thank you so much Tighter. {{Tighter}} hugs for you, I hope you can reach a place where you can trust again.

 

[Quoll]

Sometimes I wonder if we'd all be better off if we were deaf so we couldn't hear the hurtful things people say.

I hope you're okay now, quoll.

{{{MIA}}} Much better thank you.
I am so sorry that you are suffering, I just wish the thoughts were not there at all, to be the person I used to be.

 

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[christian1971]

The feeling of always being depressed!

I know how some or most of you feel dealing with the Depression Anxiety and the Panic Attacks. I know how hard it is to get up everyday and try to think postive and all that is in your head is negitive. The feeling of fear when you want to go out and do something that you use to enjoy but now fear. And others not understanding how or what you feel each day and tease you or say get over it. When deep down inside you know you want to and you try your hardest to "JUST OVER IT". It's not that easy when you are dealing with it, sometimes alone and unable to espress it.

I am slowly tring and slowly getting better I hope, I am getting myself help and I know in time I may not be 100% but I will at least be better then I am now. I do go to therapy 1 a week and group 1 a month. I was taking Zoloft but I felt that really doing much of anything to help. And some of the side effect where worse then the depression and panic attacks.

My depression was I feel caused by breaking up with my G/F who I loved dearly losing my job the same day and the lose of a pet a month later and 2 days after Christmas. Also still not being able to find a full time job and not having to worry about how the next bill mite be paid. Also still being single still wanting to fill that void in my life of love and passion.

My panic attacks and Anxiety are I feel interact with each other. Sometimes when I am going someplace I never been before I worry about what may happen. Or crowed places like parties and things like that, so that also effects my single life since I panic at place where there will be single woman.

But like I said I hope that with the therapy and help with others I can and will get better. I hope that other can and will do the said.

 

[australwind]

You can and you will get through this and get better........your experience is very similar to mine...and I have come out the other side......bruised battered and more wise than before...but out I am. It will take time....and small steps along the way...But you will end up being stronger in the long run (different....more knowing, I think).

Take care

 

[JustSkye]

For you hon.

THANK YOU SWEETHEART​

Ohhh my, wow.

Thank you, baby!

 

[babydoll2u]

No, you didn't. I'm just very sad that every attempt I make at a relationship is one that's doomed to fail. I think it's easier to just find someone I like and sleep with them, no strings (or emotions) attatched......

God, I SO know how you feel.... I just ended a relationship Saturday. I can feel the depression settling in. I'm more than ready for the no-strings-attached route.......

 

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[yesYesYEsYES]

Where does one draw the line between "being down in the dumps" due to different situations and being out and out depressed? I'm going thru alot at the moment due to circumstances beyond my control and find my self being totally down in the dumps almost all the time....so where do you draw the line?

 

[Gil_T2]

Where does one draw the line between "being down in the dumps" due to different situations and being out and out depressed? I'm going thru alot at the moment due to circumstances beyond my control and find my self being totally down in the dumps almost all the time....so where do you draw the line?

First of all you have to face that it is "out of your control" & all the worry can't & won't help & believe me I have mountains on my mind at the moment so can understand what it's like.

 

[Ibsen]

Hey Ibsen,

I've seen you post on this thread but haven't really said hi to you yet. But I've been reading your posts.

I had one side comment about what you just said...I hope you're okay. You seem to survive even though you often sound gloomy. Anyway, nowadays, when I feel crushed or like a big black cloud is making everything dark for me, I remind myself that feelings are temporary, and not always directly related to reality, that I will survive the darkness, and come out in the sunshine.

Hi!

Well, as I have said before, I dont see myself having any other choise then to jump up again. Life is too valuable to just give up. Then that I are getting more and more crancy... Well, hopefully, it goes away after I graduate, 10 months from now.

Ibsen,

sorry to hear you're feeling bad, and hope you're feeling better now. I wish there was something I could say that would bring a smile to your face.

I have to tell you though, your use of the word "friggin" in your last post brought a smile to mine. I never would have thought that 1/4 way around the world, in a country foreign to me, 6 time zones away (i'm in northeast usa) people would use the the same slang as me (i have several other variations too). Every time I come to this site, my eyes open a little wider.

Thanks for the smile.

N

Well, as am one of the best in english in my class, so...

Always good to make people smile.

 

[littleroundman]

Where does one draw the line between "being down in the dumps" due to different situations and being out and out depressed? I'm going thru alot at the moment due to circumstances beyond my control and find my self being totally down in the dumps almost all the time....so where do you draw the line?

You may find the following helpful:

Depression: When used to describe a mood, depression refers to what may be normal feelings of sadness, despair and discouragement. More serious depression may be a symptom of a variety of physical and mental disorders, a syndrome of associated symptoms secondary to an underlying disorder, or it may itself be a specific mental disorder. The disorder known as major depression is characterized by slow thinking, decreased purposeful physical activity, sleep and appetite disturbances, low self-esteem, loss of sex drive and feelings of guilt and hopelessness, apathy, anorexia, lack of emotional expression, social withdrawal, and fatigue



Clinical depression: For depression, or any other condition, to be termed "clinical" it must reach criteria which are generally accepted by clinicians. When symptoms last two weeks or more, and are so severe that they interfere with daily living, one can be said to be suffering from clinical depression.

 

[MercyMia]

God, I SO know how you feel.... I just ended a relationship Saturday. I can feel the depression settling in. I'm more than ready for the no-strings-attached route.......

Hi babydoll2u, ending relationships can be really difficult. I hope you have good stuff to remember from it.
Peace out,
Mia

Hey Ibsen,

10 months to graduation! Keep us posted on your time line! We should have a party on this thread when you finish--I'll bring the um green tea!

littleroundman,

I had also read an article that said that if deep depression lasted for more than 2 weeks, that the person should seriously seek help to get out of it...so I guess we all go through down periods but 2 weeks is the delineation, the red flag that tells us we might need more than consolation from well-meaning friends.

Hi quoll, thanks for the {{{}}} they sure feel good!