Do women love big cocks more?

Can women explain to me, is bigger generally better? What's the minimum size you need to be satisfied?
I am asking because since we started swinging my wife doesn't have sex with me (5 in) anymore, and the men she chooses always seem to be at least twice my size.
My mom is always telling me, "that little dogs do the same damage." In other words, big or small, you can still conceive and become pregnant. Yes many women like a larger penis in their vagina, yet some do not. I am still a virgin, so really one does not have the expertise really to be giving advice on this subject, just expressing my opinion. Yet what do teenage girls. a virgin know about it?
 
My mom is always telling me, "that little dogs do the same damage." In other words, big or small, you can still conceive and become pregnant. Yes many women like a larger penis in their vagina, yet some do not. I am still a virgin, so really one does not have the expertise really to be giving advice on this subject, just expressing my opinion. Yet what do teenage girls. a virgin know about it?

I think that in this context we are looking at sex as a source of pleasure, not strictly for procreation. It is true that most any penis can put sperm inside you but that has little do with whether you enjoy it.
 
If you are like me, excited by visual stimuli, certain aspects of a physique may excite more or less and these tastes may change on a dime.

On first blush, I'd like to see a nude woman with a fit, toned body and shapely legs, and nice big d-cup breasts. But if this goddess is silent, bored, and just lays there, I'm off to find something better.

I may find myself later jerking off to a plump BBW who talks dirty and screams when she cums.

So, I think many women are attracted to the idea of big cocks and the visual impact of seeing a big cock, many are also afraid of being hurt by clumsy penetration of a big cock.
 
Additionally, I am a fast cummer. She hates that too.
You can learn to better control that, at least. Who knows, you might even gain the confidence that gives you a fighting chance against the 10-inchers (?)
 
Take a look at this: https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/20102448/

If I could snap my fingers and make mine a couple inches longer, I would without hesitation - but since it's already big enough for most uses, and misuses, investing 4 to 9 hours a day for 3 months doesn't seem worth the effort. But perhaps it is to you. Over that time, the participants gained almost 1". At that point the study was over, but there's no reason to think further gains couldn't be made.
I think if you use the pumps over time you'll grow that much if you just keep doing it for years. I'm not doing all that hanging but I'd do a pump on low settings once or twice a week for a few minutes. I bet you grow like a quarter inch a year at least.
You can learn to better control that, at least. Who knows, you might even gain the confidence that gives you a fighting chance against the 10-inchers (?)
Ideal size is 7-8. There's no reason to aspire to be much bigger than that as far as I can tell.
 
Ideal size is 7-8. There's no reason to aspire to be much bigger than that as far as I can tell.
Ideal for whom and for what? A lot of this thread is focusing on how women are not fungible with respect to their preferences for penis size. For example, 7~8 is far from ideal for me for vaginal sex, at least on a regular basis. I prefer shorter as it lessens the chance for painfully deep penetration. But for anal or oral, sure, I'd be okay with 7~8. And thinner would be better for anal, but thicker better for oral (I like the challenge 😈) and vaginal, at least for me. Other women will have other preferences.

Although, that's all academic for me anymore. Unless I ever convince Hubby to swing, his is my one and only penis. He's definitely on the thick side, and I put him a bit longer than the median of guys I've been with (a bit over 6", probably). And that's all great with me, even anal. Does that mean I wouldn't try a 10" or larger if the chance came up? Nope. I would, especially if he was experienced. Some of the women who like longer penises have made me intrigued what it would feel like with a guy who wasn't just ramming it as far in as he could (all my prior experiences with guys with longer than average dicks). But wanting to try or wanting to sometimes feel something different is not the same as what I prefer, or what is ideal for me. For the long term, Hubby is ideal for me, and not just his penis (although it is my all time favorite 😉😍❤️).
 
If you are like me, excited by visual stimuli, certain aspects of a physique may excite more or less and these tastes may change on a dime.

On first blush, I'd like to see a nude woman with a fit, toned body and shapely legs, and nice big d-cup breasts. But if this goddess is silent, bored, and just lays there, I'm off to find something better.

I may find myself later jerking off to a plump BBW who talks dirty and screams when she cums.

So, I think many women are attracted to the idea of big cocks and the visual impact of seeing a big cock, many are also afraid of being hurt by clumsy penetration of a big cock.
That last sentence… in 2017 I hooked up with a very well endowed man who wasn’t patient, didn’t make sure I was “ready to go,” and decided to just go ham and jackhammer me. He tore me and I had to go to the doctor…imagine that conversation. 🤦🏻‍♀️ 6-8 weeks of pelvic rest and some numbing cream, thankfully no stitches. Ever since, I steer clear of big dicks.
 
That last sentence… in 2017 I hooked up with a very well endowed man who wasn’t patient, didn’t make sure I was “ready to go,” and decided to just go ham and jackhammer me. He tore me and I had to go to the doctor…imagine that conversation. 🤦🏻‍♀️ 6-8 weeks of pelvic rest and some numbing cream, thankfully no stitches. Ever since, I steer clear of big dicks.
Yikes! That hurts just to read.
 
I do not. I prefer 5-7” with girth. Anything less, for me, is a disappointment. Anything bigger and I will run out of the fucking room.
Even average thickness used to hurt, but that was more my emotional issues causing me to tense up. I was usually fine when I was drunk enough not to care. Even so, I had a lot more oral only hookups in college than vaginal sex hookups. Vaginal sex usually came at parties when I was really drunk.
 
Ideal for whom and for what? A lot of this thread is focusing on how women are not fungible with respect to their preferences for penis size. For example, 7~8 is far from ideal for me for vaginal sex, at least on a regular basis. I prefer shorter as it lessens the chance for painfully deep penetration. But for anal or oral, sure, I'd be okay with 7~8. And thinner would be better for anal, but thicker better for oral (I like the challenge 😈) and vaginal, at least for me. Other women will have other preferences.

Although, that's all academic for me anymore. Unless I ever convince Hubby to swing, his is my one and only penis. He's definitely on the thick side, and I put him a bit longer than the median of guys I've been with (a bit over 6", probably). And that's all great with me, even anal. Does that mean I wouldn't try a 10" or larger if the chance came up? Nope. I would, especially if he was experienced. Some of the women who like longer penises have made me intrigued what it would feel like with a guy who wasn't just ramming it as far in as he could (all my prior experiences with guys with longer than average dicks). But wanting to try or wanting to sometimes feel something different is not the same as what I prefer, or what is ideal for me. For the long term, Hubby is ideal for me, and not just his penis (although it is my all time favorite 😉😍❤️).

Even those of us who are willing to state a size preference consistently reinforce the premise that things like personal connection and paying attention to what a woman wants are more important factors. It is ironic that men who want to advance that same premise do it by consistently disregarding female individuality (i.e. not listening to what individual women want) in order to come up with a narrative that is reassuring to them.
 
I do not. I prefer 5-7” with girth. Anything less, for me, is a disappointment. Anything bigger and I will run out of the fucking room.

Fucking room. Good pun whether intended or not. 😆

And sounds like I'm right in the goldilocks zone. 🤣

That last sentence… in 2017 I hooked up with a very well endowed man who wasn’t patient, didn’t make sure I was “ready to go,” and decided to just go ham and jackhammer me. He tore me and I had to go to the doctor…imagine that conversation. 🤦🏻‍♀️ 6-8 weeks of pelvic rest and some numbing cream, thankfully no stitches. Ever since, I steer clear of big dicks.

That sucks. I'm not THAT big, but it still takes a good bit of foreplay and taking my time starting out to make sure things feel good for everyone.
 
Of course, it's like that question about guy's dreaming about what it would be like to have sex with a woman with really large breasts. He's quite content having regular sex with his relatively flat-chested partner, in fact he's very fond of playing with her little boobs, and yet - at the same time, he can't help wondering what it would be like to fuck a woman with huge breasts...
Same with women, I'm sure. They are reconciled to having sex with a partner who is hung like a mouse because he's a nice guy and because she cares for him. But, at the same time, she finds her imagination straying to that guy with a cock so huge it would make her jaw ache just to suck it, and her pussy would be sensitive for a week after he'd used it to fuck her... and she yearns to know...
Speaking from a girls point of view and my lesbian friend. We've both been married and now divorced. My husband shared me with his workmates and it got out of hand.
I've has many cocks in that time, big and small. Some guys with big cocks have a tiny amount of cum and some small cocks shoot huge loads.
My absolute maximum I can take is just over 7 inches, any longer and it's banging on my cervix and that's uncomfortable.
What girls do like is a bit of girth and I'm no exception. Just to feel the thickness as it opens my lips and slides past my Gspot is pure heaven.
So a long length is not always needed. Some men I've have had, had short length but big on girth.
Trying to suck a huge cock isn't pleasant either if I can't get all of the head into my mouth which is what guys like.
For me, shorter and thick is perfect with a decent amount of cum.
 
Wife likes average to maybe above average…5-8”. Anything larger than that, she’s fantasized about sucking and it’s erotic to see, but she doesn’t like sex with huge cocks because they bottom out in her and she says it doesn’t feel good.
Your wife and I have the same preference. I have been with super huge men before and found it painful if they don't know what they are doing.
 
When an early girlfriend was blowing me for the first time, she looked at it and said, 'that could hurt - it is a good size.' By her own admission she got around a bit, so I would assume she was a better judge of cock size than me. In the event, it did not hurt, as she was very turned on when I eventually put it in her. I was having too much fun eating pussy. Now I'm not huge, but I am a good inch bigger than the average both ways, and that is enough to require 'care and attention whilst fucking.'
 
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Of course, it's like that question about guy's dreaming about what it would be like to have sex with a woman with really large breasts. He's quite content having regular sex with his relatively flat-chested partner, in fact he's very fond of playing with her little boobs, and yet - at the same time, he can't help wondering what it would be like to fuck a woman with huge breasts...
Same with women, I'm sure. They are reconciled to having sex with a partner who is hung like a mouse because he's a nice guy and because she cares for him. But, at the same time, she finds her imagination straying to that guy with a cock so huge it would make her jaw ache just to suck it, and her pussy would be sensitive for a week after he'd used it to fuck her... and she yearns to know...
My first gf was totally not my type. But when i first met her, I thought...hmmmmm, she has enormous tits!!!! Soooo exciting!! We fucked 6 times that night.
 
For an alternate perspective, I’ve recently acquired a crush on a trans girl, and visually, a smaller cock feels more feminine and more aesthetically aligned with why I like girls. In a penis in vagina sense, though, I had pelvic floor issues for years and got used to a smaller (4” and slender) cock in my pussy. Anything big hurt too much. Same with anal, smaller feels better. And someone in earlier posts mentioned that big-cock-havers can generate more sensation and perhaps don’t have to be as creative in utilization… let’s just say I prefer creative partners, anyway.

Raising my wine glass to small cocks everywhere! My holes welcome you. Big boys needn’t apply.
 
For an alternate perspective, I’ve recently acquired a crush on a trans girl, and visually, a smaller cock feels more feminine and more aesthetically aligned with why I like girls. In a penis in vagina sense, though, I had pelvic floor issues for years and got used to a smaller (4” and slender) cock in my pussy. Anything big hurt too much. Same with anal, smaller feels better. And someone in earlier posts mentioned that big-cock-havers can generate more sensation and perhaps don’t have to be as creative in utilization… let’s just say I prefer creative partners, anyway.
Raising my wine glass to small cocks everywhere! My holes welcome you. Big boys needn’t apply.
Offering my tongue as a willing alternative...?
Large cock, but enthusiastic tongue...
 
How enthusiastic? Looking for temporal metrics.
Not quite sure what that means... which is unusual for me, usually I'm good at getting my tongue around concepts...?
Do you mean the duration of my clit-licking...? I'm assuming you are multi-orgasmic in order to measure up...?
 
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