Do women love big cocks more?

[magicalmoments]

This is a male perspective of my wife's attitude and experience with different sized cocks when we were having MFM 3'sums.
When it came to the other guy cock size was the last thing she concerned herself with. She preferred a long getting to know you period, lots of phone calls, an initial meeting coffee date, and at least two out for a meal dates, all focused on getting to know the guy and making sure there was a click, a spark. It also eliminated arseholes who were out for a quick fuck, they generally didn't have the patience. Once the getting to know you period was over the next date was usually all on 3'sum. This was usually the first look at his cock and she preferred shorter rather than longer, at least not longer than me. She had a couple of guys about the same size as me, 7" erect but most were smaller. She found longer tended to hurt her, mainly by bumping hard against her cervix which she hated. Thickness though, that was another story, although most of the guys we meet were fairly normal in that regard.

When we were lovemaking, just her and I, she loved being fucked by thick objects. Her favourite were really thick courgettes/cucumbers. She'd pick out the ones that she wanted to try and I'd use them on her, hard and fast, but not deep,. Man she used to cum so hard on those occasions. She loved being filled up.

 

[ImiGirrst]

You know honestly though, if women didn’t want to be with guys who had smaller dicks y’all would have been privy to natural selections and everyone’s dick would be huge. So I think the natural variation in size is the biggest proof of all that it probably doesn’t really matter. And if she really has an issue with it in this day and age, buy a dildo.

I love this answer! Science Bi-atch!

I think that there is often a certain amount of unconscious bias related to our own personal circumstances.

Women married to men of average endowment are more inclined to say size doesn't matter. They want to believe it to be supportive of their husband and the life choice that they made. I'm not saying they aren't sincere, just that there are other motivations present and they may shut out anything that doesn't align with their preferred narrative..

Single women "playing the field" are more inclined to say size does matter. For a woman exploring her sexuality it is natural to consider better endowed men. She may ultimately conclude that it isn't important to her in the long run but for that period she will have a preference.

And women who have limited or no experience with either extreme will often weigh in on the subject. Even when they have no experience from which to speak they have their own preconceptions which they are inclined to reinforce.

There was a study done a while ago wherein women were asked what their preferred size was for a husband and for a sexual liaison. The preferred sizes cited for a sexual liaison were consistently larger than the preferred size cited for a husband. In both cases the preferred size was not huge. It was average to modestly above average. But there was a preference and the difference between the two examples was statistically significant.

Respectfully, I disagree with you. My first lover, whom I eventually married, was well hung. I had no idea that he was an anomaly until I was out at a toy shop with a guy friend. His mouth hit the floor when I complained about the dildos we were looking at - I said why would I want to buy any of those when I have that or better at home. That's how I found out he was hung.

As I got older, my husband's cock size really became an issue. As menopause got closer, I didn't like having sex with him as much because it hurt. And unfortunately, he really didn't make the time for us to have a date on a regular basis where I could get warmed up enough where his cock wouldn't hurt. And this is true for many women, especially if they are older and it's been a while since they had sex. Even an average size cock may be painful. There just isn't as much padding and if you don't use it, you lose it.

Conversely, I had a totally different reaction in my first sexual encounter after we agreed to open our marriage. My first thought when I got a look was "That's it?" I didn't say that out loud, but proceeded to find out I really liked giving blow jobs when I could fit my partner's cock comfortably in my mouth.

I was on a dating site earlier this year, and I got a message from a much younger man. I thanked him and turned him down. He replied that he had a big dick - with proof thereof. I don't think he was expecting me to reply that his pic absolutely reinforced that I made the right decision.

So I think there are all kinds of reasons that some women want bigger dicks and some want average dicks and some want smaller dicks. Let's not forget that in many cases, people are happy with whatever their partner's dick looks like because it is attached to their partner! And lastly, the grass is always greener on the other side - if it's just a physical thing, well, people may want to try what they haven't before. Thank goodness there are plenty to choose from.

 

[policywank]

I love this answer! Science Bi-atch!


Respectfully, I disagree with you. My first lover, whom I eventually married, was well hung. I had no idea that he was an anomaly until I was out at a toy shop with a guy friend. His mouth hit the floor when I complained about the dildos we were looking at - I said why would I want to buy any of those when I have that or better at home. That's how I found out he was hung.

As I got older, my husband's cock size really became an issue. As menopause got closer, I didn't like having sex with him as much because it hurt. And unfortunately, he really didn't make the time for us to have a date on a regular basis where I could get warmed up enough where his cock wouldn't hurt. And this is true for many women, especially if they are older and it's been a while since they had sex. Even an average size cock may be painful. There just isn't as much padding and if you don't use it, you lose it.

Conversely, I had a totally different reaction in my first sexual encounter after we agreed to open our marriage. My first thought when I got a look was "That's it?" I didn't say that out loud, but proceeded to find out I really liked giving blow jobs when I could fit my partner's cock comfortably in my mouth.

I was on a dating site earlier this year, and I got a message from a much younger man. I thanked him and turned him down. He replied that he had a big dick - with proof thereof. I don't think he was expecting me to reply that his pic absolutely reinforced that I made the right decision.

So I think there are all kinds of reasons that some women want bigger dicks and some want average dicks and some want smaller dicks. Let's not forget that in many cases, people are happy with whatever their partner's dick looks like because it is attached to their partner! And lastly, the grass is always greener on the other side - if it's just a physical thing, well, people may want to try what they haven't before. Thank goodness there are plenty to choose from.

Respectfully, I don't know what you are disagreeing with as we are talking about different things and to the extent our comments overlap we seem to be in agreement.

My comments were about a sampling of women (both statistical and anecdotal) whereas you are talking about your specific experience. One doesn't negate the other. It is clearly understood when talking about a sample of views that there are a range of perspectives.

Meanwhile my comments are intentionally isolated to the question of size - an "all there things being equal" point of view. You are factoring in other things like how much the man invests in setting the mood and how a woman feels about the man she is with - not an "all other things being equal" point of view and in fact an intentionally "other things matter more" point of view. Neither is right or wrong. We are just addressing different questions.

If I told you that I don't like beef because my husband buys discount cuts of meat and tends to overcook them, you could see that beef or not isn't really the issue there. Likewise if I said, but I still really enjoy the meal because he prepared it for me and I know he loves me you could see that we still aren't talking about beef or not. In fact, that whole commentary completely avoids any useful assessment or perspective on whether or not I like beef.

We agree, there are all kinds of reasons why some women want bigger dicks, average dicks or smaller dicks. I never said otherwise. And I certainly never said those of us who want bigger dicks necessarily want them huge. What I said (across all of my posts) was that all other things being equal most women do have a preference and if they are seeking a primarily sexual encounter that preference on average tends to be modestly larger than average.

 

[HoldYouDown]

Is this the 57th or 58th Literotica thread that has posed this question?! Deja Vu all over again…it’s the Groundhog Day Question of Literotica questions…

Yeah and I wouldn't put much stock in any of these threads. People who don't know what 5 vs 8 inches looks like, statistically unlikely self reporting, self conscious worrying and fantasizing, etc. etc. Most people have no idea how big a dick is by looking at it and will either exaggerate or be told exaggerations and repeat them. There are also so many other factors that go into whether sex will happen that by the time the pants come off, size is usually incidental. But there will always be obsessives and trolls looking to objectify penises.

 

[ImiGirrst]

Respectfully, I don't know what you are disagreeing with as we are talking about different things and to the extent our comments overlap we seem to be in agreement.

My comments were about a sampling of women (both statistical and anecdotal) whereas you are talking about your specific experience. One doesn't negate the other. It is clearly understood when talking about a sample of views that there are a range of perspectives.

Meanwhile my comments are intentionally isolated to the question of size - an "all there things being equal" point of view. You are factoring in other things like how much the man invests in setting the mood and how a woman feels about the man she is with - not an "all other things being equal" point of view and in fact an intentionally "other things matter more" point of view. Neither is right or wrong. We are just addressing different questions.

If I told you that I don't like beef because my husband buys discount cuts of meat and tends to overcook them, you could see that beef or not isn't really the issue there. Likewise if I said, but I still really enjoy the meal because he prepared it for me and I know he loves me you could see that we still aren't talking about beef or not. In fact, that whole commentary completely avoids any useful assessment or perspective on whether or not I like beef.

We agree, there are all kinds of reasons why some women want bigger dicks, average dicks or smaller dicks. I never said otherwise. And I certainly never said those of us who want bigger dicks necessarily want them huge. What I said (across all of my posts) was that all other things being equal most women do have a preference and if they are seeking a primarily sexual encounter that preference on average tends to be modestly larger than average.

Well, there are a lot of posts and threads on this forum where folks don't see information that can co-exist as you pointed out. Therefore I tend to err on the side of caution on a counter or additional point. However, I would concur with this post.

 

[BongoGal]

Yeah and I wouldn't put much stock in any of these threads. People who don't know what 5 vs 8 inches looks like, statistically unlikely self reporting, self conscious worrying and fantasizing, etc. etc. Most people have no idea how big a dick is by looking at it and will either exaggerate or be told exaggerations and repeat them. There are also so many other factors that go into whether sex will happen that by the time the pants come off, size is usually incidental. But there will always be obsessives and trolls looking to objectify penises.

I don't ever believe the measurement of penis sizes by the penis owners or by penis observers. I suspect that five guys with exactly the same size penises will all have different self-measurements because they will all measure things differently. And each of the five same-sized penises observed and judged by others will all have differing estimates for a variety of reasons. And that is under good inspection conditions. In most real-life scenarios, things are dimly lit and generally not conducive to accurate size guesses.

There are also so many other factors that go into whether sex will happen that by the time the pants come off, size is usually incidental.

I can't fully concur with this, though, beyond it usually not being an actual dealbreaker.

 

[Bbl87]

I don't ever believe the measurement of penis sizes by the penis owners or by penis observers. I suspect that five guys with exactly the same size penises will all have different self-measurements because they will all measure things differently. And each of the five same-sized penises observed and judged by others will all have differing estimates for a variety of reasons. And that is under good inspection conditions. In most real-life scenarios, things are dimly lit and generally not conducive to accurate size guesses.

I think you're giving men too much credit. I think more lie than measure incorrectly. With some of the lengths some guys claim, I'm pretty sure they're measuring starting from their asshole if they think they're actually being truthful.

I think that's one of several reasons it's hard to estimate penis sizes for alot of people.

I've also found that people are more skeptical about length, and more likely to lie about it, than girth. I'm a little over average length-wise but quite large girth-wise. People don't tend to question when I'm asked about measurements, probably because I'm not claiming to have outlandish length.

 

[BrandNewKelly]

Yes

 

[Bbl87]

Yes

Simple and to the point. I like it.

 

[BrandNewKelly]

Simple and to the point. I like it.

No notes.

 

[BongoGal]

I've also found that people are more skeptical about length, and more likely to lie about it, than girth. I'm a little over average length-wise but quite large girth-wise. People don't tend to question when I'm asked about measurements, probably because I'm not claiming to have outlandish length.

They also don't have any reference point for girth.

 

[Filipinawife]

I like to feel it stretching me as it goes in. As I am petite I don’t need a huge cock to do that. Most importantly the guy needs to be hard and last for some time so I can really enjoy myself.

 

[Bbl87]

They also don't have any reference point for girth.

Very true. I do typically have to provide one. I learned alot about the size of household objects trying to figure it out.

 

[Kitty_so_frisky]

Very true. I do typically have to provide one. I learned alot about the size of household objects trying to figure it out.

So...which household objects would you compare it to?

 

[Bbl87]

So...which household objects would you compare it to?

That's more of a PM question.

 

[Kitty_so_frisky]

LOL to answer the OP though, there is definitely such a thing as it being too big Within a normal size range is fine as long as he knows what to do with it and doesn't trigger the gag reflex :x

 

[jason28053]

So...which household objects would you compare it to?

I hope he doesn’t say blender

 

[Bdm20]

How does a guy avoid triggering the gag reflex? Simply by making sure she doesn’t take all of it?

 

[Bbl87]

I hope he doesn’t say blender

That'd be a whole different meaning to "wrecking that pussy" as the kids say.

And I don't mind talking about it, just don't want to hijack the thread and turn it into a "who has the biggest dick" extravaganza.

 

[policywank]

How does a guy avoid triggering the gag reflex? Simply by making sure she doesn’t take all of it?

For me managing the gag reflex is up to me. Part of it is just learned behaviour - suppressing that involuntary response - and part of it is technique.

I don't really want a guy fucking my face, I'd rather establish the rhythm. To the extent that I am now very proficient in managing my gag reflex I can deal with a guy thrusting somewhat (though again the aggressive face fucking you see in porn is of little interest to women), but better that he let me establish the rhythm.

 

[BongoGal]

For me managing the gag reflex is up to me. Part of it is just learned behaviour - suppressing that involuntary response - and part of it is technique.

Exactly! I taught myself by practicing on a dildo. Long before I was sexually active, I learned that oral sex was something I wanted to be good at.

 

[WonderPonder]

My wife has only ever had intercourse with me until New Years eve. After 30 years of marriage and me with serious health issues since August she is now seeing someone else with my urging.
I'm 4.75" hard with a 3.5" to 3.75" circumference. He's just under 7" with a circumference of around 5.5". We have a hollow strap on cock that's 6" by 5.25" and she says he's a little bigger than that. She says his size is much better for intercourse and had orgasms with him but has never with me, only by oral. Plus with him they can do more positions.

 

[LizVegas79]

Yes, bigger is generally better. Especially if it's nice and thick. Although, like many other women on here have already said, it's not automatic. Having a big cock and knowing how to use it are two different things.

 

[ouchfeelsgood]

Yes, bigger is generally better. Especially if it's nice and thick. Although, like many other women on here have already said, it's not automatic. Having a big cock and knowing how to use it are two different things.

I've been told on multiple encounters, over the years, that girth is the most important factor. That does make sense from the standpoint of optimal stimulation. Of course, this is by no means a scientific survey.

And you're quite right -- knowing how to use it makes all the difference.

Happy and naughty New Year, btw!!

 

[Familiemom]

I do