Do women love big cocks more?

Can women explain to me, is bigger generally better? What's the minimum size you need to be satisfied?
I am asking because since we started swinging my wife doesn't have sex with me (5 in) anymore, and the men she chooses always seem to be at least twice my size.
I’ve seen a lot of cocks and only one was “at least twice” 5 inches. He wasn’t able to get fully erect (no idea if the size was a factor) and so liked oral more than fucking. 7 - 8 inches is not extraordinary, 10 inches is. I’m not saying it doesn’t exist, but unless you live in an area contaminated by fall out from a nuclear accident, I’m unsure as to the verity of you claim about your wife.

FWIW, thickness does it more for me. Also, as I was saying to someone in a PM earlier, for vaginal, size is less important than competency. I do like to be very full with anal, but then that’s probably just me and 0.01% of other women.

I do like going down on a big guy. But that’s more from an iconography POV than anything practical. Surely the object of worship should be monumental. Think 2001 A Space Odyssey.

My boyfriend is an inch (maybe 1.5 inches) shorter than my main college fuck buddy. I have cum harder with my boyfriend than any other man or woman. He’s above average in size, but the point still stands. Size is not everything.

Em
 
Guys are way more obsessed size than most women are. The majority of Men fall in a 4-7 inch range. Knowing how to use what you have is far more important than an extra inch or so. Visually i think every woman has a "type" they're attracted to more. If I can find it again I'll post it here it was a survey that women can take to find whwt cock most excites them most.
 
Guys are way more obsessed size than most women are. The majority of Men fall in a 4-7 inch range. Knowing how to use what you have is far more important than an extra inch or so. Visually i think every woman has a "type" they're attracted to more. If I can find it again I'll post it here it was a survey that women can take to find whwt cock most excites them most.
Well said .. My one friend used to say " I may not big or long but i can bang the hell out of sides..." My saying- What my cock cant do my tongue makes up the difference !
 
Too bad this thread is all about Tim’s fantasies instead of a real conversation providing real information
 
I’ve seen a lot of cocks and only one was “at least twice” 5 inches. He wasn’t able to get fully erect (no idea if the size was a factor) and so liked oral more than fucking. 7 - 8 inches is not extraordinary, 10 inches is. I’m not saying it doesn’t exist, but unless you live in an area contaminated by fall out from a nuclear accident, I’m unsure as to the verity of you claim about your wife.

FWIW, thickness does it more for me. Also, as I was saying to someone in a PM earlier, for vaginal, size is less important than competency. I do like to be very full with anal, but then that’s probably just me and 0.01% of other women.

I do like going down on a big guy. But that’s more from an iconography POV than anything practical. Surely the object of worship should be monumental. Think 2001 A Space Odyssey.

My boyfriend is an inch (maybe 1.5 inches) shorter than my main college fuck buddy. I have cum harder with my boyfriend than any other man or woman. He’s above average in size, but the point still stands. Size is not everything.

Em
Interesting points you make. My fair lady mentions that to her, there’s also something about shape of a cock. I’m totally average size in length and girth. One of her other lovers was much longer and thicker, something like a fairly thick 8 or 9 inches. But the one who really got her going was a guy about the same length as me, roughly six inches. But where my cock is fairly uniform in girth, this other guy has a distinctive taper. His head is same size as mine, but he’s like twice as thick at the base. She had an orgasm every time fucking with him. That extra girth when pushed in deeply, really pushed her buttons..lol. Rarely orgasms from vaginal sex with me, or the dude who was packing ~9 inches. Go figure!
 
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This thread has been an interesting read. I was endowed with an average length and girth, but seem to not have that now. I blame aging, overweight, & vasectomy, but that is a different topic. I am fairly recently divorced from a very long relationship and doubt I will be active with someone else again. One of my fears is rejection due to my small size, and that fear is based on 2 incidents. First was a few years back, online streaming was starting to take off and a young lady shared a story about how she was going to hook up will a fella but when she seen his small penis, she got up and left. Ok, not a nice person and probably not the norm. But recently I had a person disclose to me that one of the issues in her relationship was that her significant other sported a small penis. Thanks for letting me share my view.
 
When we were younger my wife would say that cock size didn't matter, but she would do it with the sort of deflection that we seem to always see with this topic. Things like "what matters more is the man attached to it" or "it matters more what you do with it" or "just be happy with what you have."

I've come to realize that those statements are all valid, but they are a bit of a dodge. It doesn't actually mean they have no preference at all. Over time she has opened up more and allowed me to listen in on women talking about their preferences. And at least for my wife and her friends there is a preference. Most prefer above average (6"-8") and prefer a man who is girthy.

If you are like me and don't have those characteristics there is no reason to be overly sensitive about it. Women are not as hung up on it as we are. But many do have a preference. And it seems as though women who stray or seek a casual partner after the end of a relationship do tend to choose more well endowed men.
 
https://unravelingsize.wordpress.com/

Good read for dispelling myths about penis size.

A lot of people think they have been with 8-inchers. Statistically it's highly unlikely. I don't find that most people have a good eyeball for measurements, especially penises. If the guy was good in bed then s/he'll probably round up and be generous to make him sound impressive. Obviously we know people with penises will round up their own size. :)

That plus porn and body dysmorphia / size shaming have made it easy to exploit size for all kinds of purposes.

Note I'm not saying there's anything wrong with liking big dicks. Just that most people exaggerate, whether they have a dick or not.

And yes I say this knowing full well my avatar glorifies size. Thinking about changing it, just haven't had the time (and not sure if I can, Lit's sytem is a mess).
 
When we were younger my wife would say that cock size didn't matter, but she would do it with the sort of deflection that we seem to always see with this topic. Things like "what matters more is the man attached to it" or "it matters more what you do with it" or "just be happy with what you have."

I've come to realize that those statements are all valid, but they are a bit of a dodge. It doesn't actually mean they have no preference at all. Over time she has opened up more and allowed me to listen in on women talking about their preferences. And at least for my wife and her friends there is a preference. Most prefer above average (6"-8") and prefer a man who is girthy.

If you are like me and don't have those characteristics there is no reason to be overly sensitive about it. Women are not as hung up on it as we are. But many do have a preference. And it seems as though women who stray or seek a casual partner after the end of a relationship do tend to choose more well endowed men.

I think that there is often a certain amount of unconscious bias related to our own personal circumstances.

Women married to men of average endowment are more inclined to say size doesn't matter. They want to believe it to be supportive of their husband and the life choice that they made. I'm not saying they aren't sincere, just that there are other motivations present and they may shut out anything that doesn't align with their preferred narrative..

Single women "playing the field" are more inclined to say size does matter. For a woman exploring her sexuality it is natural to consider better endowed men. She may ultimately conclude that it isn't important to her in the long run but for that period she will have a preference.

And women who have limited or no experience with either extreme will often weigh in on the subject. Even when they have no experience from which to speak they have their own preconceptions which they are inclined to reinforce.

There was a study done a while ago wherein women were asked what their preferred size was for a husband and for a sexual liaison. The preferred sizes cited for a sexual liaison were consistently larger than the preferred size cited for a husband. In both cases the preferred size was not huge. It was average to modestly above average. But there was a preference and the difference between the two examples was statistically significant.
 
I know my wife wants a fwb that is well endowed .
She’s also told her colleges .
Both men & women
 
Size has never been an issue with me as long as a guy knows how to use it and has decent stamina. Although I do have a friend that is rather thick and I'd guess around 8 inches in length. I don't carry a ruler!! lol Another friend of a friend has a BBC but I've never seen it for real, just a photo. Looks way too big to enjoy!! 😲
 
Size has never been an issue with me as long as a guy knows how to use it and has decent stamina. Although I do have a friend that is rather thick and I'd guess around 8 inches in length. I don't carry a ruler!! lol Another friend of a friend has a BBC but I've never seen it for real, just a photo. Looks way too big to enjoy!! 😲
Send him my way Bonnie!! 😂😂
 
Can women explain to me, is bigger generally better? What's the minimum size you need to be satisfied?
I am asking because since we started swinging my wife doesn't have sex with me (5 in) anymore, and the men she chooses always seem to be at least twice my size.
I've had sex with men of every race, age and size over the past 35 years x Doesn't matter to me about size, the visual that a guy is hard for me, in front of me before fucking is good, though experienced all sizes from 4" to about 10" with guys x never making love, normally fucked hard or sucked to completion x
Always depended on the guy at the end of the cock how much pleasure I've received during, including attention to my clitoris and tits etc during x Guys with smaller cocks tend to be more attentive and experienced with their tongues, lol x x x
 
I think that there is often a certain amount of unconscious bias related to our own personal circumstances.

Women married to men of average endowment are more inclined to say size doesn't matter. They want to believe it to be supportive of their husband and the life choice that they made. I'm not saying they aren't sincere, just that there are other motivations present and they may shut out anything that doesn't align with their preferred narrative..

Single women "playing the field" are more inclined to say size does matter. For a woman exploring her sexuality it is natural to consider better endowed men. She may ultimately conclude that it isn't important to her in the long run but for that period she will have a preference.

And women who have limited or no experience with either extreme will often weigh in on the subject. Even when they have no experience from which to speak they have their own preconceptions which they are inclined to reinforce.

There was a study done a while ago wherein women were asked what their preferred size was for a husband and for a sexual liaison. The preferred sizes cited for a sexual liaison were consistently larger than the preferred size cited for a husband. In both cases the preferred size was not huge. It was average to modestly above average. But there was a preference and the difference between the two examples was statistically significant.

It is not surprising that women naturally edit themselves when this topic comes up. Men as a group are sufficiently sensitive to this topic that for women there is no upside to engaging in the conversation. Meanwhile we are constantly trying to find some way to get women to tell us what we want to hear. They oblige us to get us to shut the fuck up about it, but we sort of know that is what they are doing so nothing changes.

I think that it is almost self evident at this point that the reality is that it matters more to some women than others. And overall it doesn't seem to matter to women nearly as much as it does to men. But we are never going to get to the place where one can realistically say it doesn't matter at all to any woman ever.

It is a bit like saying does height matter to women. We can weigh in with all kinds of different perspectives and judgments and maybe we can compel our own wife or gf to tell us what we want to hear. But the fact remains that height matters to some women. It is what it is. If you are not tall, look elsewhere.
 
It is not surprising that women naturally edit themselves when this topic comes up. Men as a group are sufficiently sensitive to this topic that for women there is no upside to engaging in the conversation. Meanwhile we are constantly trying to find some way to get women to tell us what we want to hear. They oblige us to get us to shut the fuck up about it, but we sort of know that is what they are doing so nothing changes.

I think that it is almost self evident at this point that the reality is that it matters more to some women than others. And overall it doesn't seem to matter to women nearly as much as it does to men. But we are never going to get to the place where one can realistically say it doesn't matter at all to any woman ever.

It is a bit like saying does height matter to women. We can weigh in with all kinds of different perspectives and judgments and maybe we can compel our own wife or gf to tell us what we want to hear. But the fact remains that height matters to some women. It is what it is. If you are not tall, look elsewhere.

Pretty good summary, honestly.

One thing I've learned by hanging out on subreddits like r/penissize and r/bigdickproblems is, for the most part, men care alot more about penis size than women do.

And I've said it before and I'll say it again... we tend to focus way too much on length when girth matters just as much if not more.
 
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Is this the 57th or 58th Literotica thread that has posed this question?! Deja Vu all over again…it’s the Groundhog Day Question of Literotica questions…
2024 will bring a new crop of the same questions. It will never end because there is a contingent of smaller-than-average guys who get off on hearing about how their size is a problem.
 
Idk, when I was younger I definitely went through a phase where bigger was better for me. I was small in terms of body size and in my prime, early 20s and extremely horny and wanted to be destroyed, lmao.

Nowadays my body has changed and I don’t notice that much of a thrill from a bigger dick. I still like a certain size but it’s not like I’m out there craving the biggest possible any longer. So perhaps too for your lady it’s more of a fad. I think it’s common for tastes to change over time, and often when something is new it is more exciting.
 
You know honestly though, if women didn’t want to be with guys who had smaller dicks y’all would have been privy to natural selections and everyone’s dick would be huge. So I think the natural variation in size is the biggest proof of all that it probably doesn’t really matter. And if she really has an issue with it in this day and age, buy a dildo.
 
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