Do you ever feel real emotions for someone you've met on here?

[TennebYzzil]

I had a year long relationship with a man I met on another site, and it was long-distance, and we only met up once, but I know I loved him and when he broke it off with me the pain was as much as if he were someone I had seen and touched on a daily basis.

 

[Dirt_in_the_Ground]

Or reading trash erotica.

Funny. I lost interest in erotic material around the same time I lost interest in baseball. Both seemed too slow and trivial to hold my interest. Now I just like to mow the lawn and cook. I will soon just be a grumpy old man. I will still try to feel you up, though, just to prove to myself that I'm still alive. Just smack me when I get too fresh.

 

[LustfulIntentions2]

I feel this need to clarify that I’m not heartbroken...I’m annoyed. I treat everyone with honesty and respect and I expect that in return. Apparently I expect too much from people.

I think the part in bold here is the really important part. i know I do my best to be as honest and up front about where I'm at, and what my situation is. I know it's not for everyone.

And, in the context of this place, I also know it's easy to develop feelings, and a lot of us are here because we are missing something in our lives in one way or another, so it can be tough to fully trust something when you feel it-both good and bad.

Sometimes, we give a lot of ourselves quickly because we feel those things, and then leave ourselves open and raw to being hurt. I know I've been on both sides of that, and I'm sure I've hurt someone (or more) here, and I know I've been hurt too.

But, when you find someone, even here, that you feel that flash of a real connection with, it can be scary, especially if you've been around here long enough to see how it can go.

And, if you're like me, and predisposed to feel the downs more than the ups, that can be rough.

 

[chame1eon]

I feel this need to clarify that I’m not heartbroken...I’m annoyed. I treat everyone with honesty and respect and I expect that in return. Apparently I expect too much from people.

two very important things

 

[Orchidea73]

I had a year long relationship with a man I met on another site, and it was long-distance, and we only met up once, but I know I loved him and when he broke it off with me the pain was as much as if he were someone I had seen and touched on a daily basis.

I sometimes think that even though you know nothing about the person, he is the trigger for something you crave.
To know that there is more out there in the world that you want to feel with someone. So much more than you have ever felt. And this person - regardless of whether you meet or not - is giving you a glimpse of that world.
I find that very powerful and real.

 

[Smoothshavendad]

I sometimes think that even though you know nothing about the person, he is the trigger for something you crave.
To know that there is more out there in the world that you want to feel with someone. So much more than you have ever felt. And this person - regardless of whether you meet or not - is giving you a glimpse of that world.
I find that very powerful and real.

Very well said.

 

[Orchidea73]

Funny. I lost interest in erotic material around the same time I lost interest in baseball. Both seemed too slow and trivial to hold my interest. Now I just like to mow the lawn and cook. I will soon just be a grumpy old man. I will still try to feel you up, though, just to prove to myself that I'm still alive. Just smack me when I get too fresh.

LOL

Well, I will soon be a grumpy old woman too. But until then, I am not dead yet. And yes, I do prefer another person but we have to make due with what we have, for now.

 

[TennebYzzil]

I sometimes think that even though you know nothing about the person, he is the trigger for something you crave.
To know that there is more out there in the world that you want to feel with someone. So much more than you have ever felt. And this person - regardless of whether you meet or not - is giving you a glimpse of that world.
I find that very powerful and real.

You're right. I was craving companionship, as I was really lonely at the time, and so was he, and everything just fell into place with us. We'd have long late night chats online, phone calls that'd last for hours. It filled so many needs and my heart was so happy.

I'm since over it, but the pain I felt when we broke up was real, and that tells me it was love. Plus I know I can love again, and look forward to it.

 

[Orchidea73]

You're right. I was craving companionship, as I was really lonely at the time, and so was he, and everything just fell into place with us. We'd have long late night chats online, phone calls that'd last for hours. It filled so many needs and my heart was so happy.

I'm since over it, but the pain I felt when we broke up was real, and that tells me it was love. Plus I know I can love again, and look forward to it.

I like your positive attitude and I am very glad for you.
And frankly, in the end it really doesn't matter whether it's love or something else. We sometimes tend to dismiss, or even belittle, other feelings and needs. As if only love somehow is valid and the only real thing. It's not.
Whatever it is you need, want and are looking for, as long as he/she makes you happy - in any shape or form - and viceversa, it's precious.

(*You* as in general, not personal)

 

[bunny4med]

It's hard since so many of them aren't really the same as they are in real life. (or sex for that matter). As long as you keep your crap detector on, you can meet real emotions from people even if they aren't being their real selves. The best is getting different points of view on every part of sexuality.

 

[Paendragon]

I started this thread and read every post.

I've loved twice here. Deeply. One of which I'm still in touch with. That was... we were neither of us able to pursue it. Too many people could have been hurt. But I see her and how happy she is now, with her beautiful family and I'm content.

The second time went badly. She is, to this day, probably my biggest regret. I hurt her and she left. I was afraid of what I felt and the complications it brought. I've tried to reach out and apologise, but she hasn't answered. I deserve it.

What sucks is that I don't seem to know how to fall out of love. I still love them both. I'll never tell the first one for obvious reasons, and I can't tell the second. But, if she called my today, and said she needed help, or wanted me back, I'd go.

This place is so strange. It can be so powerful. And so silly.

 

[Orchidea73]

This place is so strange. It can be so powerful. And so silly.

True. Well said.

 

[SassySheDevil]

I started this thread and read every post.

I've loved twice here. Deeply. One of which I'm still in touch with. That was... we were neither of us able to pursue it. Too many people could have been hurt. But I see her and how happy she is now, with her beautiful family and I'm content.

The second time went badly. She is, to this day, probably my biggest regret. I hurt her and she left. I was afraid of what I felt and the complications it brought. I've tried to reach out and apologise, but she hasn't answered. I deserve it.

What sucks is that I don't seem to know how to fall out of love. I still love them both. I'll never tell the first one for obvious reasons, and I can't tell the second. But, if she called my today, and said she needed help, or wanted me back, I'd go.

This place is so strange. It can be so powerful. And so silly.

Sometimes doing the right things, for the right reasons hurts. So not making that confession to the first, must still be hard even if you know it's better to just go unsaid.

That takes strength.

 

[Paendragon]

Sometimes doing the right things, for the right reasons hurts. So not making that confession to the first, must still be hard even if you know it's better to just go unsaid.

That takes strength.

Yeah. It stings sometimes. She'll send me a picture of her with her kids, and I've never had children...

But, it's the right thing to do. She's very happy. Like the kind of happy we all want.

 

[SassySheDevil]

Yeah. It stings sometimes. She'll send me a picture of her with her kids, and I've never had children...

But, it's the right thing to do. She's very happy. Like the kind of happy we all want.

Well I admire you for that strength. ⚘

 

[Dirt_in_the_Ground]

LOL

Well, I will soon be a grumpy old woman too. But until then, I am not dead yet. And yes, I do prefer another person but we have to make due with what we have, for now.

We are all gonna die sooner or later, sweetheart. Follow your heart and take the chances you want to take. Nobody is gonna give a shit after you're gone. You got this one shot. Go for it.

 

[saintcero]

Do you ever feel real emotions for someone you've met on here?

Yes. We connected and chatted for quite a while. I eventually sent a face photo and promptly got ghosted. Now and then I peel the bandage off to see if it still bleeds.

 

[AmazingLost]

This thread makes me laugh. I guess that's a real emotion.

 

[Mr_bogey]

I think as you get close, you can't help but feel something. I wouldn't say it was love. Attraction? Lust? Definitely. Things didn't work for other reasons than chemistry. I dont think there were hard feelings.

There are others that have been more playful and less involved.

I tend to be a slow hand when it comes to getting involved. I think that helps. We can figure each other out a bit. Unfortunately, right now, I just haven't been able to be around. I had/have interest but I think I may have missed opportunity because of an inability to give the connection proper attention.

 

[chame1eon]

This thread makes me laugh. I guess that's a real emotion.

Some people met and married on this site.

 

[Paendragon]

Some people met and married on this site.

Don't bother.

 

[chame1eon]

Don't bother.

Ok then

 

[WerdNerd]

Serious feels

 

[bw699353]

Yes, i have had feelings for 2 people here in the past. Ended up talking to them both for years but sadlybhere people move on with their real lives.

 

[Orchidea73]

Yes, i have had feelings for 2 people here in the past. Ended up talking to them both for years but sadlybhere people move on with their real lives.

Both of them at the same time?