Do you hide your sexual needs from your significant other?

[Vitriolhack]

I so need this site for my sanity! Love to chat and read with like minded people ! Wife has no desire unfortunately! I probably would be divorced if she read any of my posts or past in counters ! At this point I don’t care thanks for helping me you guys are the best

Think of this as a support thread!

 

[Sgts19]

I so need this site for my sanity! Love to chat and read with like minded people ! Wife has no desire unfortunately! I probably would be divorced if she read any of my posts or past in counters ! At this point I don’t care thanks for helping me you guys are the best

We all have our own kinks and you can usually find the same people responding to similar posts. Some get off on big tits some get off on little tits etc etc. Mine just happens to be my wife with someone else. She's known about how I get excited with her and someone else for a long long time. I kind of think that's why she agreed to try swinging, to make me happy

 

[Biwidowtom1212]

I will admit that I have had more meaningful conversations on the lit chat with virtual strangers that with my wife.

Having tried to talk to her about it, I know how she would react and judge me.

I am not unhappy about the choices I have made, but, I am curious to know if others here are in the same boat I am in?

Hey there yes I am a life long wanker even during my marriage seriously my wife first time caught me in the shower she was completely caught off guard looking at me unfortunately right at the point of cumming she stood there waiting for me to finish but she was more hurt thinking that she wasn't good enough for me I had to explain to her that it wasn't nothing like that at all it's simply that I enjoy jerking off

 

[Tom_Brown]

I use to tell her all of my wants, needs, kinks, etc. We’ve even acted on them, but she’s not interested anymore, I don’t hide them, but find no need to share them with her anymore

 

[Vitriolhack]

I use to tell her all of my wants, needs, kinks, etc. We’ve even acted on them, but she’s not interested anymore, I don’t hide them, but find no need to share them with her anymore

how does that make you feel?

 

[Vitriolhack]

Hey there yes I am a life long wanker even during my marriage seriously my wife first time caught me in the shower she was completely caught off guard looking at me unfortunately right at the point of cumming she stood there waiting for me to finish but she was more hurt thinking that she wasn't good enough for me I had to explain to her that it wasn't nothing like that at all it's simply that I enjoy jerking off

I’ve had that argument, some really can’t get over it.

I hope you both had a good talk

 

[hilton1958]

I will admit that I have had more meaningful conversations on the lit chat with virtual strangers that with my wife.

Having tried to talk to her about it, I know how she would react and judge me.

I am not unhappy about the choices I have made, but, I am curious to know if others here are in the same boat I am in?

If a particular need is something I know she will be comfortable with and happy to oblige, naturally I'll tell her. However there are others that I know she will definitely not obliged, but recoil from, and yes, judge me, so I keep those to myself. Then there are the ones I have requested a few times and always been refused, so those I now keep to myself too.

 

[van_delay]

If a particular need is something I know she will be comfortable with and happy to oblige, naturally I'll tell her. However there are others that I know she will definitely not obliged, but recoil from, and yes, judge me, so I keep those to myself. Then there are the ones I have requested a few times and always been refused, so those I now keep to myself too.

I definitely keep a few things to myself as well

 

[angelwingsub]

Hey there yes I am a life long wanker even during my marriage seriously my wife first time caught me in the shower she was completely caught off guard looking at me unfortunately right at the point of cumming she stood there waiting for me to finish but she was more hurt thinking that she wasn't good enough for me I had to explain to her that it wasn't nothing like that at all it's simply that I enjoy jerking off

I'd be so excited if I caught my husband wanking off and he was like join me and/or watch! or, if he caught me and asked if he could watch/participate. Yes and yes! Kinda sad she wasn't into it. Makes me wonder if there should be a how you want to sex checklist for potential partners.. do you like me? check yes or no... do you like jerking off? check yes or no..

 

[Uncut1969]

I'd be so excited if I caught my husband wanking off and he was like join me and/or watch! or, if he caught me and asked if he could watch/participate. Yes and yes! Kinda sad she wasn't into it. Makes me wonder if there should be a how you want to sex checklist for potential partners.. do you like me? check yes or no... do you like jerking off? check yes or no..

Most definitely I feel like if I ever have another partner there will be a check list for sure ! No more hiding and undercover! No more stroking both on same page

 

[writerzblok92]

Absolutely. She made it quite clear that she couldn't care less about my needs and that I need to just ignore them. In her words, if she can do it...so can I.

(She unilaterally decided 11+ years ago she couldn't live without sex. It was presented to me as a decision and not a discussion.)

 

[Handydan]

I'd be so excited if I caught my husband wanking off and he was like join me and/or watch! or, if he caught me and asked if he could watch/participate. Yes and yes! Kinda sad she wasn't into it. Makes me wonder if there should be a how you want to sex checklist for potential partners.. do you like me? check yes or no... do you like jerking off? check yes or no..

My wife has walked in finding me wanking many times. Sometimes she rolls her eyes. Sometimes she watches. Sometimes she helps. Sometimes she joins in and does herself. We don't hid or judge anything.

 

[SmokingFap]

I think I've been very open and honest about my sexual desires with my various girlfriends and two ex-wives over the years. But I didn't have certain desires (like bisexual urges) until recently, and I don't currently have a woman to even share that part of me with.

I've been very fortunate to have dated and married very open-minded and adventurous women in my life. Have tried a few kinky things here and there, mostly successfully, and have been extremely lucky that all, except the first woman I tried it, with have learned to love anal sex.

I think there's one thing that I've been most open about, that I see a lot of guys on here either aren't confident enough to admit to their partners, or their girlfriends or wives are completely hostile to the idea. I've always made it clear that I enjoy porn and jerking off. And since the first girlfriend that I did both in front of, they have all enjoyed the fact that I'll just start going at it whenever I felt like it, at home, of course. My special time with myself never interfered with our sex lives, it was always just supplemental to our fun time together. Maybe while they were getting ready for work, or just not in the mood. They have found it amusing, at a minimum, to watch me jerk me off. Sometimes sitting with me until I came, other times just walking through the room and carrying about their business. My second ex-wife would have coffee out on our back deck with me while I got myself off. If I just stayed in our bed, she would take a break from doing her her hair or makeup when I was ready to blow my load and let me suck on her tits while I squirted.

I truly wish everyone had the same kind of open, understanding, and supportive partners that I have had. I think it's such a shame when partners think that a man jerking himself off while while watching porn is a personal insult to her.

 

[Vitriolhack]

If a particular need is something I know she will be comfortable with and happy to oblige, naturally I'll tell her. However there are others that I know she will definitely not obliged, but recoil from, and yes, judge me, so I keep those to myself. Then there are the ones I have requested a few times and always been refused, so those I now keep to myself too.

How does the refusal of certain act make you feel?

I find that frustration can fester and creates stress during what should be a pleasurable moment of life.

Answer only if you feel like it.

 

[nearsomehills]

If a particular need is something I know she will be comfortable with and happy to oblige, naturally I'll tell her. However there are others that I know she will definitely not obliged, but recoil from, and yes, judge me, so I keep those to myself. Then there are the ones I have requested a few times and always been refused, so those I now keep to myself too.

That answer is so well put together. it covers it all

 

[Uncut1969]

How does the refusal of certain act make you feel?

I find that frustration can fester and creates stress during what should be a pleasurable moment of life.

Answer only if you feel like it.

Most definitely it’s a slap to the face I feel like to be denied! You’re not good enough or attractive enough you don’t satisfy them !

 

[Vitriolhack]

Most definitely it’s a slap to the face I feel like to be denied! You’re not good enough or attractive enough you don’t satisfy them !

Well, to be honest, some people won’t refuse sex but just some specific acts.

So, can we blame them for that? What if they hate giving head? Are you going to strongly admonish them for it? Is there anything to gain from that?

It’s one of those circumstances when well chosen words are much needed.

 

[Uncut1969]

Well, to be honest, some people won’t refuse sex but just some specific acts.

So, can we blame them for that? What if they hate giving head? Are you going to strongly admonish them for it? Is there anything to gain from that?

It’s one of those circumstances when well chosen words are much needed.

It’s a compromising to satisfy each other! Not ignoring it! That’s the problem with the world now a days it’s all about self gratification and it’s all about me and my feelings fuck every one else! And it seams you fit into that category! Have a nice day

 

[hilton1958]

How does the refusal of certain act make you feel?

I find that frustration can fester and creates stress during what should be a pleasurable moment of life.

Answer only if you feel like it.

It does make me feel frustrated in that I'm being denied something I want, but I feel neither hurt nor rejected, I understand where she is coming from.

 

[Vitriolhack]

It does make me feel frustrated in that I'm being denied something I want, but I feel neither hurt nor rejected, I understand where she is coming from.

Well, at least you can talk about it and have come to a mutual understanding.

 

[Guillermo54]

I will admit that I have had more meaningful conversations on the lit chat with virtual strangers that with my wife.

Having tried to talk to her about it, I know how she would react and judge me.

I am not unhappy about the choices I have made, but, I am curious to know if others here are in the same boat I am in?

Definitely in the same boat as you. I admit I am not the best communicator but part of the reason is because of the judgement and closed mind.

 

[saintcero]

Definitely in the same boat as you. I admit I am not the best communicator but part of the reason is because of the judgement and closed mind.

I simply got tired of hearing “no” to everything i wanted to try.

 

[Guillermo54]

we are an extremely open couple, that's why we are on here together. Sometimes our experiences and our fantasies shock each other, but they always lead to good sex.

Ideal

 

[Vitriolhack]

Definitely in the same boat as you. I admit I am not the best communicator but part of the reason is because of the judgement and closed mind.

Communication can be worked on. You can become better at conveying your needs and feelings. It does take practice and patience.

 

[Tweedledude]

Definitely in the same boat as you. I admit I am not the best communicator but part of the reason is because of the judgement and closed mind.

Yup can relate exactly.....