Dom/me "Thought of the Day" calendar

[Mr Blonde]

August 14

There's an associated adrenaline high as a Domme that I think I crave. I definitely enjoy the artistry and creativity that is involved in giving someone a "good pain" experience with just enough "bad pain" to keep it interesting -- it takes finesse and intuition, and it's a lot like playing an instrument, I imagine.

--Netzach link

 

[Mr Blonde]

August 15

I have a very personal rule that I never break. I never punish or discipline while angry. When angry it is not punishment but assault.

--PyroDemon link

 

[Mr Blonde]

August 16

I desire to be identified as a BDSMer and there are things which I derive pleasure from BD, DS and SM, which society deems "not normal". I enjoy expressing my sexuality in these, "not so normal activities". I enjoy meeting others who are like minded. What makes me proud to be part of the BDSM community is being counted as a friend among many of the people I have come to respect. The profound wisdom, love and experiences they have brought to my life have made me a better person, and allowed me to experience some of that fulfillment we have been talking about.

--RJMasters link

 

[catalina_francisco]

August 17th - Master Vassago

"Now here's todays real bitch, if someone has no real life experience in our realm, (I hate calling it a lifestyle), then why do they presume to know everything and frown upon ones that they don't truly know. A couple of months can't compare to nearly a year and a half bond.

I'm not directly aiming this at anyone in particular, I've just noticed over the years on the web in general and the time in forums and so on that newbies tend to take the I know it all attitude.

HEy, I've been at this for over a decade now actively, on and off playing with the feelings in highschool and having been on both sides of the fence I still don't know everything. I learn something new everytime I lurk in the forum. I don't think even the eldest dom or submissive with eons of experience knows everything. I'd think they were asses if they claimed they did.

There is a difference though, you can look stuff up on the web and scan through info but it's never the same as the first time you do it. The first time I spanked someone seriously I think I swatted much differently than I do know lol. Now there's a purpose, usually yeah it's to turn her on but also there's an element of knowing when and where she needs the next blow. The same with a whip, how could one that's never felt the whip or wielded it have a clue what it feels like to zing someone's upturned ass or back or sweet little pussy with it. In truth they can't they can imagine or watch on video but watching is never the same as doing."

https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?s=&postid=10385307#post10385307

 

[Mr Blonde]

August 18

I'd say about a full 25 percent of my fantasies are things I don't want to, should not, or would get life for acting out.

--Netzach link

 

[Mr Blonde]

August 19

I was born and raised Baptist. I dont' attend church on a regular basis, but i still believe in and practice the fundimental teachings. I do not see any problems with having a faith in a god and also being involved with BDSM.

--NCShin link

 

[Mr Blonde]

August 20

[A]fter a brutal mouth/throat fucking...the skullfucker needs to pay particular attention to the object of affection following such a session to ensure any bleeding gets adequate evaluation and attention.

--AngelicAssassin link

 

[Mr Blonde]

August 21

Having sucessfully trained a woman to cum on command, I can say "yes, it is possible." However, I'm not sure about the "no prior stimulation." I basically had her constantly stimulated: mind, body or both. So it was to a large extend a physical and mental state, combined with the command to cum.

--FungiUg link

 

[Mr Blonde]

August 22

As I see it, to successufully pull off a role playing scene, the persons involved must really step into character so that they are seeing, and feeling everything through their role.

--RJMasters link

 

[Mr Blonde]

August 23

Remember a BDSM relationship is just like anything else in real life -- you wouldn't sign a blank check, you wouldn't sign a contract without reading it, you wouldn't get in the car with a drunk driver...so don't throw all common sense out the window just because someone says they are a dom/me.

--Mr Blonde link

[SIZE=0.2]Oh yes, now I am quoting myself.[/SIZE]

 

[Mr Blonde]

August 24

Top sexual arousal is linked to pain and expressions of pain. Wincing, flinching. I don't need it to get off at all, but I need to get off that way once in a while.

--Netzach link

 

[Mr Blonde]

August 25

When My slave presents his wrists to Me for binding him to My will I immediately begin to enter a new world. The world of power and control. I feel an internal growth that radiates throughout My being and fills Me with the heat of passion. Each increase in bondage that My locks assure gives My heart a rush of adrenaline.

--Shadowsdream link

 

[Mr Blonde]

August 26

I don't like the word 'top', I prefer dom, for no real reason other than that top and bottom seem to me to be a bit too PC; a way to take the sting out of the terminology and render it innocuous in the same way that political correctness prefers chair-person to madam chair.

--incubus_dark link

 

[Mr Blonde]

August 27

Dominance and submission are not something that has to be understood, so to speak, to be expressed. It is something inside you that is as natural and necessary as breathing, not something that needs to be ‘acted out’. The notion that a dominant can switch between being a submissive and being a dominant is ludicrous to me. I can not become a submissive like a submissive can not become a dominant. The two states are at extreme opposites of the spectrum and to suggest someone who can change from one to the other is more effective in both roles suggests more a playacting scenario than a direct expression of one’s innate characteristics.

--Francisco link

 

[Mr Blonde]

August 28

My sadism is an aspect of my Domination, but not its totality.

--Johnny Mayberry link

 

[Mr Blonde]

August 29

The look in her eyes. The expression on her face. The small moans she issues when she nolonger has the energy or wherewithal to scream. The muted grunts through a ring gague and the thought of inserting my penis through that same ring gague at the very moment when her travail is greatest and my use of her in this way would be at it's most degrading....

--incubus_dark link

 

[Mr Blonde]

August 30

How [has] BDSM become the ghetto for every anti-social sexual impulse there is out there? Why when someone has a thought about death, disfigurement, animal-fucking and rape, here we are? Why do we ask these things on our own board?

--Netzach (abridged) link

 

[Mr Blonde]

August 31

[N]ever once in all of the years I have been living and playing this game has subjects such as snuff, dismembering and animal sex been considered even interesting subjects of fantasy or reality.

--Shadowsdream link

 

[Mr Blonde]

September 1

It has been my experience that almost anything can be part of BDSM, almost anything can be used as part of a D/s game. To deny others the right to decide to call their activities BDSM is not something I would ever do. I believe in individuality, I believe in tolerance, I believe in diversity. The reality is that even in the BDSM communities more often than not people are discriminated and excluded for their beliefs. I have often seen closed-minded groups who believe that the only way to have true dominance and true submission is to follow their way.

--Francisco link

 

[Mr Blonde]

September 2

[R]emember that a partner needs to be more than compatible in terms of D/s. You also need compatibility over all of the other areas of your life. And that is what makes finding a life partner so tricky.

--FungiUg link

 

[Mr Blonde]

September 3

There is nothing wrong with being a strong persom who is submissive. Afterall, a submissive who has low self-esteem is only looking for bad times ahead. One cannot truley surrender control to another if they do not have control to begin with.

--heckle link

 

[Mr Blonde]

September 4

Love generally is the motivator which allows someone to take the chance on making a fool of themselves by trying out a very large change in sexuality. It is not easy to approach Domination "through" the desires of another. But it can be done..it certainly is very helpful to have a mentor during the transision.

--Shadowsdream link

 

[Mr Blonde]

September 5

I believe you can teach someone to behave like a Dominant. However, you can't teach them to be Dominant. It is either an intrinsic part of who they are, or not.

--MissTaken link

 

[catalina_francisco]

I thought I would give you a hand.

Francisco.

 

[catalina_francisco]

September 6

in my world - I am sane... but I do have a few little quirks here and there... not to mention crops and canes and floggers and paddles and... oh... started to get quirked away a little there....


Sir Winston