Fat Chick Fetish?

[Netzach]

Good grief yes in Queen Latifah, she's aspirationally beautiful.

And the amount of girls at my uni who had love handles and worn their jeans too tight made me want to scream. Seeing it all spilling out the sides of your jeans and your t shirt that tight you can see every inch of your body when you've got a bit of weight on you is NOT attractive.



It's not men, it's other women. Many men actually don't care too much about it, the big issue is the bitchiness of women going "god look at her fat ass/cankles/whatever".



Sadly there's that many bloody additives in our food now a days, is anything healthy?

Yes. We've gotten too into this idea that food needs to be entertaining most days of the week. I read labels, count calorie counts, and ditch things that do have more than maybe 1 or 2 non-food ingredients.

My idea of healthy and fast - Frozen veggies, a chicken breast or a bison or turkey patty and some parmesan you grate yourself on the top. Exciting, no.

I'm a big fan, if it has to be insta-food, of these Indian food things in silver foil you can dump in a bowl and nuke. There are no preservative or additives on the labeling, you can get them at Trader Joe's (I imagine TJ and ALDI have invaded Britain? Also the Indian grocer will carry them.)

They're about 3-500 cal per package total and you can eat them if you can tolerate them dietarily brainlessly and about 1.29-2.99 USD per pack.

 

[Netzach]

Having experienced women at both ends of the scale, I would say that bigger women are obsessed with food.

Going out, they tend to make eating the main event. They are quite greedy and it becomes all about the food.

People need to understand the simple calculation - calories in v. calories burned.

I would say that people with this attitude tend to be really really dull dinner partners anyway. And yes, I'm greedy, indeed if you're a cheap ass who wants to take me to Chilis or something. I'll just eat at home, thanks.

If I order 30 dollar a plate duck confit on flatbread with frisee and all I'm expected to do is count calories, I'd say there's a failure to connect.

Seriously, in all the times I've gone out with T over the years, I don't think I ever paid attention to what was on his plate, and I don't think I've ever caused him to pay attention to what's on mine. I keep my tab about the same as the guy's, that's my main ordering law.

If I'm going out to eat of course it's "all about the food" -- because when I'm not going out I am liable to eat tuna over peas with some olive oil and I don't obsess over food every day of my life. I might pull out the cooking stops a few times a week or once a week.

It's been "all about the food" when I go out whether I'm heavy or thin. If I'm going out, "calories in vs. calories out" is the mental signal of someone who's probably going to bore me in bed and bore me over wine which they probably don't know how to pick.

I'd love to go eating with Yanks, for example. Neither of us appear to be sylphs and we'd fail the Jessica Simpson test, but I think both of us fit into the bell curve normal. And both of us can obsess over pizza. You just sound like someone who's pissed because you can't share the enthuisiasm - which is fine, but you want to dump it on the girl, which is not.

 

[Shalrath]

My idea of healthy and fast - Frozen veggies, a chicken breast or a bison or turkey patty and some parmesan you grate yourself on the top. Exciting, no.

Add a bit of seasoning and cook it right and it can be exciting, yes.

Same with tuna/peas/oil. Bit of garlic lemon and pepper and it can be tasty as anything.

Food isn't that mysterious to me....nor is healthy+quick+tasty eating.

 

[Netzach]

Add a bit of seasoning and cook it right and it can be exciting, yes.

Same with tuna/peas/oil. Bit of garlic lemon and pepper and it can be tasty as anything.

Food isn't that mysterious to me....nor is healthy+quick+tasty eating.

Oh I do that, my bar for exciting is really high. That's serviceable, though, and damn tasty. It's good stuff.

The thing is that people often buy veggies and go "but what can I do with this it's too boring"

It's boring, but it's nice. A handful of cherry tomatoes is nice.

 

[midwestyankee]

I'd love to go eating with Yanks, for example. Neither of us appear to be sylphs and we'd fail the Jessica Simpson test, but I think both of us fit into the bell curve normal. And both of us can obsess over pizza. You just sound like someone who's pissed because you can't share the enthuisiasm - which is fine, but you want to dump it on the girl, which is not.

We start with lunch at the Bryant Lake Bowl, while away the afternoon at a kickass alternative coffee shop, and then drink and eat away the night at Psycho Suzie's.

I'm not a sylph, by any means, but I'm also within 15 pounds of what I weighed when I graduated from college. I run in part so that I can enjoy what I eat without obsessing too much over it.

For me, a good meal is diminished by poor company. I'd much rather share a loaf of bread and a hunk of cheese with a good friend than dine at Maxim's with a dullard.

And on topic: I've said this before but it bears repeating: the best part of my lover's body (whoever she might be) is that it is attached to her.

 

[Netzach]

We start with lunch at the Bryant Lake Bowl, while away the afternoon at a kickass alternative coffee shop, and then drink and eat away the night at Psycho Suzie's.

I'm not a sylph, by any means, but I'm also within 15 pounds of what I weighed when I graduated from college. I run in part so that I can enjoy what I eat without obsessing too much over it.

For me, a good meal is diminished by poor company. I'd much rather share a loaf of bread and a hunk of cheese with a good friend than dine at Maxim's with a dullard.

And on topic: I've said this before but it bears repeating: the best part of my lover's body (whoever she might be) is that it is attached to her.

Psycho Suzi's drinks put me under the table. I'd need a chaperone and an intepreter by the end of the night.

 

[Coven911]

Shape alone doesn't attract or not attract me. I've been size 6-14, I wasn't breakable at 6 or unappealing at 14.

You're talking to someone who wants to make one of her three male partners dress up as a hot dog and go around Washington DC in public.

Would I bang a fat chick isn't exactly even an interesting question.

I find it difficult to think of you in any way other than appealing.

For me, it is all a matter of personality. I find many body types appealing and the thing that REALLY makes up my mind IS the personality.

But then, that is just my male pig ego talking I think.

 

[midwestyankee]

Psycho Suzi's drinks put me under the table. I'd need a chaperone and an intepreter by the end of the night.

One drink then, followed by lots of something that you could sip all night. Wouldn't want to have to bring in an interpreter for sure.

 

[Etoile]

As food for thought, rather than criticism......

I see no difference between your critique of the girls with love handles and tight jeans , and the bitchiness of women going "god look at her fat ass/cankles/whatever."

From where I'm sitting, it looks like you're doing the very same thing.

I disagree. One is about the way a person dresses, and the other is about their body shape. The former statement is not saying that fat chicks in nice clothes are bad, and indeed people who can afford Lane Bryant and the like dress very sharply. But if someone doesn't dress right for her size, she's going to look unattractive. The latter statement says "fat chicks are gross no matter what they wear."

Just my own two cents.

 

[Netzach]

One drink then, followed by lots of something that you could sip all night. Wouldn't want to have to bring in an interpreter for sure.

I'd really want to take you to Sapor and Blackbird though. See this is what happens when Doms collide.

 

[EnglishGuy1982]

I definately have a think for bigger girls.. It does depend on the girl though, some girls look stunning with the extra weight.

 

[Netzach]

I disagree. One is about the way a person dresses, and the other is about their body shape. The former statement is not saying that fat chicks in nice clothes are bad, and indeed people who can afford Lane Bryant and the like dress very sharply. But if someone doesn't dress right for her size, she's going to look unattractive. The latter statement says "fat chicks are gross no matter what they wear."

Just my own two cents.

Finding a good fit is really difficult work once you're over sz 10, unless you just happen to have the height and be built like the size charts. But yeah, if people pay attention to it closely, they're less likely to even be thought of as "that fat chick" I've found.

Lack of care or controlling interest in what can be controlled is different, I'll say.

However having spent about a year sick and in sweatpants, I've kind of got a weird zen outlook about it all, much more than before. I have no way of knowing why anyone looks as they do and I really don't *care.* It's a kind of self-absorption approach to non-judgement.

I'm first starting to even care about/buy a few clothes again.

 

[midwestyankee]

I'd really want to take you to Sapor and Blackbird though. See this is what happens when Doms collide.

Fair enough. I'd be plenty willing to just keep on trucking so that we experience the places that I know about as well as the great places that you know about that would be completely new to me. I see this more as a measure of two foodies having far too many great choices to limit themselves.

 

[Netzach]

I find it difficult to think of you in any way other than appealing.

For me, it is all a matter of personality. I find many body types appealing and the thing that REALLY makes up my mind IS the personality.

But then, that is just my male pig ego talking I think.

Grazie.

I've never been troubled by anyone who decided my belly roll cancels out the rest, there's more people to waste my time on.

 

[Netzach]

Fair enough. I'd be plenty willing to just keep on trucking so that we experience the places that I know about as well as the great places that you know about that would be completely new to me. I see this more as a measure of two foodies having far too many great choices to limit themselves.

Heh, I'm playing with ya. It's absolutely as you called it. Plus you have that NYC thing about food that I do, you just want to show everyone in the world everything you like, I'd let you steer totally unaided in Chicago. Are you sure you're not a latent NY'er?

Nah, you like that weird pizza, you can't be.

 

[ChainedEros]

Grazie.

I've never been troubled by anyone who decided my belly roll cancels out the rest, there's more people to waste my time on.

You seem to very defensive about that belly roll though. I wonder if it's the roll or your attitude about it that is a turnoff.

 

[Netzach]

You seem to very defensive about that belly roll though. I wonder if it's the roll or your attitude about it that is a turnoff.

You seem to be really into pop psychology on people you don't know from a hole in the ground. I wonder if that's your issue.

 

[ChainedEros]

You seem to be really into pop psychology on people you don't know from a hole in the ground. I wonder if that's your issue.

You're the one blaming your family for you being fat. Don't try to turn this on me. lol

 

[Netzach]

You're the one blaming your family for you being fat. Don't try to turn this on me. lol

Absolutely not, I take full responsibility for my shape at the same time that I realize it's a poor reaction to some shitty stimuli.

However, darling, your assumption that I have run into massive amounts of *turnoff* over anything to do with my body or personality is flawed.

I'm quite defensive over anything I feel like defending. If you don't like it you don't have to tolerate me.

So are you, sweet cheeks. That's human nature.

 

[Harmony_1985]

As food for thought, rather than criticism......

I see no difference between your critique of the girls with love handles and tight jeans , and the bitchiness of women going "god look at her fat ass/cankles/whatever."

From where I'm sitting, it looks like you're doing the very same thing.

While I can see where you're coming from, there is a difference.

From my point of view, I am a rather large person, and I take pride in the way I look. I realise that, because of my size, certain trends and fashions are WAY out of my league as I can't wear them without looking like I got dressed in the dark. I know damn full well I cannot wear a cropped top, nor can I wear a mini skirt without looking horrible.

Overweight women have enough of a problem being socially accepted as it is; when certain ones cannot dress themselves appropriately so that they don't look like a complete moron, it makes it even harder.

Slim women do it too; they try to squeeze themselves into an outfit a size smaller so they can claim they've lost weight or dropped a dress size, but overweight women get ridiculed enough without setting themselves up for a fall by not realising how to dress for their size.

Any person can look physically attractive if they dress correctly, you've just got to learn how to flatter your figure, and believe me, it's taken me a few years to get it right.

Women bitching about other women is aimed at their body, not their ability to dress said body.

 

[fallen_1]

I happen to love a girl carrying a few (or more than a few) extra pounds

 

[Harmony_1985]

Finding a good fit is really difficult work once you're over sz 10, unless you just happen to have the height and be built like the size charts. But yeah, if people pay attention to it closely, they're less likely to even be thought of as "that fat chick" I've found.

A-farking-men.

I'm a UK 24-26 (I THINK that equates to a US 22) but I'm far from "typical" as I lack the bust of someone else my size, so I struggle in the top department. To get them big enough to fit nicely around my stomach, they're huge around my bust.

And then on the bottom half, I'm blessed with a fantastic rear end (so I'm told) which is sometimes a struggle to get fitted into trousers that fit around my waist, so I end up a size bigger just to fit my butt in them.

I DESPISE when my t shirt clings to my stomach or my trousers are clinging to my legs; it's just not comfy.

 

[JMohegan]

I disagree. One is about the way a person dresses, and the other is about their body shape. The former statement is not saying that fat chicks in nice clothes are bad, and indeed people who can afford Lane Bryant and the like dress very sharply. But if someone doesn't dress right for her size, she's going to look unattractive. The latter statement says "fat chicks are gross no matter what they wear."

Just my own two cents.

This is all subjective, so there's no right or wrong. For what it's worth, I'm just relaying my impression.

To me, the former says "fat chicks are gross if they show some skin."

Can't say I see a difference in bitchiness.

I also wonder who the heck made up whatever fashion rules allegedly apply, and why anyone feels it's her business to impose them on others.

Guys, in general, don't do this to each other. Women are vicious in ways that I just don't get.

 

[Harmony_1985]

Guys, in general, don't do this to each other. Women are vicious in ways that I just don't get.

It's a survival of the fittest thing.

The prettiest women get the fantastic husband with a great job, a nice house and loads of money.

Munters get left out in the cold.

That's how its seen anyway.

 

[Netzach]

A-farking-men.

I'm a UK 24-26 (I THINK that equates to a US 22) but I'm far from "typical" as I lack the bust of someone else my size, so I struggle in the top department. To get them big enough to fit nicely around my stomach, they're huge around my bust.

And then on the bottom half, I'm blessed with a fantastic rear end (so I'm told) which is sometimes a struggle to get fitted into trousers that fit around my waist, so I end up a size bigger just to fit my butt in them.

I DESPISE when my t shirt clings to my stomach or my trousers are clinging to my legs; it's just not comfy.

I have a very short waist. Which makes my legs look delightfully long on a short frame, but the downside is that I can't seem to get a jacket or a self-belting dress to save my life that doesn't have a waist on my ass. I could wear cinchers as under-bust corsets.