female subbies;re:male subbies

[catalina_francisco]

a high willingness to serve is no issue. i have always been eager to serve, and i have a perfect record, 15 months real time, no punishment/no discipline.
i keep my nose to the grindstone and do as i am told.
it's the rest of the stuff i do not understand, because no one has been willing to try me, for anything of play past 7 minutes. maybe it is because i have no personal interest. i mainly feel if it pleases a Ma'am, then She can go for it, but...but,..i am TOLD, no Domme wants to whip a dead horse.
since i have no enjoyment no one is interested.
i do not know the answers.

thanks

Basically in terms of their not willing to play with you (though play can cover various things) it is likely as in most things, and as you have been told, no-one gets anything out of flogging a dead horse...similar to fucking someone who just lays there or watches TV over your shoulder while you do it....what is the point? The sadists and Dominants I have known have all required some sort of feedback or visual proof that what they do achieves something more than indifference. It's a two way street, a symbiotic relationship....if you don't get anything out of it on some level, even if only to make you feel used, why would you bother, what would you get from it? Of course it could also be that your indifference is seen as just trying to prove they cannot have your submission which also will get tiring and boring as it is not usually about a competition of wills but more so one willingly submitting to the will of another.

Catalina

 

[Aeroil]

Aside from the whiney "I'm a miserable worm, crush me beneath your heels" sort of guys I like them. That's just a personality quirk of my own though; that sort submission also turns me off when it's a female doing it. but it seems more common among males. I'm lucky to have one of the male subs here as a fairly good friend.

Yeah they creep me out too.....

 

[Her sissy slave]

uh yep

Basically in terms of their not willing to play with you (though play can cover various things) it is likely as in most things, and as you have been told, no-one gets anything out of flogging a dead horse...similar to fucking someone who just lays there or watches TV over your shoulder while you do it....what is the point? The sadists and Dominants I have known have all required some sort of feedback or visual proof that what they do achieves something more than indifference. It's a two way street, a symbiotic relationship....if you don't get anything out of it on some level, even if only to make you feel used, why would you bother, what would you get from it? Of course it could also be that your indifference is seen as just trying to prove they cannot have your submission which also will get tiring and boring as it is not usually about a competition of wills but more so one willingly submitting to the will of another.

Catalina

yes i figured on all that. that is why no one has done it. but ya know? the funny thing is here,.........how in hec do "i" know if i like this or that until someone DOES play me, ya know?
squirrel cage effect.


by the way
please? part 2 of the maid? i luv t he story so far.

 

[snowy ciara]

uh, whoa! as "i" understand, and PLEASE correct wrongs here---i hear of girls being told no panties/no bras/ etc etc.
"i" as YET, have not seen/heard of males being thusly..naked in the house. i imagine it may be..but isn't this more of pro dommes and clients?
i so far,..of the dommes "i" have met tell me that is gross and would not have it be so.
someone enlighten me please?
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As far as I know, there is no one true bdsm way. There is no one set of rules for males or females. Some D/s couples require different dress codes for the sub person, but no one makes everyone do it. Who's gonna enforce this mysterious dress code, or make sure we're all doing it the same, anyway? The bdsm police? The kinky sex division of Interpol? The UN? Or was a lack of a bdsm code of conduct the "real" reason the EU Constitution failed to be ratified?

Nope, I may be young and inexperienced, but from what I've seen and heard, there's no handbook for this, no regulatory board or anything.

 

[landcruisergal]

She's been pushing it in new directions lately, for the first time about a week ago She was able to push me over into subspace. That was very interesting and She been pushing for repeats ever since, done it 3 more times too! I'm still trying to figure out exactly how o describe the feeling but haven't been able to. Maybe another trip will help... <looks around hopefully for my Sphynx>

Here is a classic example of Snowy's statement....

these differences are defined, for the most part by our personalities, NOT by our plumbing.

I rarely space, and usually only after an intense corporal punishment+stimulation+bondage. Remove one of those ingredients and it wont happen.
My pup spaces the minute he is bound.Its a physical reaction I witness and am jealous of sometimes. His body softens somehow. His breathing deepens. His reactions become slower.I have to repeat questions. He adores it. He openly admits to leave him bound in a corner would be enough to satisfy him sometimes, but knows this would do little for his Mistress's pleasure.

Maybe I could use him as a light stand or plant holder....maybe a candle holder might be better, or leaky ice bucket?
I saw a sub painted gold and auctioned as a self dusting ornament once on a site once. What a wonderful idea! But I'm rambling on....again

Sphynx has to push her dragon over into it, as does my master to me.
Yet I can do it in seconds to my pup.
In summary, its another thing thats obviously not gender specific.

 

[snowy ciara]

What she said...

And to further clarify, or muddy the waters... I was at a bbq/pool party this weekend hosted by a man with a "pet" and a "sub". Sometimes he refers to the pet as a slave. He was talking bdsm to a fascinated 'nilla person. Mr. 'nilla is definately interested in the whole shebang, but mostly from a scholarly point of view. He's fascinated by D/s, but doesn't really consider himself interested. But any way, our host said bluntly that both his women are expected to behave themselves, and some of his expectations are the same, but he does have different rules for each girl. And no, he doesn't do the "naked in the house" thing either, but I do know of one male sub who does have a version of the same that rule.

See? Different people, different rules, and no-one is more right than the other.

 

[Her sissy slave]

hmmm

What she said...

And to further clarify, or muddy the waters... I was at a bbq/pool party this weekend hosted by a man with a "pet" and a "sub". Sometimes he refers to the pet as a slave. He was talking bdsm to a fascinated 'nilla person. Mr. 'nilla is definately interested in the whole shebang, but mostly from a scholarly point of view. He's fascinated by D/s, but doesn't really consider himself interested. But any way, our host said bluntly that both his women are expected to behave themselves, and some of his expectations are the same, but he does have different rules for each girl. And no, he doesn't do the "naked in the house" thing either, but I do know of one male sub who does have a version of the same that rule.

See? Different people, different rules, and no-one is more right than the other.

kinda interesting