Gillian Anderson's New Book "Want" a collection of Women's Sexual Fantasies from around the world

[Lucien_Al]

I have an e copy and have read most of it. For me a little repetitive but certainly some food for thought too.

 

[lily_wall_]

I started reading My Secret Garden. Planning to read Want after I finish it

 

[LMWM321]

To those who've read the book... Are there any recurring themes? ..And fantasies that truly surprised you?

 

[ArseGratiaArtis]

You'd be surprised. This has been done before, My Secret Garden by Nancy Friday covered the same ground and womens fantasies are just as wild as men, from the simple stranger with rippling muscles kind of thing through to rape and bestiality.

Very good. I read My Secret Garden years ago, and it was fun. I wonder how something more recent would differ, and I'm guessing not by much. What women are willing to say might have changed a little, but the human mind has not. In talking with women I've dated, there seems to be one that most have, and that is being taken unwillingly. Not always rape exactly, but non-consent. One of my stories explores this.

 

[write_or_wrong]

Very good. I read My Secret Garden years ago, and it was fun. I wonder how something more recent would differ, and I'm guessing not by much. What women are willing to say might have changed a little, but the human mind has not. In talking with women I've dated, there seems to be one that most have, and that is being taken unwillingly. Not always rape exactly, but non-consent. One of my stories explores this.

Only one data point here, but I did have a long term GF who asked me to role play a non-consensual scenario with her. It was about her hiding, me finding her, and wrestling her into bed and taking her. She was a tall athletic girl, wanted it to seem real, so we had quite a struggle. She may have let me win but we finally made it to bed where I had to use restraints to keep her still enough for positioning, penetration, and sex. Afterward she said it was exhilarating, she came two or three times from the excitement, and thanked me. I had to be honest with her and tell her it made me very uncomfortable treating a woman that inappropriately - even in role playing. She just said she appreciated my willingness to try it. But we never did that again.

 

[NikolasMann]

90% of guys here fantasise about fucking their mums. Anything's more interesting than that.

Freud lives!

 

[SmokingFap]

Anyone else other than my wife intending to buy this? From the very interesting (and hot) actress of X Files, Sex Education and more...

From the Amazon listing:

Want: Sexual Fantasies by Anonymous
by Gillian Anderson (Author)

A collection of confessions from women around the world, Want is a revelatory, sensational and game-changing exploration of women’s sexuality that asks, and answers: How do women feel about sex when they have the freedom to be totally anonymous?

What do you want, when no one is watching?
What do you want, when the lights are off?
What do you want, when you are anonymous?

When we talk about sex, we talk about womanhood and motherhood, infidelity and exploitation, consent and respect, fairness and egalitarianism, love and hate, pleasure and pain.

Jesus Christ. How have I never heard about this book? A sex book from Scully? Might actually give me a heart attack. If it's illustrated, it would definitely give me a heart attack.

 

[dkak001]

Jesus Christ. How have I never heard about this book? A sex book from Scully? Might actually give me a heart attack. If it's illustrated, it would definitely give me a heart attack.

Not illustrated. There's an intro to each section, but most of it is anonymous fantasies from women around the world. It's an OK read, if you want 'in' to a few women's ideas of 'fun'...

 

[BellaBestia]

Just finished reading it a month ago but I borrowed it from my online library it’s not worth buying. Very similar to Nancy Friday’s My Secret Garden which Anderson openly and frequently admits was the inspiration for this collection, and having read both I can see where Anderson has updated and improved the themes of such a collection with more modern, taboo and orientation-inclusive fantasies. However I think there are some fantasies that sound too professionally written to have been included in this book if it is supposed to be the fantasies of a cross section of international average Jane Does. I think these authored pieces, while very well written, were to pad out the book when not enough anonymous contributions were collected but should have been labelled as such. The unfortunate thing that hasn’t changed much since Friday’s collection is the apologies women still feel the need to express in preface or conclusion of their stories. Less so than in My Secret Garden but it’s still there which is a sad statement about how women are still feeling shame or confusion in expressing their sexual desires. It’s not a dirty little manual men can use to glean insights to have “fun” with women and it’s certainly not written or edited for the male perspective, it’s written by women for women and it’s about women’s inner life their thoughts and fantasies which they do not necessarily want to nor can act out in real life.

 

[MrMikelobe1952]

People often bring out more up to date versions of older things. People's tastes change a little, and with her position of celebrity, it likely opens the discussion up to a wider audience, which can only be helpful. It is simply a collection of letters, with a little explanation here and there

When Nancy Friday wrote her books, there was very little open discussion about women's sexuality. Women had been raised in a society that taught the idea that men had much stronger sexual urges than women. She herself wrote two followup texts 5 and 10 years later that dealt with whether women's attitudes and fantasies were changed by changing social perspectives on sex.
After 4 more decades, it seems like time to get an update and see what has changed.

 

[Ash999]

I'm so undisappointed to hear that. And it's a little hairy, too, the whole thing:

A woman whose identity I can't reveal, but we'll call her Jocasta for the sake of argument, hanged herself over all this.

And her son went blind, eek, so it might be true what the priests all told us about the effects of masturbation. I mean the effects on us, not on them, naturally, although there are exceptions. I'll stop here.

The Odeipus complex??!

 

[ClockworkFox]

Maybe only in their heads.

Obviously, because dicks don't think. It could be because they've just successfully exited the womb of a different woman, only this time to make a triumphant splash somewhere instead of sliding around in a mess of plasma (yes, I know it's an unpleasant thought, but childbirth is messy), so that might be running around their subconscious, but WTF nevertheless. They might as well roar "Look, ma, both hands!"

 

[ClockworkFox]

The Odeipus complex??!

Right. Oedipus. Except he didn't know he was balling mum, or killing dad either. A Greek tragedy. Two, in fact. Three, counting the blinding. But then, that's the Greeks all over - tragic. Their economy went tragic not so long ago too.

 

[nostuff]

Makes you wonder why the need for another - apart from a celebrity cashing in on her name after playing a fictitious sex therapist.

Not like an idea hasn't been recycled before. Think of poor ol' Billy Shakespeare. I.e., Romeo & Juliet vs. West Side Store.