Have you ever cheated before?

[downforce]

I did, but not for the typical reasons. I get plenty of great action at home, and I have a great wife. But my dad's secretary at the time was too much temptation to pass up. She was a little firecracker, and had as much to lose as I did, so she was awesome about discretion. We would take lunch at the same time and go hide somewhere, we fucked at work one weekend, and twice in a hotel before I put an end to it. I didnt feel guilty, per se, I was just finished with her. Would I do it again? If the circumstances were right, and the girl was hot enough I would.

BUT, being that I am bisexual and hook up with guys every now and then without telling my wife, does that count as cheating? For some reason it doesnt feel like its cheating to me.

 

[HoldYouDown]

For me, lying to cover it up is a waste of mental energy. Would rather just be free.

 

[GeorgiaSub]

Yes. When I found out my hubby (now ex) cheated on me with his HS GF I had “revenge sex” to get back at him, which does not excuse my behavior. He never found out and I never told him. But it was the worst thing I have ever done, and I still regret it.

 

[mngramps]

The thought never occurred to me/us ... what we did we did together.

 

[EdTungsten]

I met and played with married ladies and one single woman who was a prolific swinger. While the sex was nice and sometimes kinky, the best memory was just meeting so many women who were really into sex and went outside of marriage to find it. Every married woman told me a similar story, ...that their husbands were uptight fuddy duddies who refused to expand their sexual skills.

The typical stereotype is that men are the instigators of sexual adventure and push their wives farther than they want to go, but with these ladies, the opposite was true. I am not nature's gift to women, but more often than not, we were swapping spit within 5 minutes of meeting. That was just as exciting at the naked part.

 

[Rigger287]

Because of the way your poll is worded I have had to answer "yes" rather than no. A lady and I only participated in mutual oral activities and neither of us considered that to be cheating as no penetration ever took and neither was it expected. We both agreed no intercourse of any kind would happen and it didn't - therefore no cheating took place.

 

[GeorgiaSub]

Because of the way your poll is worded I have had to answer "yes" rather than no. A lady and I only participated in mutual oral activities and neither of us considered that to be cheating as no penetration ever took and neither was it expected. We both agreed no intercourse of any kind would happen and it didn't - therefore no cheating took place.

You should run for public office...you would make a great president!

 

[Rigger287]

I can't lie that well for that long! I like your biography - I have many uses for duct tape - and not just for boxes and repairs.

 

[deskuser]

I'm not proud but it was on my arsehole first husband who was having an affair anyway. I did one of his so called friends.

 

[vibes]

I'm not proud but it was on my arsehole first husband who was having an affair anyway. I did one of his so called friends.

When you say you're not proud you mean it didn't make you feel better either?

 

[deskuser]

When you say you're not proud you mean it didn't make you feel better either?

I did enjoy it but it made me as bad as him as we were still married albeit separated.

 

[littlecordelera]

Yes. And I will do it again.

 

[soflabbwlvr]

Not recently. But a look, a smile, a whiff of perfume--things happen.

 

[pacman30]

so true

Yes. Is it right? But sometimes when you are truly stuck in a place where your needs aren't being met, and your S/O refuses to acknowledge that? Then it happens

I couldn't agree with you more

 

[HayleyLuvsSex]

grey area

 

[TxBoots]

Not a turn on because I was cheating, but the sex was sure a turn on.
When it is eliminated at home, you seek it elsewhere. No regrets, just wish it hadn't been necessary. All were just one time events, no love entanglements.

 

[luvemboth]

Once, on a girlfriend, but never again. Even though I later found out that she did the same multiple times, I'm still ashamed of myself.

 

[Pervertedhub]

Yes. And I will do it again.

Keep making your hubby happy!!!

 

[beingtrue2me]

I have. More than once. Most, I wish I hadn't. For years my husband had a "corporate" job and I was not as high on his list of priorities and I wanted to be. To get the attention I seemed to crave, I partied a lot and had more than a couple affairs. One of the few that I have not and never will regret was with a woman that simply changed me inside and out. We will always be close and in some ways, though we are no longer lovers, she means more to me than he does. Maybe that isn't a good thing, dunno.

 

[policywank]

I have. More than once. Most, I wish I hadn't. For years my husband had a "corporate" job and I was not as high on his list of priorities and I wanted to be. To get the attention I seemed to crave, I partied a lot and had more than a couple affairs. One of the few that I have not and never will regret was with a woman that simply changed me inside and out. We will always be close and in some ways, though we are no longer lovers, she means more to me than he does. Maybe that isn't a good thing, dunno.

Does he know?

 

[Laird_Vertron]

Yes. Is it right? But sometimes when you are truly stuck in a place where your needs aren't being met, and your S/O refuses to acknowledge that? Then it happens

Absolutely true. We had the "this isn't working well" discussion on average every 6 to 8 months for about 13 years before I finally gave up on that. The fact is I love my wife and I don't want to hurt her, but damnit, I deserve to get my needs met, too. So the short answer is yes, I have. And I'm pretty sure it'll happen again.

 

[MrFoxwood]

No, I haven't, I wouldn't risk my marriage or the stability of my child's home, and I'm not sure anyone else would want me.

I'm not sure about some of these answers, some people seem to have a kind of fucked perception about what constitutes cheating. I'll be the first to say that the terms of any relationship are up for negotiation and are the business of the people involved, but when you step outside of the relationship and behave intimately (physically or emotionally) with a different person, and deliberately hide it from your SO, does that not cause you to wonder why you're hiding it? If you are doing something which you know your SO wouldn't want you to do, you're cheating, regardless of what you tell yourself.

I'm sure a lot of people have reasons that are perfectly valid and I'm not going to judge those that are honest enough to be able to admit it was cheating, but people who say (for example) 'oral doesn't count' are full of shit unless such a disclaimer has been agreed upon with their SO prior to the infidelity taking place.

 

[policywank]

No, I haven't, I wouldn't risk my marriage or the stability of my child's home, and I'm not sure anyone else would want me.

I'm not sure about some of these answers, some people seem to have a kind of fucked perception about what constitutes cheating. I'll be the first to say that the terms of any relationship are up for negotiation and are the business of the people involved, but when you step outside of the relationship and behave intimately (physically or emotionally) with a different person, and deliberately hide it from your SO, does that not cause you to wonder why you're hiding it? If you are doing something which you know your SO wouldn't want you to do, you're cheating, regardless of what you tell yourself.

I'm sure a lot of people have reasons that are perfectly valid and I'm not going to judge those that are honest enough to be able to admit it was cheating, but people who say (for example) 'oral doesn't count' are full of shit unless such a disclaimer has been agreed upon with their SO prior to the infidelity taking place.

I agree. I am in no position to judge anyone for their actions sexual or otherwise. However, I think it is important to see our actions for what they are and accept our own imperfections rather than fooling ourselves.

I think some of the most hurtful things people do to others is because they are deluding themselves that their actions aren't hurtful. It is one thing the cheat on your spouse, but blaming them for it and thereby giving yourself a free pass is more of a problem - not saying they may not be a big part of the problem but we all need to take responsibility for ourselves at some point.

 

[brookes]

Yeah it did turn me on knowing I was doing something I shouldn't. It made the experience more intense but so was the guilt!

 

[littlecordelera]

Yes. And I will do it again.

I suppose I should explain, because I'm not sure my experience truly fits in this thread.

I've been honest with every guy I've ever dated that I will never be sexually faithful. My husband knew long before we ever married, and he knew that I had made good on that promise, more than once, before we ever married.

We are a very happily married couple and I see other guys (with my husband's knowledge); however, I don't think cheating is okay. I don't think it is ever okay to do something that can hurt another person. I understand people make mistakes and I think mistakes should be forgiven, but a continued pattern of cheating demonstrates a deeper emotional problem that, left to fester, will only cause continued unhappiness within the relationship.

Of course, some of you may feel that if I am seeing other guys, even with my husband's consent, I am still cheating. I don't really understand that, but in my own defense, I would never do anything to hurt my husband. In my definition, cheating has to go against your partner's wishes.