Housework and submission.

[Seduce]

My man is sort of "clean house" freak, but only when someone else does it. He does cook extremely well when he feels like it though.....

In fact he is the worst slob I ever lived with, and I hate cleaning. If I wasnt so much in love and willing to please him from the start, I would probably run away screaming.

As the things are now we live almost a master/slave relationship - I am cleaning after him, getting him a beer and anything else he can think of, serving him tasty meals and so on. I do everything, he just gets home from work and eat, sleep, watch tv and chat on the internet.

Now and then I have fits, (especially when he complains about his laundry not being ironed properly, his shirts not being hang in closet all facing the same way, or something equaly stupid) then we fight and it ends in him telling me how useless I am and how from now on he will do all the things in the house.
It never happens.... usually when he cools off he first says "I dont have any cigarettess/beer, go and buy some"

He promised though when we move in the new flat he will start picking his dirty clothes from the floor and putting it in bin - I cant wait to see him actually doing it.

 

[graceanne]

I genuinely enjoy housework, I always have. Washing dishes relaxes me, as does washing windows and ironing clothes. If I'm stuck for something to do, it's not unusual for me to empty out and clean cupbaords and whatnot.

I'm a tidy person by nature and very well organized. I love, love, love to cook and could spend hours (and often do) grocery shopping.

That's just sick . . . . Will you come live with me?

 

[graceanne]

My man is sort of "clean house" freak, but only when someone else does it. He does cook extremely well when he feels like it though.....

In fact he is the worst slob I ever lived with, and I hate cleaning. If I wasnt so much in love and willing to please him from the start, I would probably run away screaming.

As the things are now we live almost a master/slave relationship - I am cleaning after him, getting him a beer and anything else he can think of, serving him tasty meals and so on. I do everything, he just gets home from work and eat, sleep, watch tv and chat on the internet.

Now and then I have fits, (especially when he complains about his laundry not being ironed properly, his shirts not being hang in closet all facing the same way, or something equaly stupid) then we fight and it ends in him telling me how useless I am and how from now on he will do all the things in the house.
It never happens.... usually when he cools off he first says "I dont have any cigarettess/beer, go and buy some"

He promised though when we move in the new flat he will start picking his dirty clothes from the floor and putting it in bin - I cant wait to see him actually doing it.

When me and K got married we made an aggreement. If he doesn't like how I'm doing it, he can do it himself. Part of the reason this works is, with the exeption of the floors, I'm a better cleaner than him. It also helps that he does construction, so his clothes don't need to be ironed.

 

[Softouch911]

Hmmm, just thinking ....

has anyone ever been flogged with a toilet brush?

 

[esclave_PP]

Hmmm, just thinking ....

has anyone ever been flogged with a toilet brush?

Not sure you could be 'flogged' with it but spanked sure...feels mighty strange.

 

[psyche1973]

I'm "housekeeping" he's "maintenance", I do 90% of all housework, cooking cleaning, etc, he does 90% of all yardwork, painting, and repairs . Occasionally we will help eachother out.
I work hard to keep from falling into the habits of my manic depressive mother, when she was manic she'd clean endlessly. When I get like her and clean like a crazy woman my husband gets irritable and wants me to relax. I aim to be a "reasonablist" instead of a perfectionist, perfectionism scares the crap out of me. My home is tidy and lived in and that's how we like it.
(plus, I have 8 kids running around all day, 2 are mine 6 I'm paid to watch, so perfect just really isn't a healthy option)

 

[h_i_s]

Hmmm, just thinking ....

has anyone ever been flogged with a toilet brush?

No, and please do NOT give Him any ideas. heh..
Been spanked with wooden spoons, and silicone spatulas (He has broekn a few over my bare ass, on several occasions ... i'm thankful that we have a dollar store close by .. had to replace a few.) ... but never a toilet brush.

 

[shy slave]

That's just sick . . . . Will you come live with me?

I am sure fox would prefer a trip to Uk, there are so many dishes here to wash you would feel constantly relaxed

My kids used to do jobs in the house for pocket money, but now they both earn cash elswhere they have 'opted out of the programme'.
It lasted for years though, I had them sorting laundry from pre-school

I do everything (apart from gardening *shudder*), but with just me and two teenage boys who else will do it lol

My ex husband used to do alot in the house but he always made sure I knew every single job he had done; sometimes it was easier just to do it myself than listen to him go on about it lol

I don't mind housework, but hate washing dishes. There seems to be a constant pile of them that no-one takes responsibilty for (yes, I should buy a dishwasher but have never got round to it).

How can every dish in the house get used if no-one admits being home all day?

 

[graceanne]

I am sure fox would prefer a trip to Uk, there are so many dishes here to wash you would feel constantly relaxed

Hey, get away! I saw her first.

 

[curiousjen]

Thank you for all your responses The picture I'm sorta getting is that D/s relationships seem to follow the domestic patterns of the population at large- that is- there is no hard and fast "rule" about what a pyl should or shouldn't do, and most Doms don't feel like its beneath them to pitch in.

To be honest, thats really nice to know I was beginning to feel a bit worried that along with all the bdsm stuff I'd accidentally signed myself up for a life of domestic slavery Not that I'm knocking it, if thats the way you wanna serve, but man, totally not my cup of tea!

Now I better shut my mouth before Owen starts getting evil fantasies involving me, a French maid's uniform and a bottle of fairy liquid!

 

[Seduce]

It also helps that he does construction, so his clothes don't need to be ironed.

Can you imagine trucker needing fresh ironed shirt every day? Sometimes he comes home dirty just like a little boy playing in mud.

But I discovered new tactics lately: "Darling, I would so love to come and play with you on webcam, I feel so horny; but I simply must iron all those shirts of yours because you will have nothing to wear next week...."
So he says "to the hell with the ironing, I will wear whatever I find clean in closet".

 

[Netzach]

That's funny. I get the advice on how to do things correctly, especially that spatial problem of loading the diswasher.

So I always always without fail inform M that since he's better at it, he can do it.

Ergo 70-80% of the work is done by him.

Hey, unlike a lot of Dominants, I'd rather be freed up than right!

 

[Ophelia_221]

Same answer I give my mom

Im an artist, I dont have time to clean....
Before or after a live-in Dom

 

[shy slave]

Im an artist, I dont have time to clean....
Before or after a live-in Dom

Damn I wish I had thought of that!

 

[AnelizeDarkEyes]

Like others, we split things up. He, by preference, does the cooking--hence, he does the grocery shopping as well. I despise grocery shopping, so...YAY! I do all the laundry. We each clean our own bathrooms. He keeps "his" computer/guitar room tidy and I do the rest. I do the mopping and he'll vacuum. We neaten as we go through the week, and do one big cleanup weekly.

The faster we get it done, the faster we can get back to doing stuff we REALLY enjoy

~Anelize

 

[SweetDommes]

I'm very bad, I don't clean except when I get in 'moods' ... like today, I did laundry, sprayed all the mildew in the house that I could find with bleach water, and worked on our homeloan, and I'm getting ready to do some more (reluctantly now though ... the mood is gone, but shit is only 1/2 done).

I do try to help, I'm just horrible at it. I always have been, let me give you my mom's phone number and she will be happy to tell you.

 

[Gil_T2]

OK, I'll level with you. I'm not a fan of housework. The dishes, laundry, dusting, cooking and all the millions of other jobs to do around the home just bore me to tears. Although I'll admit to occasionally indulging in a little 1950s style housewife fantasy, mostly Owen and me (when we're both working in full time employment) split the housework 50/50. He cooks and cleans and scrubs floors and washes windows with the best of them, and even complains that I'm not up to his high "standards!!!"

I was thinking about this today, and was thinking how on this board I had heard a lot of passing comments from the subs (particularly fem subs) on the matter of housework, and very little from the Doms.

So I guess I was wondering a few things?

Are me and Owen unusual?

Do most pyls tend to the domestic side of things, even if they have a full time job or kids to look after?

Is it, in these households considered by the pyl and/or PYL to be unPYLish to be found doing the ironing etc?

If the above answer is yes, would that still be the case if the PYL was unemployed?

I'd be really interested to hear your answers

My sub BANDIT is extreemly spoilt as I got a cleaner for her so she don't do house work at all, although she does do dishes & cooking.

 

[Bandit58]

My sub BANDIT is extreemly spoilt as I got a cleaner for her so she don't do house work at all, although she does do dishes & cooking.

I know, I am very spoilt
for Master

 

[Killishandra]

I have an interesting relationship with housework. I don't hate it.. In fact, I find monotonous cleaning to be somewhat relaxing for me at times. But I will let my surroundings become simply atrocious if I'm left to my own devices. I have almost no motivation to clean on my own, but when asked/told to do a specific chore I am all over it.

When Marquis was here I made a specific effort to upkeep my apartment, but it's still much, much easier on me when I'm prompted to do these things. It's very calming to me to be told to clean the bedroom or kitchen while He is busy on the computer. Just being able to see Him while I perform tasks to His liking seems to instill a contented feeling in me... It's somewhat less satisfying if I can't see Him while I do them (aka, if I am cleaning the kitchen and He's in my bedroom with the door closed) but still not something I dread. (It's just much more satisfying to be busy while in His presence.) The night before He left He wrote me a detailed list of chores to do while He browsed Lit, and that worked out well for both of us.

C is better at initiating housework than I am, but between her and Marquis giving me directions I'm sure I can contribute my fair share to keeping His place tidy. I do like it when He contributes in small things like helping me with the dishes or making the bed... It makes me feel nice that He is helping me out and doing a task with me. But to imagine Him cleaning His whole apartment or some such gives me a real sense of anxiety... A large part of my submission to Him is a personal duty to keep His surroundings clean and comfortable, and I would feel dismayed if He felt C and I had slacked to the point where He had to do these things Himself. (Besides, us doing the chores frees Him up to spend time on more important things.)\

Just my 2 cents.

 

[esclave_PP]

Like you Killi I find mundane tasks somewhat relaxing but much more satisfying if done for someone, especially if they enjoy watching you clean I don't mind doing pretty much everything although Master prefers to do the cooking. I do the dishes. Not a bad deal.

 

[Killishandra]

Like you Killi I find mundane tasks somewhat relaxing but much more satisfying if done for someone, especially if they enjoy watching you clean I don't mind doing pretty much everything although Master prefers to do the cooking. I do the dishes. Not a bad deal.

Marquis does almost all the cooking in our relationship too. I'm so happy to have a Dom that is Master of the kitchen as well as of me. Unfortunately, my cooking skills are extremely limited. He's in the process of breaking me of the bad habit of eating out every day. (Which will be a lot easier once I'm living with Him.)

 

[SueJ]

I'm with Killi. I far prefer the housework when given a list by my Husband. I have a housekeeper for a day once a week. Really all I have to do is pick up, do laundry, and all the cooking/dishes. But that doesn't stop me from hating it. He takes care of the grounds and/or delegates some of it to the kids, and I do everything 'within'. For large grocery shopping expeditions, he often accompanies me, which is a big help, and my daughter helps with the cooking.

 

[esclave_PP]

Killi congrats on moving to Florida! You guys aren't far from me How wonderful for you all! My cooking isn't bad, in fact I'd LOVE to cook for Master, but he really enjoys it so I let him lol ha -- let him. hee hee.

Thank you Sue for bringing up rituals -- that is indeed an important part of the D/s M/s relationship too!

 

[Neomagalie]

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[canadiancutie]

I hate cleaning.... a lot. So luckily I'm vegan I have a list of companies that aren't animal friendly, and luckily, pretty much all mainstream cleaning products are on the list (well, actually that's kind of unlucky, but it's good for the no cleaning thing). So pretty much all I ever have to do is vaccuum.