How do you handle rejection??

[Jewelz]

Hi Jewelz How you feeling today? Better I hope with all your lovely Lit friends. I did appreciate "huge grins"
Wendy

Hi hon! Yes, I am feeling better today! Thank you! It is amazing that people you have never met face to face can make you feel sooo good inside and some people you have known your whole life can't do that for you! ( and no, i am not referring to the hubby)

And Wenz darlin......look at the count over there <-------- I am almost a Guru!!! And you thought it would be a week and I thought it would take longer to reach! and its only been a few days and I have climbed by the 60s! LOL

 

[Ohiomale]

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Hindsight is 20/20 they say. He *is* working very hard and many hours and I know he was exhausted....but something is wrong with the picture when he'd rather play an RPG than snuggle with me. Well P on him!!!!!!!!!! LOL

And just for realizing that I *am* a huggable, snuggable lady....you win the boobie prize!!!!! *giggle* and I would love for someone to hold and carress me!!!!

well... *smiling* *wrapping My big ole strong arms around you... holding you in the warmth and confines of My strenght and tenderness... the feeling of comfert and warmth flowing from Me over you... seeping in threw every pore*

well... I also RPG... he prolly escapes into that world just to escape the problems of the real world... dont mean to make excuses...

 

[Jewelz]

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well... *smiling* *wrapping My big ole strong arms around you... holding you in the warmth and confines of My strenght and tenderness... the feeling of comfert and warmth flowing from Me over you... seeping in threw every pore*

well... I also RPG... he prolly escapes into that world just to escape the problems of the real world... dont mean to make excuses...

Thanks for the comfort in your arms sweet man! And I dont think you are making excuses, you are helping me understand a bit more! I appreciate that!

 

[Ohiomale]

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Thanks for the comfort in your arms sweet man! And I dont think you are making excuses, you are helping me understand a bit more! I appreciate that!

*smiling* thats just Me...

 

[Jewelz]

Ohiomale

*smiling* thats just Me...

And we are happy it is "just you"

 

[Ohiomale]

Re: Ohiomale

And we are happy it is "just you"

*My hands reaching up... touching your silky hair... as My fingers probe into the depths of your locks of hair... My fingers strokeing... as My finger nails lightly scratch... sending good feelings threw your body... as I pet you tenderly... caressing you softly... My other hand... pulling you into the crook of My arm... your cheek nuzzled against My shoulder* thats all I ask for and give is who and what I am...

 

[wildrose70]

Well dammmmmmmm I just have to put my 2 cents worth in.....

Rejection.....starts with the first time you are in the mood...you make some advances...he rolls over...bear in mind of course that you have always been the one to start things.....

How I dealt with it??? I decided there and then....no more...and this went on for 16 years...until I got a computer....and that was the begining of the end...

Found out not only was sex still an option....but that men still found me desirable....

I dealt with rejection by getting out and getting on with life...and not looking back....

And boy can I relate to no one listening to you...LOL talking to the wall....being ignored>>> doesnt work for me anymore!!!

 

[Jewelz]

Well dammmmmmmm I just have to put my 2 cents worth in.....

Rejection.....starts with the first time you are in the mood...you make some advances...he rolls over...bear in mind of course that you have always been the one to start things.....

How I dealt with it??? I decided there and then....no more...and this went on for 16 years...until I got a computer....and that was the begining of the end...

Found out not only was sex still an option....but that men still found me desirable....

I dealt with rejection by getting out and getting on with life...and not looking back....

And boy can I relate to no one listening to you...LOL talking to the wall....being ignored>>> doesnt work for me anymore!!!

Thanks for your two cents! lol The computer gets me in lots of trouble. Although I hide NOTHING from him, he knows I am here, he has free will to read what I write at any time he chooses. But because of the computer world, I have met some of the most amazing people I will ever know. And yes, actually allowed myself to fall in love with a man, and another time, for the first time, a woman. Those people I will love forever but things change, life goes on. But it has proven to me that I am missing out on something in my marriage. I just cant let go of us though. So i have to deal with it and come bitch here once in awhile LOL

I wont go out too much in real life cuz of my babies...I have 3 daughters under the age of 6! They occupy alot of my time and I can never be Jewelz.....I am in the mommy mode for the next 18 years! (not complaining)...but its another reason I come here...to be me on an adult level!

Im ramblin...I really need to get off this puter this morning and clean!!!! LOL

 

[sexyspank]

Hi hon! Yes, I am feeling better today! Thank you! It is amazing that people you have never met face to face can make you feel sooo good inside and some people you have known your whole life can't do that for you! ( and no, i am not referring to the hubby)

And Wenz darlin......look at the count over there <-------- I am almost a Guru!!! And you thought it would be a week and I thought it would take longer to reach! and its only been a few days and I have climbed by the 60s! LOL

Good to see you smiling again I just love to see folk happy and if I can help someone when they're feeling down it makes me happy.Hence my title.

Look on the bright side. Because of what's happened you're nearly a Guru. be happy




Wendy

 

[Jewelz]

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*My hands reaching up... touching your silky hair... as My fingers probe into the depths of your locks of hair... My fingers strokeing... as My finger nails lightly scratch... sending good feelings threw your body... as I pet you tenderly... caressing you softly... My other hand... pulling you into the crook of My arm... your cheek nuzzled against My shoulder* thats all I ask for and give is who and what I am...

oh so tender you are!

 

[darkscribe]

Aaaaaack!!!

The dreaded "R" word. I am sorry that I came to this post so late. It sucks being rejected like that Jewelz.

For myself, I don't even know where to begin. When I was a teen, there was a girl I liked in school. I made the mistake of asking her out in public in front of 3 of her friends. She rejected and her friends laughed at me. That was the only time I ever cried in public. The pain from that single rejection was so great that I vowed never to let that happen again. Now all these years later I am a prisoner to fear of rejection, unable even to ask for fear of being laughed at again.

So I handle rejection very badly I would have to say.

I understand in a way that it is a state of mind and that it really shouldn't effect that much, but the only way that I can equate is to maybe relate to some one that survived a plane crash or a train wreck. Their of that single incident is so great that may never fly or get on a plane again. I'm not paralyzed by it I just move way slower than most people.

Sorry for rambling...

 

[sexyspank]

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Hindsight is 20/20 they say. He *is* working very hard and many hours and I know he was exhausted....but something is wrong with the picture when he'd rather play an RPG than snuggle with me. Well P on him!!!!!!!!!! LOL

And just for realizing that I *am* a huggable, snuggable lady....you win the boobie prize!!!!! *giggle* and I would love for someone to hold and carress me!!!!

You are huggable and you are snuggable and I would offer to do both but I might get rejected


Wendy

 

[Jewelz]

Good to see you smiling again I just love to see folk happy and if I can help someone when they're feeling down it makes me happy.Hence my title.

Look on the bright side. Because of what's happened you're nearly a Guru. be happy
Wendy

And I for one am glad you are there to help me and others!

and yes!!!!! Im gonna jump his ass tonight for getting me closer to a guru! 10 bucks says it will be amazing tonight....the lil shit! lol add the fact that I just cant seem to stop posting today! i am DRAWN to lit lately LOL......im not gonna give into his excuses....we WILL make love tonight!! lol

 

[wildrose70]

Go for it Jewelz....does he know about Lit?? let him wonder why your so hot and horny...LOL....and let us know!!!! woohoooooooo

 

[Jewelz]

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The dreaded "R" word. I am sorry that I came to this post so late. It sucks being rejected like that Jewelz.

For myself, I don't even know where to begin. When I was a teen, there was a girl I liked in school. I made the mistake of asking her out in public in front of 3 of her friends. She rejected and her friends laughed at me. That was the only time I ever cried in public. The pain from that single rejection was so great that I vowed never to let that happen again. Now all these years later I am a prisoner to fear of rejection, unable even to ask for fear of being laughed at again.

So I handle rejection very badly I would have to say.

I understand in a way that it is a state of mind and that it really shouldn't effect that much, but the only way that I can equate is to maybe relate to some one that survived a plane crash or a train wreck. Their of that single incident is so great that may never fly or get on a plane again. I'm not paralyzed by it I just move way slower than most people.

Sorry for rambling...

aww hon, dont be sorry for "ramblin"....look at me! lol I am very sorry that you were scorned (for lack of a better word right now) like that ...it does leave us with a bitter taste and a fear...no matter how much we dont want to hold onto a feeling like that.

I have low self esteem as it is. was verbally and emotionally abused as a child and unfortunately THAT has stayed with me all these years too! My husband saved me from a personal hell way back then and I owe so much to him. He is one in a million but on the intimate level....he lacks. I guess I have to chalk it up to him never having anything before me....I am his first EVERYTHING. so i guess that makes me look bad....lol

HUGS

 

[Ice Cold]

That's the spirit Jewelz, Soemtiems you have to grab the bull by the horns... well you know where to go from there..

 

[sexyspank]

And I for one am glad you are there to help me and others!

and yes!!!!! Im gonna jump his ass tonight for getting me closer to a guru! 10 bucks says it will be amazing tonight....the lil shit! lol add the fact that I just cant seem to stop posting today! i am DRAWN to lit lately LOL......im not gonna give into his excuses....we WILL make love tonight!! lol

We want all the gory details


Just a thought.Why not get your hubby to look at this thread. He may not realise how much you were hurting?


wendy

 

[Jewelz]

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You are huggable and you are snuggable and I would offer to do both but I might get rejected
Wendy

Reject you?? Do you think I am that stupid sweet wendy!? I would be horrible insane to reject you!

 

[Jewelz]

Go for it Jewelz....does he know about Lit?? let him wonder why your so hot and horny...LOL....and let us know!!!! woohoooooooo

Yes, hon, he does know about lit....and it has led to many hot hot nights with my hubby!! so he does know why I am hot and wet LOL....i tell him most everything about anything!

In fact, he just got home from work right now and I told him I cant stop posting this morning and what I was posting about.....ie him rejecting me! ....he said nothing.....

 

[Jewelz]

That's the spirit Jewelz, Soemtiems you have to grab the bull by the horns... well you know where to go from there..

LOL yes, yes darling i do...my problem is that i am the one who always is grabbin the bull...i want the bull to attack me!!!! LOL

 

[darkscribe]

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I have low self esteem as it is. was verbally and emotionally abused as a child and unfortunately THAT has stayed with me all these years too! My husband saved me from a personal hell way back then and I owe so much to him. He is one in a million but on the intimate level....he lacks. I guess I have to chalk it up to him never having anything before me....I am his first EVERYTHING. so i guess that makes me look bad....lol

HUGS

Jewelz, I am in the same boat as you. I have low self esteem(which I am working to improve). When I was a child I was verbally and physically abused. Yes, it never goes away
I just hope that I am as lucky as you are.

As for you being his first, just be paitent, it doesn't make you look bad, communication is the key to everything.

 

[Ice Cold]

LOL... I think after last night, we are all waiting for the bull to attack you so we can get the sweaty details.... Slip some viagra in his coffee might lead to those results.

 

[Jewelz]

We want all the gory details
Just a thought.Why not get your hubby to look at this thread. He may not realise how much you were hurting?
wendy

LOL ya do eh?? he just looked over my shoulder and read this post.. he said " i didnt realize you were serious. i thought you were being sarcastic"....ugghhh

 

[princess4u]

LOL ya do eh?? he just looked over my shoulder and read this post.. he said " i didnt realize you were serious. i thought you were being sarcastic"....ugghhh

....he loves you....

 

[Jewelz]

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Jewelz, I am in the same boat as you. I have low self esteem(which I am working to improve). When I was a child I was verbally and physically abused. Yes, it never goes away
I just hope that I am as lucky as you are.
As for you being his first, just be paitent, it doesn't make you look bad, communication is the key to everything.

its unfortunate that our past can haunt us this way. i have tried to counsel and get over it...but it just lingers! And funny as it may be, posting here has helped with my own personal self esteem issue! Lucky as me? I dont think I am lucky really. Blessed, yes...you are blessed and WILL be blessed, im sure hon!

Communication, he lacks every letter in that word! ugghh!! lol