How do you handle rejection??

[Richard49]

Talk about rejection

I am not sure how to post this without sounding whinny or grandious....but here goes......

I am and always have been just an average looking guy.
You would not look twice at me if you passed me on the street.
I am told I have beautiful eyes.
I know I have voice that melts a heart <smile>
[use to be a DJ]

During high school I had few dates
I was rejected a lot

I have lived carrees that involve a lot of rejestion
[sales,advertsing,preaching etc.]

The last 5 + months I have lived a hell from rejsction
My wife and collored sub deserted me
I am just geting on my feet emotionally and still have deal with things that bring heavy emotional memories and sadness.

I am inteligent,more than a good lover,give great massages,a good provider etc.
[terrible speller and typist]

Yet all this rejection makes me feel like I am a piece of shit.
In the last few weeks I have asked a few women out,looked for someone in the lifestyle,even had a couple of dates <beg>.
However the rejection goes on.

We males,culturaly (sp), are "expected" to be the agressor.
The one to risk in the asking etc.

Well I am about ready to just become and emotional hermit.

Richard
Micihgan

 

[Jewelz]

LOL... I think after last night, we are all waiting for the bull to attack you so we can get the sweaty details.... Slip some viagra in his coffee might lead to those results.

LOL well i just got done telling him "after last night, you owe me big time. i think you need to fulfill my every sexual need and desire tonight and pleasure me in every way"......his response "i cant do that in one night" and smirks at me.. i in turn said dramatically to him "ohh that hurts, take the dagger outta my heart"...he laughs..I say "you are right, you cant fulfill my EVERY need cuz that would mean me making love to a woman"...he said "go get one"....yeah ok, whatever dingdong!....lol

Then he just asked "so, what are the responses, all bashing me?" of course i told him no and he can read it any time he wants.

 

[Jewelz]

....he loves you....

*blush*....he does, and i know it......and i love him. what is wrong with me that i want and need more than he has given thus far?

 

[princess4u]

*blush*....he does, and i know it......and i love him. what is wrong with me that i want and need more than he has given thus far?

not a single thing wrong with that my friend - i am in the same boat as you - in love but sexually frustrated - and my hubby told me the same thing about another woman - but i've been unable to find a "suitable suitor" - perhaps we should get together - hehehe ~

 

[Jewelz]

Re: Talk about rejection

I am not sure how to post this without sounding whinny or grandious....but here goes......

I am and always have been just an average looking guy.
You would not look twice at me if you passed me on the street.
I am told I have beautiful eyes.
I know I have voice that melts a heart <smile>
[use to be a DJ]

During high school I had few dates
I was rejected a lot

I have lived carrees that involve a lot of rejestion
[sales,advertsing,preaching etc.]

The last 5 + months I have lived a hell from rejsction
My wife and collored sub deserted me
I am just geting on my feet emotionally and still have deal with things that bring heavy emotional memories and sadness.

I am inteligent,more than a good lover,give great massages,a good provider etc.
[terrible speller and typist]

Yet all this rejection makes me feel like I am a piece of shit.
In the last few weeks I have asked a few women out,looked for someone in the lifestyle,even had a couple of dates <beg>.
However the rejection goes on.

We males,culturaly (sp), are "expected" to be the agressor.
The one to risk in the asking etc.

Well I am about ready to just become and emotional hermit.

Richard
Micihgan

(((((((Richard)))))))) Whatever you do, dont bury your emotions. I was VERY worried about posting this cuz I thought I would get alot of bashing, people thinking I was some ungrateful bitch or something. Which couldnt be further from the truth. I didnt start this thread to bash my husband either. I love him, I am very much IN LOVE with him....but was hurting badly last night. Rejection from someone that you love that deeply is hard to deal with! I am extremely sensitive...a lover, not a fighter. And believe me when I tell you that I KNOW for a fact that half the people here would pass over me if there was a group of women to choose from. I am sure I would be among the last chosen. I dont feel Im ugly, but I am by no means gorgeous. I am a bigger woman and that is not welcomed either. Soooo I understand your feelings. You will find someone special Richard...but if you close off your emotions it will make it harder to do so. You seem like a great person...

 

[wildrose70]

Well Jewelz at least your hubby is more openminded that mine ever was...he would have died of shock to think I was posting pics like I do or writing the way I do...it's the other side of the "church" lady!!!!!

He was such a prude an explicit movie made him blush...and porn???? NO WAY JOSE...lol.....and talking about anything sexual....boo hiss... No one has any idea of the other side of me...

Thats why I frigging love this site>>>> almost used the 'f" word there..LOL

 

[Jewelz]

not a single thing wrong with that my friend - i am in the same boat as you - in love but sexually frustrated - and my hubby told me the same thing about another woman - but i've been unable to find a "suitable suitor" - perhaps we should get together - hehehe ~

sexually frustrated and in a way, emotionally frustrated too. i am a woman that needs romance and the "little things".....it lacks greatly here! and yes, perhaps we should get together *giggle*

 

[Jewelz]

Well Jewelz at least your hubby is more openminded that mine ever was...he would have died of shock to think I was posting pics like I do or writing the way I do...it's the other side of the "church" lady!!!!!

He was such a prude an explicit movie made him blush...and porn???? NO WAY JOSE...lol.....and talking about anything sexual....boo hiss... No one has any idea of the other side of me...

Thats why I frigging love this site>>>> almost used the 'f" word there..LOL

Omgosh!! You are so funny! The "F" word!

Yes, he is very openminded really! He is the one that encouraged me to post pics too. Havent done anything but my breasts, but that took alot of nerve for me to do! And he actually took pics of me (explicit) for the guy I had an online affair with! Go figure!! I think the rest of my family would also die of shock to know that I am here, doing and saying what say/do.. and moreso to learn that I am bi curious. That would not go over well at all! My hubby is anything but prude....I have invited him here with me and post too, but he isnt in to that. Thank God he doesnt care that I am here!!!! And he doesnt even mind if this is the reason I am horny, wet and sexually crazed LOL....he benefits greatly!

I just wish he could be more in touch with my needs....especially since i have repeatedly outlined them for him in the 14 years that we have been together. For once, I just want him to kiss the small of my back because he knows it drives me wild... he doesnt do it ...i have to always say....kiss the small of my back ...in the moment for him to do it....

sheesh..im ramblin....was getting offline to clean, but he is sleeping now....so im staying here to get my GURU status today!!!! lol

 

[princess4u]

was getting offline to clean, but he is sleeping now....so im staying here to get my GURU status today!!!! lol

my pc is on the second floor and my washer is in the basement - i am running up and down two flights of stairs to do laundry and to keep posting - LOL - pathetic aren't we????

 

[princess4u]

wildrose

Thats why I frigging love this site>>>> almost used the 'f" word there..LOL

repeat after me.....
fuck....fuck....fuck....fuck....fuck....fuck....fuck....fuck....fuck....fuck....fuck....fuck....fuck....fuck....fuck....fuck....

cum on now - let me hear it.....

 

[Ice Cold]

You're close to it Guru gal

At least you have open lines of communication. Some people never talk about their hurt or rejection. At least now he knows how you felt about his actions, and how it affected you. That is always a good start in the right direction.

14 years and he still doesn't know, ahh well some of us are REAL slow learners. Keep posting we almost have you there.

 

[Jewelz]

my pc is on the second floor and my washer is in the basement - i am running up and down two flights of stairs to do laundry and to keep posting - LOL - pathetic aren't we????

LOL!!!! yes darling we sure are!! Thank goodness my baby is napping and the older two are playing upstairs! shhhhhh LOL

Wonder how long it will take me for another 500 posts ....blah, hate the thought! lol

 

[Jewelz]

Re: wildrose

repeat after me.....
fuck....fuck....fuck....fuck....fuck....fuck....fuck....fuck....fuck....fuck....fuck....fuck....fuck....fuck....fuck....fuck....

cum on now - let me hear it.....

Ok now, i just got a twinge of horniness by reading FUCK sprawled across my screen.....yes, i think i do need FUCKED hard!!!!!!! LOLOL

 

[Ice Cold]

Come on only 8 to go!!!! You can do it!

 

[darkscribe]

f....fu.....fuh......fuck.....fuck......FUCK.....FUCK!!!!!

There I said it! It is exhilirating!!

Come on Jewelz 7 more!!!

 

[princess4u]

Re: Re: wildrose

Ok now, i just got a twinge of horniness by reading FUCK sprawled across my screen.....yes, i think i do need FUCKED hard!!!!!!! LOLOL

ahhhh....but it's such a wonderful word......

where is that wildrose -- she's the one that needs to say it ~

 

[Jewelz]

You're close to it Guru gal

At least you have open lines of communication. Some people never talk about their hurt or rejection. At least now he knows how you felt about his actions, and how it affected you. That is always a good start in the right direction.

14 years and he still doesn't know, ahh well some of us are REAL slow learners. Keep posting we almost have you there.

LOL.....yes VERY slow at learning! lol



ohh ohh....omg, yes baby!!!! You DO almost have me there!!!!!!

 

[Jewelz]

f....fu.....fuh......fuck.....fuck......FUCK.....FUCK!!!!!

There I said it! It is exhilirating!!

Come on Jewelz 7 more!!!

Ohh it feels soo good to have ya'll supporting me in my many hours spent online LOLOL

ALMOST THERE!!!!!!

 

[Ice Cold]

LOL.....yes VERY slow at learning! lol



ohh ohh....omg, yes baby!!!! You DO almost have me there!!!!!!

I can feel ya.... hmmm yes... it's warm.... getting warmer....
almost......

 

[Jewelz]

I can feel ya.... hmmm yes... it's warm.... getting warmer....
almost......

ohhh baby!! i wanna get there with you......take me !!!!!!!!

 

[Ice Cold]

ohhh baby!! i wanna get there with you......take me !!!!!!!!

I'm so ready baby.... I want... I NEED to feel that warm fuzzy again!!!!

 

[Jewelz]

I'm so ready baby.... I want... I NEED to feel that warm fuzzy again!!!!

Ohhh yes yes yes!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Baby!! I have that feeling right now!!!!! ohhhh yes ICE ICE BABY!!!!!!!! (heeheh could NOT resist).......

*blowing kisses to my wonderful friends here at Lit*.......thank you!! and Ice...kisses baby!!

 

[Ice Cold]

Ohhh yes yes yes!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Baby!! I have that feeling right now!!!!! ohhhh yes ICE ICE BABY!!!!!!!! (heeheh could NOT resist).......

*blowing kisses to my wonderful friends here at Lit*.......thank you!! and Ice...kisses baby!!

YES!! YES!!! (Shudders) Your the best baby. Whooo that was a good one....

(lights a cigarette) So was it good for you...

(Ice ice baby )
Jewels has 500 you go GURU GAL!!

 

[Jewelz]

YES!! YES!!! (Shudders) Your the best baby. Whooo that was a good one....

(lights a cigarette) So was it good for you...

(Ice ice baby )
Jewels has 500 you go GURU GAL!!

Awww it was EXCELLENT for me my dear ice ice baby!!!!!!! thank you.....special LIXX for you!!

 

[Ice Cold]

Awww it was EXCELLENT for me my dear ice ice baby!!!!!!! thank you.....special LIXX for you!!

Awww you're too sweet. That's what friends are for.