How does a Dom find a Domme?

[La Kajira]

I had one person ask me to dominate them online once, but I couldn't do it. I just couldn't. I don't have the right attitude, mentality, whatever you call it.

I think it takes a lot of courage to go against your natural inclinations, and applaud you Marquis. Good luck!

 

[DVS]

On more than one occassion, I've been approached by Doms who wanted to experience subspace.. most often, so that they can understand the feeling, and empathize better with their subs. Twice, I've taken on such a Dom, and Dommed them. The problem that arises with Doms who want to experience subspace, actually came up in your post "To top me in the way I WANT". If you want to experience subspace, you don't really get to be picky. There are boundaries, sure, and the sub is in control, but... in the submissive role, you bend to the will of your top. You serve your top, and you serve their whims and desires. Not yours.


With one of the Doms I topped, it was a very successful experience. He revelled in the submissive role, though he did not want to make it a change in his lifestyle.

With the other, his Dom ego got in the way too much, and it was unsuccessful.

This is exactly what I was thinking, when he mentioned "how I want". Of course, Doms are like that. We love the control. Giving the control to someone else is very, very difficult. You have to want it, and I for one don't want that.

Oh, I've often said I could sub to the right woman, and that might be what Marquis is going to have to find...the right woman. It might have very little to do with what he wants, after that. He might fall into the sub feeling rather quickly.

Just like the Dom you said didn't have a successful experience subbing, Ms_Lilith. Either you weren't right for him or he just couldn't let go and be submissive.

Marquis, I think this will be your most difficult hurdle...finding the right woman to dominate you. My suggestion? Don't look so much for a Domme, but for a woman who you feel you could submit to and someone willing to dominate you. You might need to start small.

And, starting small might give you just what you want to feel, and be done with it. It could also give you enough of a taste so you can then decide if you are satisfied or if you want to venture further into the submissive side and search out someone who might be a switch to counter your new switchy tendencies.

 

[Marquis]

This is all getting rather heavy. I might have to just scrap the whole thing.

The Domme I have my eye on seems interested, but I don't really have the time right now anyways. I'd rather spend what little free time I do have being a Dom.

 

[Luna_Wolf72]

This is all getting rather heavy. I might have to just scrap the whole thing.

The Domme I have my eye on seems interested, but I don't really have the time right now anyways. I'd rather spend what little free time I do have being a Dom.

It figures...just when I disappeared, something good happened and went away all without me noticing....

 

[cremebrulee]

Too bad

Too bad I am so far away. I was quite intrigued by this whole concept and think it may have been a good fit for both of us. Not to be heavy, of course... subspace is truly something to be experienced. I can understand your interest. Domme space ain't so bad though I personally feel most at home there. Let me know if you ever venture up north.

Best of luck to you,

~Creme

*waves at luna_wolf72*

 

[Luna_Wolf72]

Too bad I am so far away. I was quite intrigued by this whole concept and think it may have been a good fit for both of us. Not to be heavy, of course... subspace is truly something to be experienced. I can understand your interest. Domme space ain't so bad though I personally feel most at home there. Let me know if you ever venture up north.

Best of luck to you,

~Creme

*waves at luna_wolf72*

*waves back at the cremey one*

long time, no touch base...