How much is too much or too little sex in a marriage

[Mtnmike]

If it's more than once every oh, thirteen years or so...

Going on 15 year's here, should've never complained about twice a year lol.

 

[PleasePeesMe]

Too little is when you start sucking cock.

 

[Filipinawife]

One a day

 

[vibes]

One a day

too much or too little?

 

[lifeis2short2b]

To much sex ? I never heard of someone leaving another person because of to much sex. One person's sex drive can definatley be higher than there partner. But I've heard people of both sexes go for weeks/months at a time. That's just asking for trouble.
Listen to your partner and don't forget each other. Don't let life get in the way. Don't just have sex But also make love to each other.

 

[hulmule]

To much or to little- I was told once a person that wants it one more time than you is a nymph lol

 

[Filipinawife]

too much or too little?

Enough

 

[alwaystheguy1983]

If your wife enjoys sex when you have it, but ends up too overwhelmed with other responsibilities to have the time and energy to want sex more often…..wouldn’t the solution be to take on more of the responsibilities and ensure that she has enough down time to want sex more often?

See now I thought the same thing. Even when I was working 60-70hr weeks I’d come home make dinner clean up after dinner get the kids bathed pick up the house . Really the list of shit I do to keep the mind from being overwhelmed so that sex may be even a possibility is endless. Like as a man if you want to have sex with your wife she needs to feel supported no matter how much you wanna have sex. Communicate your desire but don’t you ducking dare hold it over her head and don’t make it about you. Make the you a we cause your partners and you are teammates You and her against an issue. Talk it out. Yes , sometimes it’s difficult but don’t ever make a woman feel bad cause you wanna duck an she doesn’t. She will view you as another problem and as a husband I feel it’s our job to be their peace not their problem. Just some thoughts

 

[luckyseven]

Most women start avoiding sex after 60 because it’s painful. Most men avoid sex after 60 because their penises don’t work as they did, and they’re embarrassed to admit it.

 

[PMarky2]

Too much is when my back gives out, and/or she can't walk straight!
Too little is what I have right now.

 

[thefishfryer]

Too little is when you want more, and too much is when your knackered.

 

[Crownvic]

Never had too much...but sometimes enough..if that makes sense...

 

[womaneater58]

I've never experienced too much.

 

[K0fcali]

I’m not married so I probably shouldn’t be giving my two cents but I will anyways because it’s the internet.

I think sex is extremely important within a marriage. It’s something that should be communicated prior to the marriage. Granted life happens and you may not be in the mood but at the end of the day people have needs, and you do have to sometimes literally pencil it in.

Sex and how much you should be having with your partner does vary but knowing a persons sexual drive prior is important. I can’t wrap my head around married couples not having sex and or I.E. wives not giving head I'm pretty sure that’s in the fine print of the marriage license contract. But what do I know, I’m not married.

Will you marry me you little slut?

 

[Filipinawife]

David makes love to me most days when he’s not away on business trips. Sometimes he’s tired so I let him lay back and give him a nice blow job. Mostly he’s really up to it. If we don’t make love I miss the intimacy.

 

[2ServeWoman]

Will you marry me you little slut?

Except a dead libido destroyed our sex life - shoulda paid more attention to her mothers - 16 years and not any physical contact at all, thats bullshit and totally unfair!

 

[ZfrkS62]

41F/40M; 20 years together, Married 11 year come December, 20 years together.

We had about a 6 or 7 month stretch of nothing in 2020 when we fostered 2 4 legged cockblockers.

It would go in waves of a couple times in a week to nothing for 3-5 then again with multiple times, but it was so infrequent, I struggled to make it worth the wait for her. She usually just wanted me to get by frustration out, but that's a snowball issue because she was the one frustrating me.

Then we adopted another 4 legged mood killer in 21. Not much affection or passion in general. She doesn't kiss me much, and blow jobs have been more of an "it's the thought that counts" kind of act about once a year.

Since our vacation in November, she's gotten better about initiating, and it's been at least twice a month depending on our energy levels.

This past week and a half though, she's been hornier than when we were dating and has been trying to fuck my dick off. Multiple time in a 24 hour period, multiple times in the last 2 weeks.

She's out of town and my fun parts are rejoicing.

 

[Shaglus_Ziegler]

After reading the replies here I feel very fortunate. My wife and I have sex most days in some form. If I’m all hot and bothered and she’s not she’ll often give me an appointment. An appointment usually consists of me lying down on my back naked, sometimes I tie my cock and balls with a leather thong so that it gets all veiny and purple, she then will lick and suck at my nipple, which is sore as I speak, touch my cock, help me rub it, and give me some delicious tongue kisses. Sometimes she’ll whisper dirty fantasies or pretend someone is fucking her from behind and is getting pushed into me all the while moaning and carrying on. It’s very erotic. Sometimes shell end up rubbing herself well and we’ll both cum. I usually wait until the middle of her orgasm to squirt my cum onto her stomach and chest. It’s divine. Deep honesty, play and love seem to do wonders in a marriage. It also helps that she’s very sexy and lucky she thinks the same of me. It’s really fun and wild. We’d love to find an open minded man or couple to join us! Life is for living. The game board sucks! Stick it to the man by living well!!! And getting it on all the time!! Cheers

 

[Shaglus_Ziegler]

Will you marry me you little slut?

Well said. I come to the earth plane for the sensual delights of the physical, nature, food, sex, beauty, it’s amazing.

 

[VikingPhoenix]

Yeah…even if I found a boyfriend, it’s unrealistic we could meet up twice a day, everyday.

What about getting yourself a hunk nanny? Have him dress up as Mrs Doubtfire, the nanny. No one would ever know. I'm up for it if you need one!.lol..I have told my wife that we need Mary Poppins on several occasions...she thinks it's for the kids..
Who is the male equivalent of Mary Poppins? Personally, I would love to make Mary moan...just a spoonful of sugar Mary

 

[lil_jenni]

Several posters have alluded to a cycle of a period of higher frequency followed by a period of lower frequency. Hubby and I have experienced that a few times in the twelve years we've been together, most notably the year after the Kiddo was born. One of my big fears about having a second child is that we will slip into it again, and maybe it won't end this time.

 

[Trubbycat]

My wife slowly lost her desire and it’s been nothing for several years. I have repeatedly tried talking to her about it and she refuses. I’m starting to look around. It’s our 30th anniversary this year.

 

[Crownvic]

My wife slowly lost her desire and it’s been nothing for several years. I have repeatedly tried talking to her about it and she refuses. I’m starting to look around. It’s our 30th anniversary this year.

The 30 year itch..

 

[Islander55]

Several posters have alluded to a cycle of a period of higher frequency followed by a period of lower frequency. Hubby and I have experienced that a few times in the twelve years we've been together, most notably the year after the Kiddo was born. One of my big fears about having a second child is that we will slip into it again, and maybe it won't end this time.

I only have one child but I remember clearly how much a newborn takes out of your life. I think it is only natural that things do slow down a bit until the child gets a little older. I don't think there is much danger of that becoming permanent unless there are other issues. By the time I hit my 40's and realized that my daughter did not really need me that much any more, my libido made it clear that it was his turn now. I am not sure how common this is but when I retired, my desire picked up dramatically. I think for me just having the time and energy to devote to sexual things was a huge plus.

 

[ZfrkS62]

My wife slowly lost her desire and it’s been nothing for several years. I have repeatedly tried talking to her about it and she refuses. I’m starting to look around. It’s our 30th anniversary this year.

I told my wife a long time ago that if she went frigid I would get it elsewhere. This was when we were dating. I don't know if she thought I was joking.

Sad that she won't even talk about it with you.