Loving Wives- Dying a slow death?

[TxRad]

Is there a reason we should assume that the ANON's are he's?

Figure of speech only, if I know JJ.....

I thought about writing for loving wives and did research on the category... There seems to be three main groups of reader there... one wants spineless husbands to get stomped on... one wants the husband to beat the hell (figuratively) out of the cheating wife... and the third group stirs the pot....

Luckily I talked to a few people before I posted my story about a loving wife, not a cheating wife.... I ended up posting it to romance. Since then, I like a lot of authors, avoid the place totally... You can't win unless you happen to just slid in under the radar...

This isn't the first nor will it be the last thread to suggest splitting up LW... it's a horse that's beat at least once a year....

 

[kellyhockey]

Is there a reason we should assume that the ANON's are he's?

By the rage that I see I think most of the Anon posters have to be male. There are some people out there that have alot of "anger" issues. I think some of the posters are like the moth to the flame..attracted to the stories even though they know the stories will cause them pain.

Thanks again for all of the help.

 

[daggett]

It looks like my original question was answered. The 1-bombs and those nasty comments from Anon have taken their toll on authors who might write stories in LW. I wrote a couple of stories there myself and have gotten some pretty savage comments. (My thought as I read those comments was "Go fuck yourself, asshole!") I also had no problem dumping the comments that I felt were out of line. The question now is: Why do the stories posted in the category engender such rage?

 

[WhiteWave48]

*****

 

[Northsider]

Who is dropping the "one" bombs?

Well, of the 15 comments left in response to my LW submission, "The Show", 10 were anonymous, and of the 5 who left their user name, only one had actually submitted any stories whatsoever.


"Judge, and be prepared to be judged."
Ayn Rand

 

[rocker_wife]

A Theory

This is the first time I've ever attempted to post anything in a discussion forum, so I'm appologizing now if I err in any way as it seems most posting here are regulars.

I've just recently posted a couple stories on this site, one in the loving wives category (in the sense that the category was intended), and I had no idea it was such a hot topic. I do have a theory regarding the question of a slow death. In my limited online sexual experience (just over a year), it seems most people play in this cyberland to escape their relationship, not enhance it. Many seem to be looking for something other than what they have instead of honestly wanting to improve what's in their own bedroom. More often than not spouses are portrayed as advesaries, not partners. It seems that people find it much easier to communicate virtually and have given up on the complications of reality.

 

[drksideofthemoon]

This is the first time I've ever attempted to post anything in a discussion forum, so I'm appologizing now if I err in any way as it seems most posting here are regulars.

I've just recently posted a couple stories on this site, one in the loving wives category (in the sense that the category was intended), and I had no idea it was such a hot topic. I do have a theory regarding the question of a slow death. In my limited online sexual experience (just over a year), it seems most people play in this cyberland to escape their relationship, not enhance it. Many seem to be looking for something other than what they have instead of honestly wanting to improve what's in their own bedroom. More often than not spouses are portrayed as advesaries, not partners. It seems that people find it much easier to communicate virtually and have given up on the complications of reality.

First, I would to say welcome.

I don't think you're the first person to submit something to the Loving Wives category thinking it actually meant loving wives.

I think you make some valid points regarding cyber relationships.

 

[kellyhockey]

This is the first time I've ever attempted to post anything in a discussion forum, so I'm appologizing now if I err in any way as it seems most posting here are regulars.

I've just recently posted a couple stories on this site, one in the loving wives category (in the sense that the category was intended), and I had no idea it was such a hot topic. I do have a theory regarding the question of a slow death. In my limited online sexual experience (just over a year), it seems most people play in this cyberland to escape their relationship, not enhance it. Many seem to be looking for something other than what they have instead of honestly wanting to improve what's in their own bedroom. More often than not spouses are portrayed as advesaries, not partners. It seems that people find it much easier to communicate virtually and have given up on the complications of reality.

I think you hit the nail right on the head....

 

[starrkers]

This is the first time I've ever attempted to post anything in a discussion forum, so I'm appologizing now if I err in any way as it seems most posting here are regulars.

I've just recently posted a couple stories on this site, one in the loving wives category (in the sense that the category was intended), and I had no idea it was such a hot topic. I do have a theory regarding the question of a slow death. In my limited online sexual experience (just over a year), it seems most people play in this cyberland to escape their relationship, not enhance it. Many seem to be looking for something other than what they have instead of honestly wanting to improve what's in their own bedroom. More often than not spouses are portrayed as advesaries, not partners. It seems that people find it much easier to communicate virtually and have given up on the complications of reality.

Generally, I think you're right, which is sad.
Personally, I'm bucking the trend.

 

[BondiLisa]

I thought about writing for loving wives and did research on the category... There seems to be three main groups of reader there... one wants spineless husbands to get stomped on... one wants the husband to beat the hell (figuratively) out of the cheating wife... and the third group stirs the pot....

I have some stories that I plan to write one day that I think fall into the category of loving wife - essentially about my boyfriend wanting me to be with other men - I am getting concerned about posting there though.

My impression was that LW stories are about what women get up to outside of the relationship, particularly when there is consent from the man? Is this incorrect?

 

[BondiLisa]

I think some of the posters are like the moth to the flame..attracted to the stories even though they know the stories will cause them pain.

I had a similar experience in non-consent, I have received some terrible feedback, even to the point of calling me sick!

It kind of amuses me, they get aroused, feel guilty, and take it out on the writer

 

[Reshbod]

While it does seem to have fewer stories that appeal to me, LW is still the category I start with and often finish with.

All my stories so far involve the theme of cheating behind the partners back, no wife watching, cuckolding, partner actually into it type of stuff. Unfortunately, I have found few stories that really do it for me, so I wrote my own. Since I am not a real author and anyone who reads my stuff will likely agree, I write only for myself.

I personally find the negative comments very amusing and have changed a few stories so that I upset as many "anonymous" readers as possible. Now people who actually offer helpful comments and suggestions I try to take to heart and hopefully learn from and improve.

I would like to see a better defined category regarding "Loving" spouses and adultery. But I have been on this site for a while and apparently the powers that be have no interest in changing things. So I will continue writing what appeals to me and if it fits my definition of LW, then that is where I will post it, negative comments be damned.

 

[drksideofthemoon]

Generally, I think you're right, which is sad.
Personally, I'm bucking the trend.

You're just a rebel...

 

[Phoenician]

I have just written my first story, a 'Loving Wives' story and have received equal amounts of flak and praise. One of the Anons wrote,

"So to the anonymous poster that said not to read this kind of stories or genre if we don't like them, I have to say that a reader feels betrayed when they expect a Loving Wife story and it isn't anything but that. This story is a stroke story, an erotic encounter. There isn't any depth to it, no emotion, no fleshing out of the characters or plot. And since I am tired of reading stories that I don't want to read because they have been misplaced in the wrong category, this one gets a 0."

S/He has a point. Indeed the story is 'is a stroke story, an erotic encounter'.

I placed it in 'Loving Wives' as in the past I have found many similar stories in this category.

There is a lack of clarity as to what this category of stories should contain. Reader are reading the wrong stories and/or writers placing them in the wrong categories.

 

[kellyhockey]

I had a similar experience in non-consent, I have received some terrible feedback, even to the point of calling me sick!

It kind of amuses me, they get aroused, feel guilty, and take it out on the writer

That is what I cannot understand. Generally you can tell what a story is about in the first 3 or 4 paragraphs. If the topic is upsetting to the reader then the reader should find another story to read. There is enough categories.

 

[WhiteWave48]

Limitations and deceptions

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[Rick_N_Tanya]

Literotica is a site that promotes sexual fantasy, plain and simple. Fantasy varies from person to person, with the most sexual fantasies among married people being "loving wives". When the trolls leave negative feedback and 1-bombs, they are basically the high school jocks attacking people they percieve to be weak. "You got a little dick, and you can't get laid, so you gotta make stuff up! Ha ha, you're stoopid, and I just humiliated you in front of the whole school!" The reality is that they can't do it themselves, so they attack those that do. Of course, there are a few that jumped into the pool too soon, and found that they didn't like the experience they had, ergo, they must vent their own personal failures against all who might fair better should fantasy become reality.

I've posted a few stories on here that recieved as many 1-bombs as it did positive feedback. I finally just cut off the feedback board and quit responding to emails. And a genuine, heartfelt thanks to everyone who wrote and never got a response from me.

Just to drive the point home, I had a request to write a story I wasn't exactly comfortable with. I agreed, and wrote exactly as I always do, but I posted under an alt. It was in a section that doesn't have a lot of trolls, and I have to say, the response was incredible. I continued writing in that area, and so far, every story has recieved a hot rating, and I've gotten 1, solitary 1-bomb and comment from a troll. Who'd a thunk it?

Anyway, trolls are like scrodum warts. Sometimes, you just have to grin and bear it. They're here, and they're not going away. So long as we think of them as the STD of the sexual literary world, they won't have much of a bite. Keep writing, and ignore the scrodum itch. (or vaginal itch for you ladies)

Happy writing, and keep up the good work!!!!!!!!!

 

[the_scribbler]

This is how my tiny little brain has been reading this. I just feel that there are a ton of angry, divorced guys (sorry for the gender profiling) out there who read these stories and project themselves into them. I'm still completely amazed that someone who becomes this intensely offended by what they are reading is actually surfing a porn site!

Judging by the comments they leave me, I have to assume that they are not very well educated and probably refuse to accept any blame for the breakdown of their marriage. It's easier to blame their 'slut' of an ex or some guy for coming in and breaking up their 'happy' marriage rather than admit their own failings.

I believe when they read my story, they must figure I'm writing about them or taunting them or something because the attacks become very personal. I, for one, will continue to post my 'sharing wife' stories in LW. Technically, I realize that I'm not a very good writer, but I'll keep writing for myself and those that appreciate my stories, and hopefully I'll get better as I continue.

 

[geronimo_appleby]

the LW trolls win.

 

[MungoParkIII]

the LW trolls win.

Oh I don't know, sometimes it's just fun to fuck with them. I thought I spin a twist at them with a story titled "Abed". Working from a quote by Anne Sexton's "The Ballad of a Lonely Masturbator" where she says "Late at night, alone, I marry the bed," I set up a story from a bed's point of view as my "wife" has sex with man after man actually on top of me (me being the bed). I'd say 75% of the comments came from readers who didn't have a clue. I went back and now have Chapter 2 out where I got really obvious talking about being a "King Size" and being Serta Perfect (not just sorta perfect). In the end the bed exacts its revenge: Bedbugs!

So far the comments are 2 for 2, missing the point that the main character is a bed.


Of course my rating is hovering in the high 1s, but it sure is fun.

mp3

 

[RogerDodger62]

This will now be at the beginning of all my LW stories. If they want to troll me, they have to do so by admitting they just couldn't cut it in real life. Feel free to use it.


A courtesy note to new readers:

We, the authors here at Literotica, have a slight troll problem. Trolls are small, angry men who can’t cope with their personal failures, and feel the need to vent their frustrations for their own failed relationships. When you read their feedback, you really understand why their wife or girlfriend left them. We generally delete their comments, essentially “dumping” them (just like their wife or girlfriend did), but please be advised that you may experience rage filled blather at the end of this story. If you enjoy my story, please feel free to leave me feedback at the conclusion.

Enjoy,
Roger

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[the_scribbler]

Rodger...well said!

 

[kellyhockey]

This will now be at the beginning of all my LW stories. If they want to troll me, they have to do so by admitting they just couldn't cut it in real life. Feel free to use it.


A courtesy note to new readers:

We, the authors here at Literotica, have a slight troll problem. Trolls are small, angry men who can’t cope with their personal failures, and feel the need to vent their frustrations for their own failed relationships. When you read their feedback, you really understand why their wife or girlfriend left them. We generally delete their comments, essentially “dumping” them (just like their wife or girlfriend did), but please be advised that you may experience rage filled blather at the end of this story. If you enjoy my story, please feel free to leave me feedback at the conclusion.

Enjoy,
Roger

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I like this..I am working on a couple of stories...

I am really tempted to write one to see how many negative comments I get..Like throwing gas on a fire...

 

[RogerDodger62]

Watch out Kelly. I started a new thread specifically about this over in the author's hangout, and I'm catching more hell from the regulars than I do the trolls.

(I'm still going to do it though. It ought to be fun.)

 

[Frank Noir]

I think some catagories (LW included) have their ups and downs. Personally, I avoid LW and Forced/Reluctance like the Black Plague. The harrassment ain't worth it.

About one third of my stories are in the NonConsent/Reluctance category, and they're doing fine. Generally positive comments, pretty good scores. Perhaps my "style" is just right for the regulars.

Loving Wives, now that's another story. I've posted one story there (it seemed to fit the format), and it's been bombed with the most hateful comments and had the lowest score I've ever encountered. So yes - they're a different crowd.