Male sub thread

[MissTaken]

Hi everbody,

I have been reading this thread with great interest. Like many other posters, I am a male submissive as well. It is this deep emotion that just does not go away.

I would have to say to me D/s is like such a delicious drug. I love the meeting of the minds, the way one reacts to a Domme. It is hard to describe yet hard to be without.

Pardon my ramblings.

Welcome aboard, venomator.

 

[SweetDommes]

[highjack] OMG Miss T, that is an adorable AV ... [/highjack]

 

[MissTaken]

[highjack] OMG Miss T, that is an adorable AV ... [/highjack]

Thank you. Blue is adorable in real life too.

Although I am not sure who is better off on a leash, Blue or scooter!

 

[SweetDommes]

Thank you. Blue is adorable in real life too.

Although I am not sure who is better off on a leash, Blue or scooter!

LOL, why choose? Get one (or 2 or 3 or 4) for each ... hehehe

I should put up pics of some of our animals as AVs ... but it would take a year to get through them all ... LOL

 

[MissTaken]

Female Domination and Female Supremacy

I have longed for a discussion about these topics, but haven't felt well versed enough to be able to lead such a discussion.

So, scooter sent me a link and I have been enthralled all morning.

I am going to share the link and ask that anyone who reads it, finds a bit of something of interest to share here, on this thread, with the rest of us.

http://www.elisesutton.homestead.com/Main.html

Just reading some of the articles made me excited, mentally.

Other parts stimulated other parts of me. Egads! I hope scooter isn't working tomorrow. He needs to be with me!

 

[venomator]

Welcome aboard, venomator.

Thank you MissTaken. Female superiority is an interesting topic. Initially I resented it but I am now leaning more towards it. It has something to it.

 

[Xelebes]

Re: Female Domination and Female Supremacy

I have longed for a discussion about these topics, but haven't felt well versed enough to be able to lead such a discussion.

So, scooter sent me a link and I have been enthralled all morning.

I am going to share the link and ask that anyone who reads it, finds a bit of something of interest to share here, on this thread, with the rest of us.

http://www.elisesutton.homestead.com/Main.html

Just reading some of the articles made me excited, mentally.

Other parts stimulated other parts of me. Egads! I hope scooter isn't working tomorrow. He needs to be with me!

Very nice site. Bookmark worthy.

 

[MissTaken]

Thank you MissTaken. Female superiority is an interesting topic. Initially I resented it but I am now leaning more towards it. It has something to it.

I don't buy into everything I have read about the topic, but the more I read, the more I tend to think that there are elements of truth.

Not only in terms of BDSM, but some of the most powerful people I have known have been women.

Actually, all of the most powerful people I have known have been women.

 

[Subdued]

Hello A/all. I was looking around and found this thread and thought it would be a great way to introduce myself.

I'm new to this scene but I'm not sure if I'm a sub or just interested in the kinky side of it. Especially erotic chat and having a Domme using a strap-on. I've read a lot of Femdom stories and a lot of them raise my intrigue about serving.

 

[SweetDommes]

welcome to the boards and the thread .... it's kinda slowed down lately, but we've had some good convos before so hopefully with "fresh blood" we can get it going again

 

[KissMeFool]

Greetings

I was not quite sure where to ask this, so if anyone can point me to any other threads that may have disscussed something similar any help would be appreciated.

I have always been in vanilla style relationships. In those relationships I have been the dominate personality and sexually I tend to take charge, by that I mean I try to seduce then proceed to please and cater for every need, while not recieving much in return. I love giving pleasure and have people react to my attentions.

What I am starting to realise is that, I want to submit myself - be told what to do and do it, to please my mistress / master the way they want to be pleased.

Now here comes the discussion part: my current partner will never be able to be a mistress - she does not have the confidence nor the sexual desire. Has anyone faced a similar realisation in thier life ?

Thanks for reading/listening, KMF

Edit: to say ... as I was posting I liked the idea of "submitting" my reply

 

[rabblerouser]

Gentlemen,

What was it like when you first discovered submission? When you first went to your knees to your Lady? How did you or do you know when the Lady is the Lady for you?

When you are submitting, do you feel it is an issue of punishment or something else?

Scooter was reading some writings from a male sub who seemed to hire a Domme on a regular basis. The writings were focussed on what She did to him and did not touch on the mental aspect of submission. His response was, "This guy just doesn't get it. He is really missing out."

What do you think?

I am one who enjoys reading and learning from other's experiences and would love to hear from our male submissives on these things!

It's hard to remember when I first discovered my sub side. It's just always been there. I do remember the first date with M'lady though!

We met through a bdsm group at a munch. I was totally at a loss as to how to ask her out; because it felt wrong to do so, but I wanted her to know how I felt. I was a rank newcomer when I started going there. So at a party she sent her little playmate over to me and asked me to come over. I did. She asked if I was interested in scening with her that night.

I turned her down, because I was interested in her as a person, not just a Domme. Also because I'd never played before and a public initiation just freaked me.

Later that week she emailed me, and we went out to dinner the following weekend. We dated for about a bit first. I took her home one night and she looked at me and said "It's time." We went inside and she proceeded to blow my mind.

That first time, I still treasure the memory. It's one of my primary masturbatory fantasies. It wasn't just the sex either. I remember being on my knees and wanting to prove to her that I was worthy of her attentions; and also feeling like I was home. It was comfortable, even though I was nervous. I was nervous enough that she had me kneel at her feet and masturbate to orgasm because she thought I'd settle down better that way. It worked a bit.

That first night seems so lightweight now. We started as I mentioned above. Then she had me undress her, from my knees. She let me do the pussy worship thing, then tied me to the bed and beat me. Finally she turned me on my back rode me til she came. I was so exhausted that I had a hard time coming again, but she wasn't complaining any!

You said that Scooter ws reading about the guy who visits a pro Domme. M'lady did that for a while, and she said once that many guys who visit the Pros aren't into the reality; they're into the fantasy. They aren't looking for the mental domination or the emotional attachment. Maybe he's one of those guys. Nothing wrong with it, but it's a different sort of Domination. Apples and Oranges, as it were. The guy is really missibng out, but it probably doesn't bother him much becasue he doesn't know about it. It's like, I'm working in Mexico right now, in an economically depressed area. I'd die without my internet connection. Most of the families around here don't have a tv, much less a computer. I'm thinking "God, look what they're missing" and they don't know, and don't care.

Hope that answers at least part of your question, Miss T.

 

[rabblerouser]

That's pretty much what we mean. In our opinion, we cannot truly be dominant without someone to dominate - so without a sub, we are not Dommes. That makes him just as important as we are.

Respectfully ladies, I disagree. If you're looking at Pro Dom/mes or at scene Dom/mes (that is, people for whom it is a hobby, not a lifestyle) than you're probably right. Off the clock, they're not.

But there are those of us who are lifestyled. For whom this is a calling or a vocation. A priest is still a priest even when his church is empty. An artist who's lost his vision is still an artist. A dancer with an injury is still a dancer. Even though they are not currently able to fulfill their vocation, it doesn't diminish who they are.

But that's just my opinion. YMMV.

 

[SweetDommes]

Respectfully ladies, I disagree.

You don't have to agree ... but we will still hold it to be true. And keep in mind that what I said was that "without a sub, we are not Dommes." The "we are not truly dominant" statement wasn't intended to mean that we aren't dominant at all without our boys .... that, I will agree, was a mis-statement. Just keep in mind that my whole post was about US and no one else ... what others do in the lifestyle, and what others think about the lifestyle doesn't matter to us - that post was about the two of us and our boys specifically, not about people in the lifestyle in general.

However, in referance to the other part of it, which was not a mis-statement ... we have both nearly always been agressive, assertive and dominant in general - however, until we had playmates and then our boys, we were not Dommes. One of our submissive friends commented on this not long ago, and he can even tell when we have been talking with our boys and when it's been awhile since we've seen them/talked to them. He said that when he first started talking to us, he could tell that we were dominant, but it was kind of in the background ... now that we have our boys, we are different ... he couldn't explain it, but he said that even online, he can tell that we are Dommes now, and not just dominant. Someday, I'll have to drag him over here to see if he can explain it any better ...

Miss Karen

 

[rabblerouser]

It'd be great to see how he explains it. I've gotten the same vibe off some people too, ladies and the gentlemen, and I can't really describe it either..

I can't believe I made it through the whole thread in one morning!

 

[MissTaken]

Welcome

subdued: You are in the right place to learn and explore. You will also find that there are many like you, who desire servitude. Some of found their place, others have not.

Best wishes.

KissMeFool: I am terrible with searching threads and linking, but your query is not unusual. Finding something you crave after being involved in a longterm relationship can cause great confusion, strife and will likely require some sacrifices on your part. It is for you to decide how to proceed, but others have and have succeeded. Best wishes to you as well.

Rabblerouser: I enjoyed your posts and love watching how you interact with our Dommely team of glorious ladies! I think there is a fine line between who we are intrinsically and how it translates into our intimacy. I do find with scooter and I that our D/s pervades many parts of our interaction, outside the scene.

Now, you have me wanting to write about our first experience! It was a surprise to both of us! Well, sort of!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

[snowy ciara]

Re: Welcome

<major snippage>

Now, you have me wanting to write about our first experience! It was a surprise to both of us! Well, sort of!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Yes please! Tell us everything.. making popcorn

 

[KissMeFool]

Re: Welcome

KissMeFool: I am terrible with searching threads and linking, but your query is not unusual. Finding something you crave after being involved in a longterm relationship can cause great confusion, strife and will likely require some sacrifices on your part. It is for you to decide how to proceed, but others have and have succeeded. Best wishes to you as well.

Thank you, I only hope my own thoughts / feelings can be sorted out in my own head before thigs become an issue.

 

[Alt]

Giving the thread a bump, wishing it was MissTaken.

 

[MissTaken]

Giving the thread a bump, wishing it was MissTaken.

I do the manhandling around here!



Anyway, as some of you may know, scooter and I are engaged to be married. Our wedding will be very small, just us and our two friends who are into the lifestyle.

Does anyone have any ideas for subtle ways we can celebrate our D/s as part of the ceremony?

Keeping in mind that the person wedding us isn't into BDSM and in all likelihood has no tolerance for it, we need to be very discreet.

Thanks!

 

[SweetDommes]

well ... we knew that you were committed to each other (or is it just committed?? ) but not that you were engaged ... congratulations ... and, um, no ... we don't have any ideas for you, sorry ...

 

[Netzach]

Get through the ceremony as vanilla and sneak it into your toasts. Have him read something that deals with obedience duty and sacrifice in a pretty romantic literary way, then hoist a glass. People will merely go, how sweet, how devoted.

 

[snowy ciara]

I saw once a good luck charm in the form of a pendant in a knot. I mean, the pendant was a little knot. Exchange necklaces (if he's a necklace sort of guy) as well as rings. When you put it around his neck, it'd sort of be a discreet collaring thing. Those "in the know" so to speak would smile about it. Those who are not would think it a sweet gesture.

 

[MissTaken]

well ... we knew that you were committed to each other (or is it just committed?? ) but not that you were engaged ... congratulations ... and, um, no ... we don't have any ideas for you, sorry ...

Thank you, ladies.

 

[MissTaken]

Thank you for the ideas, Netzach and ciara.

Perhaps, you could link me some jewelry with that knot or other ideas?

We could do charms and a toast is NOT out of the question. He is very poetic.