ok you female subs

[Esclava]

Or at the least it says I am a "curiosity killed the cat" kinda gal.

ROFLMSAOOO - Oh, so very true!

Let's just hope it doesn't kill us before we've had a chance to really enjoy it!

Esclava

 

[Esclava]

Good morning Esclava

It has generally been My experience that multiple female subs under one Dominant will have more difficulties and will need a firmer more constant hand. The males seem to often be looking for the typical type of lifestyle that I live and do not seem to have as many insecurity or possessive issues.

Though I have also seen the occassional successful long term multiple female sub/slave relationships withing a Dom/me family arrangement.

I believe that there needs to be a desire on the part of the sub/slave to live this difficult poly type of relationship for their own reasons for success to be joyful on both sides of the whip.

I choose My toys not only through My desires but also for the compatability they will have with each other.

A pleasant good day to you, MShadowsdream!

Your response took a bit more thought because I have seen the highly typical difficulties that come in the mulitple female subs/single Dominant relationships. They are truly distressing to me because in my mind - they need not ever happen.

I really rejoice in the fact that I only get jealous when I feel something that belongs to me is being shared without my permission. That has never occurred in any of my D/s or swing relationships. I would hope to retain that feeling when another sub joins MV and ML - although at the present time, it appears that there will be a hetero/bi-sexual couple added as of last night. I had another commitment and was unable to join them, but I hear they had a fabulous time.

I also realize that I am not - and never have followed - the norm. My expectation is that when the time comes to share MV and ML with other subs, I will remember why it is I submit to Them - and let the new couple see in me the example of the submissive MV and ML have come to expect.

Esclava
(Edited to correct a sp error - where's my coffee???)

 

[princess4u]

These are my feelings exactly. although i have no Master as present, i am being tutored by an experienced Master (i met His sub/wife on collarme and she introduced us) and have been able to finally isolate what i feel and really start to identify what i need from my own Master.

My job is great, but tough. I love my responsibilities in the community, my family, etc. etc. But i live for the moment He closes the door on the outside world and physically separates me from that burden on my shoulders. it's freedom, but not like running away and abandoning my resposibilities, it's like He's teaching me to take care of myself and my own needs first. i have never done a good job of taking care of myself first. that's the sub in me..someone else is always more important than me... and that's the true perfection of the D/s relationship: I need Him as much as He seeks me. someone has a quote on their sig that says a sub without a Dom is still a sub, but a Dom with out a sub is just a person with a bunch of unused toys.

i am attending my first munch next saturday!! my tutor has selected two gentlemen to introduce to me...i'm nervous!!!!!!

i am very happy for you nusub and i wish you the best

 

[Ms_Lilith]

you didn't really think it was all about the boys did you?

Lets begin this conversation talking about cold eyes.

If you are an owned sub or slave how do you feel and react to the coldness in your Dominants eyes when you suspect that coldness has something to do with you or your behaviour?

If you are a submissive that hopes to be under the thumb of a Dominant at some time...how do you "imagine" these cold eyes would affect you. ( or is that effect language nazi's?)

Anyone care to join this inquisitive Mistress?

I feel frightened by it. Not because I think he would ever hurt me (in ways not previously agreed to), but frightened because I loathe the idea of disappointing him. I am very self-critical, and realize my mistakes very quickly, and work hard to correct my mistakes and misbehaviours.. but when he gets that look, it about breaks my heart, because it means he's disappointed.

I care about so few people's opinions of me... His is one of those few...

 

[Esclava]

Whispering into the thread ...

I feel frightened by it. Not because I think he would ever hurt me (in ways not previously agreed to), but frightened because I loathe the idea of disappointing him. I am very self-critical, and realize my mistakes very quickly, and work hard to correct my mistakes and misbehaviours.. but when he gets that look, it about breaks my heart, because it means he's disappointed.

I care about so few people's opinions of me... His is one of those few...

Disappointment - a very humbling emotion. And yes, Ms_Lilith, it DOES work the nerves of submissives who care about the opinions of those Dominants we serve.

I have a manager at work - he's not my top level manager - but I work harder for him to make sure I don't miss anything or fail him in any way because of how he displays his disappointment. He's a Godly man and doesn't raise his voice at all - but he looks at you with such a "look" that you feel half-an-inch tall and like you can't do anything right. I've been on the receiving end of that look from him once - and ONLY once (I've worked for him for 4 years). I can tell you it is not a pleasant thing to go through.

Just wait until you experience it in "words on the screen" from an online Dom/me ... truly horrendous!

Esclava