ok you male subs

[rbijon]

LOL, how about slut toy ....hmmmmm, tested it out today just incase it works out positively when he comes back, lays down his guns, and we three meet in person. Think he liked it, but if not and I want it, he will adjust accordingly.

Catalina

That's the spirit Girl, make him your slave and call him anything YOU want. If he is a toy and a slut, hey why not. He will adjust, or fuck him silly!

 

[landcruisergal]

Seems to be a few new boys here...so bump.
I still need advice on what techniques I can use to work the "remote control" on my boy when he's away..
So far a few things seem to be working. He keeps coming back for more "hands on".

 

[rbijon]

Seems to be a few new boys here...so bump.
I still need advice on what techniques I can use to work the "remote control" on my boy when he's away..
So far a few things seem to be working. He keeps coming back for more "hands on".

Come on landcruisegal, for a sub "hands on" is the altimate of being a sub. He wants you to control him live and you seeing him serve you directly. As for "remote" have him bring evidence of your control, as in cum on his panties.

 

[landcruisergal]

Come on landcruisegal, for a sub "hands on" is the altimate of being a sub. He wants you to control him live and you seeing him serve you directly. As for "remote" have him bring evidence of your control, as in cum on his panties.

Yes but I enjoy the knowledge that I still wield some power and control whilst we are apart, and he that remains focused in his submssion to me, and I am not just a bit of kink upon his return..

 

[SweetDommes]

Yes but I enjoy the knowledge that I still wield some power and control whilst we are apart, and he that remains focused in his submssion to me, and I am not just a bit of kink upon his return..

I understand what you are going for - and we have had that trouble as well. Something like a journal assignment might help - any topic, doesn't have to be BDSM related (we made ghosst write an essay on hermit crabs once LOL). That would be something that he could easily do every day in an hour or less that has something that you can see when you are together again.

 

[rbijon]

Yes but I enjoy the knowledge that I still wield some power and control whilst we are apart, and he that remains focused in his submssion to me, and I am not just a bit of kink upon his return..

Don't worry about that. If you are doing your job as a Mistress, you have his full attention most of the time. You are his sourse of focuse. He needs your domination to get his mind spinning. Always remember fuck him hard and deep, fuck him so hard that he will know that you are in charge, that alone will keep him thinking of you. heheheee

 

[landcruisergal]

I understand what you are going for - and we have had that trouble as well. Something like a journal assignment might help - any topic, doesn't have to be BDSM related (we made ghosst write an essay on hermit crabs once LOL). That would be something that he could easily do every day in an hour or less that has something that you can see when you are together again.

Thanks heaps.
I have tried the journal thing, and essay writing...He's crap at it, despite any amount of threats, punishments or offers of rewards.Last time I ended up chaining him to the desk to finish his homework, cutting into our "playtime". I have even resorted to having him write lines, like Bart Simpson.

Little things seem to work best...Like reversing the order he puts his boots on and off. A bandaid on a particular finger with a mark on it to draw his attention to it throughout the day.Wearing his "surfie" bracelet on the opposite wrist etc.

Nothing conspicious or difficult, but he's reminded of the meaning behind it and who ordered it of him.
Thats what I want.

 

[landcruisergal]

Don't worry about that. If you are doing your job as a Mistress, you have his full attention most of the time. You are his sourse of focuse. He needs your domination to get his mind spinning. Always remember fuck him hard and deep, fuck him so hard that he will know that you are in charge, that alone will keep him thinking of you. heheheee

I like boys...they see things so simply sometimes...
But I want to fuck with his head too.
Its not just a physical trip for me.
The power is my turn on. I want that feeling all the time..
When he reports that when he does something/notices something/feels awkward....
and he gets hard..or longed to be at my feet.. or wished my collar was around his neck, or remembers my hand gripping his cock.
At that moment because he's focusing on me, who asked it of him...
Thats a kick in my crotch..Yum.

 

[mslv4Her]

Seems to be a few new boys here...so bump.
I still need advice on what techniques I can use to work the "remote control" on my boy when he's away..
So far a few things seem to be working. He keeps coming back for more "hands on".

A simple numeric pager can make for quite interesting remote play. Send him numeric coded messages at various times during the day. Look at my story, Comply - Part 2, for some examples. You can use many for codes than that. If you're both into text messaging, it can even get more interesting and explicit.

 

[landcruisergal]

A simple numeric pager can make for quite interesting remote play. Send him numeric coded messages at various times during the day. Look at my story, Comply - Part 2, for some examples. You can use many for codes than that. If you're both into text messaging, it can even get more interesting and explicit.

Thanks thats a great idea..And great read as well.
A system of codes even with sms would be better..Then I can just save and send....brilliant.

 

[mslv4Her]

Thanks thats a great idea..And great read as well.
A system of codes even with sms would be better..Then I can just save and send....brilliant.

Glad i could help. Would you like some more ideas about things you can have him do?

 

[landcruisergal]

Glad i could help. Would you like some more ideas about things you can have him do?

Yes please, but its tricky.
He is on a remote island, and works 12 hour shifts in a compound type set up.No public phone and to get mobile service they all go up to a hill behind the mess twice a day and theres 350 men on site, so he has to take care what is overheard as well..No net connection either, and no cameras allowed.
For 3 weeks at a time.Oh and shared bathroom facilities....at least he gets a room of his own.(and the pay is, well phenomenal, as you can imagine.)

 

[rbijon]

Good day Landc, or shall I adress you as Mistress. My Mistress again did me this weekend. She always has a surprise of me. This time She had me bite & kiss Her ass through sheer black panties for about a half hour. Then I oiled Her back, ass, legs, and feet. She ordered me to kiss and bite Her from Her shoulders to Her feet, stopping at Her ass to lick and kiss more deeply. She then had me kiss Her feet and suck Her toes. While I am doing one foot She kicks mine cock and ball with Her other foot. Wow was She hot. She then ordered me on my back and then She fucked me would out letting up. After She came She punched me and pulled my hair, and call me a creep. This is the cleaned up version.

Remember what I wrote before. Fucking your sub with no regard for his pleasure, and fucking him like he is your play thing lets your sub know that YOU are in charge.

Have a great week Mistress.

 

[catalina_francisco]

Ah, but using his pleasure to further humiliate and enslave him can be interesting, and using his pleasure to increase your own can also be the whim and priviledge of the Mistress.

Catalina

 

[landcruisergal]

Ah, but using his pleasure to further humiliate and enslave him can be interesting, and using his pleasure to increase your own can also be the whim and priviledge of the Mistress.

Catalina

Eloquently put as always...In a nutshell..Thank you

And I have sent him off with a deck of cards and notebook this time.
Each suit denotes an activity..edge, slow edge, hard fast+cum, freehand +cum.
A court card means a certain position. ( queen is kneeling of course).
Ace means no play at all.
So if he doesnt have contact with me for 48 hours and feels the need, he can play a game of chance and record what cards he has drawn, and give the experience a star rating. It gives the normal activity of masturbation some interest and meaning.
Of course its still honour based...but he's an honest lad.
And his massage skills are slowly improving.The threat of sending him to a dom friend ,who is a trained masseuse, for lessons made him lift his game.

My pleasure is my focus.His gratification is for my amusement. Anal penetration is a powerplay I am saving until I want it, and at the moment I'm not convinced I want it enough to warrant the expenditure on good equipment.There's other things I want more at the moment.

 

[catalina_francisco]

Eloquently put as always...In a nutshell..Thank you

And I have sent him off with a deck of cards and notebook this time.
Each suit denotes an activity..edge, slow edge, hard fast+cum, freehand +cum.
A court card means a certain position. ( queen is kneeling of course).
Ace means no play at all.
So if he doesnt have contact with me for 48 hours and feels the need, he can play a game of chance and record what cards he has drawn, and give the experience a star rating. It gives the normal activity of masturbation some interest and meaning.
Of course its still honour based...but he's an honest lad.
And his massage skills are slowly improving.The threat of sending him to a dom friend ,who is a trained masseuse, for lessons made him lift his game.

LOL, some boys can be such fun.

Catalina

 

[Jay Davis]

Of course its still honour based...but he's an honest lad.

Never keep a sub who isn't. Since 24-hour surveillance isn't possible in anyone's real life, honor is the key to service.

And his massage skills are slowly improving.The threat of sending him to a dom friend ,who is a trained masseuse, for lessons made him lift his game.

On the other hand, that threat might have made me get deliberately worse... for just long enough to "earn" the lessons!

 

[SweetDommes]

On the other hand, that threat might have made me get deliberately worse... for just long enough to "earn" the lessons!

Somehow, I think you have the wrong idea about how the lessons would have been given LOL

 

[Jay Davis]

Somehow, I think you have the wrong idea about how the lessons would have been given LOL

Or maybe I have the right idea, and am deliberately setting myself up? (Imagine one of Catalina's smileys, with an innocent look and a halo, in this spot.)

 

[Rrrosyn]

Eloquently put as always...In a nutshell..Thank you

And I have sent him off with a deck of cards and notebook this time.
Each suit denotes an activity..edge, slow edge, hard fast+cum, freehand +cum.
A court card means a certain position. ( queen is kneeling of course).
Ace means no play at all.
So if he doesnt have contact with me for 48 hours and feels the need, he can play a game of chance and record what cards he has drawn, and give the experience a star rating. It gives the normal activity of masturbation some interest and meaning.
Of course its still honour based...but he's an honest lad.
And his massage skills are slowly improving.The threat of sending him to a dom friend ,who is a trained masseuse, for lessons made him lift his game.

OMG I love this game!! Giving an action to each card is a great idea!

My sub lives with me, but we met online. Over the phone we used to do dice-play using different sided dice (from like D&D). One die (usually 3- but sometimes 4-sided) would be how many times he had to climax and the other die (wither 3 6-sided or a 20-sided) would give him how many minutes he had to accomplish it in. That could mean a nice slow orgasm or several speedy ones.

You could use black/red as no/yes and add in the count down game. Usually the sub masturbates and starts counting down from 10 when he gets close to climax. Domme can say stop (or he can draw a card) anywhere from 10-3. When he finally gets a yes, he has to climax within 2 seconds before or after 0. Recording this would show you how good he is getting and feeling that point of no-return.

I am so stealing the card idea!

My pleasure is my focus.His gratification is for my amusement. Anal penetration is a powerplay I am saving until I want it, and at the moment I'm not convinced I want it enough to warrant the expenditure on good equipment.There's other things I want more at the moment.

I get off on his reactions whether I have an orgasm or not. (And whether he has an orgasm or not.) It's the power rush I need. Lots of heavy play, lots of pleasure and medium pain. He is most welcome to climax with permission requested. Sometimes messy, sometimes without the messy ejaculation. And then there are some exercises he does as well. Penis flexing that really turns him on, followed by permission for a dry climax which doesn't quite satisfy and other variations. My moods have varied him from nightly climax to going 1-2 months without in the last year.

 

[catalina_francisco]

Or maybe I have the right idea, and am deliberately setting myself up? (Imagine one of Catalina's smileys, with an innocent look and a halo, in this spot.)

LOL, you mean like this

or perhaps this one

?....but ya know,I think you could fit this one

quite charmingly at times!!

Catalina

 

[mslv4Her]

My sub lives with me, but we met online. Over the phone we used to do dice-play using different sided dice (from like D&D). One die (usually 3- but sometimes 4-sided) would be how many times he had to climax and the other die (wither 3 6-sided or a 20-sided) would give him how many minutes he had to accomplish it in. That could mean a nice slow orgasm or several speedy ones.

You could use black/red as no/yes and add in the count down game. Usually the sub masturbates and starts counting down from 10 when he gets close to climax. Domme can say stop (or he can draw a card) anywhere from 10-3. When he finally gets a yes, he has to climax within 2 seconds before or after 0. Recording this would show you how good he is getting and feeling that point of no-return.

Very interesting use of the dice, Ms Rrrosyn. I like the way You think!

 

[Jay Davis]

LOL, you mean like this

or perhaps this one

?....but ya know,I think you could fit this one

quite charmingly at times!!

Catalina

Well, I'd like to think the second one applies, but the third one is probably more accurate. I knew you'd come through, tho, Catalina!

 

[Rrrosyn]

Very interesting use of the dice, Ms Rrrosyn. I like the way You think!

Why thank you. Like the card idea though, I stole the dice from somewhere. Probably one of the Frugal Domme articles. I did a lot of research to come up with creative ways to play over-the-phone, without sex, in motels, etc. It was a long journey to bring him home to me.

I will admit, if you ever roll 3 orgasms in 3 minutes, you basically roll again. Keep it challenging but not impossible. He's done 3 in 8, though he was rather sore after the third.

 

[landcruisergal]

On the other hand, that threat might have made me get deliberately worse... for just long enough to "earn" the lessons!

As SD said, its not something he looks forward to.He is basically shy about his subbing, and this friend, who is a straight,50y/o male dom. Its a bit confronting to his manhood.Ego issues and all that.

I am so stealing the card idea!
I get off on his reactions whether I have an orgasm or not. (And whether he has an orgasm or not.) It's the power rush I need. Lots of heavy play, lots of pleasure and medium pain. He is most welcome to climax with permission requested.

You are more than welcome!Glad I can help.
My boy does forget to ask sometimes.In which case I have to slow him down or stop to remind him who's in control. But he is still young and relatively new to the concept. Also his desire to cum makes him more keen to please..Its a useful tool for me at this stage. And it is his reactions that give me a buzz.I have had a couple of scenes where I simply exercised my will and didn't seek climax, and it was as satisfying to my desires, as when I want him to serve me in that way.
He was left confused on both occassions.

Maybe sexual gratification is such a priority for male subs, whether it be his or hers.

A question for the boys therefore....
Is it so very important for you that your lady is sexually satisfied by your actions?
If she doesn't climax, or even seek this from you (or others in your presence) are you left with feelings of failure or confusion?
Would this be compounded if she allowed you to climax, without wanting one of her own?