Reflections of a straight guy who recently bottomed

[Misshotndeep]

Having spent 25 years behind enemy lines, undercover so deep even I didn't know I was queer, I can confirm this is part of the official 'no homo' guidance issued to all straight men: it's not gay to stare at a cock as long as you look angry about it.

 

[28straightguy]

I have talked with some of the guys since. They don't feel they were out of line doing this. They said I shouldn't have agreed to this if I wasn't sure about it.

 

[saintcero]

I have talked with some of the guys since. They don't feel they were out of line doing this. They said I shouldn't have agreed to this if I wasn't sure about it.

Was the ball gag specifically discussed with them?

 

[28straightguy]

Was the ball gag specifically discussed with them?

It wasnt

 

[Misshotndeep]

I have talked with some of the guys since. They don't feel they were out of line doing this. They said I shouldn't have agreed to this if I wasn't sure about it.

They are trying to make you feel guilty because they are the guilty party. Like the guys that say a girl asked to be raped because of what she was wearing. They are in the wrong. Don't let them convince you otherwise.

 

[LauraWilling]

They are trying to make you feel guilty because they are the guilty party. Like the guys that say a girl asked to be raped because of what she was wearing. They are in the wrong. Don't let them convince you otherwise.

A lot of truth here Straightguy.

 

[jabberwockyjon]

They are trying to make you feel guilty because they are the guilty party. Like the guys that say a girl asked to be raped because of what she was wearing. They are in the wrong. Don't let them convince you otherwise.

I completely agree.

 

[28straightguy]

They are trying to make you feel guilty because they are the guilty party. Like the guys that say a girl asked to be raped because of what she was wearing. They are in the wrong. Don't let them convince you otherwise.

The reality is they didnt do anything that wasnt agreed to prior. The mistakes made were by me agreeing up front to let them satisfy themselves on me until they felt fulfilled. I am not placing blame or holding a grudge against them. I tried something that just didnt work out as I was hoping.

 

[LauraWilling]

The reality is they didnt do anything that wasnt agreed to prior. The mistakes made were by me agreeing up front to let them satisfy themselves on me until they felt fulfilled. I am not placing blame or holding a grudge against them. I tried something that just didnt work out as I was hoping.

Are you saying now that you agreed to the ball gag? Does your wife feel the same as you on how this experience turned out? I'm sorry it wasn't quite what you expected.

 

[Dreamer110]

The reality is they didnt do anything that wasnt agreed to prior. The mistakes made were by me agreeing up front to let them satisfy themselves on me until they felt fulfilled. I am not placing blame or holding a grudge against them. I tried something that just didnt work out as I was hoping.

I have no doubt you'll go back for more. I'm sure next time you'll be clearer on what happens.

 

[28straightguy]

Are you saying now that you agreed to the ball gag? Does your wife feel the same as you on how this experience turned out? I'm sorry it wasn't quite what you expected.

My wife feels its not the fault of anyone. as far as the gag I didn't know about it but it just was part of the experience. I have talked some with a counsellor that deals with the gay lifestyle and he has given me a clearer perspective of what happened.

 

[aldente491]

My wife feels its not the fault of anyone. as far as the gag I didn't know about it but it just was part of the experience. I have talked some with a counsellor that deals with the gay lifestyle and he has given me a clearer perspective of what happened.

and what the counselllor say to you on that kind of bottoming gangbang? please i need to understand

 

[28straightguy]

and what the counselllor say to you on that kind of bottoming gangbang? please i need to understand

He just said that from a gay guys perspective that there is a taboo aspect to having a married man bottoming for them. He said it just played into the group mind set.

 

[aldente491]

He just said that from a gay guys perspective that there is a taboo aspect to having a married man bottoming for them. He said it just played into the group mind set.

thinks he is rigth but it's you how you react knowing that and be ready to have new session but with limited guys no moore than two or so
its very usual for bottom married men to attire dicks

 

[LauraWilling]

My wife feels its not the fault of anyone. as far as the gag I didn't know about it but it just was part of the experience. I have talked some with a counsellor that deals with the gay lifestyle and he has given me a clearer perspective of what happened.

He just said that from a gay guys perspective that there is a taboo aspect to having a married man bottoming for them. He said it just played into the group mind set.

thinks he is rigth but it's you how you react knowing that and be ready to have new session but with limited guys no moore than two or so
its very usual for bottom married men to attire dicks

A lot of truth spoken here Straightguy and I am a bit stunned your wife does not see a problem with how this came off and the addition of the ball gag and attitude of these guys. I wonder how she would feel if she volunteered for a gangbang and had things added that were not mentioned when she agreed to do it. There can be exceptions, but somehow I do't thin you two are old enough to have that much experience. I sort of understand parts of what the counselor told you, that doing a married guy is a bit of a taboo, or special thing to do. There is a similar thing of some guys doing a married woman which I have experienced, but I had a very good idea what was going to be done to me and there was man there I comletely trusted acting as sort of a monitor looking out for me.

Please understand, I am not blaming you or your wife, I feel your trust in these guys was violated and surprised the counselor or you wife don't see that. I'm sorry fr what happened as it could have been a fun and interesting experience. Oh weel, best laid plans of mice and men......

 

[jabberwockyjon]

Was any of it enjoyable? I mean, I can't imagine that it was horrible, or your reactions stated here would probably reflect that. It sounds like the intensity of it was a surprise. Were you sore the next day?

 

[LauraWilling]

Was any of it enjoyable? I mean, I can't imagine that it was horrible, or your reactions stated here would probably reflect that. It sounds like the intensity of it was a surprise. Were you sore the next day?

YES! I am wondering the same thing too. After so much build up before the event and very little about how it was for you other than "it didn't work out as I hoped." What did you hope nd why didn't it? Obviously something unpleasant happened. I think I speak for most of use here, we only wanted the best outcome for you and not a negative feeling. You don't seem to have any reaction to it.

 

[28straightguy]

Was any of it enjoyable? I mean, I can't imagine that it was horrible, or your reactions stated here would probably reflect that. It sounds like the intensity of it was a surprise. Were you sore the next day?

I just got sore during the course of it. It just didnt really matter to them.

 

[jabberwockyjon]

YES! I am wondering the same thing too. After so much build up before the event and very little about how it was for you other than "it didn't work out as I hoped." What did you hope nd why didn't it? Obviously something unpleasant happened. I think I speak for most of use here, we only wanted the best outcome for you and not a negative feeling. You don't seem to have any reaction to it.

Doesn't look like he has any interest in sharing any details, really. Not that I'm surprised, based on the scarcity of details of his first experience.

 

[28straightguy]

I have spent the past few weeks coming to grips with things. My wife and the guys have had a meeting of the minds and determined that it would be ok for the guys a few times each week to come by in groups no larger than 3. I was asked to go along with it which I have. Generally I am doing ok. The soreness is manageable and emotionally i am adjusting more to it as well. My thought process is just that its ok to let others feel good doing this.

 

[LauraWilling]

WOW! It appears your wife is in charge of things. I don't mean that as a bad thing, my husband was certainly in charge of me as long as we were together. I am naturally submissive as it appears you are too, which is fine as we all have our places we are most comfortable in.

That said it sure brings up a some questions. One is, how comfortable are you with servicing these "friends" weekly. It sounds like you are strictly providing them sexual pleasure any time they want it with no cocern for your feelings. Again, I have been there done that myself and it is my prefeered way. I love serving others pleasure as apparently you do also. I just hope you get some pleasure doing it as I do.

Will your wife be present? Is she supportive of your feelings both physically and emotionally? Will this arrangement be providing both oral and anal services? I am very curious about this meeting they had. Were you included in it or just asked after the meeting? In other words, did you have any input into this arrangement? Are any of these guys biyour wife as well? What is your relationsip with your wife?

I have more questions about this, but I know this is a lot to ask of you already and you don't seem to like answering a lot of questions. I just hope you start getting some pleasure from giving the others pleasure. And on a positive note, you will get used to both anal and oral and it won't be uncomfortable anymore physically. Love to know your wifes feelings about this. I assume she has her own lovers?
Hugs,
Laura

 

[28straightguy]

WOW! It appears your wife is in charge of things. I don't mean that as a bad thing, my husband was certainly in charge of me as long as we were together. I am naturally submissive as it appears you are too, which is fine as we all have our places we are most comfortable in.

That said it sure brings up a some questions. One is, how comfortable are you with servicing these "friends" weekly. It sounds like you are strictly providing them sexual pleasure any time they want it with no cocern for your feelings. Again, I have been there done that myself and it is my prefeered way. I love serving others pleasure as apparently you do also. I just hope you get some pleasure doing it as I do.

Will your wife be present? Is she supportive of your feelings both physically and emotionally? Will this arrangement be providing both oral and anal services? I am very curious about this meeting they had. Were you included in it or just asked after the meeting? In other words, did you have any input into this arrangement? Are any of these guys biyour wife as well? What is your relationsip with your wife?

I have more questions about this, but I know this is a lot to ask of you already and you don't seem to like answering a lot of questions. I just hope you start getting some pleasure from giving the others pleasure. And on a positive note, you will get used to both anal and oral and it won't be uncomfortable anymore physically. Love to know your wifes feelings about this. I assume she has her own lovers?
Hugs,
Laura

Its not so much being submissive as it is I dont like conflict. I was not part of the meeting between my wife and the guys. They are gay, do not have a sexual relationship with my wife. I just had to find a coping mechanism doing this. I have found it for the most part by shutting down as they have anal anal oral. My wife is not present during this. She has an occasional swing friend. Its not a perfect situation for me but its the situation I am in. I am just able to compartmentalize things and not let it get to me too much.

 

[Trainer550]

Good Morning - I am brand new to this board/site. I am really enjoying it.

My wife and I are swingers (and we are both Bi). Like other posts above I am not really emotionally attracted to guys but I LOVE sex with guys. Its just different. I love giving and receiving oral and I love to to top as well. When we are with other couples we all just intermix and we all get turned on by the visual of it.

I have always wanted to try bottoming but honestly was pretty scared. There has been NOTHING up there and even putting a finger up there hurt and I just couldnt get used to it. That all changed last night

I went to a local bathhouse that I go to when I just want guy fun. I was watching some porn in one of the rooms with two other guys and we got into a discussion of me wanting to try bottoming. They were giving me advice on how to ease into it. I was super horny and decided I wanted to try it then and there. One of the guys was bigger and I decided no way, but the other guy was long but did not have much girth and I thought if im gonna try this, thats about the right size. I asked him onene if he wanted to go back to my room and be my first and he said he would love to.

We went back and he was PERFECT. He went super slow and just got me used to it with just the head in. I was bent over the bed and he was going in from behind. He started going in all the way and I could feel EVERYTHING but amazingly it did not hurt. The sensation was amazing. We did it like 10 min then I went in him, and then he did me again. He did not cum (I did not want that) but I can imagine that sensation must be fantastic.

The verdict? I want more LOL. I cant wait to do it again. I think I want both from now on

 

[Tinyharold46]

Yep, Tranny takes care of the problem.

 

[Jenna2641]

Good Morning - I am brand new to this board/site. I am really enjoying it.

My wife and I are swingers (and we are both Bi). Like other posts above I am not really emotionally attracted to guys but I LOVE sex with guys. Its just different. I love giving and receiving oral and I love to to top as well. When we are with other couples we all just intermix and we all get turned on by the visual of it.

I have always wanted to try bottoming but honestly was pretty scared. There has been NOTHING up there and even putting a finger up there hurt and I just couldnt get used to it. That all changed last night

I went to a local bathhouse that I go to when I just want guy fun. I was watching some porn in one of the rooms with two other guys and we got into a discussion of me wanting to try bottoming. They were giving me advice on how to ease into it. I was super horny and decided I wanted to try it then and there. One of the guys was bigger and I decided no way, but the other guy was long but did not have much girth and I thought if im gonna try this, thats about the right size. I asked him onene if he wanted to go back to my room and be my first and he said he would love to.

We went back and he was PERFECT. He went super slow and just got me used to it with just the head in. I was bent over the bed and he was going in from behind. He started going in all the way and I could feel EVERYTHING but amazingly it did not hurt. The sensation was amazing. We did it like 10 min then I went in him, and then he did me again. He did not cum (I did not want that) but I can imagine that sensation must be fantastic.

The verdict? I want more LOL. I cant wait to do it again. I think I want both from now on

That sounds like an amazing experience. Hope you can share it with your wife & your swinger friends soon.