Repository of awesome men

[theeonanist]

My two cents for whatever it’s worth. This same thing happens to us all, regardless of gender. And it can make any of us jaded.

But honestly, I don’t think this same type of thread would go over well if it was done the other way around.

I believe this to be true. I’m sure there are such men around, but there’s no way in a million years I would publicly bemoan the opposite sexes fickleness however many times I’m ghosted. They have their reasons and in the end they owe me nothing. That said my situation is completely different from OPs and I’m not judging her or anyone for feeling hurt.

 

[KatieDoes]

Haha. I try and do this too!

It’s easier for me to avoid feeling sad and bitter if I’m too busy feeling sorry for the poor person that had a chance with me and lost it *

 

[ArtisticControl]

I believe this to be true. I’m sure there are such men around, but there’s no way in a million years I would publicly bemoan the opposite sexes fickleness however many times I’m ghosted. They have their reasons and in the end they owe me nothing. That said my situation is completely different from OPs and I’m not judging her or anyone for feeling hurt.

Correct. No judgment is being made on my part. I have felt the connection and pain as well. And we all grieve differently.

 

[Willingtoshare]

Well I tick one of the boxes, It is only the being over 40 one but hey….

 

[Lonelywife1205]

Well I tick one of the boxes, It is only the being over 40 one but hey….

Whatever

 

[Booboobear84]

It’s easier for me to avoid feeling sad and bitter if I’m too busy feeling sorry for the poor dumb bastard that had a chance with me and lost it *

I'm terrified of hurting someone, but I can live with getting my feelings hurt. Just how I'm wired.

 

[Apple_of_Eden]

It got better as it went on...lol

Some of my favorite posts and take aways from this thread:

how do I turn them on???

Sweetie, if you don't know how to "turn them on," you should be reading and posting on another thread. Said with love and affection, and only in fun! xo

You strip, slowly while making eye contact. Music is optional

Seriously, my favorite post! I laughed when I read this and it made reading the rest of thread worth the time. Thanks, water_mountina.

OMG I'm crying over my hardon

We all are!! But in a good way.

Laughing insanely

Do I need to repeat the above?
We all are!! But in a good way.

Is everyone here having a good time?

The last page or two made the time better. It was a bit of a downer, but then it picked up. Thanks for asking.

I don’t know what this world is coming to when you can’t trust men on a porn site to be honest, dependable, and emotionally available.

I know. If we can't expect the basic minimum. lol And I'm guessing the same can be said for some of their female counter parts too.

Laughed so much I snorted my coffee.

I was glad I wasn't drinking anything at the time.

It’s crazy, right?

On this we totally agree. It's crazy.

My two cents for whatever it’s worth. This same thing happens to us all, regardless of gender. And it can make any of us jaded.

But honestly, I don’t think this same type of thread would go over well if it was done the other way around.

Listen AC...you don't need a thread, you just need to hand over that crop to yours truly. The crop and your two cents!

Enjoy the moment! It changes so quickly...there are so many worse things happening in life and in the world right now, we need to put things in perspective. Be well and stay safe.

p.s. I've been fortunate enough to meet few "awesome" people on Lit and I thank each and every one of them for their friendship. For the other situations, we need an improved "edit" option.

 

[theeonanist]

Some of my favorite posts and take aways from this thread:




Sweetie, if you don't know how to "turn them on," you should be reading and posting on another thread. Said with love and affection, and only in fun! xo



Seriously, my favorite post! I laughed when I read this and it made reading the rest of thread worth the time. Thanks, water_mountina.



We all are!! But in a good way.



Do I need to repeat the above?
We all are!! But in a good way.


The last page or two made the time better. It was a bit of a downer, but then it picked up. Thanks for asking.



I know. If we can't expect the basic minimum. lol And I'm guessing the same can be said for some of their female counter parts too.



I was glad I wasn't drinking anything at the time.



On this we totally agree. It's crazy.



Listen AC...you don't need a thread, you just need to hand over that crop to yours truly. The crop and your two cents!

Enjoy the moment! It changes so quickly...there are so many worse things happening in life and in the world right now, we need to put things in perspective. Be well and stay safe.

p.s. I've been fortunate enough to meet few "awesome" people on Lit and I thank each and every one of them for their friendship. For the other situations, we need an improved "edit" option.

I’m theeonanist and I endorse this message

 

[Modern_drunkard]

Dude, hating on Lit dudes? I dont know what circle muh fuckers run in but I have always found Lit fuckbois to be pretty outstanding to your average Lit skank.

 

[youngmilfhunter]

I used to meet some really amazing men here. Lately, there seems to be an endless string of, I’ll be nice and call them “less than stellar” guys. I know you awesome guys are out there, likely lurking in the shadows. Please help restore the faith of the women of Lit that there really are some decent and wonderful men here.

Come say hi and introduce yourself if you are…

-Confident
-OVER 40
-Good looking
-Kind
-Funny/witty
-Not a man whore
-Emotionally available
-A great conversationalist
-Intelligent
-Not boring
-Not “too nice” or “trying too hard”
-Sincere
-Considerate
-At least a little pervy
-NOT AN ASSHOLE (wanting to lick them is ok, being one is not)

* This is a general list, my personal list is way more specific. I reserve the right to amend it as I see fit.

** This has gone off the rails a bit. What i envisioned was a fun thread where people could interact, but instead my inbox has blown up.

***As a side note, my specific list includes no bi guys, no men who are into wearing women’s panties and no submissive men. I’m not kink shaming, just not my thing.

**** Just to clarify, I’m not really looking for anyone and I’m definitely not looking for horny guys who just want to e-bone. I was considering a man hating post yesterday, but thought this would be a better idea. I’ve had enough heartbreak to last me for a good long while. But, if the Lit fairy drops the rare and elusive unicorn right in my lap, I won’t turn him away.

I fit in the bill except for point no:2, its a narrow miss !!! bumping your amazing post <3

 

[Fazer600]

I used to meet some really amazing men here. Lately, there seems to be an endless string of, I’ll be nice and call them “less than stellar” guys. I know you awesome guys are out there, likely lurking in the shadows. Please help restore the faith of the women of Lit that there really are some decent and wonderful men here.

Come say hi and introduce yourself if you are…

-Confident
-OVER 40
-Good looking
-Kind
-Funny/witty
-Not a man whore
-Emotionally available
-A great conversationalist
-Intelligent
-Not boring
-Not “too nice” or “trying too hard”
-Sincere
-Considerate
-At least a little pervy
-NOT AN ASSHOLE (wanting to lick them is ok, being one is not)

* This is a general list, my personal list is way more specific. I reserve the right to amend it as I see fit.

** This has gone off the rails a bit. What i envisioned was a fun thread where people could interact, but instead my inbox has blown up.

***As a side note, my specific list includes no bi guys, no men who are into wearing women’s panties and no submissive men. I’m not kink shaming, just not my thing.

**** Just to clarify, I’m not really looking for anyone and I’m definitely not looking for horny guys who just want to e-bone. I was considering a man hating post yesterday, but thought this would be a better idea. I’ve had enough heartbreak to last me for a good long while. But, if the Lit fairy drops the rare and elusive unicorn right in my lap, I won’t turn him away.

Hi. Yes, I tick most of these if not all. I am shy to begin with, but interesting once you get to know me.

 

[avecvous]

Really? Care to share with the class?
I’ve never seen or heard of you until you posted on this thread. So, anything you think you know about me has never come from any actual interaction with me.

And the guy called ME pretentious. He's a keeper.

 

[Dangerous_Curves27]

I love this outlook, and I think I'm going to adopt it!


This is much better than the whole " I dont know you at all but I'm going jump in anyway and be super judgmental here and say that you are the problem" response I saw a page back

It’s an open forum, correct? Pretty sure anyone can give their opinion on anything even if you do not know the person. But hey, no one knows me or had heard of me so what do I know? **

 

[clark_kent]

It’s an open forum, correct? Pretty sure anyone can give their opinion on anything even if you do not know the person. But hey, no one knows me or had heard of me so what do I know? **

I find it is sometime difficult on the threads because of the format. We’re having conversations but hearing someone’s voice can often put what they say into better context and therefore lead to less friction. Not always, but sometimes.
I think that ad long as we’re respectful then having these “conversations” is a lot of what the threads are about. My issue are with those who are just assholes with their comments.

 

[clark_kent]

I agree with the respect thing. Especially if you’re about to comment on another person’s thread and commenting on their personality specifically, without knowing them.

Err on the side of politeness and not snide judgement

Well said SNG. We need a lot more politeness these days.
With that said, you’re looking great today. I hope it’s a good one.

 

[SmartIsSexy64]

I find this thread interesting. I certainly can understand the OP's plight. It is very difficult to discern a person's true nature from posts. PM's and such. The nature of the communication, with no vocal inflection, facial cues and such make it so much harder.

I recognize that it applies to men and women, but the fact is that the percentage of men is so much higher that women are going to receive more creepy come ons and bad connections. Plus, let's be honest, most men are so happy to get attention they will rarely say no. (There are exceptions guys, I know)

That being said, the OP has every right to lay out her desires, or say whatever the hell she wants to on this site. But she is hampered by the same limitations. I may think I fit her list. Maybe I do, maybe I don't. I certainly know my opinion of myself is not exactly objective. But it will be difficult for her to know the right person because it's a connection that takes time, and some guys are really not good at that first introduction.

I wish her and all the posters on this thread happiness and a great connection. There are a lot of frogs, and sometimes it takes more than one kiss to find your prince here.

 

[Starscream_UK]

Physics? People are having problems finding others with chemistry already

When do we get into quantum mechanics? It's the next logical step.

I was also told there was pizza...

 

[WrappedAroundMe]

But...I'm not 40...

 

[ArtisticControl]

I find this thread interesting. I certainly can understand the OP's plight. It is very difficult to discern a person's true nature from posts. PM's and such. The nature of the communication, with no vocal inflection, facial cues and such make it so much harder.

I recognize that it applies to men and women, but the fact is that the percentage of men is so much higher that women are going to receive more creepy come ons and bad connections. Plus, let's be honest, most men are so happy to get attention they will rarely say no. (There are exceptions guys, I know)

That being said, the OP has every right to lay out her desires, or say whatever the hell she wants to on this site. But she is hampered by the same limitations. I may think I fit her list. Maybe I do, maybe I don't. I certainly know my opinion of myself is not exactly objective. But it will be difficult for her to know the right person because it's a connection that takes time, and some guys are really not good at that first introduction.

I wish her and all the posters on this thread happiness and a great connection. There are a lot of frogs, and sometimes it takes more than one kiss to find your prince here.

Of course all this is true. The issue I have is in the creation of a “repository of good men” based solely on the author’s criteria of what a “good man” is for them.

As I suggested earlier, if it was reversed I don’t think it would be well received.

 

[Lonelywife1205]

Of course all this is true. The issue I have is in the creation of a “repository of good men” based solely on the author’s criteria of what a “good man” is for them.

As I suggested earlier, if it was reversed I don’t think it would be well received.

What criteria should I have based it on if not my own? Yours?
It was meant to be fun and light hearted. You’re taking it way too seriously.

 

[ppd1107]

I think everyone has the right to their own criteria has far as relationships go. If you don’t meet the criteria or just don’t mesh wether it makes sense or is not fair that is the way highly personal choices are. I also think many times people have a highly sensitive “creeper” sense. Between both those factors it is very possible a good guy gets rejected. And that is ok. I enjoy having chats with people. Some of the chats have ended for various reasons and some are on going. It’s just the nature of the beast. Just remember love is like a fart. You don’t want to force it or bad things might happen

 

[theeonanist]

It was meant to be fun and light hearted. You’re taking it way too seriously.

LW, I think the reason is as AC has articulated 2x now, that if a man posted that, even in jest (indeed especially in jest) he would have been flamed alive by both sexes, and he’d deserve it. Women complain about having to field creeps, dick pics, all sorts in their inboxes. I don’t envy you. But think that men also have to contend with this, ok not the dick pics but, yes some women can be creeps. All the while we have a tenth of the depth of choice women have. I’m not saying this to bemoan the status quo. To be honest I’m ducking out of the game because I struck gold. But it is what it is and it’s generally a sausage fest at the best of times. So writing a long list of very specific criteria a man has to meet to even be considered is either going to attract guys trying to shoehorn themselves into those criteria or get some peoples’ backs up because it’s rubbing their inadequacies in their faces.

 

[Lonelywife1205]

I think everyone has the right to their own criteria has far as relationships go. If you don’t meet the criteria or just don’t mesh wether it makes sense or is not fair that is the way highly personal choices are. I also think many times people have a highly sensitive “creeper” sense. Between both those factors it is very possible a good guy gets rejected. And that is ok. I enjoy having chats with people. Some of the chats have ended for various reasons and some are on going. It’s just the nature of the beast. Just remember love is like a fart. You don’t want to force it or bad things might happen

This made me giggle.

 

[ppd1107]

This made me giggle.

I’m at least slightly funny and over 40

 

[Lonelywife1205]

LW, I think the reason is as AC has articulated 2x now, that if a man posted that, even in jest (indeed especially in jest) he would have been flamed alive by both sexes, and he’d deserve it. Women complain about having to field creeps, dick pics, all sorts in their inboxes. I don’t envy you. But think that men also have to contend with this, ok not the dick pics but, yes some women can be creeps. All the while we have a tenth of the depth of choice women have. I’m not saying this to bemoan the status quo. To be honest I’m ducking out of the game because I struck gold. But it is what it is and it’s generally a sausage fest at the best of times. So writing a long list of very specific criteria a man has to meet to even be considered is either going to attract guys trying to shoehorn themselves into those criteria or get some peoples’ backs up because it’s rubbing their inadequacies in their faces.

That’s awesome you found someone.

As far as dick pics go, I think this is largely a myth that women are inundated with unsolicited dick pics in their PM’s. I have received less than a handful, actually only 2 I remember, in the 3 years I’ve been here.

I feel like I have settled enough in other areas of my life that I’m not going to do it when looking for someone to fill the voids in my life. Life is short. I know what I want and what I don’t. I don’t want to be so rigid that I miss out on someone amazing, but I know myself well enough to know there are just some things that I need or it won’t work for me.