slave/sub requests
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Etoile
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I totally hear you, Netzach!
Daddy had me sleep in my "nest" this weekend. It's a little area that e's set up with a pad on the floor (and a towel over it), some pillows, one blanket, and surrounded by various furniture (cabinet, chair, ottoman) to make my little nook. I like it, but it's cold! Fortunately on Saturday night e let me fall asleep in eir bed with em. I was much warmer. I do like the nest because it's kind of sweet to tuck in there (much better than the experiment e tried of having me sleep in the middle of the floor on the pad, which I hated), but it's much nicer to get to share Daddy's bed.
Daddy had me sleep in my "nest" this weekend. It's a little area that e's set up with a pad on the floor (and a towel over it), some pillows, one blanket, and surrounded by various furniture (cabinet, chair, ottoman) to make my little nook. I like it, but it's cold! Fortunately on Saturday night e let me fall asleep in eir bed with em. I was much warmer. I do like the nest because it's kind of sweet to tuck in there (much better than the experiment e tried of having me sleep in the middle of the floor on the pad, which I hated), but it's much nicer to get to share Daddy's bed.
Esclava
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Another twist...
My apologies for being absent; I've been working on my Lit short story and work has kept me really busy. But I have a question (when don't I have a question):
There has been a lot of passion in the responses to this thread which, I think, is always a good thing.
Masters/Mistresses/Doms, how do you handle a request for information or clarification from your slave/sub? Do you see it as an inquisition of your Dom character? Perhaps even a questioning of your ability to dominate?
Slaves/subs, do you ever find the need to ask Master/Dom for clarification of an order or desire? Or do you blindly obey - knowing there is a fork further down the road and you may choose the wrong path without further clarification from Master/Dom? How has Master/Dom treated you after the request?
Thank you for helping me understand the dynamics of the current BDSM climate.
Esclava
My apologies for being absent; I've been working on my Lit short story and work has kept me really busy. But I have a question (when don't I have a question):
There has been a lot of passion in the responses to this thread which, I think, is always a good thing.
Masters/Mistresses/Doms, how do you handle a request for information or clarification from your slave/sub? Do you see it as an inquisition of your Dom character? Perhaps even a questioning of your ability to dominate?
Slaves/subs, do you ever find the need to ask Master/Dom for clarification of an order or desire? Or do you blindly obey - knowing there is a fork further down the road and you may choose the wrong path without further clarification from Master/Dom? How has Master/Dom treated you after the request?
Thank you for helping me understand the dynamics of the current BDSM climate.
Esclava
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If My slave does not fully understand My order I "expect" him to ask for clarafication. he certainly is wiser to be certain what I am asking for rather than assuming and facing an ass beating!
Netzach
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They can talk all they want.
They can in fact, out and out refuse, for a time being.
It's like jumping off the high dive board.
I'm not here to shove anyone.
They can work through all those little misgivings as long as it takes, because sooner or later, they realize that the worries are all baseless and I'm worth doing it for.
And that's worth more to me than excercising my ass whooping capacity.
They can in fact, out and out refuse, for a time being.
It's like jumping off the high dive board.
I'm not here to shove anyone.
They can work through all those little misgivings as long as it takes, because sooner or later, they realize that the worries are all baseless and I'm worth doing it for.
And that's worth more to me than excercising my ass whooping capacity.
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Esclava
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Netzach said:
Yes, I can understand that. But what if their questions were not so much misgivings, but that the sub, genuinely, did not feel they understood your instructions or desires?
In scene, are instructions/desires always crystal clear with no chance that sub could misunderstand?
Out of scene, are instructions/desires always crystal clear with no chance that sub could misunderstand?
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I can't fathom punishing someone for needing more information, even the most rigidly formal training situations I've heard of allow for that. Of course I've been questioned on issues I simply don't want the bottom to know about.
I have a sissy buying a 6x6 inch piece of astroturf. He asked me why. I don't plan on telling him it's for jerking off with until a more applicable time. I told him to shut up and just do it.
He asked me "6"x6" or 6'X6'?" and I reiterated inches, chuckling to myself.
I have a sissy buying a 6x6 inch piece of astroturf. He asked me why. I don't plan on telling him it's for jerking off with until a more applicable time. I told him to shut up and just do it.
He asked me "6"x6" or 6'X6'?" and I reiterated inches, chuckling to myself.
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i think it's safe to say that some Dominant's aren't always going to be crystal clear and that may be intentional. Bottom line, unless the Dominant is uber-fastidious in their planning and setup of a scene (read: perfection to the nth degree), there may be misinterpretation (as with Netzach's example) by the submissive.
Nothing will "always" be one way or the other. There may be those instances wherein the sub may have to have things explained in order to serve the Dominant in the best possible manner. While it is ideal to believe that every instruction/task received from a Dominant will be met with complete clarity, it's a fact of life that Dominant's aren't without the ability to be unclear.
That said, if the Dominant is engaging in an activity that could be potentially harmful (i.e., resulting in physical/emotional damage), then He/She should make their instructions crystal clear without room for confusion.
Finally, to discourage/encourage questioning of motive is truly at the Dominant's whim. While it may not be apparent to those receiving the instructions, there might be a hidden agenda that the Dominant does not wish to reveal until ready. Conversly, another type of Dominant may be perfectly fine with having their instructions questioned ... as has been said before, a lot of these situations (how to express a need, questioning of Dominant's, etc.) are all reliant upon how the parties in the relatioship conduct their day to day happenings. Dominant X may not tolerate questions while Dominant Y may find it refreshing.
lara
Nothing will "always" be one way or the other. There may be those instances wherein the sub may have to have things explained in order to serve the Dominant in the best possible manner. While it is ideal to believe that every instruction/task received from a Dominant will be met with complete clarity, it's a fact of life that Dominant's aren't without the ability to be unclear.
That said, if the Dominant is engaging in an activity that could be potentially harmful (i.e., resulting in physical/emotional damage), then He/She should make their instructions crystal clear without room for confusion.
Finally, to discourage/encourage questioning of motive is truly at the Dominant's whim. While it may not be apparent to those receiving the instructions, there might be a hidden agenda that the Dominant does not wish to reveal until ready. Conversly, another type of Dominant may be perfectly fine with having their instructions questioned ... as has been said before, a lot of these situations (how to express a need, questioning of Dominant's, etc.) are all reliant upon how the parties in the relatioship conduct their day to day happenings. Dominant X may not tolerate questions while Dominant Y may find it refreshing.
lara
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Shadowsdream said:
Exactly. It's all about communication - if something isn't clear, it needs to become so ... and I'll be more upset that he didn't ask for clarification than the fact that he didn't understand ...
Esclava
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SweetDommes said:
Yes. If it is all about communication, has anyone ever drawn the line at where the questions for information end and the questions of Master/Mistress/Dom's motives or competence begin? And how do you address them?
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I think that Everyone has to draw the line at some point. After being with someone for a period of time you begin to know more and more about each other and how they think. Simpler commands and things done in the past should have no questions unless one is not paying attention. ( which is disrespectful and merits punishment ) As far as competence I can only say that if that is brought into question T/they would have to question just how much T/they trust each other. Without communication and trust there is not much of a relationship. I would handle it by reevaluating the situation and retracing steps to a more confident area and then moving forward at a slower pace so that B/both parties feel comfortable.
By the way, I have enjoyed all the questions and feedback on this topic, thanks room
By the way, I have enjoyed all the questions and feedback on this topic, thanks room
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