Sph / tiny penis fetish

[Candysroom]

Thank you.

 

[NancyPan]

Giddy, thank you for the detailed explanation. I hope that you find a suitable Domme to take control. Although you and I are similar in many ways, our situations are quite different. I am in a long-term monogamous FLR. My wife does control my orgasms, but I am not caged. She does allow me to edge, but not orgasm, without her permission, so I am maintaining my capacity to become erect.

I 100% agree about the benefits, to both me and her, of prolonged denial and sustained arousal. She allows me to cum about once every 3-4 weeks as a reward. Although I work hard to achieve it, it is sometimes a letdown because I lose the heightened arousal for a few days.

 

[policywank]

Both SPH and caging are practices that did not immediately appeal to me. I think that it is just human nature to not want to hurt, humiliate or constrain a person. The reality is that tiny dicks do often leave something to be desired, but why make a fuss about it? However, I eventually learned that for some men it is sort of like a form of psychological BDSM with overtones of domination. And once I understood that some men really like this it brought out the Dom in me. I enjoy putting a man in his place and laying claim to his cock by putting him in a cage. The way you boys become submissive, obedient and eager to please is useful and empowering. Embracing the truth about your sexual inadequacies and/or desire to be cage and compelled to submit is a fundamental part of embracing all aspects of your sexuality. Far from being cruel these things are liberating for the men who are inclined to embrace them. Feeling that little erection or straining against the constraint of your cock cage reminds you of your place at my feet and that is all part of the experience.

 

[irishblade]

Both SPH and caging are practices that did not immediately appeal to me. I think that it is just human nature to not want to hurt, humiliate or constrain a person. The reality is that tiny dicks do often leave something to be desired, but why make a fuss about it? However, I eventually learned that for some men it is sort of like a form of psychological BDSM with overtones of domination. And once I understood that some men really like this it brought out the Dom in me. I enjoy putting a man in his place and laying claim to his cock by putting him in a cage. The way you boys become submissive, obedient and eager to please is useful and empowering. Embracing the truth about your sexual inadequacies and/or desire to be cage and compelled to submit is a fundamental part of embracing all aspects of your sexuality. Far from being cruel these things are liberating for the men are inclined to embrace them. Feeling that little erection of straining against the constraint of your cock cage reminds you of your place at my feet and that is all part of the experience.

I agree PW. I know I’m not well-endowed at all and though I’ve never been caged, I’ve always been eager to make up for my inadequacies in any way my partner deems fit. If she brought me a cage this morning, I’d happily put it on. Her pleasure is paramount and if that’s what gets her going, lock me up.

 

[Tayloroc]

I agree PW. I know I’m not well-endowed at all and though I’ve never been caged, I’ve always been eager to make up for my inadequacies in any way my partner deems fit. If she brought me a cage this morning, I’d happily put it on. Her pleasure is paramount and if that’s what gets her going, lock me up.

I agree! It’s always about pleasuring her, and there are so many ways of doing g that!

 

[Tayloroc]

Both SPH and caging are practices that did not immediately appeal to me. I think that it is just human nature to not want to hurt, humiliate or constrain a person. The reality is that tiny dicks do often leave something to be desired, but why make a fuss about it? However, I eventually learned that for some men it is sort of like a form of psychological BDSM with overtones of domination. And once I understood that some men really like this it brought out the Dom in me. I enjoy putting a man in his place and laying claim to his cock by putting him in a cage. The way you boys become submissive, obedient and eager to please is useful and empowering. Embracing the truth about your sexual inadequacies and/or desire to be cage and compelled to submit is a fundamental part of embracing all aspects of your sexuality. Far from being cruel these things are liberating for the men are inclined to embrace them. Feeling that little erection of straining against the constraint of your cock cage reminds you of your place at my feet and that is all part of the experience.

Oh my. What an exciting message. I never thought of that way. As I read it, I got excited and wantexy to sleep at the foot of your bed

 

[policywank]

I agree PW. I know I’m not well-endowed at all and though I’ve never been caged, I’ve always been eager to make up for my inadequacies in any way my partner deems fit. If she brought me a cage this morning, I’d happily put it on. Her pleasure is paramount and if that’s what gets her going, lock me up.

I agree! It’s always about pleasuring her, and there are so many ways of doing g that!

I find that this dynamic also provides a unique clarity of thought for both parties. The man with a little dick or his penis in a cage has accepted his role and his place relative to his mistress. There is no need for either to obfuscate, deflect or sugar coat reality. As a result when I give such a man instructions as to how to please me he knows that he is getting the honest unvarnished truth of what I want from him. And he knows that - regardless of what any other man might offer - I have chosen him to serve my pleasure in that moment. I may make another choice at another time, but in that moment I make the choice that I want to make and I instruct him in the manner that I want him to pleasure me without concern for the sensitivities and anxieties that often come with male ego or insecurity. IMO that clarity of thought and purpose helps drive a man to be the best that he can be.

 

[Tayloroc]

An intriguing thought. Knowing g one’s place with no apologies is empowering

 

[policywank]

An intriguing thought. Knowing g one’s place with no apologies is empowering

It is very empowering for the woman as well. Managing and responding to male sensitivities is something that permeates a lot of our intimate interactions with men.

A statement like "I'd like you to lick my pussy" may lead a man to give my pussy some oral attention before he moves on to the next thing, which may not be what I want from him. But the same statement to a man in a cock cage generally comes with the understanding that he needs to focus on a prioritize oral sex because that is the means by which he may please me. It isn't one thing to do before moving on.....it is the thing that I expect and require from him. That works much better if he knows and accepts his place in advance.

 

[Tayloroc]

You are wise

 

[sterculius]

I don't understand the whole 'cock cage' thing. I have no choice but to accept the fact that my penis is extremely small. I recognize that I'm unable to satisfy a woman through normal, penetrative intercourse, so I have developed my oral skills to compensate for my "shortcoming". To demean or denigrate someone for their physical handicap is cruel and reprehensible, and to desire to be treated in this manner is neurotic.
Being the unfortunate owner of a small penis places me at the bottom of the male sexual hierarchy and motivated me to become my best friend Larry's personal cocksucker in order to pay tribute to his superior, beautiful and impressively large cock. I love sucking cock and being a cocksucker, but I have no desire to be abused.

 

[Escierto]

Compared to my trans girlfriend’s cock, my cock is small even though it’s actually about average. She has a lovely big cock and I am quite content to service her orally and anally. I truly worship her penis in all its glory and power and I really feel honored to be the one who takes care of her sexual desires. Just thinking about her beautiful cock gets me excited!

 

[irishblade]

It is very empowering for the woman as well. Managing and responding to male sensitivities is something that permeates a lot of our intimate interactions with men.

A statement like "I'd like you to lick my pussy" may lead a man to give my pussy some oral attention before he moves on to the next thing, which may not be what I want from him. But the same statement to a man in a cock cage generally comes with the understanding that he needs to focus on a prioritize oral sex because that is the means by which he may please me. It isn't one thing to do before moving on.....it is the thing that I expect and require from him. That works much better if he knows and accepts his place in advance.

This 1000%. For two hours last night, I licked, sucked, fingered, and inserted toys. I crawled where she told me to. I did everything she required. And I didn’t cum. It was exquisite. Arguably our best night of lovemaking in our 12 years together.

 

[irishblade]

I don't understand the whole 'cock cage' thing. I have no choice but to accept the fact that my penis is extremely small. As a result, I'm unable to satisfy a woman through normal intercourse, so I develop my oral skills to compensate for my "shortcoming". To demean or denigrate someone for their physical handicap is cruel and reprehensible, and to desire to be treated in this manner is neurotic.
Being the unfortunate owner of a small penis places me toward the bottom of the male sexual hierarchy and motivated me to become my best friend Larry's personal cocksucker and to pay tribute to his beautiful and impressively large cock the way it deserved to be treated. I love being a cocksucker, but I have no desire to be abused.

Ya gotta stop abusing yourself! It’s not unfortunate to have a small penis! You get to experience so many other ways to please a woman. We’re in it together!

 

[SlutAddicted]

I was not raised that way but that is your choice and in this country, you have that right. I was not born small I was born about average size and cancer and a bad Doctor made me small. I wanted to see if women will still date a man if he is small that is all. I have nothing against anyone doing their own thing. I can only fit with what I was taught. Society is pushing men away from being masculine. Maybe I will have to find a better thread to see if there are any women still left that would like a small cock. THANK YOU for your time and answers.

I have never quite understood this line of thought. Of course perspective is rooted in how we were raised. But that doesn't make it right or inalterable. I am not suggesting you adopt any given fetish or point of view. But the idea that you can't fit with anything other than what you were taught is unnecessarily limiting.

There are plenty of aspects of our modern society that deserve to be questioned. But the premise that the values that society espoused several decades ago were somehow intrinsically better or correct is baseless. We can buy into the premise that our parents deserve our respect and appreciate the wisdom they passed on to us without needing to believe that they were correct about everything.

In North America (or at least Canada and the U.S) there exists a sort of mythology around and nostalgia for "traditional values". We sometimes even link it to patriotism so that nobody ever dares question it. The whole framework is full of flaws, but we idealize it because doing so gives us an excuse to resist change and not consider new ideas. In the mythology yesterday's man was virile, masculine and virtuous. In truth he was also misogynist, racist and homophobic.

That is not to say that today's man isn't equally flawed. Nor is it the case that modern society has it all right. But there really is no reason that any of us at any age cannot continue to learn, including reflecting on the things that we were raised or taught to believe. Just because your parents told you something when you were 17 years old doesn't make it correct. And refusing to consider that possibility under the guise of "that isn't how I was raised" is just a weak excuse to stay rooted in the past.

To be clear, what I am talking about is the ability to consider new perspectives not whether or not you change your mind. I consider a lot of what modern society espouses to be nonsense. But I consider it as it comes and try to think honestly about it rather than just checking to see if it aligns with what I was raised to believe as if all learning halted sometime in the 1960's.

 

[policywank]

I don't understand the whole 'cock cage' thing. I have no choice but to accept the fact that my penis is extremely small. As a result, I'm unable to satisfy a woman through normal intercourse, so I develop my oral skills to compensate for my "shortcoming". To demean or denigrate someone for their physical handicap is cruel and reprehensible, and to desire to be treated in this manner is neurotic.
Being the unfortunate owner of a small penis places me toward the bottom of the male sexual hierarchy and motivated me to become my best friend Larry's personal cocksucker and to pay tribute to his beautiful and impressively large cock the way it deserved to be treated. I love being a cocksucker, but I have no desire to be abused.

I have mentioned before that for the men I know who enjoy being caged it is sort of like a form of psychological BDSM. I certainly wouldn't impose that on any man who didn't actively embrace it. I don't know any women who would. But I also don't think it is fair to denigrate those who do enjoy it or to judge what their motivations may or may not be. This whole thread deals with a fetish that many men do not understand. But it exists nonetheless. There is no need to draw artificial lines of limitation.

 

[2tallpaul]

It is very empowering for the woman as well. Managing and responding to male sensitivities is something that permeates a lot of our intimate interactions with men.

A statement like "I'd like you to lick my pussy" may lead a man to give my pussy some oral attention before he moves on to the next thing, which may not be what I want from him. But the same statement to a man in a cock cage generally comes with the understanding that he needs to focus on a prioritize oral sex because that is the means by which he may please me. It isn't one thing to do before moving on.....it is the thing that I expect and require from him. That works much better if he knows and accepts his place in advance.

Your comments hit right to the point. I became involved with a woman that was open about sex. She knows what she wants and she knew I was a very oral person. We are very open and when her full moon hits and she wants wild sex, one man cannot handle her. We used a cage at the beginning until I realized I didn't need it.

 

[NancyPan]

I find that this dynamic also provides a unique clarity of thought for both parties. The man with a little dick or his penis in a cage has accepted his role and his place relative to his mistress. There is no need for either to obfuscate, deflect or sugar coat reality. As a result when I give such a man instructions as to how to please me he knows that he is getting the honest unvarnished truth of what I want from him. And he knows that - regardless of what any other man might offer - I have chosen him to serve my pleasure in that moment. I may make another choice at another time, but in that moment I make the choice that I want to make and I instruct him in the manner that I want him to pleasure me without concern for the sensitivities and anxieties that often come with male ego or insecurity. IMO that clarity of thought and purpose helps drive a man to be the best that he can be.

In our FLR, my wife has decided that she now longer wants (for her own reasons) PIV sex, so she only allows me to pleasure her orally and with her vibrators. She strictly controls my orgasms. There is absolute clarity about whose pleasure comes first. And, that she is not interested in my cock (except as a measure of my arousal and a source of amusement). BTW, I do not question and have accepted my place in the relationship. She is my superior!

 

[NancyPan]

Both SPH and caging are practices that did not immediately appeal to me. I think that it is just human nature to not want to hurt, humiliate or constrain a person. The reality is that tiny dicks do often leave something to be desired, but why make a fuss about it? However, I eventually learned that for some men it is sort of like a form of psychological BDSM with overtones of domination. And once I understood that some men really like this it brought out the Dom in me. I enjoy putting a man in his place and laying claim to his cock by putting him in a cage. The way you boys become submissive, obedient and eager to please is useful and empowering. Embracing the truth about your sexual inadequacies and/or desire to be cage and compelled to submit is a fundamental part of embracing all aspects of your sexuality. Far from being cruel these things are liberating for the men who are inclined to embrace them. Feeling that little erection or straining against the constraint of your cock cage reminds you of your place at my feet and that is all part of the experience.

For a man who is aroused by sph, like I am, and by orgasm denial, it is actually “cruel” to deny us the pleasure of humiliating us about our inadequacy. It is also cruel to allow us to spurt too often as we relish the state of denial and sustained arousal. I have been so much happier since my wife took control of my cock.

 

[maturesthrncple]

I have a buddy of mine that is only 4 1/4 IN erect. He enjoys showing it and likes for people to know how small he is. He enjoys being told how small he is. But he will tell you its 4 1/4, and dont forget that 1/4 in. lol.

 

[bjlatx]

I love when my wife tells me that she can’t even feel me after she’s fucked on of her bulls. She was chatting with a possible new one the other day and he said he was 6 inches. I replied to him being only 6 inches and she laughed and said that I wish I was 6 inches. She said if I was 6 inches she wouldn’t need any bulls. It was awesome.

 

[policywank]

For a man who is aroused by sph, like I am, and by orgasm denial, it is actual “cruel” to deny us the pleasure of humiliating us about our inadequacy. It is also cruel to allow us to spurt too often as we relish the state of denial and sustained arousal. I have been so much happier since my wife took control of my cock.

I have found that a lot of men seem to struggle to understand the appeal of that sustained state of arousal. For my husband it is sort of like a slow burn with deep psychological and physical elements that build up. Often he doesn't want to ejaculate because it means the temporary loss of that intensity. Getting to ejaculation as quickly or as frequently as possible trades that instant gratification for something quite different that not all men are ready to embrace.

 

[Transguycharlie]

Im a transguy who’s been on testosterone for a year in July and basically what was a clit is growing into a micro penis and I’d love to know if ladies like the idea of it?

 

[NancyPan]

I know it is off-topic from sph, but as @policywank emphasized, orgasm denial is very powerful, and most Dominant Women and submissive men have learned this. I relish being in a sustained state of arousal. My wife knows that it keeps me more submissive and compliant. She does find it amusing to see how she can so easily cause me to have an erection. “So cute,” she will say when she notices my little bump and has me show her, “Now put it away.”

Before She took control and forbade masturbation, well, you know…

 

[SlutAddicted]

I know it is off-topic from sph, but as @policywank emphasized, orgasm denial is very powerful, and most Dominant Women and submissive men have learned this. I relish being in a sustained state of arousal. My wife knows that it keeps me more submissive and compliant. She does find it amusing to see how she can so easily cause me to have an erection. “So cute,” she will say when she notices my little bump and has me show her, “Now put it away.”

Before She took control and forbade masturbation, well, you know…

For me it is all a bit linked by way of our FLR. She is dominant. Caging, orgasm denial and SPH are some of the mechanisms she uses as well as expressions of her dominance over me. Being obedient to her is a source of great excitement, titillation at comfort. I would happily focus solely on her pleasure. But what is more important is that I focus on her direction. If she tells me to do something that is more focussed on my pleasure, I do as I am told. She uses her dominance to serve both of our desires. The decisive clarity of that is what makes my obedience so gratifying.