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July 19th - Words of Esclava

PYL = Pick Your Label (Master, Mistress, Dom/me, etc.)
pyl = pick your label (slave, submissive, slut, etc.)

It is how ever you describe yourself and your place in the universe.

Esclava :rose:

And from the originator of the phrase:
Here's the definition.

https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?s=&threadid=258432

Always good to include frequently used, but not always understood, references. Hmmmmm...almost sounds like this term might be a submissive "toy"... :eek:

Esclava :rose:

Edited to include url reference for the definition. So sorry. E
 
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Juy 20th - Words of Technodivinitas

Those of us with genetically ample posteriors very frequently suffer from weight concerns... "Wide-Load", the PC-spread, more cushion for the pushin'... And fairly often also, "eggplant" syndrome. (Much bigger bottom than top. A previous concern of mine.)
Thank you, WriterDom, for waving a banner in support of our frames. (I was gonna say tooting our horn, but that might be tacky, given the particular topic. ;) ) We can't hear it often enough!

https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?s=&threadid=265214

Nice pic in the thread - please go look. Some of us "baby"s do got back...

Escava :rose:
 
July 21st - Words of shy slave

The first time for real BDSM i went to his house. left early and still got lost.
I Was shaking when I got there. Changed into my high heels and tottered into his house.
He could see how nervous I was but did not comment (thank God).
Had a glass of wine to calm down and then he asked me to undress.
He was so ordinary and normal about the whole process, almost clinical, it relaxed me more than the wine.
Had he been caring or sweet I probably would have shook or laughed.
Once we got into the scene, it was everything I had imagined but he was such a cold fish; i could not have had a relationship outside the scene with him.
Only met him a few times but each time was technically good if lacking in warmth.

https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?s=&threadid=265597

Esclava :rose:
 
Juy 22nd - Words of Artful's Dream

Hi this is Artful's Dream in disguise as my Master
I'd like to say that I do enjoy being spanked immensely and the harder the better but everyone should know their limits so nothing turns abusive on either side of the relationship.
This particular act has only been done to me twice and I really thought it helped to intensify the orgasm. But my Master and I as of yet have not yet had the experience of this but I am quite sure than when He feels I need it or am ready for it that He will administer whatever kind of pleasure He sees is fit for me and I trust in His decisions 100% just be careful and honest in everything you experience with your partner ,that's the main thing...huggs Dream

https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?s=&threadid=102388&perpage=25&pagenumber=1

Esclava :rose:
 
July 23rd - Words of iam4Her

A good example: you come home after a hard day of work with a big amount of mental stress and are completely exhausted and have a big need to rest and talk about your stress.

When you come home you will find that your Dom/me has also has had a bad day and needs your serving. He/She wants a massage, a wonderful dinner, and also wants you to clean out His/Her office.

In this situation, you know that your Dom/me ´s pleasure comes first and you have to cope with your on exhaustion and stress, swallow it down and please your Dom/me first before it is time for your own needs. This is a complex situation, both mentally and emotionally, that you have to go through.

In a online relationship, you can easily decide to not turn on the computer until you have rested, or easily make up a couple of lies that the online Dom/me never can check the truth in...ohhh, the computer crashed…we have had a power outage here...Literotica didn’t want to open up…aso.

The need and want to submit can never be faced for yourself until you go through real time, and real time is the real school for D/s.

The interaction of real time when you have a conversation and have to think through your words and actions in seconds and not in hours, ( compared to online ) is a huge difference.

What interacts in the seconds in a real conversation is the real face of who you are, and you will learn how to evaluate yourself, through the eyes of your Dom/me.

https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?s=&threadid=111992

An incredibly emotive passage from a male sub. Click the link - there is more to read. Thank you iam4Her.

Esclava :rose:
 
July 24th - Words of a sub masochist written in a NY Times article

In this week's New York Press, the leading free weekly here in NYC (in competition with the more traditionally left Village Voice.

Apply Fist Here
The Education of a Sadomasochist. - By Donna Larsen

Sometime this summer, in a high-rise condo looking out over the city, I will be given something I've been wanting for a long time: a black eye. The man who will give it to me is complicated and beautiful, and

Sometime this summer, in a high-rise condo looking out over the city, I will be given something I've been wanting for a long time: a black eye.

The man who will give it to me is complicated and beautiful, and beautiful in his complexity. He is confident but withdrawn, self-assured but not uncaring. And though he barely knows me, this doesn't stop him from beating me.

There is no logical reason for wanting a black eye. When he asks me why I want it, I want to turn it around on him, and ask him why he wants to give it to me. But I don't, because I don't know why I want it—and I don't think he knows why he wants to give it to me.

The craving came to me last summer. Where do you search for such a thing in this day and age? The internet, of course.

As much as some feminists bandy about the evil of men, finding one who will actually punch you in the face is harder than they'd imagine. Even at websites dedicated to introducing sadists to masochists, the sadists are amazingly tame. Most didn't just turn me down; they professed shock at my request. Then I found George.

For my previous partners, sadomasochism was just a game to be played when traditional sex lost its thrill. They separated themselves from the violence they wanted to inflict; they tried to be nice guys by asking ask me questions about my life. They equipped me with a "safe word"—that one word I could say if things got out of control or too painful.

Mixing sex and violence is not a game. For George, there is no safe word, only the door. Don't like what he's doing? Fucking leave. Everyone else was a one-nighter; George is the only man I've ever returned to. He is the definition of authenticity—he isn't playing a game, he's being himself. Which is refreshing. It takes the pressure off of me to be anything but myself. ...

https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?s=&threadid=257538

There is MUCH more to this article. It was posted by a Dom, but the story, written by a submissive masochist, is enthralling in its ability to open windows that many of us probably never thought existed.

Esclava :rose:
 
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July 25th - Words of Shallkneel4u

Reading this thread, and this seemed like as good a place as any to jump in to this thread. Not sure that I would agree with the accessment that Behavior Modification is the same as emotional disciplend. One can be trained to follow a basic set of rules, or abide by a certain set of behaviors while the emotions of self remain unchanged.

As a submissive, think sometimes what I find disconcerting is all the focus on disciplend and punishment. It would be hoped that two people in a relationship of trust and honesty would reach a point where neither was necessary? Additionally, where in this thread is mirrored discussion of emotional healing? Most emotional problems that people tend to exhibit relate back to troubled events in their past life, and can one truly effect change in the emotions without (in a loving, caring way) addressing the root causes which cause that emotion to be triggered?

https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?s=&threadid=219890&perpage=25&pagenumber=2

There is more - very thought provoking - conversation.

Esclava :rose:
 
July 27th - Words of SierraMoon

With my first Dom, i was expected to take a lot of pain... A LOT... even with him knowing that it was my first time doing any of this...

With my current Dom, i actually can take more, but He's afraid of hurting me...

i would suggest just taking it slow. Don't be ashamed of what you can't take... it will come with time and patience

https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?s=&threadid=245959

Pain...oh my...

Esclava :rose:
 
July 28th - Words of li'a-wahine

I'd like to add my morning ritual to this thread.
It starts with the alarm going off, which I turn off Fast!. Then I go down to the kitchen and put on coffee and go out to get the paper. I set out the paper at the table (to the sports page) and check the coffee. I take out His cup, put the sugar in, bring out the cream and go down to the bedroom to wake M'Lord. I remove my bathrobe, and kneel by the side of the bed. I strike a small silver bell 3 times and put it on the night stand and wait with my head lowered till I have been spoken to or touched(.it depends). Then I put on His slippers and robe, go to the kitchen and pour the coffee in the cup (all ready sugared, and cream is ready ) I searve it to him and wait with eyes lowered. Then he usualy tells me to bring myself a cup and join him.

https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?s=&threadid=107615

And a beautiful ritual this is. Thank you,

Esclava :rose:
 
July 30th - Words of ammre

I need something... It could be as simple as a light touch on the cheek and a "good girl" but SOMETHING.
If i don't get something.. i won't sit there and complain... i'll take it to heart and fester... If you wanted to be a mentally sadistic dominant all you have to do is ignore that simple need and i'll tear myself apart over it. It's sorta like that mind fuck thing pure was talking about...
Most of the time i don't like indepth cuddling... I'd rather be told to get him some water or something and get a pat on the head, than full force cuddling...
Sometimes i want to be held.. but most of the time that's NOT after a scene... that would be more like after a bad day of work or a family trauma or something...

I may enjoy being a toy but we at least clean our toys after use... i deserve at least a pat on the head or a smile.

https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?s=&threadid=250681

The thread is about aftercare, the types that abound and those that are desired by both Dom/mes and subs/slaves. Enjoy!

Esclava :rose:
 
July 31st - Words of enigma nocturne

I mark really well, too. But I am in the medical field also, so I have to be careful. I do not like haveing to justify my pastimes to my co workers.

Sometimes though, after a good session with one of my regular Doms, she will text message me at work, and the message says "no visible marks" and that is like a mental mark, and I remember and I smile...

https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?s=&threadid=253602

Whether marked as property or marked as well and thoroughly loved, the markings send a clear message...

Esclava :rose:
 
August 1st - Words of Esclava

As I have completed the month of July which is very special to me (if you are curious, ask me about it), I will begin August with one of my own:

Where is the secret of your value?

It is not in the eyes of others - who may desire your delight;
But it's locked inside your heart - where only YOU know its might.

Whether you choose to open up, share and allow it to fly free is entirely up to you. Let those wings carry you to places you NEVER knew existed - even in your wildest dreams.

Esclava :rose:
 
August 2nd - Words of s'lara

A scary Dominant is the following:

-Irresponsible
-Incapable of seeing beyond their own infallibility
-Constantly indecisive
-Careless
-Unable to communicate effectively and with candor

There's more i am sure, but these are qualities that would bring my judgement into question if i chose to be owned by Someone who had any or all of these traits.

Thread link

Thoughts from both sides of the D/s equation. A must read thread for new subs.

Esclava :rose:
 
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August 3rd - Words of bridgeburner

bridgeburner said:
good guess, but this is more to the point:

icebg-uw2.jpg
Click to expand...

https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?s=&threadid=261970&perpage=25&pagenumber=2

Deep subject, shallow well? I think not...

Esclava :rose:
 
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Re: August 4th Words of OwnedSubGirl

shy slave said:
Esclava Hope you don't mind me adding to the calender xx
Click to expand...

Slowing the STOTD Calendar bandwagon down long enough to pick up passengers...

Of course not, shy! If you can find some others to jump on for the ride, tell them, "All Aboard!"

This thread is for "US - ALL OF US" and I don't want to see it lapse during Catalina's absence. She has taken such good care of us...this is one way I know to show her I appreciate that care.

Esclava :rose:
 
August 5th - Words of crazybbwgirl

Isn't that what the internet is for? lol But truthfully its much easier for me to bare my soul, talk about my deepest fantasies, etc. in writing rather than face to face. At least at first. To break the ice. We email all week long, then when we get together we talk thru the things we wrote about. Easier for me that way.

Thread link

Esclava :rose:
 
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August 6th - Words of lucky-E-leven

My bruises are mementos of your need for me. Alone, I strip and study them in the mirror. Here's the imprint of your hand on a naughty ass-cheek. I blush, and smile, remembering how I earned that spanking. And here, at the base of my throat where the touch of your breath makes me instantly wet for you, is the mark of your punishing mouth. I bit you back, though, didn't I! And here, fading too fast, is the faintest trace of the way you gripped my arm when you pulled me into the room that night. Pushed me against the wall. Lifted me up to take your kiss. Shook me with your hunger, and fucked me raw. Sweet man, how you needed me.

Thread link

Esclava :rose:
 
August 8th - Words of A Desert Rose

Thank you MissT for finding this thread for me. I'd like to bump it again.

My Dom had me email Him a daily journal entry. I so loved doing that and miss doing it a lot. If for some reason, I didn't send Him an entry, He was disappointed in not seeing my name in His email. It became a daily experience that He really counted on from me. He once told me that my journals were a barometer He often used to understand me and where I thought our relationship was going.

While I didn't require feedback from Him on a daily basis, He seemed to know the times that I needed a response from him. I oftentimes wished He would journal me back more than He did. But He is a busy man, with little time for writing.

I've been approached to do this type of thing again, and I am inclined to do so because the message I am getting is that He is most interested in what I think, how I feel and what I want to experience, through daily journaling.

Thread link

Esclava :rose:
 
August 9th - Words of Technodivinitas

oooooooooo... Then there's the civilized-to-primitive aspect that lurks in there, that contrasts intellectual force & power against the ironic weakness of naked animal male "strength"... Very nice!

Thread link

You have GOT to go read the rest of this thread! :eek:

Esclava :rose:
 
August 10th - Words of draig OMalley

In almost a quarter century of experimentation, we have arrived at a skill level that allows us to draw on the richness of a Domme/sub dimension to our relationship. (It is not the only dimension, by far, but is an important one.) Within that dimension, we occasionally discover the sweetness of a liberated expression of love for each other. (I have a couple of stories posted that provide examples of how we relate to each other within this domension). As with all dimensions of love, it is very fleeting, but oh so euphoric. In those brief glimpses (of paradise?--we're no longer religious, so I'm not sure of using spiritual language to talk about it), she is the essence of our love and I but its periphery. The metaphor of the moth and the flame is appropriate here: when we are "in our playhouse," I am mesmerized by her flame, continuously flying around it until I finally go right through it and burn up. Two things happen: while I am burning, she, the flame, expands and flares up for just an instant, and I, knowing her brightness is enhanced by consuming me, feel my submission fulfilled.

Thread link

Wonderfully expressed voice of the male sub...

Esclava :rose:
 
August 11th - Words of yessmiss

Growing close to 40 with several promising relationships unfullfilled and a divorce from a wonderful woman, i had to stop and "analyze" what had went wrong, on a deeper level. On focusing on my refusal to let go of my "male ego", and foremost issues of *TRUST* and *RESPECT* which are paramount to a D/s (or any) relation i found that i had been fighting myself, rather than for myself. i think that my misconception was that if we weren't equal in powerterms we also weren't equal in worth.

[color-red]Submission is not my kink, it is my essence![/color]

Thread link

More of the submissive male voice...

Esclava :rose:
 
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