The Isolated Blurt BDSM Thread

[seela]

So it seems to be final. We're not moving anywhere from here, which means I need to a) find a job b) start loving the town we live in c) look for a better apartment for us d) get some kind of a social life.

How does one make friends? Where do people get to know each other? I have no clue how to meet people that don't study or work in the same place with me. Currently I'm studying about 350km south from where I live and don't have a job. I've become a recluse, now that my only friend here is at the last stages of her pregnancy and there's only so much baby jibber jabber I can take.

 

[Tabea]

How does one make friends? Where do people get to know each other? I have no clue how to meet people that don't study or work in the same place with me. Currently I'm studying about 350km south from where I live and don't have a job. I've become a recluse, now that my only friend here is at the last stages of her pregnancy and there's only so much baby jibber jabber I can take.

Have you tried facebook? Here there are groups called "new in X city" and the members meet frequently. I know several people who met friends that way. I've lived in another city last year and met people from all over the world via a facebook group. I was a bit nervous going to the first meeting but it turned out fine.
You could also try volunteering to get to know new people.

 

[seela]

Have you tried facebook? Here there are groups called "new in X city" and the members meet frequently. I know several people who met friends that way. I've lived in another city last year and met people from all over the world via a facebook group. I was a bit nervous going to the first meeting but it turned out fine.
You could also try volunteering to get to know new people.

Thank for your suggestions! I don't use facebook - I mean I have an account but I only ever log in to confirm friend requests - but this might be a reason to actually start using it. This is a student town, which means that a lot of things happen during the semesters (Sep-May), but it unfortunately also means that most all action die come summer. And it means that a job is hard to come by, because there's a steady flow of students willing to work for a stupidly low pay.

There's still a small chance we might move in August. I really, really wish that'd happen, but I'm trying to remain realistic about it. And at least now that it's summer, our hometown is a lot nicer. Lots of bike paths and lakes, and the summer cottage is near by, which means fresh produce and fish, lots of rowing and swimming.

 

[kiwi_submissive]

Thank for your suggestions! I don't use facebook - I mean I have an account but I only ever log in to confirm friend requests - but this might be a reason to actually start using it. This is a student town, which means that a lot of things happen during the semesters (Sep-May), but it unfortunately also means that most all action die come summer. And it means that a job is hard to come by, because there's a steady flow of students willing to work for a stupidly low pay.

There's still a small chance we might move in August. I really, really wish that'd happen, but I'm trying to remain realistic about it. And at least now that it's summer, our hometown is a lot nicer. Lots of bike paths and lakes, and the summer cottage is near by, which means fresh produce and fish, lots of rowing and swimming.

Are they any groups that match your interests in your area? My mother moved to a new town and joined a quilting group, a walking group, an embroidery group, a scrapbooking and a cooking one. After a month she had more friends that she knew what to do with and a better social life than me.

 

[DeepGreenEyes]

I had to be taught to stir the things using a spoon...

Remind me not to ask you for a fresh teabag.

 

[IrisAlthea]

Okay, I can't keep this under wraps any longer, and FloggingMolly is remiss in returning PMs. Many people here may remember Mol posting about her struggle for motherhood, and I don't think she'll mind if I pass this along:

Mission accomplished! She had a healthy boy this spring, is doing great and is quite happy!!

That's great! I was hoping she was missing here for good reasons rather than not so happy reasons.

 

[Kurokami]

Remind me not to ask you for a fresh teabag.

Nice one.

 

[Sir_Winston54]

I had to be taught to stir the things using a spoon...

Remind me not to ask you for a fresh teabag.

Two men traveling together both realize they need to relieve themselves as they drive through a wooded area. Seeing a creek crossing under the road, they pull off and walk down under the bridge. Soon both are sighing in relief. One looks from the corner of his eye toward the other and says, "Damn, that water's cold!" His friend agrees... "Yeah, and it's *deep,* too!"

You two (and a few others here) turn my mind so often to burlesque routines... <sigh>

 

[Sir_Winston54]

I think it was Yank who was interested in getting into voice-over work...

I ran into this story listening to NPR on the way back from the grocery a little bit ago. If the "Abrams Artists Agency ... one of the most highly regarded voice-over, talent and literary agencies in the industry," isn't already completely booked with young Jake...

 

[Noira]

Am here to isolatedly blurt!

I just want to watch some freaking porn of people tied up and suffering a little bit WITHOUT the degradation, is that too much to ask? Does it HAVE to be all "oh you're such a worthless piece of shit, get out of my sight, grovel at my masterfulness, you're wasting my time with all this crap you stupid submissive titface!" Seriously, that just pings as asshole. Does dominant = asshole? Maybe I should just embrace the fact that I have an S/M fetish and move on with life...

...Still isn't making it easier to find good porn though. D: Seriously, is it too much for me to ask for tied up screaming ladies with no degrading humiliation fetish on the side? That's not my thing, I respect that obviously some people love the humiliation fetish but ah don't...

And of course, the search for a compatible person. I ping too much as submissive I guess, because I keep meeting assholes. Just have to keep reminding myself that dominant and asshole aren't synonymous and hope that somewhere I'll meet someone interested in being kinky without being an asshole and or wanting me to be an asshole. Gotta be someone... right?

Man, I love the fact that blurt threads are a thing. Sometimes I just need to vent.

 

[midwestyankee]

I think it was Yank who was interested in getting into voice-over work...

I ran into this story listening to NPR on the way back from the grocery a little bit ago. If the "Abrams Artists Agency ... one of the most highly regarded voice-over, talent and literary agencies in the industry," isn't already completely booked with young Jake...

Very cool. I am, in fact, presently taking the second class in voiceover acting. This past week we worked with text that had to be read fast. I took on the script with the biggest challenge and successfully read a spot that contains 221 words in the required time: just under 50 seconds. It was a blast!

 

[cfuhrer]

Very cool. I am, in fact, presently taking the second class in voiceover acting. This past week we worked with text that had to be read fast. I took on the script with the biggest challenge and successfully read a spot that contains 221 words in the required time: just under 50 seconds. It was a blast!

Way neato!!

 

[intothewoods]

Am here to isolatedly blurt!

I just want to watch some freaking porn of people tied up and suffering a little bit WITHOUT the degradation, is that too much to ask? Does it HAVE to be all "oh you're such a worthless piece of shit, get out of my sight, grovel at my masterfulness, you're wasting my time with all this crap you stupid submissive titface!" Seriously, that just pings as asshole. Does dominant = asshole? Maybe I should just embrace the fact that I have an S/M fetish and move on with life...

...Still isn't making it easier to find good porn though. D: Seriously, is it too much for me to ask for tied up screaming ladies with no degrading humiliation fetish on the side? That's not my thing, I respect that obviously some people love the humiliation fetish but ah don't...

And of course, the search for a compatible person. I ping too much as submissive I guess, because I keep meeting assholes. Just have to keep reminding myself that dominant and asshole aren't synonymous and hope that somewhere I'll meet someone interested in being kinky without being an asshole and or wanting me to be an asshole. Gotta be someone... right?

Man, I love the fact that blurt threads are a thing. Sometimes I just need to vent.

I have a hard time finding good bdsm porn. I mean, that I like, I suppose it's good for someone. I don't even know where to look though. I don't like the way porno actors look. And I don't really want to see bodily fluids. I think I might want the soft core version of bdsm. OH MY GOD -- I am as lame as everyone else reading 50 Shades of Grey!!!

Oh well. Everyone already knew that I suppose.

 

[the captians wench]

I have a hard time finding good bdsm porn. I mean, that I like, I suppose it's good for someone. I don't even know where to look though. I don't like the way porno actors look. And I don't really want to see bodily fluids. I think I might want the soft core version of bdsm. OH MY GOD -- I am as lame as everyone else reading 50 Shades of Grey!!!

Oh well. Everyone already knew that I suppose.

I've never really been into porn either. I always tended to favor the soft core stuff. *shrug*

The funny part is, no one ever believes me.

 

[Cautious_Eli]

Saying that most of the people who have sent a PM were reasonably nice and intelligent, was not a challenge to those who are not!

 

[ownedsubgal]

I've never really been into porn either. I always tended to favor the soft core stuff. *shrug*

The funny part is, no one ever believes me.

even funnier, i lost interest in pretty much all readily available porn because it's not anywhere near hardcore enough for my tastes. female orgasms, smiles or even momentary mock enjoyment is enough to kill my buzz. but then, i am very very sick.

 

[Edith_UK]

I've never watched any bdsm porn. I have no idea why.

 

[BiBunny]

BDSM porn is yawn-worthy for the most part. Bondage, spanking, blowjobs, and fucking. Sometimes anal. Absolutely nothing whatsoever to make it interesting.

 

[Sir_Winston54]

BDSM porn is yawn-worthy for the most part. Bondage, spanking, blowjobs, and fucking. Sometimes anal. Absolutely nothing whatsoever to make it interesting.

Got to agree, for the most part. I've almost never seen any BDSM porn where the pyl appeared to actually feel much, especially emotionally. If I'm going to put myself "in the picture," so to speak, I want to see her react, with voice, with tears, flinching, etc. Having her just "lie there and take it" has, to me, all the fun factor of flogging/caning/whatever-ing a pillow.

The exception, of course, is when she squeals or squirms early on in the scene, and then slips softly into subspace, just absorbing what I'm doling out. To know that I've been able to take her from that -- the automatic flight response, the verbal cues that something really is affecting her, causing that pain -- to complete acceptance and a desire for it to continue, to take all that's happening into herself... that's a high of its own: Domspace, so to speak.

 

[kiwi_submissive]

Got to agree, for the most part. I've almost never seen any BDSM porn where the pyl appeared to actually feel much, especially emotionally. If I'm going to put myself "in the picture," so to speak, I want to see her react, with voice, with tears, flinching, etc. Having her just "lie there and take it" has, to me, all the fun factor of flogging/caning/whatever-ing a pillow.

The exception, of course, is when she squeals or squirms early on in the scene, and then slips softly into subspace, just absorbing what I'm doling out. To know that I've been able to take her from that -- the automatic flight response, the verbal cues that something really is affecting her, causing that pain -- to complete acceptance and a desire for it to continue, to take all that's happening into herself... that's a high of its own: Domspace, so to speak.

I find alot of the pictures the same. The pyl quite often looks (young) nice with perfect make up, hair in place and smiling at the camera.

I dunno about others here but make up is usually the least of my worries mid session and my hair is usually all over the place and finding a camera aimed at me let alone smiling with "come fuck me" eyes is the least of my priorities. I dunno may that's just not hot.

 

[ecstaticsub]

I find alot of the pictures the same. The pyl quite often looks (young) nice with perfect make up, hair in place and smiling at the camera.

I dunno about others here but make up is usually the least of my worries mid session and my hair is usually all over the place and finding a camera aimed at me let alone smiling with "come fuck me" eyes is the least of my priorities. I dunno may that's just not hot.

This is one of the reasons I support Fetlife. There are tons of really bad videos but occasionally there will be a very hot amateur video that does it for me. These home videos are so much better then professional BDSM porn

 

[intothewoods]

Very cool. I am, in fact, presently taking the second class in voiceover acting. This past week we worked with text that had to be read fast. I took on the script with the biggest challenge and successfully read a spot that contains 221 words in the required time: just under 50 seconds. It was a blast!

That is cool!

I've never really been into porn either. I always tended to favor the soft core stuff. *shrug*

The funny part is, no one ever believes me.

No one ever asks me.

BDSM porn is yawn-worthy for the most part. Bondage, spanking, blowjobs, and fucking. Sometimes anal. Absolutely nothing whatsoever to make it interesting.

There's so much out there. I'm kind of surprised none of it's good. I guess it's probably geared towards straight men?

even funnier, i lost interest in pretty much all readily available porn because it's not anywhere near hardcore enough for my tastes. female orgasms, smiles or even momentary mock enjoyment is enough to kill my buzz. but then, i am very very sick.

I'm not so "hardcore", but I don't want to watch female orgasms either -- I suppose I'm cool with enjoyment but really I just want a genuine response. The women are always performing and it's always all about the money shot. I don't want to see bodily fluids. Sucks for my husband - I'll do whatever he asks but I can't fake cooing over cum and rubbing it all over my face like it's...I don't even know what, I would never rub anything on my face other than moisturizer and I don't usually coo while I do that.

 

[graceanne]

Most porn is boring, to me, because if you look at the actors faces they always look bored. One of the reasons I prefer fiction is because the internal feelings and dialogue are often what makes BDSM hot.

 

[gypsy*seer]

Most porn is boring, to me, because if you look at the actors faces they always look bored. One of the reasons I prefer fiction is because the internal feelings and dialogue are often what makes BDSM hot.

Agreed, nothing is more intriguing than one's own imagination!

 

[graceanne]

Agreed, nothing is more intriguing than one's own imagination!

Well ... I like other people's imagination, too.