Travellin' South - The Dominant Kiss?

[James G 5]

Interesting idea
I've posted before about my habit of tieing down women who DO enjoy oral and then doing it the point where it becomes overhwleming & painful
And of course there's always biting
For me it's never a submissive act, it's more a show of "Look what I can do to you and your body, and NO one else can do it so well"

 

[catalina_francisco]

Interesting idea
I've posted before about my habit of tieing down women who DO enjoy oral and then doing it the point where it becomes overhwleming & painful
And of course there's always biting
For me it's never a submissive act, it's more a show of "Look what I can do to you and your body, and NO one else can do it so well"

Oh James, I do so love that modest streak you have!! LOL.

Catalina

 

[James G 5]

Oh James, I do so love that modest streak you have!! LOL.

Catalina

Modesty is for SUCKERS.
Seriously, and I can provide references here, the majority of the women I have gone down on, including some with plenty of experience that encompasses both men and women, have stated that no one has ever come CLOSE to what I can do to them, either before or after they knew me.
So, based in my experience, it's fact, not bragging

 

[Desdemona]

I love oral sex. I like going down on others and I like being on the receiving end. It's one of my favorite expressions of pure sexuality and I don't see it as submissive at all to go down on someone..... esp in the ways that James and Netzach have described. I miss it when it isn't a part of my sex life.

 

[catalina_francisco]

I love oral sex. I like going down on others and I like being on the receiving end. It's one of my favorite expressions of pure sexuality and I don't see it as submissive at all to go down on someone..... esp in the ways that James and Netzach have described. I miss it when it isn't a part of my sex life.

It is one of those things which can be missed sorely I agree. I have met so many Dominants though who feel it is submissive for them to perform on their submissive...strangely a couple of them had no problem giving it to another submissive though. Go figure.

Catalina

 

[MLadyPain]

Modesty is for SUCKERS.... So, based in my experience, it's fact, not bragging

::WAVING HAND::
OOO OOO PICK ME PICK ME!!!

 

[catalina_francisco]

::WAVING HAND::
OOO OOO PICK ME PICK ME!!!

Another devotee of southern comfort?

Catalina

 

[Limbhugger]

Ahhh...One of Wife's greatest physical talents. She's extremely talented in this area. I believe both because she understands the anotmoy and psychology of a male so well.

Long before we made our full transition into D/s, Wife loved to perform oral on me. It is something she truly enjoys but has always reserved it as a "special" treat. Not withholding it but giving it when she desired. And the act itself was always about her dominance. Sometimes fast and forced. Sometimes agonizingly slow. Sometimes a combination of the two. Sometimes tormenting me by not allowing me to cum and then vigorously attacking the head after I have until my body screams from the all too intense and painful sensation. And so on and so on. Point being, it was has always been an act she's performed while in complete control.

As a matter of fact, unlike the "stereotypical porn male" I've always felt very submissive to her when receiving oral. A feeling I've had with all women who've done this. As if I'm at their mercy and control. While an arguement might be made that it takes a lot of trust to put one's mouth on one's penis, I counter that it takes a HELLUVA lot of trust to put your penis between one's teeth!

What's more, I've always viewed oral, both giving and receiving, as a tremendous gift. To pleasure a woman in this fashion I dare say actually has an emotional impact on me. It is like a reward. As if she is saying, "Ok, you've been a good boy so I will open myself to you and allow you to partake of me."

On the receiving end, the physical act is simply tremendous so for me that goes without saying. But mentally and emotionally, I feel as if I am again receiving a reward. Wife can make me feel a range from very timid and almost shy, to purely slutty, to deeply loved with this one simple act.

I am one who cannot seperate the physical act of sex from the mental and emotional impacts. Not meaning that I fall in love with every sex partner and go swooning after them. Meaning that sex connects on all levels with me and varying sexual acts connect in different or more intense ways than others. Or for that matter, from episode to epsidoe. I love to explore my thoughts and feelings before, during, and after sex and the acts committed therein.

For me, sex without involving the mind and the emotions would be like drinking a bucket of ashes.

Okay that's my ramble...

LH

 

[jhangel]

No one had ever gone on me till my Husband/Dom. The first time i was very uncomfortable with it. And it did not happen again for another 2 months. And then he did it again but this time only focusing on my clit. I had a really intense orgasim from it. And from then on i have come to LOVE him going down. He enjoys going down b/c of the responises that i make when he does and how much i enjoy it. This seems to turn if on more. It is one of his ways to tease me and make me squirm. About the only time that i recive it now is when he wants to torture me by bringing me close to orgasim then the will stoping and do something else.

 

[bridgeburner]

I think a lot of women don't like to recieve oral sex because they think they smell or taste unpleasant. That aside, however, it's an incredibly intimate thing for a lot of women regardless of how they feel about their girl parts.

I have to be extremely comfortable with a man before I'm willing to let him go down on me. It makes me feel vulnerable and while a part of me craves that I have a lot of resistance to it as well. Typical conflicted bullshit, you know how it goes.

At any rate, I've limited my experience in this department by declining on a regular basis. When I've allowed it, I was still generally too uncomfortable to enjoy it fully --- or the guy was just not all that skilled. On a couple of occasions, however I've been held down and devoured and while the technique may have been lacking the intent behind it put me over the edge. Held down and licked to within an inch of my life there was no doubt in my mind who had the upper hand in that situation. He wanted it and he took it and then he laughed out loud looking up at me from between my legs.

"So there."


He sure as shit showed me.


-B

 

[Desdemona]

I think a lot of women don't like to recieve oral sex because they think they smell or taste unpleasant. That aside, however, it's an incredibly intimate thing for a lot of women regardless of how they feel about their girl parts.

I have to be extremely comfortable with a man before I'm willing to let him go down on me. It makes me feel vulnerable and while a part of me craves that I have a lot of resistance to it as well. Typical conflicted bullshit, you know how it goes.

At any rate, I've limited my experience in this department by declining on a regular basis. When I've allowed it, I was still generally too uncomfortable to enjoy it fully --- or the guy was just not all that skilled. On a couple of occasions, however I've been held down and devoured and while the technique may have been lacking the intent behind it put me over the edge. Held down and licked to within an inch of my life there was no doubt in my mind who had the upper hand in that situation. He wanted it and he took it and then he laughed out loud looking up at me from between my legs.

"So there."


He sure as shit showed me.


-B

Damn... that was red hot!

 

[James G 5]

One flip side comment on this
I have issues with receiving oral sex
I love it, but it's often difficult for me to get off from it, or enjoy it past a short time
This is due to some issues with bad past experiences, especially my frist one where someone hurt me badly physically in the course of the act then compounded it with emotional BS
So with rare exceptions, I can't get off on it or really enjoy it UNLESS I am really controlling it & she is performing in a very controlled, submissive fashion

 

[lark sparrow]

I don't personally think of receiving oral sex in terms of being an inherently Dominant or submissive act. It can easily be either or neither. I don't dislike receiving or giving oral sex in general, though I do think it's fairly intimate.

Perhaps it can more easily become an issue when partners have differing sex organs and everything that comes with those differences - though I know an individual of any sexual orientation may have issues with any particular sexual act. On a personal level I want to equate it to kissing, simply as an example. It's really pretty neutral as an act in and of itself.

But, I can see how the gray or misunderstood area as felt by others could occur were it not perceived as an act that can go or be taken just about anywhere, dependent on the partners.

 

[Limbhugger]

Just wanted to revisit this topic.

I'm an orally-fetished individual. I love to taste my lover. Beyond just the genitals. I want to lick them and bring all their essence into my body. To taste the saltiness of their flesh and the sweetness of their spirit. Each person carrying their own unique flavor.

It for me transcends the physical. By tasting I feel a deeper connection. As if I am bringing that person fully into my body. As if I am fully experiencing them.

On a side note, the mouth is a deeply personal thing. We protect it from most everything. So it can also be used as quite the exhilirating tool of humiliation.

 

[bridgeburner]

On a side note, the mouth is a deeply personal thing. We protect it from most everything. So it can also be used as quite the exhilirating tool of humiliation.

This definitely resonates with me. I could endure sex with a lot of generally undesirable people if I didn't have to kiss them. Alternately I would be very disappointed to have sex with someone I desired and not be able to kiss him.

Bad kissing can actually ruin sex for me. I'd rather have no kissing than lousy kissing.

-B

 

[angela146]

Sort of a combination of what has been said so far:

My husband and I switch with him dominant most of the time.

If I want to dom him, I sometimes have him go down on me while I hold his ears to control him and inflict some mild pain. The thing is, it's easy for him to turn the tables on me and get me submissive by making me beg for more than he's giving.

So, him going down on me is an opportunity for us to have a struggle for dominance. I try to stay in control using force of will and force of fingers. He either submits or tries to take the top away from me.

It can get interesting if he tries to withhold pleasure from me and I squeeze really hard to force him.

Once I've come, he usually takes over and has his way with me. At that point, I don't mind, having already "gotten mine".

I've written a story about it in fact and am waiting for it to be voiced before posting.

Oh, if I'm down on him, I'm almost always submissive. I haven't mastered the talent of making him beg for it.

 

[catalina_francisco]

Timely bump?

Catalina

 

[astralkiss]

I, personally, love giving and receiving.

I guess for me I don't feel guilty with Him going down on me because I know how much He loves it, and I would feel awful if I objected to Him doing something that gives him so much pleasure. I know He likes the control he has over my body, the suppressed groans as I try not to cum before He give me permission, and the mastery He has over that part of my body.

As other posters have put it, with Him it is a feeling of "look what I can do to your body". Even if I am not in the mood for it, my body responds. He can make me cum that way no matter what.

Besides, even if I did not like it, it would be His choice whether we would indulge it in or not, not mine. The fact that we both enjoy it tremendously is just a fantastic bonus.

He loves giving me pleasure, and I love giving Him pleasure. Therefore, because giving me pleasure pleases Him, I am happy. (HOpe that made sense).

As far as giving oral, it is one of my favourite things to do, bordering on fetishism. I like nothing more but the feeling of His cock in my mouth, feeling it harden and become aroused, knowing that the look on His face is one of happiness and that He is feeling great pleasure from what I am doing. For me, it is simultaneously a feeling of great accomplishment and pleasure, because I am doing something that He loves. And as stated before, I love making Him happy.

Another aspect of giving oral sex that I do like is the roughness possible. Nothing that turns me on more than Him grabbing my hair, putting my face to His cock and ordering me to suck. The feeling of His hands in my hair, as I go down, and I can feel His hands clench when He reaches climax. Quite possible one of the best feelings in the world.

Just my $0.02.

 

[AngelicAssassin]

From the perspective of some Dominants, the view you preferred them not to do it would encourage them to, whether they personaly liked it or not. I have been told for women who dislike it, it is a torturous way to have them submit, and seen in that light as serving their Dominant in the way he is choosing, not the way they prefer.

Catalina

Kaching ... and all the better to leave them screaming whether from pleasure, or pain.

 

[Honeysucklevine]

Going South "for the winter"

As a man I like the smell of a good clean pussy. I love the taste and the smooth texture of the sensitive skin. I love the feel of her squirming (can't really think of a better word) as she orgasms. I love how she becomes hyper sensative after the fact and I love to continue through her protests untill I feel her relaxing and another orgasm beginning.

As a dominant man I still love all of the same things and I find nothing "submissive" about doing it. That is what I think many of you are getting at without saying that word.

I've often read in stories, so many 'scenes' where the sole point was to have a submissive woman go down on her 'dom' but I dont' find a woman giving a blow job to be submissive either. So I don't understand this type of scene.

Sure there are ways that you can make it a bit more submissive for her. Forcing her down on you until she gags might qualify.

Well, well, well!
I have been gone for a few months and I see that you guys have progressed to a higher level. Bravo and kudos to NCShin for hitting it right on!


For many, including myself, allowing an all out buffet on my "Garden of Eden" and letting go completely is to totally and completely submit. No doubt about it.

The person GIVING the oral pleasure is definetly dominating the other. This person holds ALL the power, which is a total turn on both ways.

On the other hand, the person on the receiving end is most likely having to let go of all control. Now, for a man, this is probably easy. That's right, I am not being politically correct because ....oh, who cares! We don't have to be P. C. here. Anyway, my point is that a woman may possibly and is most likely going to have a harder time letting her partner reap the rewards from giving her an orgasm. She must totally trust and submit. She must completely let go and let her energy flow through her with every wave of pleasure!

Therefore, it is my opinion that giving a great blow job is so much easier than getting. Power is easy to take. Giving of mind, body and soul is torture! ( but oh so good! )

Thank you and good night!

 

[landcruisergal]

Anything that gives me control and I enjoy....
I used to hold the opinion that fellatio wasn't going to be an option in my dominance of my pyl.
But with an admission that he is so averse to having a woman on her knees sucking him.... it was a chance of a massive head fuck I couldn't pass up on. So I did and made him watch, despite his pleading and begging me not to. He was acutely discomforted, by the position I had put him in, and the sight of me in this position was very perverse..heh heh.
I love sucking cock anyway. One of my first bondage experiences was tying a b/f up and sucking him off and on for hours....so it is a position of control I particularly relish.
My PYL has only given me a few licks, and I was so worked up and agitated at the time, I didnt even notice...he told me after the event.

 

[Jay Davis]

I LOVE to give oral, but as a straight male sub, that hardly makes me unique. I would guesstimate that when I fantasize about sex, especially sex with a specific person, I'm about 5 times as likely to be thinking about going down on her than having intercourse. Don't get me wrong, I love that too, but I LOVE performing oral.

On the other hand, I'm really, really uneasy about being on the receiving end. In my vanilla experience, my sense is that the majority of vanilla girls really aren't into it. They'll do it "for you" if you ask, with words or gestures, but they'd just as soon not. And any time a woman is doing something only "for me," that is worse than a cold shower. That's just the way I'm wired, to no one's surprise. But it's almost funny, the relief I've sensed from otherwise skilled and enthusiastic lovers, when I let them know that the 45-minute moustache ride they just enjoyed was offered with no strings and certainly no expectation of reciprocation. (It seems that most vanilla men pretty much only go south in order to lay an obligation on their lady-friend.)

On the very rare occasion that a blow-job has been really good for me, it's been because the fellatrix (what a great 50-cent word, eh?) in question was really, genuinely into it. On of the more memorable times was when a Domme with whom I was romantically involved "forced" me to "endure" it, making it clear that I was in no way to interfere or fight back. She was an artist, and plainly viewed what she was doing as a form of control, affection, and reward. When a Dominant does it in that context, it can be truly mind-blowing for a sub.

But if I were involved with a Domme who was not into fellatio, I'd be fine. In that case, Her doing something against her natural preference and inclination would be too great a buzz-kill to be overcome by even the most powerful physical pleasure.

 

[Honeysucklevine]

~~~I am in total control when giving a great B. J. , and I feel completely submissive if or when I allow it done to me.

It's all about trust, I guess. Why, oh why, is it so hard to let a man bring me to the edge and back?!!!!!!!!! Why!!!!!???????

~~~Sorry, guess I haven't found the right one yet.

WOMEN WANT TO HEAR, " OH BABY, LET ME TASTE YOU. I WANT SMELL YOU, BREATHE YOU. OH....... YOU ARE SO BEAUTIFUL. I LOVE TO TASTE YOUR NECTAR......" Well, you get the idea. If a man or woman says this, are they giving up their control? No! They are taking it. They are calling the shots, at least with me they are. Because, it is hearing these words and knowing he really feels it, that gets me to open up my sugar walls!

Just surprised at how many feel they are being passive when doing this. I would be putty in my guy's hands. I would capture the moon and stars for him and when I decide to give him his first, most awesome blow job, I will control him because he will feel the earth shake with every .......... Well, you get the idea.

GIVING GREAT ORAL IS POWER. TO ALLOW IT IS TO SUBMIT. ( but I'm just a Texas girl who thinks big! )

 

[catalina_francisco]

LOL, I have to earn my southern comfort these days and it ain't easy as the benchmark is set high for those very special efforts on my part, but though I may wait weeks it is all the more sweeter, treasured and pleasureable than ever before.

Catalina

 

[Ritza]

This all so fascinating to me. i would have never thought that going down on someone was either Dom-ing or sub-ing. As someone posted before, for me it's a neutral thing. What makes it a Dom/sub thing would be my intent or the intent by which givien.

When Master orders me to part my thighs and he has his fill of me, there is nothing subbish about this. HE is totally in control. And when i service Him, it's done with my desire to submit and serve.

As said before the act is neutral, the label by which the act is defined is based on its intent.