Using manners when giving commands

[Homburg]

I am usually polite. The "please" statements have no hint of request to them. I see it as the same way a police officer says "Please step away from the car." There is no request there, just command. And a "thank you" is just common courtesy. I don't get any sort of jollies off of being rude. I may be commanding at times, and eschew please, but that is done when it is appropriate. In general though, I express my thanks and couch my commands in polite terms.

 

[minx1]

I am usually polite. The "please" statements have no hint of request to them. I see it as the same way a police officer says "Please step away from the car." There is no request there, just command. And a "thank you" is just common courtesy. I don't get any sort of jollies off of being rude. I may be commanding at times, and eschew please, but that is done when it is appropriate. In general though, I express my thanks and couch my commands in polite terms.

I can see a time and place for both the approaches referred to in the op. Indeed I have experienced both with D, depending on the circumstances and they are both effective.

I would say in the main D uses the the polite yet stern approach and its extremely forceful. To me, it added to his air of authority and it commanded respect.

 

[the captians wench]

Jounar tends to be very polite the majority of the time.

"Turn please" I hear a lot. And lots of "thank you"s.

It felt odd at first, but I quickly grew to love this little quark. I don't think it detracts at all, we both know it's not a request, and he is by no means asking my permission. It's just...well sort of formal like. Which is one of the things that took me a while to get used to, but also one of the things I absolutely adore about him.

 

[VelvetDarkness]

L is very polite 90% of the time. He would never order me around in public for example, in anything but a courteous way that would not be construed as 'ordering' by other people.

He has his moments when he likes kicking my humiliation buttons and treating me like something contemptible but this is very much done in private and often as the preamble to sexual play.

I think that in the main, 'bow before me' HNGs are the culprits for thinking that rudeness = dominance and it stems from their own insecurities, which is bad for all involved. I will submit willingly to a dominant who is strong, capable and reasonably self assured. I will not be the whipping bitch for the inner demons of weak and insecure men.

 

[Homburg]

I will submit willingly to a dominant who is strong, capable and reasonably self assured. I will not be the whipping bitch for the inner demons of weak and insecure men.

Hear, hear! Well said.

 

[myinnerslut]

There is one time in particular that Master's manners stand out. inspection. during inspection he is cool, calculated, utterly in control, and always uses the signature "please". its not a please as in "please may i", or even "please pass the bacon".

its the please commonly used by police officers a la "please step out of the car" to somebody caught speeding. its slightly disinterested, with a hint of "im better then you". in no way is it a question, or even a suggestion. it is a command clear as day, and it sends shivers down my spine every time i hear it.

 

[serijules]

It's not what you say, it's how you say it.

Ma'am can say please and thank you until the cows come home, it's never any less of an order, nor does it have any impact on me other than being grateful she doesn't feel the need to "act" dominant to BE dominant. Her tone and look are more than enough to get the order of the statement across, as is the simple fact that "no" is not an allowed part of my vocabulary.

 

[VelvetDarkness]

Hear, hear! Well said.

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