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Wax Play...have you tried it?

SunshineSam218 said:
I have never tried it ever. Think I would only do it with someone I fully trusted and they knew what they were doing. I'm very new to BDSM, so I know trust is really important between both people. I'm looking forward to learning more about it though. I'm sure there's safe candles to use for Wax Play.
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Don't EVER trust the labels! Yes, there are candles that are labeled as low temp for wax play, but you never know what is really in them. There is a very simple way to make ANY candle safe -- distance. With enough height to go through any wax will cool before reaching the skin. I prefer the regular utility candles -- cheap, not scented, nothing is added to the mix so there is very low risk that different parts of a candle will have different melting points.
 
barefootgirl69 said:
I did a search for 'wax play' threads not posts! I will look again. I was hoping he'd stop by here.

You make some very good suggestions.
Any places I should avoid?
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I have done some wax play, but don't remember writing anything on it. There might be something in one of my stories, though. I'm not as young as I once was...but I've still got that um drive, if you know what I mean.

The basics to remember are...not all wax is created equal. Now days, you can find a wide variety of candles, some slow burning and some scented. But, not every candle is OK for wax play. Most of the candles for sale in a regular store are just for looks, or in the case of scented candles, just for smell. I think I heard somewhere that the scented candles can be extra hot, so don't use them unless you want to be burned.

And some candles have bits of metal in them, just because it makes the wax glitter. But, when the wax is melted, that metal is also there and hot. Another thing you need to stay away from.

Most was play candles are low temp. But, when you go shopping, they will have that sorted out for you. Soy candles are the best, as they tend to cool very quickly after initial contact. Like I said before scented candles burn hot, and beeswax candles, which are long lasting candle, burn hot. I think paraffin comes next, before soy. You can use any candle you want, as long as you know what you're up against, with the heat. Soy is less likely to irritate sensitive skin, though.

Some of the fun part of wax play is once you have selected a particular candle, you can still adjust the heat from it, by how far you hold it from the body. You can hold it high up, maybe 3 to 4 feet above, and the wax will tend to cool a little, as it travels through the air. But, up close, maybe a couple of inches, the full amount of heat from that particular candle will be felt.

Being a male dom, I prefer women to play with. Nipples are fun to aim for, from about 4 feet up, and sometimes, from that distance, the wax will splash a little, too. While that can be fun, watch that it doesn't splash onto her face or into her eyes. But, it's fun to be kind of a bomber pilot and drop my load of wax, to see how close I can get to her nipples. And, it's fun to watch her face, as the wax slowly drips down her tits, lightly burning all of the way.

That's the same as when you drip on any other part of her body, where the wax will drip further than the initial landing. Starting on the side of her body, as she's laying on her back, then letting the wax drip down the side of her body is fun. If she's bound, it's nice to watch her try to get away from the nice sting of the wax, by twisting her torso around. Of course, wax is very clingy, so it's not possible to get away from it. But, it's always nice to watch her try.

Then, there's the little concave area of her navel. That's always a nice spot to drip wax, and you can sometimes build a little pool of wax there. Or start up twards the chest and slowly walk the candle down to the navel, and after lingering there for a while, on down to the more sensitive areas near her clit. She'll have to be bound pretty tightly, so you can get proper aim down there, as squirming can be pretty lively. And because sensitive parts of the body can burn easily, don't assume her clit, her anus or even her nipples are the same as other parts of her body. Testing is always key and like any other kind of BDSM play, talking things over before hand and abiding by limits are always necessary.

I'm into electricity and I know that when I make a new toy or alter one, I need to test the "juice" out on myself, before it's used on someone else. Knowing how it's going to feel is key to know when and where to use it, and if it can be used in repeatedly in a short duration of time.

Wax is the same way. Testing it out on yourself is how you know how hot it's going to be. You don't tie your woman down, then drip some wax on her and ask her if it's too hot. That would be a big red flag. And the first time you do play with wax, test it on a part of her body that is less likely to be sensitive. I'd say an arm, leg or maybe her ass. If she's into spanking, her ass could be less sensitive, because it gets "used" more...so to speak.

And you have to watch areas with a lot of hair, because wax likes hair. It can be a chore to get out of, too. Sometimes, with the cooler temp waxes, you can use hot water to get it out, but that's not always possible. It's sometimes possible to put some oil or lotion on the area beforehand, so the wax isn't as likely to stick. Just stay away from her hair, unless you expect to spend some time later, getting it out.

Also, using lotion or oil when removing the wax sometimes works, too. Sometimes, that can be part of the scene. If the submissive is bound, it is sometimes fun to have her blindfolded, too. She can't anticipate when or where the wax is going to land. Then, when removing the wax, a nice sensual application of oil or lotion could be just the ticket to let your fingers to the walking, so to speak.

Keep in mind, a candle has fire burning. Don't play around any sheer curtains, or some flammable substance. It is possible to melt some wax onto something like aluminum foil before hand and then use something like a hair dryer to heat it back up again. That way, there is no flame. But, you'll have to decide how that will work for you. The aluminum foil can get just as hot as the wax. Maybe something like one of those metal measuring cups that come in sets would work. They have a handle that might not get as hot.
 
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DVS said:
I have done some wax play, but don't remember writing anything on it. There might be something in one of my stories, though. I'm not as young as I once was...but I've still got that um drive, if you know what I mean.
might not get as hot.
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I'm very glad you stopped in! I was hoping that you'd have some insight.

I didn't realize how sensual your post would turn put to be, though. ;) More than ever, I'm interested.
 
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DVS said:
Wax is the same way. Testing it out on yourself is how you know how hot it's going to be. You don't tie your woman down, then drip some wax on her and ask her if it's too hot. That would be a big red flag. .
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This is very, very good advice. I know, because on the one occasion I tried wax play with my partner, I didn't do this.

I bought wax that was supposed to melt at a low temperature and be used for play. I held the candle quite a distance above my partner, thinking it would cool enough as it fell that it wouldn't feel bad. But the moment it touched her skin, she said "Ow" and put a stop to it. No more wax play.

If I had it to do over I would carefully try it out on myself to see how it felt to me. And it's a good lesson for BDSM activity, generally: figure out what you're doing and understand the possible consequences before you try things out on a partner.
 
It can be wonderful but it requires some getting to know each other first as does everything worthwhile
 
Don't use Flying Tiger Copenhagen candles. I burned my arm moving one the other day, if pain junkie old me thought it was too painful it's too fucking painful. (I wasn't actually using the candle for more than mood lighting.)
 
One of the first women I ever played with told me that she loved to play with candle wax. I had never heard of it, but told her that I was game. I naively assumed that she knew what she was doing when she told me that the wax would cool before it hit her skin. She had me drip wax from birthday candles on her wrists, inner arms, and from there her breasts and nipples and finally her labia. I don't doubt that she loved it. She was extremely turned on. I thought she came at least twice from the wax alone, but in hindsight that might just have been the rush of pain.

What I didn't realize until I saw the wax flaking off was that it was leaving welts that became more obvious as time passed. It was obviously burning her skin, which freaked me out so I stopped. Being young and horny, I watched anyway as she masturbated until she came, after which we chatted while I put ointment on the worst of the welts. That's when she told me that birthday candles are the worst because they burn too hot, but she was happy anyway.

I saw her in passing a couple of days later, and the red welt burns on her wrists were obvious since I knew that I had put them there. They didn't seem to bother her, but they must have still hurt. I saw her a few times after that in passing, but after that experience I was kind of afraid of what else she might be into and kept my distance.

I like to think that I'd handle the whole thing differently now that I'm older. If someone else wanted to do it now, I think I could but would be much more cautious and insist on appropriate candles.
 
bitslinger said:
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I saw her in passing a couple of days later, and the red welt burns on her wrists were obvious since I knew that I had put them there. They didn't seem to bother her, but they must have still hurt. I saw her a few times after that in passing, but after that experience I was kind of afraid of what else she might be into and kept my distance.

I like to think that I'd handle the whole thing differently now that I'm older. If someone else wanted to do it now, I think I could but would be much more cautious and insist on appropriate candles.
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Please don't take this the wrong way, but I found this funny and laughed much more than I should have!! 😂

Whose idea was it to use birthday candles?
 
barefootgirl69 said:
I'm very glad you stopped in! I was hoping that you'd have some insight.

I didn't realize how sensual your post would turn put to be, though. ;) More than ever, I'm interested.
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Many things can be sensual, with the right amount of sensuality applied. :D
 
barefootgirl69 said:
Whose idea was it to use birthday candles?
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Looking back all these years later, it is funny. It's one of those moments I look back on and wonder what I was thinking. But, I was young, naïve, and felt like a deer in the headlights. I'd like to believe that I've learned to recognize a gift when I see it now ;-).

The candles were her idea, but as I recall it was also all that was on hand. She was very convincing :).
 
I’ve had success when my sub starts with edging herself( taking herself to the edge of orgasm) then using a lit white candle with hot wax ready apply a small splatter on your chest above your breasts.
Then edge again and do one breast. Then edge and do the other. Continue working your way down three more time then orgasm. Guys love it too!
 
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Is it her birthday? Nice heavier gauge piercings, beautiful.

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