Welcome to OA - Overthinkers Anonymous - What Are You Overthinking About Today?

[Booboobear84]

I would settle for thinking

 

[Chillygirl]

Insurance mess involving my daughter, her dad, blue cross and the doctor’s office. My daughter finally asked for my help cause her dad is just making a bigger mess. I called the ex yesterday and have taken over this mess. My coworker says I’m doing exactly what he wants and doing wifey things for him. Now I’m wondering if she’s right. I only got involved to help my daughter but did I just get manipulated by him?

 

[willlph]

Insurance mess involving my daughter, her dad, blue cross and the doctor’s office. My daughter finally asked for my help cause her dad is just making a bigger mess. I called the ex yesterday and have taken over this mess. My coworker says I’m doing exactly what he wants and doing wifey things for him. Now I’m wondering if she’s right. I only got involved to help my daughter but did I just get manipulated by him?

I seem to find my in similar situations trying to help others only to feel manipulated. Then analyze that emotion
And thought process only to tell
Myself you overreacted and now must
Do more to make up for your self centeredness for thinking someone who truly needed your help was manipulating you .

 

[Shymidwestgirl]

Will the weather affect my vacation which isn’t for 8 weeks? Should I have chosen a different month? A different place? But then will the weather affect my flight if I chose a different month? Why can’t I just enjoy the thought of traveling and not assume the outcome?

 

[FunLi]

The conversations, or lack thereof.

Reminiscing on how things used to be and spiral into realizing how much I really do miss the banter and flirting. Looking at things now, I can't figure out why he still keeps me around nor why I still get disappointed every night that the flirty conversation doesn't pick back up. I feel like I sometimes line things up perfectly for a flirty and witty response that instead gets the new normal platonic response. I shouldn't be disappointed, it's all me being selfish, I guess.

Is it my fault, though..would it be different today if I never mentioned feelings..why couldn't I have just kept things separate and kept my mouth shut..vulnerability isn't always cute. I think maybe that's the lesson.

I also wish I could take his lead and just as easily change and act like I forgot everything in the past as well. I'm jealous of that, admittedly.

 

[MidwestPrincess23]

The conversations, or lack thereof.

Reminiscing on how things used to be and spiral into realizing how much I really do miss the banter and flirting. Looking at things now, I can't figure out why he still keeps me around nor why I still get disappointed every night that the flirty conversation doesn't pick back up. I feel like I sometimes line things up perfectly for a flirty and witty response that instead gets the new normal platonic response. I shouldn't be disappointed, it's all me being selfish, I guess.

Is it my fault, though..would it be different today if I never mentioned feelings..why couldn't I have just kept things separate and kept my mouth shut..vulnerability isn't always cute. I think maybe that's the lesson.

I also wish I could take his lead and just as easily change and act like I forgot everything in the past as well. I'm jealous of that, admittedly.

Hi friend - I’m sorry you’re feeling this way. Don’t ever think you need to forget everything. Our pasts shape us, and they happened. Also don’t regret sharing your feelings, that’s important and usually shows the other person’s true colors.
I don’t know the details, but sending hugs your way!

 

[Chillygirl]

The conversations, or lack thereof.

Reminiscing on how things used to be and spiral into realizing how much I really do miss the banter and flirting. Looking at things now, I can't figure out why he still keeps me around nor why I still get disappointed every night that the flirty conversation doesn't pick back up. I feel like I sometimes line things up perfectly for a flirty and witty response that instead gets the new normal platonic response. I shouldn't be disappointed, it's all me being selfish, I guess.

Is it my fault, though..would it be different today if I never mentioned feelings..why couldn't I have just kept things separate and kept my mouth shut..vulnerability isn't always cute. I think maybe that's the lesson.

I also wish I could take his lead and just as easily change and act like I forgot everything in the past as well. I'm jealous of that, admittedly.

I don’t understand men who can make that shift so easily. Maybe just because I never could. And it’s hard to not look back and wonder what if or to try to pinpoint the exact moment it all changed…

But something I read that maybe will help you…you can say how you feel and take the chance that it will mess everything up OR you can keep your mouth shut and mess yourself up.

 

[FunLi]

you can say how you feel and take the chance that it will mess everything up OR you can keep your mouth shut and mess yourself up.

This is so, so true.

 

[WizzyWig00]

Finishing up a proposal for additional funding. Got the whole damn thing ready with solid data points to back it up, but I am overthinking the closing lines.

 

[Chillygirl]

This is so, so true.

I hate how true it is.

 

[Chillygirl]

Finishing up a proposal for additional funding. Got the whole damn thing ready with solid data points to back it up, but I am overthinking the closing lines.

Keep in simple and succinct. Just send it!

(And then agonize over it for hours while you’re trying to sleep lol)

 

[MidwestPrincess23]

Family drama bullshit. Head is fucking spinning

 

[Lonestar79]

Did I say the wrong in a PM and lose a friend here.

 

[Cyber_Bella]

I think I may have shared too much. Now he'll never want to ravish my cyber body again. *sighs*

 

[MidwestPrincess23]

I think I may have shared too much. Now he'll never want to ravish my cyber body again. *sighs*

I’m betting you’re wrong

 

[Cwtchseeker]

The feeling that things will just not fall into place. That nagging feeling in my brain that something feels off too isn’t helping.

 

[Shady_nz]

The conversations, or lack thereof.

Reminiscing on how things used to be and spiral into realizing how much I really do miss the banter and flirting. Looking at things now, I can't figure out why he still keeps me around nor why I still get disappointed every night that the flirty conversation doesn't pick back up. I feel like I sometimes line things up perfectly for a flirty and witty response that instead gets the new normal platonic response. I shouldn't be disappointed, it's all me being selfish, I guess.

Is it my fault, though..would it be different today if I never mentioned feelings..why couldn't I have just kept things separate and kept my mouth shut..vulnerability isn't always cute. I think maybe that's the lesson.

I also wish I could take his lead and just as easily change and act like I forgot everything in the past as well. I'm jealous of that, admittedly.

I'm sorry you feel this.. its NOT your fault!

 

[Sconnie69]

Family drama bullshit. Head is fucking spinning

Same here. I’m sure we could share war stories and coping mechanisms! DM me if you want to commiserate and pull each other out of the dungeon of doom.

 

[Sconnie69]

I think I may have shared too much. Now he'll never want to ravish my cyber body again. *sighs*

I know how you can find out.

 

[positiveflirt]

Shout out to my gorgeous overthinking crew today. I kinda missed posting in this thread.

Anyway, you're enough. The conversation-practicers, mental gymnasts, and those of us that prep for worst case scenarios because it's safer than hoping for the best case ones.

Enough, I say

 

[Lonestar79]

Did I say the wrong in a PM and lose a friend here.

Not an overthink but what was once thought lost has been found again.

 

[Pad_Foot]

Maybe I can live with chatting with AI characters vs bothering real people
Oddly real people are far better

 

[RosewoodTulip]

Overthinking the apparent loss of what I thought was a solid friendship.

I could reach out and try to build a bridge again I know but I'm too hurt right now to try.
Did I say the wrong thing? I don't think I did. Maybe I shouldn't have said anything at all but I believe in holding people accountable just as I hope to be too.
Maybe it'll fix itself or maybe it's better broken. I wish I knew why. Even an angry message telling me to fuck off would have been better than silence.

 

[Cyber_Bella]

Now I'm over thinking who did aural sex better... me or her? Think it's bedtime. *sighs*

 

[Desiree_Radcliffe]

• The Neil Gaiman allegations.
• How to keep a pleasant distance from coworkers.
• How many books I'd like to read, but I am browsing here.
• Have I become my mother?!