What do you consider extreme BDSM?

[chriskchambers]

Look like all the points are covered here, but for my own two penies

I think extreme BDSM would include anything that leaves permanent scarring or disfigurement, or where you have drawen blood.

 

[Quint]

i Quint

You're so good for the ego. (Not to mention the eyes.) But where, pray tell, is your list of extremes, missy? Sordid minds wish to know...so they have other not-so-near-future options to add to their lists!

 

[Kajira Callista]

You're so good for the ego. (Not to mention the eyes.) But where, pray tell, is your list of extremes, missy? Sordid minds wish to know...so they have other not-so-near-future options to add to their lists!

lol i need to find a way to word it properly as to not scare the chit outta everyone

I dont think much is extreme when a person is involved in an ongoing trust based D/s relationship. When people ask me what my limits are i tell them my limits would be what my Master says they are.
Casual BDSM play isnt really for me....just too much to worry about, but when i am involved for real with a person i dont find things extreme.
I have had a few very extreme experiences and some brought me close to a very bad place and i actually liked that... wanted to go further, just to see what would happen.
SSC has a very different meaning for me also. Basically to me it means make sure im still breathing when you are done beating me even if im knocked out lol.
Scary and dangerous situations are a 10 plus on my hot meter also... not just a little scary but the kind of scary that would make you piss yourself.
Anyway thats as much as i am willing to reveal at this moment, if the thread stays on track without bashing then maybe i will tell more

 

[navarre]

lol i need to find a way to word it properly as to not scare the chit outta everyone

I dont think much is extreme when a person is involved in an ongoing trust based D/s relationship. When people ask me what my limits are i tell them my limits would be what my Master says they are.
Casual BDSM play isnt really for me....just too much to worry about, but when i am involved for real with a person i dont find things extreme.
I have had a few very extreme experiences and some brought me close to a very bad place and i actually liked that... wanted to go further, just to see what would happen.
SSC has a very different meaning for me also. Basically to me it means make sure im still breathing when you are done beating me even if im knocked out lol.
Scary and dangerous situations are a 10 plus on my hot meter also... not just a little scary but the kind of scary that would make you piss yourself.
Anyway thats as much as i am willing to reveal at this moment, if the thread stays on track without bashing then maybe i will tell more

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[Kajira Callista]

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[catalina_francisco]

lol i need to find a way to word it properly as to not scare the chit outta everyone

I dont think much is extreme when a person is involved in an ongoing trust based D/s relationship. When people ask me what my limits are i tell them my limits would be what my Master says they are.
Casual BDSM play isnt really for me....just too much to worry about, but when i am involved for real with a person i dont find things extreme.
I have had a few very extreme experiences and some brought me close to a very bad place and i actually liked that... wanted to go further, just to see what would happen.
SSC has a very different meaning for me also. Basically to me it means make sure im still breathing when you are done beating me even if im knocked out lol.
Scary and dangerous situations are a 10 plus on my hot meter also... not just a little scary but the kind of scary that would make you piss yourself.
Anyway thats as much as i am willing to reveal at this moment, if the thread stays on track without bashing then maybe i will tell more

LOL, don't think you need to explain much to moi as it seems in this especially we think a lot alike which is probably why I always do a second take when someone refersto our activities as extreme.

Catalina

 

[Quint]

LOL, don't think you need to explain much to moi as it seems in this especially we think a lot alike which is probably why I always do a second take when someone refersto our activities as extreme.

Catalina

Honestly, I think we're getting hung up on semantics. To some people, "extreme" is a limit, hard or soft. To some, it's a place they haven't dared to go yet. It's like "spicy" food...even to people who devour habaneros in daily cuisine and think little of it, they can still concede the term "spicy" applies. It's just a term of measurement. I'll go as far as T wants to take me, but I'm gonna have to do some soul-searching and deep-breathing to get to some of those places. That's what "extreme" means to me.

 

[Kajira Callista]

Honestly, I think we're getting hung up on semantics. To some people, "extreme" is a limit, hard or soft. To some, it's a place they haven't dared to go yet. It's like "spicy" food...even to people who devour habaneros in daily cuisine and think little of it, they can still concede the term "spicy" applies. It's just a term of measurement. I'll go as far as T wants to take me, but I'm gonna have to do some soul-searching and deep-breathing to get to some of those places. That's what "extreme" means to me.

serious question....once you get there and past, do you consider it extreme anymore?

 

[Quint]

serious question....once you get there and past, do you consider it extreme anymore?

In a theoretical way, yeah. I mean, I know that breath play is risky and requires more preparation and precautions. I still feel the full brunt of shame when he's pissing on me. Face-slapping is always an instant attention-getter. I guess in this sense, I'm talking more about "effective" than "extreme," which isn't exactly correct, but I do acknowledge that these actions are considered extreme by many as well as why, and that the "why" still applies to me. Like I said, I think it's all semantics.

Oooh, massage my brain some more, sexy red-haired lady!

 

[Bandit58]

<snip>
I have had a few very extreme experiences and some brought me close to a very bad place and i actually liked that... wanted to go further, just to see what would happen. <snip>

Just wanted to ask the question KC, why would you want to go to bad places?? I tend to want to avoid my own bad places. Don't want to go back there ever. I want to concentrate on the good stuff, like what I have now.

for you

 

[Kajira Callista]

In a theoretical way, yeah. I mean, I know that breath play is risky and requires more preparation and precautions. I still feel the full brunt of shame when he's pissing on me. Face-slapping is always an instant attention-getter. I guess in this sense, I'm talking more about "effective" than "extreme," which isn't exactly correct, but I do acknowledge that these actions are considered extreme by many as well as why, and that the "why" still applies to me. Like I said, I think it's all semantics.

Oooh, massage my brain some more, sexy red-haired lady!

Makes a lot of sense. Being pushed to get past somthing is fun though...dontcha think?
And i will massage you anywhere you would like anytime you would like

 

[catalina_francisco]

Honestly, I think we're getting hung up on semantics. To some people, "extreme" is a limit, hard or soft. To some, it's a place they haven't dared to go yet. It's like "spicy" food...even to people who devour habaneros in daily cuisine and think little of it, they can still concede the term "spicy" applies. It's just a term of measurement. I'll go as far as T wants to take me, but I'm gonna have to do some soul-searching and deep-breathing to get to some of those places. That's what "extreme" means to me.

That is pretty much the same for us. LOL, I never try to give the appearance it comes easy and often mention it takes a lot of time workingtoward, and some things we are still working toward, but then I never think of those things as extreme either and have a hard job finding anything I can say I think of as extreme as I knowingly agreed long ago to whatever he wanted. That alone does not make it magically possible though..and nights like last night can see me in a sweat (lol, he told me I didn't need to sweat so much about what was coming..yeah right.) and begging him to stop or postpone things I wasn't feeling up for...but he got me through what he had planned and I woke up this morning.

Catalina

 

[Kajira Callista]

Just wanted to ask the question KC, why would you want to go to bad places?? I tend to want to avoid my own bad places. Don't want to go back there ever. I want to concentrate on the good stuff, like what I have now.

for you

I call it the bad place, even if i dont really think it is. Everyone has a breaking point be it physical or emotional. I guess that is what i mean by the bad place.

 

[jetdriver68]

Anything that leaves permanent mark, drawing blood, loss of consciousness, bestiality...

and of course anything that requires a trip to the ER! LOL

 

[Mr Wolf]

Scat and vomit would be a no for me, as for most other things...well I am a Sadist so if it hurts you I have probably tried it out or at the very least thought about it. There is just something about the look in a sub's eyes when you start to run the tip of the knife across the skin....

 

[Kajira Callista]

bump.

 

[Evil_Geoff]

What do I consider "extreme" BDSM?

Not a whole lot. Gun play perhaps.

Drawing blood? I do that.

Scat? Not on _my_ menu but it ain't "extreme".

Watersports? That's negotiable. Combining watersports and electrical play.. that might be extreme... *LOL*

Branding? Nope, I've already temporarily branded myself and my girl... permanent for her is on the agenda.

Tattoos? ? ? ? I've got an $800 tattoo in my AV fer pete's sake. Tattooing ain't extreme (the price might be but that's another story).

Children and critters ain't kink, that's criminal.

Removal of body parts... *nods* Yeah that's prolly extreme.

"Anything that involves a trip to the ER"... Nope. If that were the case my kids playground antics would be "extreme" bdsm. Accidents can happen even in mild BDSM scenes.

Death, guns, dismemberment... That's extreme for me. Anything else is pretty much on the table for negotiation.

 

[Kajira Callista]

Watersports? That's negotiable. Combining watersports and electrical play.. that might be extreme... *LOL*

This made me giggle

 

[O'Mac]

I'm going to agree with what has already been said by some.

Anything that leaves an easily visible permanent mark or injury would be labeled extreme in my books. Drawing blood is borderline extreme, though not if it is entirely intentional.

I would also consider Scat, vomit, and bloodletting extreme. For the first too, it has to do with the fact that it's really not healthy to ingest (with bacterial infections and toxic reactions a-plenty).

 

[AngelicAssassin]

Anything else is pretty much on the table for negotiation.

Forced consumption of macaroni and cheese substituting Velveeta?

 

[Xelebes]

Dear god, I ate macaroni and cheeze whiz today. Well took a little bite.... holy shit is that puke worthy. My sister has the absolute worst taste when it comes to cooking.

 

[serijules]

I don't really know what I consider extreme. To be honest, it kind of annoys me to think about it. I don't consider 90% of the things mentioned as extreme here to even be "BDSM", I consider them to be entirely separate fetishes with very limited interest levels, compared to the rather large following that BDSM has and since my interest largely in BDSM, I don't have much interest in even talking about those other fetishes, much less claiming them to be limits or extremes.

I guess you can sum up what I consider to be extreme BDSM and/or fetishes by saying anything that harms another person emotionally or physically.

Note I did not say hurt. I said harm.

I don't consider beastality and phedophila to be fetishes, I consider them to be crimes. Crime has no place in the vanilla world, and it has no place in the fetish/BDSM community either.

Beyound that, my so called limits and opinions on what level any one activity falls under are constantly shifting and changing along with my experience level. I don't expect that will ever change, so I really cannot define what I consider extreme any more clearly than that. There are too many "what if's" in the process for me.

 

[Quint]

...critters ain't kink, that's criminal.

Not in all 50 states and certainly not worldwide. Or are we talking about our own laws based on personal morality?

 

[catalina_francisco]

Not in all 50 states and certainly not worldwide. Or are we talking about our own laws based on personal morality?

LOL, you beat me to it!!

Catalina

 

[WyoD_S]

Overall, I agree with Geoff.

Death and dismemberment - definitely extreme, besides, why would I want to cause the death of or take apart my favorite playtoy?

I suppose, that would be the *ultimate* scene, but after that, what's next?