Women who crave/want to be called slut, whore...humiliating names????

[nusubgurl]

I don't quite no why it is a turn on either. In fact, the dirtier, the better for me Who knows, maybe it does have something to do with how someone was raised or their enviroment growing up. I sure would be interested in knowing the reason why though.

i used to get really angry at being called those names by my former SO and still despise those names in my RL work world...

but a curious change has come over me as i explore my submissiveness...i like those words in a sexual setting, becasue i have come to accept they really mean something...and i am a slut...and a whore...for the right Man.

i wonder if some women don't like them because they are afraid that the words are accurate?? those women think it is bad or depreciating to be a slut...

i've happily discovered that, in the right setting, with the safety of the right Man watching over me, being a slut is what i want to do....totally uninhibited, shameless, would do ANYTHING....no holds barred....animal sexuality.

<shrug>

 

[Private_Label]

I guess for me it depends on a lot of differnt things - if the words are spoken in anger - I don't like them. I don't know how much I would like them if they were said around a bunch of people. But in private and whipsered in my ear... turns me into a a needy greedy slut.

 

[Bandit58]

i am one of those women who finds being called humiliating names repulsive. i am also one of those women who want/crave to be called humiliating names, TOO (all forms of 'dirty talk' to be included here, such as being told to, "get down on my knees and use my mouth for what it is best for", and, "i know you feel those hot welts on your ass, just as much as i know that even while you pray i'll stop, your pussy is so dripping wet that it always gives you away ... you're a pain slut and we both know it")!

When called any one of the many humiliating names imaginable, my reactions will vary between very aroused & dripping wet, to very angered and suddenly capable of delivering serious levels of bodily harm. Which reaction i may arrive at depends upon WHO is doing the name calling, and more importantly, it is dependent upon that person's intent.

i've been called slut, whore, and bitch (don't know any woman who hasn't been), by those who have meant to cause me emotional harm for whatever their reasons may be. i can't speak for anyone else, and when i've been called those names and others, by anyone intending to hurt me, they have always failed in obtaining that goal. i know who i am, and for anyone else to suggest otherwise will only provoke anger from me, but not due to any insecurities on my part ... it's the understanding that they WISH to cause harm, which will piss me off. It's never even been about any arguement or defense as to whether i am or am not a slut, whore or a bitch. It's all about the intentions behind the name calling, in my case.

i DO love when my Master has called me any of those names, as well as others. i CAN answer why i enjoy it coming from Him .... For once in my life, i am free to trust & free to act out, and live my wildest dreams and fantasies. i can be HIS slut and feel no shame. He uses the words with pride. He never calls me any names with harmful or mean intent. He uses them as terms of endearment, and hearing these words coming from Him gives me good reason to be proud. Am i a slut? For HIM i am.

Thank you sinnocent - that last paragraph is IT for me I'm living my dreams and fantasies now too and I find it so liberating I'm a slut for Him and no one else, only He has the right to call me that.

I have a problem with the word "cunt" though - I hate saying it. I struggle to let it past my lips. Master takes great delight in "forcing" me to say it
"Good girls don't use words like that"
"Like what"
"UMMMM....."
"SAY IT!!!" *swish* *crack* as the crop comes down on my ass*

 

[Totally_Unsure]

Thanks for all the replys guys and gals.

I noticed that some women replied that they like these names, but only by one they trust, or comfortable with, or by their Master. What about the women who enjoys being called those names by anyone, noone in particular??

Totally

 

[Joe Schmoe]

When a man talks dirty to a woman, it's sexual harassment. When a woman talks dirty to a man, it's $4.95 a minute.

......

Men have sex. Women are sex; sluts, whores, harlots, tarts, trollops, floozies, nymphos, strumpets, tramps, bitches, slaves, etc. All are sexual labels to/that break her down to her rawest state, sex.....if used properly.

This is just my theory.

 

[h_i_s]

I have a problem with the word "cunt" though - I hate saying it. I struggle to let it past my lips. Master takes great delight in "forcing" me to say it
"Good girls don't use words like that"
"Like what"
"UMMMM....."
"SAY IT!!!" *swish* *crack* as the crop comes down on my ass*

Me too. i never cared for the word 'cunt'. Funny thing though, is that at one time, i disliked the word 'pussy' as much as the word 'cunt'. Now, for some reason ... i actually LIKE the word 'pussy' .. and 'cunt' is still not my favorite, but i'm more likely indifferent to that one now, if anything at all. my Master rarely, if ever uses the word 'cunt'. He mostly uses the word 'pussy' .... could be why i love the word 'pussy' now. i think i've learned to assosicate pleaure and nothing else when i hear the word 'pussy'.

 

[graceanne]

Me too. i never cared for the word 'cunt'. Funny thing though, is that at one time, i disliked the word 'pussy' as much as the word 'cunt'. Now, for some reason ... i actually LIKE the word 'pussy' .. and 'cunt' is still not my favorite, but i'm more likely indifferent to that one now, if anything at all. my Master rarely, if ever uses the word 'cunt'. He mostly uses the word 'pussy' .... could be why i love the word 'pussy' now. i think i've learned to assosicate pleaure and nothing else when i hear the word 'pussy'.

K and I have never used words like that. I put them in my stories cause other people like them when reading erotica. The only time I hear K use 'cunt' is when a chick cuts him off. He's got a small road rage problem. :rollseyes:

 

[marieR19]

This is a very interesting thread. I love everyone's responses, and I agree with a lot of them. In my mind, a lot of women don't like being called those kinds of names because of.... ack. I don't know how to say it. What they "are"... Outside of sexual play and bdsm-related stuff, words like cunt and bitch are usually used as a put-down. The person using the word means it in a bad way, they are trying to demoralize the woman. Those words have taken on that sort of mean, they are "bad words", and so many women probably could never see them in a good way.
Myself, I love being called those names. It's all about the humiliation.... I love feeling humiliated and put-down and lower then the person doing the name-calling. It probably has something to do with low self-esteem, but hey, it makes me happy and turns me on. And it's with anyone, not just my gf.


Heather

 

[CorsetLvr]

Me too. i never cared for the word 'cunt'. Funny thing though, is that at one time, i disliked the word 'pussy' as much as the word 'cunt'. Now, for some reason ... i actually LIKE the word 'pussy' .. and 'cunt' is still not my favorite, but i'm more likely indifferent to that one now, if anything at all. my Master rarely, if ever uses the word 'cunt'. He mostly uses the word 'pussy' .... could be why i love the word 'pussy' now. i think i've learned to assosicate pleaure and nothing else when i hear the word 'pussy'.

I rarely is ever use the word cunt in my stories. Its a word that so many women have such a negative reaction to. I suppose its my sole concession on being PC in my writing.

Outside of sexual play and bdsm-related stuff, words like cunt and bitch are usually used as a put-down. The person using the word means it in a bad way, they are trying to demoralize the woman. Those words have taken on that sort of mean, they are "bad words", and so many women probably could never see them in a good way.

I have been active in swinging for many years. One of the things that many women new to that lifestyle find somewhat shocking is the way that the word slut is commonly used. IN swinging it can actually be a compliment. Sort of the way that "stud" is complementary to men. In a lifestyle that is based on women having control of their own sexuality and the freedom to explore it, it has a connotation implying a sexy, open spirit. What exactly is the female equivalent term for "stud?" I suppose my message here is that often words have no meaning outside of the context that they are used in. Are the words used in a hurtful context or one that is fun and playful?

 

[OceanGoddess]

I try to never say "never" about things, but I doubt I would find that arousing. However, it hasn't happened so I can't really know for certain.

I love to hear words like this during sex, and to say the same or similar words to my partner:

"you're beautiful"
"you feel so good"
"I love the way you taste"
"I want you so much"
"mmmMMMmmmmmmmmmmmmMMMmmmMMmMMMMMMMMM!!!!!!!!"
"Oh _______________(my name)! yes, yes, oh yes, oh__________(my name)!"
or when I get so worked up I can't seem to let go, what can send me over the edge is to hear this whispered softly in my ear:
"relax baby, relax and come for me" *sigh* Hearing those words from my lover seems to melt all the hard edges and stress away.


But being called a cunt or whore or slut? Nah.

 

[easyman67]

Caveman

It's a major turn on for me. I love being taken control of (sexually) by a man. So the more control the better. So call me ever name in the book....I'll just get wetter.

I think it has something to do with the fact that the man is supposed to make the decisions and provide security. Probably goes back to the cave man/cave woman mentality. The decision during sex is taking what he wants no matter what. MMMMMMMMMMMM.

Hey Deb. That pic of you in those white jeans bring out the caveman in me. Love the hott cameltoe and would love to run my tongue through it for a couple of days. Are you busy this weekend??

 

[Rrrosyn]

I love the variety of replies here. Not sure why the topic is limited to women who enjoy this type of language.

j likes mild verbal humiliation during a teasing session. He is my "little touch slut" which is to say he is very much like a feline and will do anything for a good stroking, be it his cock, behind his ears or his belly. He adores being groped like meat.

Me? I practically have to force the words out. I don't even cuss when I stub my toe. I never had my mouth washed out with soap as a child. LOL I never needed it. I use cock, cunt and other words in my writing and have no problems saying them when they refer to body parts, but to refer to a person as a cunt seems wrong to me.

I still am not sure how I can comfortably call him a cunt, slut or whore. He has no cunt. He is faithful to me, so he isn't sleeping around. I just don't get it. I heard the word "skanky" on a Disney cartoon last week and shivered. Thought skanky was that post-sex whore smell.

 

[debbiev]

Hey Deb. That pic of you in those white jeans bring out the caveman in me. Love the hott cameltoe and would love to run my tongue through it for a couple of days. Are you busy this weekend??

oh my.....why thank you for saying that. you sound like a bad boy....kinda made me tingle just imagining you naughty tongue. for a couple of days...OMG....you want to drive me insane don't you?

 

[h_i_s]

........ I love to hear words like this during sex, and to say the same or similar words to my partner:

"you're beautiful"
"you feel so good"
"I love the way you taste"
"I want you so much"
"mmmMMMmmmmmmmmmmmmMMMmmmMMmMMMMMMMMM!!!!!!!!"
"Oh _______________(my name)! yes, yes, oh yes, oh__________(my name)!"
or when I get so worked up I can't seem to let go, what can send me over the edge is to hear this whispered softly in my ear:
"relax baby, relax and come for me" *sigh* Hearing those words from my lover seems to melt all the hard edges and stress away.


But being called a cunt or whore or slut? Nah.

Yes, i understand. i've heard those words many times, as well. And now when i hear my Master direct phrases toward me, such as ..........

"My slutty little girl"
"you're pussy is dripping wet and gives you away every time"
"taste your cum slut, lick it from My fingers like you can't get enough"
"suck my cock until i feel you gagging hard slut"
"No, do not cum until I say you can, I'm going to make that pussy squirt over and over again."

......... His words have taken on the same meaning for me. Hearing Him speak like that to me makes me feel very desirable, beautiful, cherished and loved.

 

[catalina_francisco]

Thanks for all the replys guys and gals.

I noticed that some women replied that they like these names, but only by one they trust, or comfortable with, or by their Master. What about the women who enjoys being called those names by anyone, noone in particular??

Totally

I actually think if you have arrived at a place in your life where you can honestly own and embrace your sexuality, celebrate the freedom, the names will rarely bother you no matter who they come from. I have no problem with them on that level from someone else (though I don't hang in circles where that is likely to occur anyway), but I do have a problem as in protecting his property and his honour so if it happened in a way where I thought the person using them assumed some sense of power or superiority over him and his choices, felt they had a right to damage what was his without his permission, I would tend to become protective and outraged that they thought they had that right.

I think part of my thinking comes down to the fact too that it is not a matter of someone calling me a name with no basis, but meant only to hurt. I do exist primarily for his pleasure, but part of that pleasure relies on knowing he can, has, and will at any time he chooses require me to give pleasure to others for his amusement/entertainment....and I like it....so why get all uptight and try to backpeddle into wanting respect and nice talk like a 'good girl' could expect. I get loving words from him often and always, but I also get harsh and dirty ones (in and out of the bedroom) which demonstrate just as much love.

LOL, guess it is who I am because even as a young woman (hmmm, almost 30 years ago), I could never tolerate the flowery romances where ladies were treated and acted like ladies and gentlemen played that they liked it that way....too unrealistic and soft. I always went for the ones where the woman was anything but a lady and the man could recognise and love that about them, and the chapter never ended on the outside of the bedroom (or where ever) door but went into graphic descriptions of the sex involved, oral, anal and your more traditional. I also always took issue with why men could have an adventurous sexual history, while a woman was expected to be chaste....who the hell were the racy men having sex with then?!! They are like most words, similar to the history of gay culture, you can either let the word be used as a derogatory weapon against you, or you can take back your power by owning it and turning it into something to be proud of.

Catalina

 

[Iron Bear]

I can't say I understand it any more than anyone, I know nothing about psychology. However, I do call the wife these things "in the moment", if you will, and it only makes things hotter for both of us. I agree with a couple of you on the word "cunt" though. I don't like it. I don't use it, ever. Even in the middle of things. "Whore", "Slut", "Bitch", almost anything. Just not "cunt".

 

[rosco rathbone]

I wish I could still get a kick out of this kind of thing. Unfortunately, it just doesn't seem very edgy to me at all anymore. Being jaded sucks.

 

[AngelicAssassin]

Being jaded sucks.

Word order is important.

Try "Being sucked by Jade," and add in your repertoire of favorite epithets.

When you've taken her breath away (literally and figuratively) go downtown for the sweet spot of your choice.

 

[fieryjen]

Thanks for all the replys guys and gals.

I noticed that some women replied that they like these names, but only by one they trust, or comfortable with, or by their Master. What about the women who enjoys being called those names by anyone, noone in particular??

Totally

I noticed quite a while ago that being called a slut by anyone, in pretty much any situation is a turnon for me. Not that I let people know that "Bitch" not so much, since it doesn't have the dirty connotation for me but rather is just something to call an unpleasant girl or woman.

I also agree with what has been said beforeon this thread. I think generally, it depends on a person's history and in what kinds of situations they have heard those words before.

 

[CherryPop22]

I love being called thoes names in the bedroom. I cannot cum enless i am being called them which means i have to call myself thoes names in my head. Someone once told me i like this because i was raped as a child and i need to relive that but in a controled environment where i could stop it at any time. I think i just like to be a dirty little girl

 

[just a thing]

Being called degrading, humiliating names not in an angry way, but with affection and approval is a massive turn-on.

 

[BedtimeStories77]

Re: Women that want/crave to be called humiliating names during sexual play, or not??

My question is, what makes some women want/crave this and others to find it repulsive??

Frankly, I don't even know how to answer this question. Yes, it turns me on to be called "dirty names". Especially during sex. Why? I don't know.

Sorry I couldn't offer better insight into my psyche.

 

[the captians wench]

Hello All,

I have been wondering about this for quite some time and thought I would post it here at Lit. to see what other's opinions are on the subject.

I know that there are a lot of women who are repulsed and even feel it is
vulgar to be called certain names when they are sexually turned on; slut, whore, bitch etc. etc. Yes, I know there are more 'creative' names I could jot down. But I think you understand what I am getting at. On the other side, there are women that actually want to be called these names. In fact, having these names, among others, said to them during sexual play, only heightens their sexual fever.

My question is, what makes some women want/crave this and others to find it repulsive??

Thanks,
Totally

I never got into being called names until reciently, and even now I'm kinda selective in the matter. I wouldn't like just anyone calling me slut, but when I hear it from one certain pair of lips *purr* I get so excited I feel like I'm going to explode.
On the other side of that, there is one name that I don't like being called, and that's "whore". The reason behind that is my ex used to call me that all the time, and not in play. He wanted me to "be his little whore" and I was not open to that at all at the time. So he tried to forse it on me. When I hear that word, I sort of revert back to that injered wife state.
I've always had a bit of a "good girl" complex I think. Growing up I was the one every parent compaird their child too. "why can't you be more like her" and such non since. My mother has even told me that I was "the perfect teen" in that I was never in trouble, never missbehaved. So I think being thought of as something a little more, daring maybe, might have something to do with why it turns me on so much.

 

[Hil_the_thrill]

I find the more derrogotory the names a guy, or girl calls me, the more I feel that they are truly in charge of me.

I find the timid guys who are afraid of offending me when they are using me arent really much fun to be dominated by. If I'm not being called a slut, whore, cunt, useless fucktoy etc I dont feel like I am truly being "used" as much.

 

[AZNiteRoamer]

Its a huge turn on for me to use those name....The more the merrier and the dirtier the better! I try to use them in a way that claims possioon, such as.....now give me your cunt as a whore would her man......well along those lines any way....not sure if its a power trip or the taboo of it all......

Dan