madetotakeit
WARNING: I Bite Back
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Count me out. That dynamic has never appealed to me.
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unfoundiamond
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D/g.... (and M/lb?)
I do like the dynamics of D/g, and would settle down with a Daddy Dom, as long as He shares my ideals of the D/g dynamics, morals, and ethics, especially reguarding innocents.
I have to say, I had a standoffish attitude about the whole D/lg or g idea when I first heard about it...
I thought it was about her actually pretending to be His child... which is where I think the so called "squick" reaction comes from, but with my expirience, this is a misconception that people have when they associate actual children and parents with D/g domination.
I didn't understand it. I have a Dad (and a couple including stepdads), and they never done anything wrong by me...
My biological father is self centered and more like an aquaintence when I was little, maybe a friend now.
My stepfather was more like a father than my own, teaching me, protecting me, and helping mold my young mind...
**maybe for me having a man who wasn't my father, do so much for me, and calling him Daddy made it easyer for me to call a man Daddy, and look up to him.
Him being my" Daddy James'", and Me being his, "Betty", (his prissy primadonna stepdaughter), gave me insight as to how fulfilling it can be to have a man take you everywhere, treat you like a princess and an equal all at the same time can be.
His cherishing me for who I am to my core, helped me accept myself so much more than my father actually did**
The things my fathers have done are teach me, love me, and lead me... (sounds like any good dominant to me)
I researched more about D/lg, and had the pleasure of having it explained to me by several people actually involved, as opposed to speculating. I learned that to a lot of "Daddy" type Doms, its about nurturing and "mentoring" her to her "true potential" (and The Daddy I spoke with was sure to mention that of course some Daddys do like ageplay)
I could also see myself playing the other side of the coin, I am in a vanilla relationship, BUT, if I had to put a label on he and I's dynamics, its totally M/lb.
I have done behavior modification with him from day one.
I have set standards and made him improve the areas of his life that where unmanageable. he is a stubborn mule at times, but lives by rules on a daily basis.
Down to calling him by his First Second&Third names when he misbehaves. And reminding him when he speaks and his worlds are innapropriate. I of course also praise him, and care for him... but in public even, will not hesitiate to repremand him, as if he was my child.
he works but does not drive, never has. he has just recently earned his privileges back. (Which include being allowed a key, and a cellular phone) as he had them in the past. he had to have them taken away, untill he could show he deserved them.
He has even called me "Mommy" when he was extremely vulnerable, or turned on. (And I was shocked, scared and totally freaked btw, but that's what clued me off, I believe he seeked out a woman who is very maternal and dominant in nature)
Helping him become a better man, get a legit job, picking a career (and currently deciding) Go to school, and make something of his life will be extremely gratifying. What I have done for him allready has made me proud, and he is doing better since he met me, than he EVER did. His mother is around, but is off in her own world. He wanted her, she was gone...
This turned into a book... sorry...
I just read the whole thread and noticed these reoccuring falacies reguarding D/lg. I feel my post helps to illistrate why its not always about ageplay, or roleplaying about childhood... its for someone who want s the dynamics, its not a sign of weakness, or cover for abuse... IMO
I do like the dynamics of D/g, and would settle down with a Daddy Dom, as long as He shares my ideals of the D/g dynamics, morals, and ethics, especially reguarding innocents.
I have to say, I had a standoffish attitude about the whole D/lg or g idea when I first heard about it...
I thought it was about her actually pretending to be His child... which is where I think the so called "squick" reaction comes from, but with my expirience, this is a misconception that people have when they associate actual children and parents with D/g domination.
I didn't understand it. I have a Dad (and a couple including stepdads), and they never done anything wrong by me...
My biological father is self centered and more like an aquaintence when I was little, maybe a friend now.
My stepfather was more like a father than my own, teaching me, protecting me, and helping mold my young mind...
**maybe for me having a man who wasn't my father, do so much for me, and calling him Daddy made it easyer for me to call a man Daddy, and look up to him.
Him being my" Daddy James'", and Me being his, "Betty", (his prissy primadonna stepdaughter), gave me insight as to how fulfilling it can be to have a man take you everywhere, treat you like a princess and an equal all at the same time can be.
His cherishing me for who I am to my core, helped me accept myself so much more than my father actually did**
The things my fathers have done are teach me, love me, and lead me... (sounds like any good dominant to me)
I researched more about D/lg, and had the pleasure of having it explained to me by several people actually involved, as opposed to speculating. I learned that to a lot of "Daddy" type Doms, its about nurturing and "mentoring" her to her "true potential" (and The Daddy I spoke with was sure to mention that of course some Daddys do like ageplay)
I could also see myself playing the other side of the coin, I am in a vanilla relationship, BUT, if I had to put a label on he and I's dynamics, its totally M/lb.
I have done behavior modification with him from day one.
I have set standards and made him improve the areas of his life that where unmanageable. he is a stubborn mule at times, but lives by rules on a daily basis.
Down to calling him by his First Second&Third names when he misbehaves. And reminding him when he speaks and his worlds are innapropriate. I of course also praise him, and care for him... but in public even, will not hesitiate to repremand him, as if he was my child.
he works but does not drive, never has. he has just recently earned his privileges back. (Which include being allowed a key, and a cellular phone) as he had them in the past. he had to have them taken away, untill he could show he deserved them.
He has even called me "Mommy" when he was extremely vulnerable, or turned on. (And I was shocked, scared and totally freaked btw, but that's what clued me off, I believe he seeked out a woman who is very maternal and dominant in nature)
Helping him become a better man, get a legit job, picking a career (and currently deciding) Go to school, and make something of his life will be extremely gratifying. What I have done for him allready has made me proud, and he is doing better since he met me, than he EVER did. His mother is around, but is off in her own world. He wanted her, she was gone...
This turned into a book... sorry...
I just read the whole thread and noticed these reoccuring falacies reguarding D/lg. I feel my post helps to illistrate why its not always about ageplay, or roleplaying about childhood... its for someone who want s the dynamics, its not a sign of weakness, or cover for abuse... IMO
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ammre
ani and griselda's child
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I can't use the word daddy. Which is strange becasue i never really used the word daddy for mine. I always called him father, sir, or dad. I think my aversion is to the word, becasue it doesn't represent my father, it represents someone who coddles or who has one of those painful Hillary duff movie relationships with their daughter. I just imagine some sweet 16 blond getting the brand new porsche "aw thanks daddyyyy"
I also have a friend who uses Daddy for her Dom, but he always needs to take care of her. So the D/g relationships I've seen almost always have an element of the girl being a little home maker with no personal income. Personally that's terrifying to me. I know that's not necessarily how it works, but hat's what i've personally seen the most of, so it's turned me off to it.
As for what daddy could represent... i totally have a thing for older/smarter/wiser/more powerful kind of guys. The downside is I want to learn from them. The mentor thing is hot, but if you're mentoring someone you're teaching them, and how long until the student catches up with the master? I've definatelly been interested in someone before because they had more power and that was hot to me and we got it on, then i managed to get the same power too becasue i applied what I learned from him and then he was no longer as hot.
I don't really like using master either... I prefer Sir, which is funny becasue yes that's what i've refreerd to my dad as, even to his face. maybe Sir is my version of daddy without the sickly make-your-teeth-hurt sweetness?
I also have a friend who uses Daddy for her Dom, but he always needs to take care of her. So the D/g relationships I've seen almost always have an element of the girl being a little home maker with no personal income. Personally that's terrifying to me. I know that's not necessarily how it works, but hat's what i've personally seen the most of, so it's turned me off to it.
As for what daddy could represent... i totally have a thing for older/smarter/wiser/more powerful kind of guys. The downside is I want to learn from them. The mentor thing is hot, but if you're mentoring someone you're teaching them, and how long until the student catches up with the master? I've definatelly been interested in someone before because they had more power and that was hot to me and we got it on, then i managed to get the same power too becasue i applied what I learned from him and then he was no longer as hot.
I don't really like using master either... I prefer Sir, which is funny becasue yes that's what i've refreerd to my dad as, even to his face. maybe Sir is my version of daddy without the sickly make-your-teeth-hurt sweetness?
