❓ PLP Inquires II ❓

[Lmizzler]

03.27.25

Jealousy. We all feel it sometimes -
Do you get jealous easily? What type of things are you more likely to feel jealousy about? Have you ever been surprised over feeling jealousy about something? How do you handle that feeling? Have you ever had someone feel jealous of you for some reason? How did you handle that?

Not especially. I'm pretty laid back and roll with issues easily. I do get jealous of attention at times. Jealousy is a creepy little bug that approaches when your back is turned and then you are startled when you turn around and there it is. So I generally try and just stomp on it and squish it immediately. Lately I have noticed some jealousy with some specifics at my job and I'm trying to figure out how to handle that one. I'm unsure if it will be me calling an exterminator or if I act on this jealousy and pickup the bug and chuck it at someone else to see how they like it.

Bonus Question for the men of Lit -
Do you ever feel jealous of the ease of attention the women of Lit receive? I don't mean any ill will but does it ever feel like you have to try twice as hard for half as much - whether it's a picture you post, flirting, or a thoughtful reply to a comment? (I'm asking this with sincerity and with the full knowledge that men are existing in a system they created so answer this question honestly but mindfully.)

Hmmm, this is a tough one PLP. As a whole, I am not bothered by it. But there are definitely moments when the balance does not seem tipped in the males favor. Clearly we have created this mess so no we deal with it.
So it makes the moments that I am acknowledged or appreciated that much sweeter. It's like if I didn't have to work at getting good at playing the guitar, then I played and it just flowed naturally but I don't know that I'd appreciate it as much. But if I have worked at, then get good and others notice....I relish that praise so much more because of the effort put in.

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

Not especially. I'm pretty laid back and roll with issues easily. I do get jealous of attention at times. Jealousy is a creepy little bug that approaches when your back is turned and then you are startled when you turn around and there it is. So I generally try and just stomp on it and squish it immediately. Lately I have noticed some jealousy with some specifics at my job and I'm trying to figure out how to handle that one. I'm unsure if it will be me calling an exterminator or if I act on this jealousy and pickup the bug and chuck it at someone else to see how they like it.

Hmmm, this is a tough one PLP. As a whole, I am not bothered by it. But there are definitely moments when the balance does not seem tipped in the males favor. Clearly we have created this mess so no we deal with it.
So it makes the moments that I am acknowledged or appreciated that much sweeter. It's like if I didn't have to work at getting good at playing the guitar, then I played and it just flowed naturally but I don't know that I'd appreciate it as much. But if I have worked at, then get good and others notice....I relish that praise so much more because of the effort put in.

Thank you for that answer it got exactly to the heart of my intention when I asked it.

 

[Lmizzler]

Thank you for that answer it got exactly to the heart of my intention when I asked it.

I fully expected questions from you actually. So either I explained it sufficiently or I made a train wreck of it.

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

I fully expected questions from you actually. So either I explained it sufficiently or I made a train wreck of it.

Well I do have questions about your coworker and I may follow up with my own thoughts soon.

 

[MindYaBitness]

Well I do have questions about your coworker and I may follow up with my own thoughts soon.

His coworker keeps demanding he work shirtless. It's a toxic work environment.

 

[UsuallyPresent]

What, @Lmizzler is Nessus, the centaur who made the poison shirt that killed Hercules?

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

03.27.25

Jealousy. We all feel it sometimes -
Do you get jealous easily? What type of things are you more likely to feel jealousy about? Have you ever been surprised over feeling jealousy about something? How do you handle that feeling? Have you ever had someone feel jealous of you for some reason? How did you handle that?

I don't get jealous easily and I think there was a world in which I enjoyed that feeling at one time. It's a very specific and interesting way to feel and peeling apart all the layers of it tells you quite a lot about yourself. I don't feel jealous of people - at all. Like I wouldn't want to snap my fingers and become anyone else (I'm not the best, brightest, prettiest anything but I really like who I am currently, flaws and all). I do think I get jealous of circumstances. If Traci had a million dollars. I wouldn't want to be Traci and I wouldn't want her money, but I would want a million dollars too!

The jealousy that always surprises me is the kind that pops up when I feel less unique. If I'm the girl in the friend group who is an expert on horror movies (totally random example) and we get a new friend and he's also really knowledgeable on horror movies then I feel a little like "well what's the point of me?" Even though my love of horror movies isn't a defining characteristic of mine or something I love just to fill a certain niche in a group. I don't know how to explain it better and my therapist says this is objectively silly - I'm working on it, Doc!. I always just want to feel special in some small way and if I don't, I kind of feel lost. (#workinprogress)

Having someone else say they are jealous of me is maybe one of the worst feelings ever. Cannot compute. Do not like. Stop it. I handle both my own jealousy and others by grounding myself in true things and being very logical and realistic (and boring).

Bonus Question for the men of Lit -
Do you ever feel jealous of the ease of attention the women of Lit receive? I don't mean any ill will but does it ever feel like you have to try twice as hard for half as much - whether it's a picture you post, flirting, or a thoughtful reply to a comment? (I'm asking this with sincerity and with the full knowledge that men are existing in a system they created so answer this question honestly but mindfully.)

I'm not a man (despite this BDE ) but I'm going to say a little more about this and my reason for asking, and maybe as a women I can say somethings men can't. I'd also like to preface this by saying this isn't coming from a "pick me" place as most men work my ever-last nerve and I do feel like "MEN" created the system we are all operating under now. That said -

I've been on Lit a long time and, in general, I do see broadly two categories of men. Mediocre men who think their dicks should be enough to garner shock and awe and pretty decent men who have to work twice as hard to get half the attention - be it on their pictures or their posts. The lack of attention comes from two places - 1) Most of Lit are interested in women - be it the larger population of men or the lgbtq population of other women and 2) Women get (rightfully) worried that a compliment will imply more than just a compliment. I don't know how to or if it can be fixed - other than on an individual by individual basis. But I do see that happen and I do appreciate the grace that some men exhibit when the double standard is clear. (A double standard men create and perpetuate - just to be clear.)

I think @Lmizzler has a really smart and nuanced approach which is being grateful for the attention he gets and knowing it's genuine. I will say that last part is something a lot of women on Lit can't always say.

 

[LadyLascivious1]

Most of Lit are interested in women - be it the larger population of men or the lgbtq population of other women

Reading this I recognize I contribute to this dynamic in some ways. I think once I get to know people, I treat them similarly regardless of gender but not when I only casually know them. I feel much more comfortable reacting to women’s photos or flirting with women that I don’t know than I do with men I don’t know. I can be sexually attracted to both, so it’s not that or that I prefer women. I think it’s more that I don’t have any concerns about women assuming it means more than it does or reading into my intentions unless I’ve given them plenty of personal reasons to feel that way.

I’m not sure that’s an entirely fair bias so I’m thinking about it quite a bit.

On the flip side, I’ve never gotten a creepy response to a picture I posted, reacted to, or shared via PM from a woman.

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

On the flip side, I’ve never gotten a creepy response to a picture I posted, reacted to, or shared via PM from a woman.

 

[EvaLane]

Bonus Question for the men of Lit -
Do you ever feel jealous of the ease of attention the women of Lit receive?

This has lingered in my head for days now and I just can’t get the words right. I saw this today and it resonated as a response of sorts





If and when I feel jealousy here, it’s never about looks or words, it’s about the ease. The ease with which some of you seem to be yourselves, unapologetically. That kind of freedom grates against me like nails on a chalkboard. It’s dreadful.

I’m not jealous of you, or of them. I’m jealous of the air you breathe - because surely, when you exhale, it leaves your lungs sweeter than it entered.

My air? It’s stale. Heavy. Suffocating.

I don’t want your lungs.
I want your air.

Is it jealousy or something else? I’m not sureeee

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

Just an FYI to lurkers and frequenters alike -

I often have people who want to answer these questions but not publicly or don't want to answer a particular question publicly. I completely understand. However if you still want to answer them - I am genuinely interested in your answers!! Feel free to PM me. I get these often (2 yesterday alone) and I didn't know if people knew it was an option. It can just be an answer and not a conversation if you prefer amd obviously anything you say stays with me. I love the public answers and discourse best but - I know some people and topics are more private than others.

xx plp

 

[Whiskeyjack]

03.27.25

Jealousy. We all feel it sometimes -
Do you get jealous easily? What type of things are you more likely to feel jealousy about? Have you ever been surprised over feeling jealousy about something? How do you handle that feeling? Have you ever had someone feel jealous of you for some reason? How did you handle that?

Jealousy? Not so much. Envy I get a lot. To me, jealousy means that I don't want you to have what you have. I rarely feel that. But I absolutely feel that if you have something good, I want it too. In my actual life, I have a fantastic wife who loves me and whom I love in return and there's very little for me to be jealous of. On Lit, I have some fantastic friends who are having wonderful orgasms with each other and I applaud that. But then there are times when I know I'm playing second fiddle and would like to be first fiddle. Second fiddle isn't bad, though. At least I'm in the band.

Bonus Question for the men of Lit -
Do you ever feel jealous of the ease of attention the women of Lit receive? I don't mean any ill will but does it ever feel like you have to try twice as hard for half as much - whether it's a picture you post, flirting, or a thoughtful reply to a comment? (I'm asking this with sincerity and with the full knowledge that men are existing in a system they created so answer this question honestly but mindfully.)

At first, yes.
But then I quickly learned there's a downside to the attention.
The first time I was sent a random dick pic, it was like, "Yay! I've made it! I'm finally in the club!"
By the second dick pic it was more like, "Oh, this is going to get tedious real fast. None for me, thanks."
And those two pics were MANY months apart. I imagine the ladies here tend to get them far more frequently. So no, I'm not terribly jealous of the attention you all get. You all can have your fun dodging those janky cocks!

 

[Whiskeyjack]

Jealousy? Not so much. Envy I get a lot. To me, jealousy means that I don't want you to have what you have. I rarely feel that. But I absolutely feel that if you have something good, I want it too. In my actual life, I have a fantastic wife who loves me and whom I love in return and there's very little for me to be jealous of. On Lit, I have some fantastic friends who are having wonderful orgasms with each other and I applaud that. But then there are times when I know I'm playing second fiddle and would like to be first fiddle. Second fiddle isn't bad, though. At least I'm in the band.


At first, yes.
But then I quickly learned there's a downside to the attention.
The first time I was sent a random dick pic, it was like, "Yay! I've made it! I'm finally in the club!"
By the second dick pic it was more like, "Oh, this is going to get tedious real fast. None for me, thanks."
And those two pics were MANY months apart. I imagine the ladies here tend to get them far more frequently. So no, I'm not terribly jealous of the attention you all get. You all can have your fun dodging those janky cocks!

Also, maybe not a good band name, but "Dodging Janky Cocks" would definitely be a good album name.

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

03.31.25

Perceptions of Attraction

How do you perceive your attraction to someone else? Is it purely the external - physical? Or do you put more importance on the internal - personality? Does one affect the other for you?
Do you have a type - physically or personality?
Do you feel like people are more likely to be attracted to your external or your internal? Do you ever wish it was the opposite?
Has Lit changed that way you think about your attraction to others or other’s attraction to you?

(Let's keep that virtue signaling to a minimum. Honesty is the most interesting response.)

 

[MrMakersMark]

03.31.25

Perceptions of Attraction

How do you perceive your attraction to someone else? Is it purely the external - physical? Or do you put more importance on the internal - personality? Does one affect the other for you?

I don't think there is a rule or method that solves this.
It's always variable.
Irl, out in the world, we most likely use visual cues first because we see who we are interacting with long before we learn who they are as a person. So we've already created and catalogued a degree of physical attraction straight away.

Here, its not altogether uncommon for that to work in the opposite way. You're apt to learn more intimate things before ever seeing a pic.

Both ways work. One isn't better than the other to stimulate attraction. But one form of attraction without (physical w/o intellectual or cerebral) the other will eventually leave a void. Something will feel like its missing.

Do you have a type - physically or personality?

I am sure I do.
Physical appearance is important. It'd be dishonest to say it doesn't matter at all. But in reality, especially here, it's far less crucial than confidence, independence, sense of humor and intelligence.
You have to click upstairs or physical attraction will stop mattering much pretty quickly.

Do you feel like people are more likely to be attracted to your external or your internal?

I have no idea.

Do you ever wish it was the opposite?

Never thought about it much.

Has Lit changed that way you think about your attraction to others or other’s attraction to you?

I don't think so.
Lit's just a vehicle. It's an outlet I use to interact, connect, and share.
There are number of very amazing, attractive, and special people here.

But no, Lit hasn't changed me as much as just being a more mature human has.

 

[AlpineFresco]

03.31.25

Perceptions of Attraction

How do you perceive your attraction to someone else? Is it purely the external - physical? Or do you put more importance on the internal - personality? Does one affect the other for you?
Do you have a type - physically or personality?
Do you feel like people are more likely to be attracted to your external or your internal? Do you ever wish it was the opposite?
Has Lit changed that way you think about your attraction to others or other’s attraction to you?

(Let's keep that virtue signaling to a minimum. Honesty is the most interesting response.)

So, physical attraction is important to me but it has to be more than that. I've never wanted to get together with anyone purely on the basis of how they look, but I can absolutely appreciate that a woman can be highly attractive without more than looks. It's just not enough on its own.
Do I have a type? Physically no. Personality wise, I have always been with strong women, people who had something to bring, something to say, and an interest a wide range of subjects. Within that, though, they've been (limited pool that there's been) wildly different people, both physically and personality-wise.

I am a very specific taste. I am extremely average in looks. I'm truly just a guy to look at, one in a crowd of millions, but I can talk. I have a personality, I'm good off the cuff, I can do small talk, I'm interested in a lot of subjects, and I'm a good listener, and that is what has been important to the people I've got together with. I've never, and likely will never, catch anyone's interest just on looks, but I think I've done okay once I get talking. Do I wish it were the opposite? Not the opposite, but I absolutely would love to know how it feels to be immediately desired, although I recognise this will never happen.
Has Lit changed things for my perceptions on this topic? I don't believe it has.

Good questions, Pulpy.

 

[MindYaBitness]

03.31.25

Perceptions of Attraction

How do you perceive your attraction to someone else? Is it purely the external - physical? Or do you put more importance on the internal - personality? Does one affect the other for you?

I wish I could chart it, or graph it, somehow. Attraction is so complex. There needs to be an alchemy of personality, looks, and that indefinable je ne sais quoi. Internal & external are inextricably intertwined. I've seen very attractive 10's who became 2's once they opened their mouth, and solid 6's who became the hottest mother effers on the planet when their intellect & humor came to the fore.

Do you have a type - physically or personality?

Outside of Lit, I definitely have a physical type that draws my eye first. That's not to say that I can't appreciate handsome men, but one type will get my attention first. However, no matter how physically appealing, if they're idiots or jerks, they get thrown in the bin with the rest of the trash.

Do you feel like people are more likely to be attracted to your external or your internal? Do you ever wish it was the opposite?

I don't really think much on it. Either you like me, or you don't. Whether by God or nature, this is the body I was dealt, this is the personality I have, take it or leave it. Other than wishing I could be viewed as asexual while at work, I don't spend much time pondering why, or why not, others are drawn to me.

Has Lit changed that way you think about your attraction to others or other’s attraction to you?

(Let's keep that virtue signaling to a minimum. Honesty is the most interesting response.)

Yes, somewhat. I'm very visual. So, I thought my "type" would translate to the virtual world. It does not, not at all.

 

[cheekygirl75]

03.31.25

Perceptions of Attraction

How do you perceive your attraction to someone else? Is it purely the external - physical? Or do you put more importance on the internal - personality? Does one affect the other for you?
Do you have a type - physically or personality?
Do you feel like people are more likely to be attracted to your external or your internal? Do you ever wish it was the opposite?
Has Lit changed that way you think about your attraction to others or other’s attraction to you?

(Let's keep that virtue signaling to a minimum. Honesty is the most interesting response.)

It's hard not to judge someone's attractiveness on the external if meeting them in person for the first time. But the internal can quickly increase or decrease that initial attraction for me. And yes, the internal attractiveness absolutely affects the external attractiveness. I absolutely can't be attracted to someone whose personality I don't like. That doesn't necessarily mean they have a *good* personality - I've been attracted to my share of toxic people, for sure!

I think I do have a type, but I can't really describe it. It's more a know it when I see/experience it, for both external and internal.

I have no idea what people are attracted to about me at first - it's probably partly dependent on if they meet/see me in person when I've done myself up or when I'm wearing no makeup and in sweats. It would be nice to think someone is attracted purely to the internal, but doubt that happens.

I think Lit has changed it since you're learning so much very personal stuff about a person without knowing anything about what they look like most of the time. Sometimes not even knowing their gender. Do I think it's better this way? I don't know.... if you could guarantee people are being honest about their thoughts and feelings, maybe, but anyone can say anything here so who knows?

 

[morelikeasong]

03.31.25

Perceptions of Attraction

How do you perceive your attraction to someone else? Is it purely the external - physical? Or do you put more importance on the internal - personality? Does one affect the other for you?

There has to be a balance.
I mean, sure, I can be surface level attracted to someone physically. But if we’re talking about the type of attraction that would lead me to crush on someone, I need both. And a great personality can make someone more physically attractive to me but it doesn’t work the other way—a strong physical attraction cannot make up for lack of personality meshing.

Do you have a type - physically or personality?

Personality wise… Humor is huge for me. For all genders. And a little braininess. There’s also a kind of interpersonal dynamic that I’m generally attracted to. Specific ways I like to feel, and when a person triggers those, it’s quite attractive.

Physically, I don’t really have a type for men. I have lots of specific elements I find attractive, but there’s no one combination that rules the roost.

I’ve never actually been with a woman but I do have a physical type (really 2 or 3 of them) as far as my crushes from afar have been.

Do you feel like people are more likely to be attracted to your external or your internal? Do you ever wish it was the opposite?

On a good day I think they’re attracted to both because how could they possibly not be?
But on a bad day I can’t fathom how they could be attracted to either.
Soooo…

Specifically on lit, I have quite an exhibitionist streak and I post a lot of photos, so I think most have their interest in me piqued that way, first. I love sharing photos but I do kind of envy the physical ambiguity of those who don’t share themselves on here (at least not publicly).

Has Lit changed that way you think about your attraction to others or other’s attraction to you?

Lit hasn’t changed my relationship with my heterosexual attraction, but I’ve definitely opened more with my attraction to women. Being in a place where I can openly flirt has let me explore that attraction more and let it grow far more 3 dimensional.

 

[EvaLane]

03.31.25

Perceptions of Attraction

How do you perceive your attraction to someone else? Is it purely the external - physical? Or do you put more importance on the internal - personality? Does one affect the other for you?
Do you have a type - physically or personality?
Do you feel like people are more likely to be attracted to your external or your internal? Do you ever wish it was the opposite?
Has Lit changed that way you think about your attraction to others or other’s attraction to you?

(Let's keep that virtue signaling to a minimum. Honesty is the most interesting response.)

My attraction tends to unfold over time. I need space to experiment, to play, to see how deep someone’s really willing to go. What pulls me in is the tension of discovery, how much I can reveal, how much he’ll push, and whether he’ll make me want to push back.

I don’t really go for “handsome” in the traditional sense, unless we’re talking about women. There, I could go on and on. Confident brunettes, artists, performers, the ones who carry themselves with ease and a spark. I love soft women, feminine women.

Men? They have to be hard. Not muscles hard, but presence hard. Like, anchored. Steady.

I know my body draws people in. That part’s never been difficult. But when it comes to who I am… well, we’re being honest, right?

More often it feels like they’re projecting. If someone wants me to be their sweet little Daddy’s girl? I can do that, easy peasy. If they want the wife who strays? Fine. A casual fling, a secret indulgence? Sure. It’s like they just plug in the fantasy they’re looking for and hit play.

They’re not choosing me, they’re choosing what I let them see of themselves.

So yeah, Lit has shifted things. Not in a jaded way exactly, but it’s made me more aware of how attraction works, what people really want when they say they “want” you. It’s complicated. Not necessarily bad, just… clearer now.

And I’m not trying to bash men. I think we all do this to some extent. Project, perform, idealize. But once you start noticing it, it’s hard not to see it.

When everyone wants everyone, no one really wants anyone.

 

[MrMakersMark]

When everyone wants everyone, no one really wants anyone.

 

[Neanderthal247]

03.31.25

Perceptions of Attraction

How do you perceive your attraction to someone else?

Some physical, but the subtle internal drives me crazy. I can find a lady very attractive,but be turned off by their personality. Internal and authentic is key.

Is it purely the external - physical ?

It could be purely physical, but she has to be bearable to be around, only exception is if I want to hate fuck her.

Or do you put more importance on the internal - personality?

I put more importance on internal and values, but there has to be some attraction. I rather be with a physically average girl, that I truly enjoy her company, as opposed to a beautiful woman I don't get along with.

Does one affect the other for you?

The internal and values affects the physical both in negative and positive ways.

Do you have a type - physically or personality?

Physically no, personality yes

Do you feel like people are more likely to be attracted to your external or your internal?

I have no idea, I'd have to ask the ladies

Do you ever wish it was the opposite?

I am not even sure why they want me.

Has Lit changed that way you think about your attraction to others or other’s attraction to you?

I absolutely crave a natural submissive, because of lit. I don't know why women like me, just glad that they do.

(Let's keep that virtue signaling to a minimum. Honesty is the most interesting response.)

 

[SalaciousMonkey22]

03.31.25

Perceptions of Attraction

How do you perceive your attraction to someone else? Is it purely the external - physical? Or do you put more importance on the internal - personality? Does one affect the other for you?

This is a super convoluted question involving a lot of brain systems working not always consciously.

I’ve said before and stand by it that I’ve never in my life looked at someone and thought “boy I’d sure like to have sex with that person”. Nor have I thought any permutation of “I want to get to know someone better with the hopes of fucking them”.

But that doesn’t mean that physical attraction doesn’t influence me or my desire to know them. Or even how I perceive them. Lots of personality can and does get filtered through a lense of beauty. Similar behaviors can be interpreted very differently and being aware of that possibility doesn’t mean you can always see it or change it.

I don’t know. I’ve also said recently that my longest online relationship was with a women whom I’d only seen a picture of in her obituary. What she looked like was absolutely irrelevant to the relationship we had online. But if I’d seen her picture before I got to know what a funny and charming human she was would I have put in the effort in to get past the hard moments in the first couple years? I honestly don’t know. Counterfactuals are not easy to predict. But I do know by the end it did not matter at all.

I also know that attractive people grow more attractive regardless of their physical state. I find my wife more beautiful today than I ever have. At the risk of sounding maudlin, where she see age I see a life together.

Do you have a type - physically or personality?

I don’t. I’ve only been in a couple serious relationships and every one of those woman was radically different. I like strength of self. And I guess I’d argue that every woman I’ve loved had that. But it looked very different in each of them.

Do you feel like people are more likely to be attracted to your external or your internal? Do you ever wish it was the opposite?

I think I’m all right physically. Less so in my 50’s than my 40’s but oh baby, was I a DILF.

That being said I definitely know I’m selling who I am not what I am.

NGL, it nice to be objectified in the right way by the right people. And I like those moments. But as a default setting? I’m good with what I got.

Has Lit changed that way you think about your attraction to others or other’s attraction to you?

I don’t think so. I think online stuff is different than offline…but not as radically so as I think others might.

 

[Jordan90]

03.31.25

Perceptions of Attraction

How do you perceive your attraction to someone else? Is it purely the external - physical? Or do you put more importance on the internal - personality? Does one affect the other for you?

I feel like my attraction develops in response to a "hook." Something has to make them stand out from the crowd. Something has to be slightly extraordinary.

That could be a beautiful face and body. It could be an hilarious personality. It could be an insanely fast wit. Or a fascinating personal interest, like a deep knowledge of black-and-white art nouveau films.

Then the rest of them sort of, hmmm, blossoms in my mind as I get to know them. Their deep interest and passion sparks me to view them as attractive physically etc.

Do you have a type - physically or personality?

If I have a type, the pattern has so far gone unnoticed by myself. Unless you count them all being female as a type.

Interesting people, almost by definition, are wonderfully different from each other.

Do you feel like people are more likely to be attracted to your external or your internal? Do you ever wish it was the opposite?

This is a fascinating question, which I've never asked myself.

I would guess people are more attracted to my internal, but that is literally a wild guess. I'll have to ask somebody, and pay more attention going forward.

Has Lit changed that way you think about your attraction to others or other’s attraction to you?

(Let's keep that virtue signaling to a minimum. Honesty is the most interesting response.)

People are people. The Internet just seems to amplify who they actually are on the inside. So it's interesting to watch attraction here, as it's like watching irl, just on steroids.

 

[AngelicaS1780]

03.31.25
Perceptions of Attraction
How do you perceive your attraction to someone else? Is it purely the external - physical? Or do you put more importance on the internal - personality? Does one affect the other for you?

Physical appearance definitely plays a role in whether or not I am attracted to someone. However, I'm not going to continue to be attracted to them if they are lacking in the things I find to be attractive about who a person is. I find that people who can make me smile, make me laugh, make me think, make me want to share my own thoughts, always have an attractiveness to them. And that can influence how I see them in terms of physical attractiveness.

Do you have a type - physically or personality?

The people I am physically attracted to run the gamut in terms of appearance or type. As for personality, I tend to be attracted to people who are curious about the world, love learning new things, have a quirky sense of humor, like to cook, and are a bit geeky about sci-fi/fantasy and/or history.

Do you feel like people are more likely to be attracted to your external or your internal?

In the "real" world, I think that people are more likely to be attracted to my internal, as they don't get to see me in pretty lingerie right off the bat like they do on Lit. While here, they initially know more about my body than my personality. But I think that, overall, people on Lit are also more likely to be attracted to my internal aspects.

Do you ever wish it was the opposite?

While it would be nice to turn heads from time to time, I'd rather have people be more attracted to my personality.

Has Lit changed that way you think about your attraction to others or other’s attraction to you?

Lit has dramatically changed the way I see other people's physical attraction to me. When I joined Lit, I hadn't seen myself as being a physically attractive person in a long time. If someone had told me that within six months I would be buying lingerie and taking pics of myself in it, I would have laughed. If they then said that I'd be posting those pics on Lit, I would told them they were crazy. But seeing the variety of Litster bodies and the overwhelmingly positive feedback they received, helped me to see myself in a positive light again. And when I was brave/crazy enough to share pics, it was great to receive a similar degree of appreciation for my pics.