❓ PLP Inquires II ❓

[OrdinaryPerson]

Perceptions of Attraction

How do you perceive your attraction to someone else? Is it purely the external - physical? Or do you put more importance on the internal - personality? Does one affect the other for you?
Do you have a type - physically or personality?
Do you feel like people are more likely to be attracted to your external or your internal? Do you ever wish it was the opposite?
Has Lit changed that way you think about your attraction to others or other’s attraction to you?

(Let's keep that virtue signaling to a minimum. Honesty is the most interesting response.)

In the physical world... It's hard for me to tell how much of my attraction to someone is based off of the internal and how much is based off how much I like their looks. It's certainly a mix of both.

I think what is also important is the feeling like someone is my match. I don't think I've never been really attracted to the hottest guy because I don't think I'm the hottest girl. Being attainable for me, and being someone who would find me attractive, is also a big part of attraction for me. This goes the same for internal things, I don't find someone who is extremely smarter than me attractive - the sweet spot is slight smarter but doesn't make me feel dumb.

Online, it's been easier for me to understand how much physical attraction matters.

In a way, it does not matter at all because I certainly have been attracted to people without knowing what they looked like.

But I know appearances do actually matter for me because when I have seen what people looked like... Either that attraction has waned or grown, depending on if I liked how they looked.

On the flip side of all this... Once I get to know someone deeply enough and care about them enough, the physical doesn't really matter as much, or maybe not at all. I think my attraction to everyone I have ever loved would stay the same regardless of how their physical appearance changed.

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

03.31.25

Perceptions of Attraction

How do you perceive your attraction to someone else? Is it purely the external - physical? Or do you put more importance on the internal - personality? Does one affect the other for you?

I lean heavily on the internal. I like a pretty package but if you aren't funny, thoughtful, smart, and kind. I really couldn't care less what you look like. I already have an aversion to overly conventionally attractive people and that's a bias I work on. But I like a face with character and smile lines, nice fingers, grabbable thighs - I simple couldn't be fucked over muscles, especially if they define you. If you happen to have them, good for you but I don't generally gel with people who's personality it forged around their looks.

Do you have a type - physically or personality?

Physically no. Especially for men. For girls, I am partial to pretty eyes, dark hair and softness.

Personality wise I'm attracted to people who are passionate about what interests them, open minded, curious, funny (and think I'm funny), intelligent, someone who treats their friends well, emotionally intelligent, hard workers who share values with me. I know no one wants to talk politics but these days, I can't let you on the diamond, much less round the bases if you're remotely right. Sorry, I'm saving both of us. I'm unattracted to pride and pretention and arrogance.

Do you feel like people are more likely to be attracted to your external or your internal? Do you ever wish it was the opposite?

People are wholly attracted to my personality and then when I turn out not to be a bridge troll, they aren't too mad. Do I wish I turned heads? Absolutely but I'm kind of happy to be the funny girl with great tits (amongst her other less glamorous bits).

Has Lit changed that way you think about your attraction to others or other’s attraction to you?

It's clarified my attractions. I do think Lit has been a bit of a mind fuck when it comes to people being attracted to me when they wouldn't notice me at all IRL but I think that's a lot of us here.

(Let's keep that virtue signaling to a minimum. Honesty is the most interesting response.

God you're so bossy.

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

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Physical Dimensions

How do you think your personal "dimensions" are perceived on the attraction-o-meter? Speaking broadly but I'd like to discuss height specifically - though feel free to insert anything in that slot )
Do you wish you were taller? Smaller? Does someone's height affect your immediate attraction? What about their ability to fit into your idea of a kink?
(i.e. Can a woman who's 6'2 be a subby pet? Can a Dom hold dominion over you if he's shorter? What about much thinner?)

 

[SalaciousMonkey22]

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Physical Dimensions

How do you think your personal "dimensions" are perceived on the attraction-o-meter? Speaking broadly but I'd like to discuss height specifically - though feel free to insert anything in that slot )
Do you wish you were taller? Smaller? Does someone's height affect your immediate attraction? What about their ability to fit into your idea of a kink?
(i.e. Can a woman who's 6'2 be a subby pet? Can a Dom hold dominion over you if he's shorter? What about much thinner?)

I think I’m the size that the modern western world was largely built around. And I’ve never really worried about my height. But, a couple years back I was getting a physical and the nurse said I was an inch shorter than I’ve always believed I was and I blurted out angrily “you’re a goddamn liar!” So maybe I care more than I realize.

I have only ever been intimate with woman who were relatively tall 5’6” or greater. But that sample size is too small to call a preference. I think girls who can curl up in my lap are cute as hell and woman who tower over me (and consequently whose bosoms are easily accessible) are hot as hell too. I’m adaptable.

I’m not terribly kinky. I don’t think a woman of any size could dom or sub me without a little bit of a self conscious giggle from me. That’s a me thing not a them thing.

 

[UsuallyPresent]

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Physical Dimensions

How do you think your personal "dimensions" are perceived on the attraction-o-meter? Speaking broadly but I'd like to discuss height specifically - though feel free to insert anything in that slot )
Do you wish you were taller? Smaller? Does someone's height affect your immediate attraction? What about their ability to fit into your idea of a kink?
(i.e. Can a woman who's 6'2 be a subby pet? Can a Dom hold dominion over you if he's shorter? What about much thinner?)

I’m comfortable in my height, right about the average. While being taller could be cool, so could being shorter, eye of the beholder kinda thing.

Huge or tiny (say, 6’4"+ or under 5’) get attention simply as they’re outside the norm. I can recall such people I’ve found handsome or beautiful, and others who struck me as ugly. In large part their own comfort with themselves is more important to me than the actual number.

I’ve seen a 5’3" dom grab the attention in a munch - 20ish kinky people - with only a couple normal-volume words, and have seen him letting his freak flag fly proud to the enjoyment of more than one partner over time, mostly of people taller than him. Similarly I recall tall subs, male or female, who were happily into their roles.

Thick or thin, hair color, race/ethnicity, etc are imo similar. Age or more precisely maturity can have a greater initial impact to me, as less mature doms/dommes of whatever age tend to make me itch & worry about their partners more than the partners of more mature types. Subs being less mature turns out to be a bit of a double standard for me in that I worry less for them.

 

[cheekygirl75]

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Physical Dimensions

How do you think your personal "dimensions" are perceived on the attraction-o-meter? Speaking broadly but I'd like to discuss height specifically - though feel free to insert anything in that slot )
Do you wish you were taller? Smaller? Does someone's height affect your immediate attraction? What about their ability to fit into your idea of a kink?
(i.e. Can a woman who's 6'2 be a subby pet? Can a Dom hold dominion over you if he's shorter? What about much thinner?)

Idk, I'm slightly above average height for a woman, which I've always liked. I know there are some men out there who only like short, petite women, but that's never bothered me too much... I do have to admit that I tend to look at taller men first if there's a variety in front of me. But personality quickly overcomes any physical pluses or minuses for me.

I think what @UsuallyPresent said is very true - about 98% of how personal dimensions are perceived on the attraction-o-meter is due to how comfortable someone is with themselves.

 

[LadyLascivious1]

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Physical Dimensions

How do you think your personal "dimensions" are perceived on the attraction-o-meter? Speaking broadly but I'd like to discuss height specifically - though feel free to insert anything in that slot )

I’ve never really considered how my height affects my perceived attractiveness. I don’t think it’s a significant factor, but if someone is self conscious about their height they might prefer someone shorter?

I’ve dated guys my height or only an inch or two taller and I have taken their feelings into consideration when it comes to footwear. None of them have ever said anything against heels, but if I know it’s sensitive spot I’ve made an effort to wear more flats (the extra comfort is a bonus .)

Do you wish you were taller? Smaller?

I’m 5’8 which is slightly on the taller side for women. When I was in junior high, I really wished I was shorter/more petite. The guys hadn’t hit puberty yet, so being one of the tallest people in my grade wasn’t something I enjoyed. It’s an awkward age so anything that makes you stand out feels kind of awful. Once I hit high school though, any thought of that disappeared and there have been times I wished I was taller.

I’m very content with my height now.

Does someone's height affect your immediate attraction?

Not really. I echo some previous responders in that I might notice someone on either end of the height spectrum, but I don’t think it’s a factor for me otherwise. How someone carries themselves and their confidence can impact my immediate attraction though.

Oh, but if they’re really tall it can be uncomfortable to make-out for any length of time standing up. There are plenty of easy ways to fix that though

What about their ability to fit into your idea of a kink?
(i.e. Can a woman who's 6'2 be a subby pet? Can a Dom hold dominion over you if he's shorter? What about much thinner?)

It’s never been a factor in kink for me. Although height can affect what positions or locations make sex more or less convenient.

 

[EvaLane]

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Physical Dimensions

How do you think your personal "dimensions" are perceived on the attraction-o-meter? Speaking broadly but I'd like to discuss height specifically - though feel free to insert anything in that slot )
Do you wish you were taller? Smaller? Does someone's height affect your immediate attraction? What about their ability to fit into your idea of a kink?
(i.e. Can a woman who's 6'2 be a subby pet? Can a Dom hold dominion over you if he's shorter? What about much thinner?)

I’m 5’3”, so I’ve pretty much always been read as submissive and honestly, that suits me. I like being small, like being handled, like the contrast between softness and control. I think I fit in pretty well with recent beauty standards, give or take a few pounds

I don’t wish I were taller, but I have wished I were smaller. I’m comfortable at the higher end of average for my height, but sometimes I wonder what I’d look like scaled down a little more.

Yes, height affects physical attraction for me. I don’t need a man to be a giant, but I do need to feel physically overpowered. That doesn’t matter much online, but to be fair at 5’3”, I don’t end up talking to many men shorter than me. As for weight, all of my actual partners have been bigger men who worked labor-intensive jobs.

I think we fool ourselves a little when we pretend kink is free from preference. I couldn’t be physically aroused, definitely not dominated, by a man with a higher-pitched voice than me, who was shorter than me, who had prettier, longer hair than me. I just couldn’t.

What causes more damage than honesty is when people try to fit into ideals that don’t suit them. They try to be something they aren’t or with someone they shouldn’t be, because that’s what feels “proper.”

But being unhappy and unsatisfied will never be proper to me.

 

[Whiskeyjack]

03.31.25

Perceptions of Attraction

How do you perceive your attraction to someone else? Is it purely the external - physical? Or do you put more importance on the internal - personality? Does one affect the other for you?

Attraction starts physically, but the physical will only go so far. Personality, humor, wit, go much much farther. I'll be attracted to just about anyone who looks good. But if there's nothing else interesting about them that attraction is going to dry up real quick.

Do you have a type - physically or personality?

Physically, not really. I'm attracted to a wide variety of body types, heights, hair colors, aesthetics, etc.
Personalities - I'll go for the nerdy dorkstress every single time.

Do you feel like people are more likely to be attracted to your external or your internal?

People are way more attracted to my personality than my looks. Not that I'm the most charismatic fellow. But I can usually hold up my end of the conversation. Which is a good thing, because if I had to rely on my looks alone... woof.

Do you ever wish it was the opposite?

Nah. My ego's big enough as it is. Can you imagine if I was both charming and beautiful? Good Lord, I'd be insufferable.

Has Lit changed that way you think about your attraction to others or other’s attraction to you?

Not particularly? I'm pretty much the same person on here as I am IRL. And while I do get more flirty-flirts here than in reality, I generally take them with a grain of salt. Not that I think folks are insincere... but just that the vibe and purpose of Lit is more flirtatious than the rest of my life in general. So I'm not always certain what's actually a sign of attraction and what's just Lit folks doing Lit stuff.

(Let's keep that virtue signaling to a minimum. Honesty is the most interesting response.)

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Physical Dimensions

How do you think your personal "dimensions" are perceived on the attraction-o-meter? Speaking broadly but I'd like to discuss height specifically - though feel free to insert anything in that slot )

I'm 6'2" and physically that's about the best thing I've got going for me. Unless you have some very unusual and specific fetishes. The girl who likes manboobs is going to LOVE me.

Do you wish you were taller?

Nah, I'm tall enough.

Smaller?

Only when I'm trying to reach the pots and pans in the bottom cabinets.

Does someone's height affect your immediate attraction?

Not at all. Short girls, tall girls, I love 'em all!

What about their ability to fit into your idea of a kink?

My most specific kink is hosiery, and some does tend to fit better on somewhat taller women. But it's not such a huge difference that a shorter woman shouldn't wear them. My wife is 5'2" and leveraged some well-timed thigh-highs into landing herself a husband. I had other plans for that day, but she suckered me in good. So ladies, whatever your height, do your thing.

(i.e. Can a woman who's 6'2 be a subby pet? Can a Dom hold dominion over you if he's shorter? What about much thinner?)

All I could think of when I read this question was the mean dwarf in Chronicles of Narnia who's the White Witch's henchman. Like "short man who can crack a whip = angry dwarf." When I tried to find a picture of him, I couldn't find one with a whip (although I swear he has one in the movie in at least one scene). But I did find a picture of these two gnomes. So... enjoy!

 

[UsuallyPresent]

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All I could think of when I read this question was the mean dwarf in Chronicles of Narnia who's the White Witch's henchman. Like "short man who can crack a whip = angry dwarf." When I tried to find a picture of him, I couldn't find one with a whip (although I swear he has one in the movie in at least one scene). But I did find a picture of these two gnomes. So... enjoy!
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The beards contrast quite interestingly with the spike heels…

 

[Deleted member 6568729]

03.31.25

Perceptions of Attraction

How do you perceive your attraction to someone else? Is it purely the external - physical? Or do you put more importance on the internal - personality? Does one affect the other for you?

I'm attracted to the body, mind, and soul. They're all important but if one had to go, it would be the body.

Do you have a type - physically or personality?

The only type I have is a good person.

Do you feel like people are more likely to be attracted to your external or your internal? Do you ever wish it was the opposite?

I've been the shy girl, the smart girl, the nice girl my entire life. I've never been the pretty girl. It would be nice, I guess

Has Lit changed that way you think about your attraction to others or other’s attraction to you?

(Let's keep that virtue signaling to a minimum. Honesty is the most interesting response.)

Lit has taught me that I can fall in love with people for their words long before I ever see their body.

 

[Neanderthal247]

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Physical Dimensions

How do you think your personal "dimensions" are perceived on the attraction-o-meter?

I'm a bear or a Hulk, so I feel pretty good about myself.

Speaking broadly but I'd like to discuss height specifically - though feel free to insert anything in that slot )

I'm 6 Feet tall, height doesn't matter much, but my preference is a shorty.

Do you wish you were taller? Smaller? Does someone's height affect your immediate attraction?

l don't wish for anything, I could be smaller, but I have been working on it, I don't need to wish. I prefer a shorty, but love so many different shades and sizes.

What about their ability to fit into your idea of a kink?

It's mental, so physical doesn't matter

(i.e. Can a woman who's 6'2 be a subby pet? Can a Dom hold dominion over you if he's shorter? What about much thinner?)

In my opinion a woman of any size can be a sub, if he has that mental control over her.

 

[RosewoodTulip]

03.31.25

Perceptions of Attraction

How do you perceive your attraction to someone else? Is it purely the external - physical? Or do you put more importance on the internal - personality? Does one affect the other for you?

It's extremely rare that I'll be attracted to someone based on how they look. I've never lusted after a stranger in a bar for example. There are certain things about people that I like very much - eyes, laughter lines, smiles.. but who someone is will always be the thing that I fall for. But once I'm hooked then that person becomes extremely physically attractive too.

Do you have a type - physically or personality?

Not physically no. I like all types of people. Personality I think there are common traits that I appreciate but no two people I've been interested in have been the same. I like confidence but not arrogance. I like quick wit that doesn't punch down. I like openly affectionate but respectful of my space. People who are passionate about their beautiful nerdy interests are my favourite! Open minded and empathetic too are a must, especially now.

Do you feel like people are more likely to be attracted to your external or your internal?

Internal definitely. I'm very ordinary looking - other than comically enormous boobs - and fairly average if overweight. Also socially anxious too so not great at making good first impressions. My personality is my best hope for attracting people.

Do you ever wish it was the opposite?

Sometimes. It would be interesting just to see how it would feel I think but really I don't think I'd like it.

Has Lit changed that way you think about your attraction to others or other’s attraction to you?

Lit works amazingly for me because our first impressions of each other are mostly through what we say rather than how we look. I have fallen for many people without seeing them and then when I do it just feels like the last piece of a puzzle fitting into place.
I also like it because I can really think about what I want to say and can express myself without getting flustered.
Lit has also helped me realise I'm bisexual so I'm very thankful for that.

(Let's keep that virtue signaling to a minimum. Honesty is the most interesting response.)

 

[QwertyMaster]

03.31.25

Perceptions of Attraction

How do you perceive your attraction to someone else? Is it purely the external - physical? Or do you put more importance on the internal - personality? Does one affect the other for you?

My attraction can be purely physical, such as in the case of an actress or model, but never purely based on personality. I can like someone based purely on their personality but that doesn't mean I'd ever be attracted to them. That all being said, the most important factor in my attraction to a woman is based on personality. The women that I have thought are the most beautiful in my life are women that I have personally known. I can recognize that there are models and actresses that I have seen that are objectively more attractive but when it comes down to who I think about and find truly beautiful, it's all about the inner beauty shining through and the power of my emotional attachment. I've never fucked a stranger and I don't ever want to. There needs to be the emotional connection and not just the physical.

Do you have a type - physically or personality?

Physically? No, not really. I have preferences. I think we all do. But not enough to have a particular type and I've been attracted to women with all sorts of traits across the years. I do have a few major physical turnoffs but the opposite isn't as strong. Personality is a different story. Intelligence in a woman in the biggest thing that I find attractive. Curiosity, kindness, creativity, and a good sense of humor are among the many personality traits that I also find attractive. One thing that I really love is passion. I have fallen down many a Youtube rabbit-hole listening to a creator talk about something that they are passionate about, even if it isn't something I would otherwise care for. I like the trait in both men and women but in women it has the additional benefit of making them sexier.

Do you feel like people are more likely to be attracted to your external or your internal? Do you ever wish it was the opposite?

I don't know. I suspect people are more attracted to my internal but it has never been laid out to me one way or the other. Do I ever wish it was the opposite? I don't think it matters because I'm equally unattractive inside and out.

Has Lit changed that way you think about your attraction to others or other’s attraction to you?

Spending what little time I have on the lit forums hasn't changed anything about how I am attracted to others or how I see others being attracted to me, but it has clarified my understanding of certain things. Both about myself as well as others. Not things I'm generally wanting to get into here.

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Physical Dimensions

How do you think your personal "dimensions" are perceived on the attraction-o-meter? Speaking broadly but I'd like to discuss height specifically - though feel free to insert anything in that slot )
Do you wish you were taller? Smaller? Does someone's height affect your immediate attraction? What about their ability to fit into your idea of a kink?
(i.e. Can a woman who's 6'2 be a subby pet? Can a Dom hold dominion over you if he's shorter? What about much thinner?)

I'm 5'8". Shorter than the average American man while still being taller than the average American woman. In fact, I'm the average height of an American adult which means that the world I live in is pretty much built for someone my size. I am comfortable with my height, but sometimes I still wish I was just a little bit taller; not as much for attractiveness/sexual reasons but because there are just a lot of advantages to being taller, especially as a man. (Based on my totally scientific opinion I think that around 6'2" is probably the ideal height for an American man. After that point the disadvantages in extra height start to outweigh the benefits. But what do I know?)

I prefer shorter girls but that's a pretty mild preference for me. Size doesn't really affect my kinks.

 

[Apisto42]

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Nosy ho

Physical Dimensions

So limiting. Time is an interesting dimension. Hm. Reminds me of something I’ve been meaning to do in Cock Talk.

How do you think your personal "dimensions" are perceived on the attraction-o-meter?

At 5’11” and 250 I do all right. Some women like thinner dudes which is cool. I can’t take care of everyone! lol.

Speaking broadly but I'd like to discuss height specifically - though feel free to insert anything in that slot )

Hm, I do like your slots.

Do you wish you were taller? Smaller?

No. I’m really comfortable with my height. Sometimes working on projects it would be handy to be 2 inches taller, but that’s what step stools are for right?

Does someone's height affect your immediate attraction?

I’ve dated women from 4’10” to 6’1”. It was a hoot to go to a formal with her wearing stilettos- her tits were my face height. It’s funny the looks you get. So not really.

My longer term partners have usually been on the shorter side, but that wasn’t because of height.

What about their ability to fit into your idea of a kink?

I’m not a kink lifestyle person. But kink is usually all about the mental headspace. Like others have mentioned, doms and subs come in all sizes.

(i.e. Can a woman who's 6'2 be a subby pet? Can a Dom hold dominion over you if he's shorter? What about much thinner?)

I’d like to watch you flip the switch and be dommy with me. It’d be super cute

 

[Wand3rlust]

03.31.25

Perceptions of Attraction

How do you perceive your attraction to someone else? Is it purely the external - physical? Or do you put more importance on the internal - personality? Does one affect the other for you?

I think it depends for me. In the real world, of course it starts with the visual. How can it not? But if it isn't soon backed up with some substance then the visual changes. On lit, it's the other way round. You get the substance - or lack thereof *looks around* - and it's quite apparent if I'm going to click with somone. The visual becomes less important, and is almost incidental.

Do you have a type - physically or personality?

Physically, no. I like what I like. I cant always define it. Personality wise - again. I know if I click with someone. They need to have something about them. Again. It's hard to define.

Do you feel like people are more likely to be attracted to your external or your internal? Do you ever wish it was the opposite?

experience shows me its the internal. I'm never the one chatted up, approached, turning heads. I have been told I give off a vibe of 'fuck off, don't talk to me'. That's probably to overcome my shyness and insecurities. Sometimes I wish is was the opposite. But I have a friend who gets male attention constantly when we go out. And I'm mostly releived I don't have to put up with it. Some men are dicks, you know?

Has Lit changed that way you think about your attraction to others or other’s attraction to you?

I wouldn't say changed. Reinforced, maybe? Ive been chatting and meeting people online since time began. I know my written personality works for me, and occasionally I can feel that someone likes me regardless of what I look like. That's an amazing feeling.

(Let's keep that virtue signaling to a minimum. Honesty is the most interesting response.)

 

[AlpineFresco]

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Physical Dimensions

How do you think your personal "dimensions" are perceived on the attraction-o-meter? Speaking broadly but I'd like to discuss height specifically - though feel free to insert anything in that slot )
Do you wish you were taller? Smaller? Does someone's height affect your immediate attraction? What about their ability to fit into your idea of a kink?
(i.e. Can a woman who's 6'2 be a subby pet? Can a Dom hold dominion over you if he's shorter? What about much thinner?)

Similarly to what I said for the last question, you won't pick me out of a lineup for being handsome or ugly, Alpine standing there doing nothing is just a guy.
Height? I'm 5'8", which makes me on the tall side of small here in Germany, and I've dated from 5'2" to 5'11" - to me, their height really doesn't matter but I imagine at my height dating someone who is 6'6"+ would be logistically different.

I've been told to my face that I'm not tall enough to be taken seriously as a man. By someone I wasn't chatting up, even! That was quite amazing. And I know a couple of smaller guys (a little over 5') who have found dating women (but not men!) to be extremely difficult. That said, I'd love to be a little bit taller but it's not something that's (AFAIK) adversely affected me. I imagine any height bias is a quick decision that people make when choosing who to approach. I looked up some stats earlier and it seems the number of women-taller, men-shorter heterosexual couples is slightly increasing, which I guess shows there's some social shift in perceptions there.

Best I can tell, very short men and very tall women have the roughest times of this.

Can a taller woman be a sub or a shorter man a dom? Absolutely, but I've heard people say it breaks the feeling if they're not looking at submissive and smaller women/dominant and bigger men. Curiously I don't see taller submissive men or smaller dominant women considered in the same way anywhere near as much, which (on my tiny and statistically truly insignificant slice of what I've seen/read!) makes me wonder if this is more a sex issue and less a role issue.

 

[Wand3rlust]

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Physical Dimensions

How do you think your personal "dimensions" are perceived on the attraction-o-meter? Speaking broadly but I'd like to discuss height specifically - though feel free to insert anything in that slot )

Insert what in where now?

Do you wish you were taller? Smaller? Does someone's height affect your immediate attraction?o

I'm fine with my height. (I'm 5' 1" or 155cm.) In person, no. I dont care what height somone is. Online dating? I tend to go for 5' 7" or above. I don't know why. I've tried to think why. But. I don't know. How silly?

What about their ability to fit into your idea of a kink?
(i.e. Can a woman who's 6'2 be a subby pet? Can a Dom hold dominion over you if he's shorter? What about much thinner?)

And again. Yes. It can. It depends. I sometimes like to feel how small I am (not that I'm small in anything other than height). But its nice to feel that sometimes.
But as a rule? Again. I think it's a matter of persona.

 

[RosewoodTulip]

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Physical Dimensions

How do you think your personal "dimensions" are perceived on the attraction-o-meter? Speaking broadly but I'd like to discuss height specifically - though feel free to insert anything in that slot )

It differs actually on and offline. I'm 5'4 and very plus size and I know how I look is an acquired taste. I don't really think I get noticed in person. That could be because I don't try tbh but a lot of it is a preference for someone slimmer. And this is what I've observed and been told, not just me being self deprecating.

Joining Lit and being admired despite being bigger has been quite the challenge to get my head around. I've always been the "fat friend" in the background while my mates get the attention but here it honestly doesn't seem to matter. Yeah there are those who want to fetishise me but I'm not interested in that - lovely encounter in the chat rooms once where I was asked if I wanted to be milked like a good little heifer . Like don't say hi or anything...

Do you wish you were taller? Smaller?

I wish I was a little bit taller..
Always wanted to be but I stopped growing upwards and kept growing outwards.

Does someone's height affect your immediate attraction?

No not really. Last two sexual partners I had were about a foot in height in difference to each other.

What about their ability to fit into your idea of a kink?

I am very subby but I've only explored that online so physical proportions haven't been relevant at all. It's the attitude, the charisma, that I respond to.

(i.e. Can a woman who's 6'2 be a subby pet? Can a Dom hold dominion over you if he's shorter? What about much thinner?)

One of the great things I've learned since joining Lit is there genuinely is space for everyone in kink. Are there dominant men who like tall girls? Yes of course. Are there super slim guys that know how to take charge in the bedroom? Hell yes.
I don't have enough experience to know how I'd feel but I can't see it putting me off. If someone can turn my brain on in the right way then I don't care about the rest.

 

[QuietCanadian]

Do you wish you were taller?

I wish I was a little bit taller. I wish I was a baller. I wish I had a girl who looked good, I would call her. I wish I had a rabbit in a hat with bat. And a six-four Impala.

I actually don't really wish for many of things, and I have at least one of those things, but it got stuck in my head as soon as I read it.

 

[Deleted member 6568729]

I’d like to watch you flip the switch and be dommy with me. It’d be super cute

I'd like to watch that too.

 

[Jordan90]

Follow Up To Previous Questions -

Physical Dimensions

How do you think your personal "dimensions" are perceived on the attraction-o-meter? Speaking broadly but I'd like to discuss height specifically - though feel free to insert anything in that slot )

I'm tall enough at 6'3 that it's remarked on quite a bit. So when it comes to height, I'm rather high on the attraction-o-meter. And I'm heavily focusing on adding quite a bit more muscle, to really build up an "intimidating" frame.

Do you wish you were taller? Smaller? Does someone's height affect your immediate attraction?

I quite like my height. Tall enough to be attention grabbing without being SO tall that it causes complications in my daily life, like fitting comfortably into cars or through doorways.

Height (either taller or smaller) is attention getting for me. It doesn't make me MORE attracted, but it does help catch my eye.

What about their ability to fit into your idea of a kink?
(i.e. Can a woman who's 6'2 be a subby pet? Can a Dom hold dominion over you if he's shorter? What about much thinner?)

As long as someone owns it, I'll buy it. Not everyone thinks that way, and that's alright. But if she's 6'2 and really gets into being a Little (or whatnot), I'm here for it. Being tiny means I can throw you around...being tall means we can have sex in the shower. Different flavours, all delicious!

 

[FormerAllStar2]

Follow Up To Previous Questions -

Physical Dimensions

How do you think your personal "dimensions" are perceived on the attraction-o-meter?

I’m tall enough to not be considered short, but not tall enough to be considered actually tall. So I guess by height I’m right in a good zone. It’s the measurement around that concerns me

Speaking broadly but I'd like to discuss height specifically - though feel free to insert anything in that slot )
Do you wish you were taller? Smaller?

Nah. I’m good at 6’.

Does someone's height affect your immediate attraction?

Sometimes, not usually though.
But, as George Costanza once said, “You know what I would like to do? I would really like to have sex with a tall woman. I mean really tall. Like a giant.”

What about their ability to fit into your idea of a kink?
(i.e. Can a woman who's 6'2 be a subby pet? Can a Dom hold dominion over you if he's shorter? What about much thinner?)

Nah. People can be whatever they want at whichever size they are.

 

[StacyLeigh]

03.31.25

Perceptions of Attraction

How do you perceive your attraction to someone else? Is it purely the external - physical? Or do you put more importance on the internal - personality? Does one affect the other for you?
Do you have a type - physically or personality?
Do you feel like people are more likely to be attracted to your external or your internal? Do you ever wish it was the opposite?
Has Lit changed that way you think about your attraction to others or other’s attraction to you?

(Let's keep that virtue signaling to a minimum. Honesty is the most interesting response.)

It starts with a spark—maybe a vibe, energy, or a shared sense of humor—but what truly pulls me in is the internal. Emotional depth, kindness, intelligence, and self-awareness hold a lot more weight over time. Physical attraction might catch my eye, but personality is what keeps my attention.

As for type… Personality-wise I’m drawn to people who are grounded but curious, open-minded, emotionally present, and maybe a little witty or introspective. Physically, I might have preferences, but it’s probably more about presence than specifics—someone who feels confident and authentic in their own skin. About the closest I can come to having a type is athletic and funny.

Guys will be guys so physical goes a long way, but my internal world — insightfulness and emotional depth — are hopefully my strongest assets. That said, I also find myself a bit unapproachable and there are times I wish those qualities were more immediately visible.

Lit has absolutely had an influence. I’ve experienced how powerful connection can be without (or before) the filter of appearance. I’ve likely seen how deep conversations and shared values create a sense of intimacy and attraction that can be just as strong—if not stronger—than physical proximity.

Follow Up To Previous Questions -

Physical Dimensions

How do you think your personal "dimensions" are perceived on the attraction-o-meter? Speaking broadly but I'd like to discuss height specifically - though feel free to insert anything in that slot )
Do you wish you were taller? Smaller? Does someone's height affect your immediate attraction? What about their ability to fit into your idea of a kink?
(i.e. Can a woman who's 6'2 be a subby pet? Can a Dom hold dominion over you if he's shorter? What about much thinner?)

I might not feel like I fit the standard “model mold,” but I know there’s something about my authenticity, depth, and ability to connect with others in a real way. That’s the kind of attraction that builds and sticks.

Smaller or taller? Maybe sometimes, but not in any meaningful way. I’ve made peace with my stature

Height doesn’t necessarily change my attraction to someone… but I’ll fully admit that it would, perceivably, be more difficult to submit to someone smaller than me (though it should be noted that shorter than me is nearly midget-size so…)

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

04.15.25

Visual Aids

If you post sexy pics or gifs (ones you do not create of yourself) – why do you select the pics/gifs you post? Is it an attraction to the people in the visual? Is it what the visual represents? Do you search them out specifically for certain themed threads or do you just stumble upon great images? Do you have a style that you always stick to? Have you ever thought of about diversity (body types, race, sex acts, etc) when searching a post? Tell me what speaks to you and why?