❓ PLP Inquires II ❓

[base10]

I'm not cheap

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That poor girl. She just came around for Jimmy at the wrong time. Can't wait for Yellowstone to be back

 

[Booboobear84]

^^^ deserves a NC-17 if not an R rating

Could have been worse, what if he had done an audio with that BBC voice of his?

 

[LaisDeMarieDeFrance]

Could have been worse, what if he had done an audio with that BBC voice of his?

Never heard his voice before, but thanks for that imagery.

Also, I can hear Daisy saying "posh".

 

[Booboobear84]

Never heard his voice before, but thanks for that imagery.

Also, I can hear Daisy saying "posh".

Posher than Poshman, who I dearly miss

 

[Justadesperatewifeandmom]

08.24.22

Alright I want to hear your Food Wierdsies. What foods do you put together in weird ways? What do you eat that makes others raise an eyebrow? What do you refuse to eat that shocks people? What foods do you get creative with?

I will eat anything. Pineapple pizza, cream cheese and green olives, and hot peppers are some likes that others find odd. The weirdest thing is not what I eat, but why. When I was about 8, a bunch of kids, including myself, were at my grandmother's. When she went to make lunch, for every suggestion offered, some kid had a complaint. My hungry ass was sitting there thinking, god damn y'all are some whiny ass bitches. Then I recalled I didn't like fish, brussels sprouts, hard boiled eggs, beets, mushrooms, and mustard. Can I really think they are whiny bitches if I am picky too, just less picky than them? Thus, I decided right there that I'd to learn to eat everything. Most, I picked up fine, except canned beets. There was much gagging learning to tolerate them. So yeah, I eat everything because once when I was 8, I got really hangry.

It did turn out to be a useful skill in my teenage years as I could swallow anything without missing a beat. MD 20/20, Steel Reserve, and what ever god awful bottom shelf liquor, no problem.

08.26.22

What's your personality trait that's a blessing and a curse? Tell us how and why it's both?

My over analytical nature. It is constantly leading me to see the other side, see another angle. Nothing is ever black and white, as simple as it seems, what it seems, so that often means if anything appears to be overly positive, I am always looking for the negative. However, it also means in the end I tend to be very tolerant even where most would be a hard stop, as I'll twist to see the other perspective eventually.

 

[LaisDeMarieDeFrance]

He's teasing, @LaisDeMarieDeFrance -I've never posted my voice here

But maybe he's not an accountant like he says he is. Maybe he's a private investigator who has phone taps on all of our cell phones? @Diosax maybe you should add conspiracy theories to your thread! I just started one. Sorry @Booboobear84!

 

[Booboobear84]

He's teasing, @LaisDeMarieDeFrance -I've never posted my voice here

I may have confused you with someone else, apologies (person in question does have a BBC voice).

 

[Diosax]

But maybe he's not an accountant like he says he is. Maybe he's a private investigator who has phone taps on all of our cell phones? @Diosax maybe you should add conspiracy theories to your thread! I just started one. Sorry @Booboobear84!

Shhh ppl are gonna steal my idea

 

[Xerxes82]

08.26.22

What's your personality trait that's a blessing and a curse? Tell us how and why it's both?

Most of the time I have what has been described more than once as an almost frightening ability to compartmentalize. I may be feeling crazy anxiety or stressing over a thing, but then I have to pivot to something else and do that and while I'm still freaking out I'm going to get my shit done.

It's a blessing because it keeps me functioning in even harsh and stressful situations (mostly), but I've had people accuse me of being cold, uncaring or unfeeling more than once.

As an example, while my dad was recently in the hospital I didn't miss a single shift of work. This is purely practical, I lose said job if I don't show. But I also refuse to let my out of work issues color the work. They have to stay separate for me to stay sane. But several coworkers seemed to think I was being a bad son because I was trying to both spend time at the hospital and do my job, and that I wasn't spilling my anxiety all over the workplace.

 

[LadyLascivious1]

08.24.22

Alright I want to hear your Food Wierdsies. What foods do you put together in weird ways? What do you eat that makes others raise an eyebrow? What do you refuse to eat that shocks people? What foods do you get creative with?

I hate ketchup, but will mix it with mayo for hash browns or occasionally fries.

I like the flavor of onions, but not the texture (raw or cooked) so I purée them in large batches and caramelize them with butter and chicken stock and freeze them in cubes to use when cooking

There’s also a family thing where cooked whole artichokes are eaten with mustard sauce (that has mayo in it.)

 

[LadyLascivious1]

08.26.22

What's your personality trait that's a blessing and a curse? Tell us how and why it's both?

I almost never make decisions based on emotion and I often put myself in mental time outs when I recognize I’m feeling overly emotional and would not respond practically. I get even more calm and logical during a crisis.

It’s served me extremely well professionally, but in my personal life it sometimes makes people think I’m cold which I’m not at all. If you matter to me, you know it and I pay attention to all the details. I’m thoughtful and sweet and kind; I’m just not likely to make rash decisions or cry. Unless I get really angry which just pisses me off more because it’s not conveying the correct emotion, but that’s a whole separate quirk

 

[BDA73]

I get overly emotional and care what people think. I feel the need to try and help everyone even when they may not want my help.

 

[Azuldrgon]

08.26.22

What's your personality trait that's a blessing and a curse? Tell us how and why it's both?

My heart. It's great because I love to be there for people. It sucks because it's been broken a ton. Still that doesn't stop me from being me.

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

08.26.22

What's your personality trait that's a blessing and a curse? Tell us how and why it's both?

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Two things...

1. My feelings are like a drawbridge. When things are good and I feel safe, I'm wide open and people general feel like I'm a warm and caring person. When things are bad and I feel defensive, that bridge comes up and it's very hard to get it back down. I've lost a few friend over needing distance and them feeling very out in the cold. Which is fair. But while I'm pretty good at compartmentalized, I don't know how to keep someone close and feel hurt by them at the same time.

2. My curiosity. I love learning and knowing and asking and exploring but if you aren't someone who shares easily, or worse, someone who's not curious in return I just walk away. I can't tell you how many conversations just die because while answering my questions they leave me nothing to say in return. Also, I'm an open book when asked but I tend to keep everything to myself until someone asks. I sent want to just blurt things to someone who doesn't care to know. All while wanting to know everything about someone else.

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

08.31.22

Let's talk about male/female platonic relationships. That is to say a relationship with zero sexual or romantic overtones. Do you believe they are possible? Do you have any? What keeps a person in one zone? How do you feel when/if your partner has an opposite sex platonic friend?
(This question is super heteronormative and we can get lost in many avenues of friendship v romance no matter the gender but I'm trying to keep it as simple as possible.)

 

[Dribble]

Great questions.

Yes they are very possible. I have several. What keeps them in that zone and not sexual? Respect and honesty. No games blurring the boundaries.

I think any relationship could turn sexual if allowed. But if she says "I am in a relationship and I only am that way with one person at a time" then it is my duty to keep her friendship ...to value it...by not making it harder by blurring that boundary. Likewise, I don't need mixed signals from her. It really isn't hard. Just a matter of accepting what really is most important...that friendship...or your desires.

 

[MedicalMuse]

08.31.22

Let's talk about male/female platonic relationships. That is to say a relationship with zero sexual or romantic overtones. Do you believe they are possible? Do you have any? What keeps a person in one zone? How do you feel when/if your partner has an opposite sex platonic friend?
(This question is super heteronormative and we can get lost in many avenues of friendship v romance no matter the gender but I'm trying to keep it as simple as possible.)

Yes. I do. Mostly the fact that I know I can love someone and not want to fuck. I love my friends differently. In some ways, it’s deeper, less hormone driven. I spend more time getting to really know them. He has several and it doesn’t bother me. If you’re in a full relationship with someone, you should probably trust them. If you don’t, that’s a deeper issue.

 

[Whiskeyjack]

08.24.22

Alright I want to hear your Food Wierdsies. What foods do you put together in weird ways? What do you eat that makes others raise an eyebrow? What do you refuse to eat that shocks people? What foods do you get creative with?

I'm known for being very anti-cheese, which a lot of folks don't get. I just prefer my milk to not be chunky, that's all.
Also, my wife looks at me with disgust every time I eat a peanut butter and sweet gherkin sandwich.

08.26.22

What's your personality trait that's a blessing and a curse? Tell us how and why it's both?

I tend to be non-confrontational and diplomatic. I never want to hurt anyone's feelings. Which is a useful trait 90% of the time because I'm pretty good at defusing tensions and talking people through problems. However, there are times when someone just needs a good kick in the pants, or just needs a flat out "No," and I'm terrible at that. So I tend to get suckered into situations I don't want to be in, and stay in them longer than I should.

 

[Whiskeyjack]

08.31.22

Let's talk about male/female platonic relationships. That is to say a relationship with zero sexual or romantic overtones. Do you believe they are possible? Do you have any? What keeps a person in one zone? How do you feel when/if your partner has an opposite sex platonic friend?
(This question is super heteronormative and we can get lost in many avenues of friendship v romance no matter the gender but I'm trying to keep it as simple as possible.)

I'd say that in about 50% of my female friendships I've absolutely developed a crush or hoped for more in the way of sexual overtones. To the best of my knowledge, those crushes are rarely returned. But I'm also aware that those crushes won't be acted on, so I appreciate the friendships for what they are. The other 50% are truly platonic. I've been friends with some women for years without ever wanting to see them in the shower. Sometimes it's just physical non-attraction. Sometimes it's just something about the ways our personalities click that just there's just no romantic spark there, even if we get along great. It's not always something you can put your finger on.

Also, I love that my wife has male friends. She has some interests that she shares with them, that I simply don't care for. So, for instance, she'll go with them to see the latest horror movie while I stay home with the kids. On the flip side, when I want to go to the opera, she'll send her best friend to go along in her stead because her friend will enjoy it, while my wife literally fell asleep the one time I took her. It helps our marriage knowing that we don't have to be 100% of everything to the other person, and we can have non-romantic interests with other people.

 

[Orchidea73]

So I tend to get suckered into situations I don't want to be in, and stay in them longer than I should.

Father, I have this problem I need to talk to you about.
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[Justadesperatewifeandmom]

08.31.22

Let's talk about male/female platonic relationships. That is to say a relationship with zero sexual or romantic overtones. Do you believe they are possible? Do you have any? What keeps a person in one zone? How do you feel when/if your partner has an opposite sex platonic friend?
(This question is super heteronormative and we can get lost in many avenues of friendship v romance no matter the gender but I'm trying to keep it as simple as possible.)

Well, I am sure they are possible, I am just not a good example. I have always had blurred lines with my male friends, and even if they aren't, they were, and will likely be again. If a man is my friend long term, there have been nights along the way and there will likely be again. Even ones I am not physically attracted to. The only way I have a strictly platonic and has always been strictly platonic friendship is if we just aren't friends that long and just aren't that close.

I am not sure what keeps them in one zone, and often not sure what changes those days they are more sexual, but if they stay in that zone, I think it must be them, and maybe a boundary they hold steady.

I am indifferent to the gender of my husbands friends. Usually they become our friends, so I appreciate both. I am more likely to maintain a female friendship without the sexual overtones.

 

[LaisDeMarieDeFrance]

08.31.22

Let's talk about male/female platonic relationships. That is to say a relationship with zero sexual or romantic overtones. Do you believe they are possible? Do you have any? What keeps a person in one zone? How do you feel when/if your partner has an opposite sex platonic friend?
(This question is super heteronormative and we can get lost in many avenues of friendship v romance no matter the gender but I'm trying to keep it as simple as possible.)

My husband doesn't have any female friends, but that's because of his culture where the males and females are completely segregated. I had a pretty big circle of male friends before my marriage, but they all backed off because of religious differences (I think it's ok to marry outside of my faith and they apparently didn't lol).

As far as Lit goes, I have male friends on here. GGA has multiple female friends and I have no issue with that or with him talking to them. The only time I've had an issue in a relationship (not with GGA) was when a friendship was downplayed and dismissed as nothing important, but was apparently more than I was told. Something wasn't adding up and made me suspicious and ultimately insecure, which I regret. I don't like feeling like a jealous, suspicious bitch and I don't ever want to be one again. That was one of the lowest points in my life and I regret every single second of it.

 

[base10]

I have a bunch of female friends. The level of sexual attraction runs the entire spectrum of behavior. Everything from zero sexual tension and viewed more like family, to people I have slept with in the past and we've decided things are better as friends. There are certain people you can not be platonic friends with, but I think having friends of the opposite sex is totally normal.

 

[Azuldrgon]

08.31.22

Let's talk about male/female platonic relationships. That is to say a relationship with zero sexual or romantic overtones. Do you believe they are possible? Do you have any? What keeps a person in one zone? How do you feel when/if your partner has an opposite sex platonic friend?
(This question is super heteronormative and we can get lost in many avenues of friendship v romance no matter the gender but I'm trying to keep it as simple as possible.)

I think opposite gendered friendships are possible. It takes some work boundary wise.
In real life (offline) most of these relationships are work-related. I have some that are not, but most of them involve some distance which makes things easier.
Some of my friends are also friends with my wife.

 

[AlpineFresco]

08.31.22

Let's talk about male/female platonic relationships. That is to say a relationship with zero sexual or romantic overtones. Do you believe they are possible? Do you have any? What keeps a person in one zone? How do you feel when/if your partner has an opposite sex platonic friend?
(This question is super heteronormative and we can get lost in many avenues of friendship v romance no matter the gender but I'm trying to keep it as simple as possible.)

Most of my friends are women, and I'm not sure how/why that happened, but it did. And so yes, obviously platonic friendships are possible, and quite common.
That said, I don't crush on people very often. I'm fully aware that other people crush on many many more people.

How do I feel when a partner has opposite sex platonic friends? I am happy they have this friend! Why, if it's platonic, would it even cause any complications?