❓ PLP Inquires II ❓

[LaisDeMarieDeFrance]

I totally get not wanting to wave it around, but definitively not wanting anyone to know you chat at all… not good.

I'll add to this that if they tell you "I don't like to be affectionate publicly" on a porn site when you two are exclusive, you're probably not their only lady.

 

[gga]

I'll add to this that if they tell you "I don't like to be affectionate publicly" on a porn site when you two are exclusive, you're probably not their only lady.

Come here for some groping and kissing, my beautiful princess!

 

[LaisDeMarieDeFrance]

Come here for some groping and kissing, my beautiful princess!

I prefer a man who isn't ashamed of me.

 

[gga]

I prefer a man who isn't ashamed of me.

Anyone who ever has acted ashamed of you has obviously never gotten to know you because you are the most amazing person, and the greatest BFF, I could never ask for.
Don't ever change babe.


ETA:. Sorry for the thread tangent @PrettyLilPussy19. We'll get a room.

 

[Orchidea73]

I'll add to this that if they tell you "I don't like to be affectionate publicly" on a porn site when you two are exclusive, you're probably not their only lady.

This is tricky. I get what you are saying, totally. And probably you are not wrong.
However, I for one am not into PDA, on or off Lit. Furthermore, I do like to keep my private interactions, well...private. Even more so if it's an intimate relationship.

I just feel like this is "mine", and I do not like to invite any outside attention into my personal area. All I'm saying is, listen to your guts but don't totally disregard it as a lie. Some people aren't into that for real.

 

[LaisDeMarieDeFrance]

This is tricky. I get what you are saying, totally. And probably you are not wrong.
However, I for one am not into PDA, on or off Lit. Furthermore, I do like to keep my private interactions, well...private. Even more so if it's an intimate relationship.

I just feel like this is "mine", and I do not like to invite any outside attention into my personal area. All I'm saying is, listen to your guts but don't totally disregard it as a lie. Some people aren't into that for real.

My gut was right but I ignored it. dumb, dumb, dumb!

 

[Orchidea73]

My gut was right but I ignored it. dumb, dumb, dumb!

I know, I know. Just saying because I don't think it's a black&white subject.
Although, I think opinions might differ on this one. Maybe for the majority it is, and I understand the reasons.

And no, it's not about being dumb. At some point you've got to trust the person and there is never a guarantee they are not going to break that trust. Bad for them.

 

[LaisDeMarieDeFrance]

I know, I know. Just saying because I don't think it's a black&white subject.
Although, I think opinions might differ on this one. Maybe for the majority it is, and I understand the reasons.

And no, it's not about being dumb. At some point you've got to trust the person and there is never a guarantee they are not going to break that trust. Bad for them.

Good news is that time always reveals character. Sooner or later you will see who they really are.

 

[Orchidea73]

Good news is that time always reveals character. Sooner or later you will see who they really are.

That's for sure.
I take the Chinese approach when it comes to these things. I sit on the other side of the river, sipping some Calvados (they ight be drinking tea though), and wait for the "cadaver" to appear. lol

 

[LaisDeMarieDeFrance]

That's for sure.
I take the Chinese approach when it comes to these things. I sit on the other side of the river, sipping some Calvados (they ight be drinking tea though), and wait for the "cadaver" to appear. lol

A dog will always dig up a femur.

 

[Dribble]

That's for sure.
I take the Chinese approach when it comes to these things. I sit on the other side of the river, sipping some Calvados (they ight be drinking tea though), and wait for the "cadaver" to appear. lol

Sure way of finding out who demands attention. It is tea time. My book gets my attention right now. Yet their need to be center of attention is so great...they will kill themselves right there to prove a point.

This question was too hard for me to answer. It depends on their motive how I feel about it.

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

09.10.22

Let's talk self-pleasure

How often do you masturbate? Do you only do it when you feel like it or do you take opportunity of free time? Do you do it the same way? Toys? Do you use any mental stimulation (e.g. porn, stories, gifs)? Do you even try new things? What do you do when you're finished - enjoy the moment, immediately move on to the next thing?

 

[Justadesperatewifeandmom]

09.10.22

Let's talk self-pleasure

How often do you masturbate? Do you only do it when you feel like it or do you take opportunity of free time? Do you do it the same way? Toys? Do you use any mental stimulation (e.g. porn, stories, gifs)? Do you even try new things? What do you do when you're finished - enjoy the moment, immediately move on to the next thing?

How often depends on my mood and other factors, sometimes a couple times a day, sometimes a couple times a week, sometimes I skip a week. I will both make free time when in the mood or just notice hey I have free time, why not. No I don't do it the same way all the time, but I do have certain go to methods that are used more often. Yes, I have quite an assortment toys. I don't use mental stimulation during, instead more often prior, during I am more physically focused. Yes, I try new things and look for new things to try, I bore myself otherwise lol. What I do after depends on the time of day and my schedule. At night I may lay around before going to sleep, but otherwise I am usually more on the go with things that need to get done.

 

[Orchidea73]

Sure way of finding out who demands attention. It is tea time. My book gets my attention right now. Yet their need to be center of attention is so great...they will kill themselves right there to prove a point.

This question was too hard for me to answer. It depends on their motive how I feel about it.

I'm not sure I get this.

 

[SinfuIDreams]

09.10.22

Let's talk self-pleasure

How often do you masturbate? Do you only do it when you feel like it or do you take opportunity of free time? Do you do it the same way? Toys? Do you use any mental stimulation (e.g. porn, stories, gifs)? Do you even try new things? What do you do when you're finished - enjoy the moment, immediately move on to the next thing?

A lot, at least 3 times a day everyday even if I'm getting sex. I have really bad OCD on the extreme side of the spectrum, my late husband actually introduced me to using self pleasure to calm my nerves during the day so I can function more like a rational person. I'm such a old hat at it now it's almost clinical, usually just my fingers and imagination, takes me under 5 minutes and I get up and get straight back to the real world.

When it's not a pressure/stress related masturbation session I will take my time and break out the toys and head for my favourite porn.

 

[Orchidea73]

You're both right.

Equally, and speaking as someone who was once on the wrong end of this, it's very easy for someone to have two or more Lit partners simultaneously without them all knowing about each other. One knows the arrangement isn't exclusive, and is okay with that. The other doesn't. But if only the second one is publicly visible in the threads, they have no idea about the first. And the first, who knows the arrangement isn't exclusive, doesn't care about the second.

That's one way and I think that might be the surest way. But I can tell you there are those who play on both, even if both are not okay with not being exclusive. And if you're not into PDA - like myself - you can pull that shit off - at least you can try - even if both women are on the boards.

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

09.14.22

How proactive are you when you feel like there is an issue in one of your relationships, either romantic or friendship? Do you like to confront it head on, sit back until the other person addresses it or do you like to just hope it will go away?

 

[hotwords229_A]

Before the offending sentence or action is finished I’m all over it.
I don’t like bullshit hanging over my head.
Life is easier if you speak up, in my opinion.

 

[Justadesperatewifeandmom]

09.14.22

How proactive are you when you feel like there is an issue in one of your relationships, either romantic or friendship? Do you like to confront it head on, sit back until the other person addresses it or do you like to just hope it will go away?

Mostly option 3 lol. However, I like time to decide if I feel how I feel

like just because I think something is an issue now, doesn't mean it is an issue, or that I will even think it is an issue a week from now. Maybe I just need a Snickers.

Also, I like to see if it is really a big enough issue to make an issue out of, or if I should just accept it, or compromise. That is a down side though. Like, I don't fight with my husband often, but when I do finally have a big issue, a whole lot of other lesser issues that were not big enough to make an issue out of come out, so I am basically bitching about years worth of crap I never said anything about. Like sometimes there are just too many compromises and I start to resent it. He is not a fan of my bounce around for years keeping everything status quo, then me all the sudden complaining about towel storage and mangoes and how everything is always his way, and lord knows what.

Yeah, it probably isn't the best method, but you didn't ask how we should be, you asked how we are.

 

[Joxlrg]

Buys a case of full size Snickers Bars

 

[RDM97756]

09.14.22

How proactive are you when you feel like there is an issue in one of your relationships, either romantic or friendship? Do you like to confront it head on, sit back until the other person addresses it or do you like to just hope it will go away?

It depends on the issue, but honestly I try to be a patient man. So if I see an issue that is based on emotional reactions, I will allow some time, before I confront. Some time means a few days possibly a week. I know bringing it up will cause emotional triggers, but if I have time to proactovely figure out how to say something with love. Instead of reacting in emotion with the other person things can be smoother... if it still does not work then choices need to be made.

 

[Dribble]

09.14.22

How proactive are you when you feel like there is an issue in one of your relationships, either romantic or friendship? Do you like to confront it head on, sit back until the other person addresses it or do you like to just hope it will go away?

I like to think I am naturally proactive...but then people think I am an ass. So I sit back and wait until the other person confronts it...and then I am an ass for not speaking up. Does it ever go away? I guess they do say time heals all. But my brain can't forget. So does it really?

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

09.14.22

How proactive are you when you feel like there is an issue in one of your relationships, either romantic or friendship? Do you like to confront it head on, sit back until the other person addresses it or do you like to just hope it will go away?

Well, I've learned to sit on issues for at least a day bc more than half the time I was just overwhelmed, hormonal, or misunderstanding a situation and I would have made an ass out of myself if I'd brought something up. It doesn't seem like it, but I try very hard to avoid making an ass out of myself. But when I'm sure I there is an issue, I'm pretty proactive. I always try to start with levity and lots of "I" statements. I always try to see both sides of the situation and offer a solution.

I can't abide the silent treatment. It's the lowest form of communication, childish, and creates a problem rather than solves one. While I understand passive aggression more (I've definitely been there), it's still cowardly and waiting for someone else to start the conversation. If someone has a issue with me, I would always rather a direct question. Almost always, I didn't realize what I was doing (I was too preoccupied trying not to be an ass that it backfired) and I want to know and work on fixing it.

 

[DarkRaven13]

09.14.22

How proactive are you when you feel like there is an issue in one of your relationships, either romantic or friendship? Do you like to confront it head on, sit back until the other person addresses it or do you like to just hope it will go away?

Like a lot have said, I often wait a while to see what might happen, if it really is an issue, etc. I feel like a hypocrite at times because in my head I am all, "communication is the key," but I know i'm the type that hates confrontation so ...

It also depends on the person too. A relationship should allow you to communicate quicker, vs a friend that is not close.

 

[Paul_Chance]

09.14.22

How proactive are you when you feel like there is an issue in one of your relationships, either romantic or friendship? Do you like to confront it head on, sit back until the other person addresses it or do you like to just hope it will go away?

I wouldn't use the word confront (too many negative connotations). But, I do engage the issue/topic as soon as I become aware of it - bring it up, ask about it (seek first to understand, then to be understood). Issues in a relationship rarely go away without being addressed in my experience. They linger, and not for the good. So, best to stand up and engage. (LOL - I equate it to another trait I have which is never run from a fight - you'll just have to fight tired.)